HELP! I was just getting to know a Pisces man he is WONDERFUL!... But

I was just getting to know this Pisces guy he is wonderful!! Cant stop thinking about him!... But he is already giving me the "I need to be alone" so two questions...is he breaking it off with me or does really need his Pisces space? Also regardless how do I keep him?! I know that this is somewhat usual Pisces male antics but it's so earlier that it's scaring me.

He's pisces sun, mars and moon aries venus. hes 22. I'm aquarius sun, pisces venus, gemini mars, libra moon we are very compatible and there was an instant deep emotional and physical connection (that i fear he was afraid of, also.. there is TONS of PLUTO in our synastry there are some fated aspects too)Things were very light-hearted but intense. He is a genuine sweetheart and you can tell right away he wouldn't hurt a fly. He has had his heart broken about two years ago and I was recently divorced a year prior. He wouldn't talk about his past but he asked everything in the world about me. I had an instant psychic connection with him. I swore I knew him somehow I did I could tell everything about him before he even opened his mouth. Strong familiarity. He was very wishy-washy with communication but always made it a point to let me know that he really DID want to see me. He came on to me at first he would message me everyday asking me all about myself and being flirty too. At first I thought it was just a hook up he kept asking me out everyday. We finally got together he asked me even deeper questions he kept telling me how comforting I was and kept asking what I was thinking about. He asked why i didnt drive. I told him that my ex didnt want me to learn how to drive, he told me he would teach me and we talked about things we should do together sometime like future dates. There was a strong mutual like we read each other well. He was being shy and text me later that he wished he could've kissed me goodnight. The next time around he comes over and we have sex (don't judge) It was electric! It went on for hours, It was passionate, fun, taboo, caring, cuddling, bonding and everything you could expect between a pisces mars man and pisces venus women. It was like we were madly in love and like it was not the first time we had been together. It's crazy! It was familiar, comfortable and healing. He told me it was great he told me I was sooo sexy. And we both joked casually that we'd have to do it again sometime. (I am a rather sexually attractive girl and also natural in the sack same with him btw) He held me all night his hugs take away years of pain...sigh...he told me he would be back to see me the next day but I had plans....then we tried again but he was exhausted I told him I understood and that if he did end up coming over I'd take good care of him. He didn't respond so ... mind you we hand text every single day...so then..aunt flow came (sorry for that one guys) and i flet lIke he needed space i could tell, so I waited 3 day to text him...I got nothing..then called him few hours later...nothing. So I wait another 3 days and finally do the not so Aquarius thing and slightly tell him how I feel. I told him I missed him and his sweet hugs and beautiful face. And hope he's okay.(That's a lot for me) He finally answers back and says how he is so very sorry he had not been available he had been going through a lot and needs some time alone. He needs to better himself. So I don't know if I came into his life at a bad time and he wants to see if I'll give him space and pick it up again a little later or if he just broke up with me and won't say it?? As I side note he was very happy with me and very funny but I could see a hint of sadness he also hinted to possibly being home sick too. And I wasn't clingy but I'm very loving and warm. He brought out all the sweet pisces venus out of me that I reveal to absolutely no one! I am not attracted to ANYONE ever I even told him that jokingly. I don't get like this over guys it's usually the other way around. He is one of a kind and definitely worth it!! I hope he sees that about me. I know it was short lived but this was the closest I've even been to being in love... something I thought I could never feel. Please help me!! Andd... also I have an app that shows he's been silently looking at my instagram everyday.. even now that he's not talking.

whats the app for instagram?

if he's stalking you on instagram -HE IS INTERESTED. otherwise why would he be bothering to look all the time?

pisces sun aries venus here, and I'm not entirely sure whats up with him.

have you told him how special he is to you in a believable way? I know personally, if i feel that someones coming onto me but i dont believe that they're really INTO me (more or less using me) then i will have doubts and try to leave.maybe he's scared?

i think your best option is to catch up again and talk this through. we've all been there when we have left so many things unsaid - and its not a good option lol. He's obviously been giving you a positive green light, but then has backed off unexplained.

