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Pisces Man says 'Im in love with you.' Then goes cold and Silent!
Why a Pisces Man Becomes Cold After Saying He Is in Love
A Pisces man may go silent after expressing love due to fear of vulnerability or emotional overwhelm. He might need time to process his feelings and fears of commitment can cause him to withdraw temporarily. Understanding his sensitive nature can help navigate his changing moods and strengthen your connection.
Did you say it back, if not hes probably thinking, well ive put myself out there, time to batten down the hatches and wait for the truth of how she feels ? He would obviously be hurt if you didn't love him too. Or he could just be bulling back a little to come to terms with his feelings, he loves you, he said it, either way he'll warm up again, do you love him ?
I did say it back..x
He said 'Really?' So I said Yes. He then said it 2 or 3 more times over the next few weeks. So confusing ?
Thank you Piscespoppy ?
I meant to say Yes I do love him..They may go have been obvious though in my first reply to you..
Pisces men like there women to chase them and so I would imagine with him spilling his heart out to you, he is feeling a bit insecure, stepping back to see if you will "chase him" and "prove" to him your love.
Fucking Pisces men.
Fear. Immaturity.
Posted by pooface222
Why would a Pisces guy do this?
what's his placements?
because going cold and silent and what malloyr said that this type of guy wants you to chase him.
he certainly isn't an Aries venus man from what I can gather.
Does he have Venus in Aquarius?
...because you are a pooface?
Posted by Vixen2
Something must of happened...that you might be oblivious too. He may have interpreted something you said or done to be hurtful or felt you've ignored him somehow. We can mirror people like that...sometimes conciously, sometimes unconciously
Absolutely true. I am the exact same way. Usually I can be warmed up again by receiving a phone call or visit, the attention lets me know the other person cares.
Might be regretting saying it, or he's second-guessing himself about the chances of the relationship being a success and he's running through all 200 possible outcomes in his head. He's just being cautious. Opening yourself up completely to someone is always a big risk, especially if you don't know how the other person feels about you.
In this case he does, but still.........
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Does he have Venus in Aquarius?
Hi..no he has Venus in Pisces..
Posted by pooface222
Why would a Pisces guy do this?what's his placements?
because going cold and silent and what malloyr said that this type of guy wants you to chase him.
he certainly isn't an Aries venus man from what I can gather.
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Hi..I don't know his full chart but I do know he has Venus in Pisces; (same as me but I'm Capricorn); Mars in Aries, and Moon in Virgo. (my moon is in Capricorn).. ?
Posted by Undine
...because you are a pooface?
Hahaha! I am so changing my name! It was funny at the time as it's something my friends and I will call each other for a joke when taking the p**s out of each other.
Posted by malloryor
Pisces men like there women to chase them and so I would imagine with him spilling his heart out to you, he is feeling a bit insecure, stepping back to see if you will "chase him" and "prove" to him your love.Fucking Pisces men.
I Love that you say that last bit about Pisces men even though you are Pisces too x but I think Pisces ladies are a bit more direct.
I think he is feeling insecure.
Now here's the thing. I have bombarded him with text messages. Didn't mean to but miss him like hell! Even when i sent him ones occasionally, I didn't get a reply and when I did it was nothing relating to what I just said!?! Telling him I miss him. Is he okay. Can we meet up etc
NOTHING!!
To his face - whenever I saw him - I'd say Can we go for coffee? He'd say he was busy!?! He probably was but. WTF!
If that's not chasing him I don't know what is.
We went for coffee recently and it was lovely. I even told him I loved him without him saying it first; then 3 days later he goes insecure on me to my face!
Posted by malloryor
Pisces men like there women to chase them and so I would imagine with him spilling his heart out to you, he is feeling a bit insecure, stepping back to see if you will "chase him" and "prove" to him your love.Fucking Pisces men.
You have to chase him after he says "I love you" even though you also said "I love you too"?!?!
Why? Why wouldn't he be content that the feeling was equally reciprocated?
