He Turns Me On & Turns Me Down

*sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?

I’ve heard crap like that! Never experienced. Would like to hear from men WTF is that all about? 🙂

Posted by Gemitati
I’ve heard crap like that! Never experienced. Would like to hear from men WTF is that all about? 🙂

I've never experienced it until now and it's so crazy because before our relationship was official we had some steamy conversations. I really hate to think he has this horrid box system for women where serious girlfriend/wife can't overlap with the sexy friend. I don't want to be that woman begging my husband to pull my hair. Smh

Posted by Cvurkoo
Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.

So if it's ritual it isn't about pure animal attraction? No raging hormones or random horniness? Sometimes? Never?

I'm extremely considerate of him and I'd wait any time he asks me to. I definitely wouldn't try to change his mind. Is there anyway to compromise?

Posted by Cvurkoo
Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.

Why does it sound to me like some sort of ‘I am just THAT special’ speech?

I am a Gemini and there is going to be sex whether you ‘connected’ to me or not. Because if I am ready - your snotty ‘poetry’ doesn’t interest me!

That’s why I love Scorpios! I imagine Scorpio ‘thinking’ before sex’ lmao🤣🤣

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Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.

So if it's ritual it isn't about pure animal attraction? No raging hormones or random horniness? Sometimes? Never?

Sometimes, but it feels like fucking and not like connecting. Personnaly I prefer the latter. Im not your boyfriend, we are all different. Just sharing my experience if that helps.

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It certainly helps. I think you are like him. When we were just friends I could tell he was holding back on the connection. Now that the connection is undeniable we can never go back to the disconnected fast, fun and free. It's like the roles are reversed and he's the feminine energy in the bedroom. That's not an insult or complaint, but that wanting the emotional connection is usually something women are said to want more.

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*sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?

Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought

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I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.

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Posted by Cvurkoo
Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.

So if it's ritual it isn't about pure animal attraction? No raging hormones or random horniness? Sometimes? Never?

Sometimes, but it feels like fucking and not like connecting. Personnaly I prefer the latter. Im not your boyfriend, we are all different. Just sharing my experience if that helps.

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They aren’t virgins! They’ve fucked already! And it was good!

All of a sudden he needs drama! Wait! My dick is thinking...Gtfo!

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Posted by Cvurkoo
Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.

So if it's ritual it isn't about pure animal attraction? No raging hormones or random horniness? Sometimes? Never?

Sometimes, but it feels like fucking and not like connecting. Personnaly I prefer the latter. Im not your boyfriend, we are all different. Just sharing my experience if that helps.

It certainly helps. I think you are like him. When we were just friends I could tell he was holding back on the connection. Now that the connection is undeniable we can never go back to the disconnected fast, fun and free. It's like the roles are reversed and he's the feminine energy in the bedroom.

Don't tell him that. I'd never think of myself as being the feminine energy in the bedroom and i might feel unappreciated if i sense my partner is feeling that way. One can be gentle, loving, warm and masculine at the same time.

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I won't tell him that, but honestly, that's why I am able to empathize with you and him.

Im just now starting to realize more that not all men want sex all the time and it's for the same emotional and physical reasons women don't. I guess in the end it's not a feminine/masculine thing. It's just about the emotional connection/exertion with sex.

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*sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?

Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought

I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.

Nah it happens to everyone. Not a Pisces thing. More a falling down the love hole thing. You need to work on yourself in this aspect. Imo.

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What in the world are you talking about?

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Posted by Cvurkoo
Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.

So if it's ritual it isn't about pure animal attraction? No raging hormones or random horniness? Sometimes? Never?

Sometimes, but it feels like fucking and not like connecting. Personnaly I prefer the latter. Im not your boyfriend, we are all different. Just sharing my experience if that helps.

It certainly helps. I think you are like him. When we were just friends I could tell he was holding back on the connection. Now that the connection is undeniable we can never go back to the disconnected fast, fun and free. It's like the roles are reversed and he's the feminine energy in the bedroom.

Don't tell him that. I'd never think of myself as being the feminine energy in the bedroom and i might feel unappreciated if i sense my partner is feeling that way. One can be gentle, loving, warm and masculine at the same time.

I won't tell him that, but honestly, that's why I am able to empathize with you and him.

Im just now starting to realize more than not all men want sex all the time and it's for the same emotional and physical reasons women don't. I guess in the end it's not a feminine/masculine thing. It's just about the emotional connection/exertion with sex.

Exactly.

Do you feel like your previous partners were mainly concentrated on sex?

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Not at all. What I would say is that they separated sex from feelings and the need to exert so much mental and emotional energy having sex. It was mostly for the physical pleasure of sexual stimulation. I do overall like the passionate type, but not all passions engage the physical, mental and emotional.

It doesn't make him any less desirable. It's an enduring quality. I do wonder now if it ever seems more tiring than pleasurable...maybe too mental for something that should be fun and pleasurable.

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*sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?

Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought

I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.

Nah it happens to everyone. Not a Pisces thing. More a falling down the love hole thing. You need to work on yourself in this aspect. Imo.

What in the world are you talking about?

Your obsession with this man.

You alright now?

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Ahhh, thank you for getting to the point. Lol I rather enjoy my obsession with him. I was never not alright.

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*sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?

Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought

I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.

Nah it happens to everyone. Not a Pisces thing. More a falling down the love hole thing. You need to work on yourself in this aspect. Imo.

What in the world are you talking about?

Your obsession with this man.

You alright now?

Ahhh, thank you for getting to the point. Lol I rather enjoy my obsession with him. I was never not alright.

I wish you the best.

Ciao.

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Thank you

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*sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?

Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought

I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.

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It's a Control thing that is not exclusive to

Pisces men.

Imho. 😐

the more you beg someone for sex, the less value it will have for them to have sex with you.

So try to make it really special every time, even if it's not as frequent as you want.

Pisces men can be repelled if the sex appears coarse or soulless.

What's your sign?

Posted by hydorah
the more you beg someone for sex, the less value it will have for them to have sex with you.

So try to make it really special every time, even if it's not as frequent as you want.

Pisces men can be repelled if the sex appears coarse or soulless.

What's your sign?

I'd never beg. Not my style . I can tell he wouldn't appreciate the aggressive approach, that's why I'd never do it. Best imo to figure out a happy medium we can both appreciate and that isn't "only when he wants to". I have noticed he likes celebrating holidays and birthdays with sex. Lol

I'm a Taurus on the Aries cusp.

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*sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?

Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought

I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.

It's a Control thing that is not exclusive to

Pisces men.

Imho. 😐

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He isn't controlling tho..actually more of the self sacrificing type. If I really pushed I feel like he'd eventually say yes to please me, but that would suck for someone to pressure you into sex. That's not loving.

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*sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?

Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought

I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.

It's a Control thing that is not exclusive to

Pisces men.

Imho. 😐

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Exactly!

I know you want me BUT I am a MAN!

And I will when I will...though I am dying here...I won’t give it to you because I know you want it!

It’s fucked up!

That shit doesn’t fly with me!

Or he is mental...pack...leave! Let him jerk off...moron!

Lol wow. What kind of men are you used to dealing with Gem? Not all men perform on demand and it isn't a matter of being controlling. Have you never dated anyone with physical, emotional or mental limitations?

Umm the topic of the OP IS sex. This post is totally and completely about sex.

Our relationship is NOT totally and completely about sex.

Thankfully a Pisces man responded and he understood the point of the post