I have. I left a long text telling him if he needed me for talking, a sholder to cry on, hugs, cuddles or to just get away that I was would definitely be there! Also, that i respected that he needed space. He didn't reply as I expected, so I just let him be. I've thought about maybe texting him soon, just to say I was thinking about him. Not gonna lie I'm afraid he wont answer it to avoid talking about his feelings and I'll end up taking it to heart. I'm thinking along the same lines though that he is scared I think he was content with being single, as was I, then we felt completely different once we got met...sighs... It may be that he's not ready for a relationship, but I never brought up the idea of a relationship..we just kinda went with things. A go with the flow kind of thing. I'm not sure though. He said it wasn't me...Thanks! you have been rather helpful! (Oh one of the apps is instalook and the other one I forget I deleted it for storage space but it had the word stalker in it. Lol.)

I'm sorry I can't help but for what's worth I find the topic title completely on point.

Posted by juicyk

I left a long text telling him if he needed me for talking, a sholder to cry on, hugs, cuddles or to just get away that I was would definitely be there! Also, that i respected that he needed space.

I've thought about maybe texting him soon, just to say I was thinking about him.

Not gonna lie I'm afraid he wont answer it to avoid talking about his feelings and I'll end up taking it to heart.

When reading the Opening Post, I was left with the impression that you're way over the top in catering to him. Almost subservient.

Then above are a few sentences from your last post .... and here you are clinging to him, you are gooshing yourself up onto him.

You're smothering the fuck out of him, Aqua.

He's trying to have space and you're texting him these long and gooshy love letters, bombarding him with your need to be reassured.

Pisces look for strong, independent people who can handle not having to have their emotions stroked all the time ... not some insecure person who cannot manage time alone with themselves without having to pour their heart out to them.

And you're going to text him again in a couple days ..... to push yourself on to him again?

The thing here is that YOU are feeling strong, and so are pushing yourself on him ... while expecting him to feel just as strongly as you. You even went on and on about how you've never felt like this before. OK, so you're in love .... but, that doesn't mean you get to smother someone else with this love, just because you can't handle your own feelings.

Pisces will recoil away from someone who cannot manage how they feel ..... even if in love with you. so, your best bet is to put yourself on check, and carry on with your life without needing him to carry your insecure emotional burden of being in love.

And no, he's not scared. You've said that a couple times. The scared person is probably you. You are so scared of not having your love returned to you that you've placed yourself to the bottom of his shoe, willing to run to his any need.



that's nauseating to the Fish

Posted by juicyk

He asked why i didnt drive.

I told him that my ex didnt want me to learn how to drive.

wtf is this?

This is probably drilling a hole through him .. it would me.

You are a grown woman, or not?

I have been seeing that. I have no pisces sun friends but my siblings and I all have a personal planets in pisces. I can respect it. It take some getting used to. Being an Aquarius I understand the need for space and alone time, but in a different way. Thank you.

We need time alone even when we are living in the same house, madly in love with you or just dating each other in love or just getting there, its very simple, and if we adore you we will always come back and its only you in our hearts.

That's just how we are, very simple needs really, but generally so misunderstood as in, so not believed that that's all it is, we're lyers, seeing someone else, or just 'flaky'..meh! Just my experience so far, even my husband gets angry over my need for space sometimes after 16 years.

I can totally respect that. It was hard to tell if that really was all it was at first. With time I'm starting to feel he really did just need space. It just worried me that it was so early. It is confusing because one moment he is a little bit clingy almost, then the next sorta quite or hard to reach. I understand we all need different things when it comes to being cared for and respected. I am new to pisces sun people and just need to get used to that. He DID tell me "it's not you at all". As in he need for "alone time" wasnt because of something I'd done. I think maybe that truly is all it is. That is definitely something I can work with. I AM aquarius sun so I need my alone time too. Thank you SO much!

Posted by juicyk
Also regardless how do I keep him?

People can't be owned. Not truly.

Obviously. That's not my intention. Didn't mean"keep" in a literary way. Would never want to be controlling or positive. I've been on the opposite end of that kind of relationship. Just don't want to loose contact with someone i feel is special when things have barely started.

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Posted by juicyk
Also regardless how do I keep him?

People can't be owned. Not truly.

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You are wrong.

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Posted by juicyk
Also regardless how do I keep him?

People can't be owned. Not truly.

You are wrong.

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Ok jezebel.

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Also regardless how do I keep him?

People can't be owned. Not truly.