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EXACTLY! That's what I think. I mean I totally understand Malloryor with being insecure and pulling back to make me prove my love - I get that completely! BUT having said it back I would hope he would feel secure!
He is quite an insecure guy anyway and has trust issues too he told me.
Posted by Vixen2
Something must of happened...that you might be oblivious too. He may have interpreted something you said or done to be hurtful or felt you've ignored him somehow. We can mirror people like that...sometimes conciously, sometimes unconciously
Hi Vixen2 ..I think you might be right. But I'm not sure what I would have said or done. He first told me of his love in January this year - that's when I said it back, and for the first time too.
And as I mentioned on here, his reply was 'Really?" So followed it up with Yes! And I said Yes really obviously so he'd believe me.
Now, I've read in Astrology books that Pisces man needs to hear that he is loved every single day! I am fine with this but not sure I did it. Maybe I should have repeated it on a text later that day, and maybe I should have continued to say it over and over every single day! But I didn't. I think I was just on such a high! Then again why didn't he say it later that day? Or the next day?
Maybe it's because Pisces men are incredibly sensitive and shy and need to hear it all day every day non-stop!
He did say to me once that he needs a great deal of attention and that it can get tiresome - meaning tiresome for the girl having to give him SO MUCH attention! I'd love that! I love telling a guy over and.over and I love giving him tons of attention!
ANYWAY. .I have ignored him too. WHY? Because he goes a while ignoring me. I can't stand it! Maybe thats my Pisces Venus at work? But swing from messaging him to ignoring him, purely because he won't always reply to my messages since the 'I'm in love with tou' in Jan this year.
But like you said, maybe I have unconciously done something to hurt him and not realised. X
Posted by LuckyLibra979
Fuck that. You follow up words with actions when secure in your ground. He cant do that because of course, he is insecure
Hi Luckylibra. .maybe that's the answer. Insecurity.
Thanks ☺
Posted by pooface222
Why would a Pisces guy do this?what's his placements?
because going cold and silent and what malloyr said that this type of guy wants you to chase him.
he certainly isn't an Aries venus man from what I can gather.
Hi..I don't know his full chart but I do know he has Venus in Pisces; (same as me but I'm Capricorn); Mars in Aries, and Moon in Virgo. (my moon is in Capricorn).. ?
You don't " chase " a Mars in Aries.... And how long were you guys dating before you he said the L word? Hoping he wasn't in the conquest mood.
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oohhh that Aries Mars is going to be the chaser despite him having pisces venus in a man.Even with my ex who had Pisces mars/Aries venus, the Aries seems to WIN out, but then again, he had it trine his Leo placements. so that might give it more strength.
two aries mars, never seen that before, might be your houses.
Your moons suns and Venus signs look cosy, just spend more time together doing things you both like, and yes, tell him everyday you love him, as in when you're parting company for a while, nothing too in his face just 'luv ya' oh and tons of sex and affection, the affection part and cosying up when alone.
Your earthy nature will make him feel secure just being near you, I love being around earthy people, they make me feel comfortable relaxed and secure, I don't have much earth in my chart so It sort of fills a gap,
Do you know his rising and mercury signs and yours ?
Posted by pooface222
Why would a Pisces guy do this?what's his placements?
because going cold and silent and what malloyr said that this type of guy wants you to chase him.
he certainly isn't an Aries venus man from what I can gather.
Hi..I don't know his full chart but I do know he has Venus in Pisces; (same as me but I'm Capricorn); Mars in Aries, and Moon in Virgo. (my moon is in Capricorn).. ?
You don't " chase " a Mars in Aries.... And how long were you guys dating before you he said the L word? Hoping he wasn't in the conquest mood.
oohhh that Aries Mars is going to be the chaser despite him having pisces venus in a man.Even with my ex who had Pisces mars/Aries venus, the Aries seems to WIN out, but then again, he had it trine his Leo placements. so that might give it more strength.
two aries mars, never seen that before, might be your houses.