You are wrong.

Ok jezebel.

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If you haven't been its your problem! It feels good...

Posted by juicyk
Obviously. That's not my intention. Didn't mean"keep" in a literary way. Would never want to be controlling or positive. I've been on the opposite end of that kind of relationship. Just don't want to loose contact with someone i feel is special when things have barely started.

Juicy, we as Pisceans are "curious" just like any zodiac sign that is interested (except Leo males); as we all take a peek at FB, instagram, etc., to take a peek at your interests, friends, etc. He's interested. When you couldn't meet up w/him it was an insult to his ego. We HATE to be ignored and/or we are spur of the moment (go w/the flow) individuals that if we ask to see you, we expect you to reschedule just to see us; you just couldn't make it to see him and that's fine (this is ONE reason to say we are "selfish", but males/females are different w/same sun sign). Also, you should read up on Pisceans on the internet. It will give you a description of how we are as the last zodiac sign. Keep in mind that when you read up on Pisceans just visualize the fish in the ocean/sea/waters, etc. Have you every seen a fish swim out on its own (in an aquarium) and they are by themselves under a rock, or near a rock, or just in a place of solitude? That's what we crave. We HATE to be smothered 24/7. Yeah, we love to cuddle as we are lovers that are NOT wham, bam, thank you Ma'am, individuals like Leo (men) and Saggy (men) are. We also don't F*U*C*K! (Saggy men). We make love. We use all our senses, feelings, mind, body/and soul. Pisceans (men) are also not premature ejaculators, either (like male Leos are); Piscean men like the woman to get "wet"; hell, we are WATER signs!!! Just go w/the flow w/this Piscean. You'll be okay.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Thank you so much for the advice. The thing is he had days he couldn't meet up with me too. I can image that having something to do with it though. Hope I didn't mess things up with that. Not sure what to so with that. I feel like if I try to talk to him about it he might panic and feel lIke thinges are getting too real. But if I don't talk about it he might never return. So torn on that one....suggestions?.. I have done lots of research on Pisces too. Yeah, we cuddled the mess out of one another. Aaand with the love making... I noticed...to everything. You are 100 percent acurate about everything. Lol. Aaanyway. I'm trying to decide if I should still contact him casually to let him know I still care and am interested or if I should give him absolute space and literally hope for the best... thanks!

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Posted by juicyk

I left a long text telling him if he needed me for talking, a sholder to cry on, hugs, cuddles or to just get away that I was would definitely be there! Also, that i respected that he needed space.

I've thought about maybe texting him soon, just to say I was thinking about him.

Not gonna lie I'm afraid he wont answer it to avoid talking about his feelings and I'll end up taking it to heart.

When reading the Opening Post, I was left with the impression that you're way over the top in catering to him. Almost subservient.

Then above are a few sentences from your last post .... and here you are clinging to him, you are gooshing yourself up onto him.

You're smothering the fuck out of him, Aqua.

He's trying to have space and you're texting him these long and gooshy love letters, bombarding him with your need to be reassured.

Pisces look for strong, independent people who can handle not having to have their emotions stroked all the time ... not some insecure person who cannot manage time alone with themselves without having to pour their heart out to them.

And you're going to text him again in a couple days ..... to push yourself on to him again?

The thing here is that YOU are feeling strong, and so are pushing yourself on him ... while expecting him to feel just as strongly as you. You even went on and on about how you've never felt like this before. OK, so you're in love .... but, that doesn't mean you get to smother someone else with this love, just because you can't handle your own feelings.

Pisces will recoil away from someone who cannot manage how they feel ..... even if in love with you. so, your best bet is to put yourself on check, and carry on with your life without needing him to carry your insecure emotional burden of being in love.

And no, he's not scared. You've said that a couple times. The scared person is probably you. You are so scared of not having your love returned to you that you've placed yourself to the bottom of his shoe, willing to run to his any need.



that's nauseating to the Fish

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Are aquas known for smothering?

No, not at all. I don't understand how telling someone you’d be there for them is smothering... or being emotional. This was the only text I sent that was of that nature. I just have a fear of coming off as cold. He told me that I had a warm comforting look. I explained that I was the type of person people come to when they are going through things. He liked that about me. We shared lots of physical affection in those two days.