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No HE is Aries Mars. I don't know what mine is but I think it's Capricorn. .can't remember. .
He told me he likes to be chased, as well as doing the chasing..
Posted by malloryor
Pisces men like there women to chase them and so I would imagine with him spilling his heart out to you, he is feeling a bit insecure, stepping back to see if you will "chase him" and "prove" to him your love.Fucking Pisces men.
You have to chase him after he says "I love you" even though you also said "I love you too"?!?!
Why? Why wouldn't he be content that the feeling was equally reciprocated?
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Thats how they roll. I have witnessed that first hand with my Gemini friend and her Pisces bf
es Man says 'Im in love with you.' Then goes cold and Silent!
He then said it 2 or 3 more times over the next few weeks.
You have misled the people here.
Your title suggests that once he told you that .. he instantly went silent .. and that's a lie.
In reality, he continued to say it to you .. he didn't go cold and silent at all, as it pertains to saying those words to you.
Once a person lies in here, it's hard to recover from that.
Now here's the thing. I have bombarded him with text messages.
click to expandThis ^^ is the likely reason he's gone silent.
Posted by malloryor
Pisces men like there women to chase them and so I would imagine with him spilling his heart out to you, he is feeling a bit insecure, stepping back to see if you will "chase him" and "prove" to him your love.Fucking Pisces men.
I Love that you say that last bit about Pisces men even though you are Pisces too x but I think Pisces ladies are a bit more direct.
I think he is feeling insecure.
Now here's the thing. I have bombarded him with text messages. Didn't mean to but miss him like hell! Even when i sent him ones occasionally, I didn't get a reply and when I did it was nothing relating to what I just said!?! Telling him I miss him. Is he okay. Can we meet up etc
NOTHING!!
To his face - whenever I saw him - I'd say Can we go for coffee? He'd say he was busy!?! He probably was but. WTF!
If that's not chasing him I don't know what is.
We went for coffee recently and it was lovely. I even told him I loved him without him saying it first; then 3 days later he goes insecure on me to my face!
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OP seriously fuck him. He's just playing mind games at this point. He wants you to chase so he is gonna play hard to get, and saying I love you unfortunately here, seems more like a game of words. But uf his actions are not aligning right then it is time you drop him.
I may be a Pisces but I see us Pisces ladies as going along with nature, Pisces men are weak and rather play the passive "female" role and let the woman assume the aggressive role.
Thats a turn off in itself to me.
Posted by Vixen2
Something must of happened...that you might be oblivious too. He may have interpreted something you said or done to be hurtful or felt you've ignored him somehow. We can mirror people like that...sometimes conciously, sometimes unconciouslyHi Vixen2 ..I think you might be right. But I'm not sure what I would have said or done. He first told me of his love in January this year - that's when I said it back, and for the first time too.
And as I mentioned on here, his reply was 'Really?" So followed it up with Yes! And I said Yes really obviously so he'd believe me.
Now, I've read in Astrology books that Pisces man needs to hear that he is loved every single day! I am fine with this but not sure I did it. Maybe I should have repeated it on a text later that day, and maybe I should have continued to say it over and over every single day! But I didn't. I think I was just on such a high! Then again why didn't he say it later that day? Or the next day?
Maybe it's because Pisces men are incredibly sensitive and shy and need to hear it all day every day non-stop!
He did say to me once that he needs a great deal of attention and that it can get tiresome - meaning tiresome for the girl having to give him SO MUCH attention! I'd love that! I love telling a guy over and.over and I love giving him tons of attention!
ANYWAY. .I have ignored him too. WHY? Because he goes a while ignoring me. I can't stand it! Maybe thats my Pisces Venus at work? But swing from messaging him to ignoring him, purely because he won't always reply to my messages since the 'I'm in love with tou' in Jan this year.
But like you said, maybe I have unconciously done something to hurt him and not realised. X
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No you didnt do anything wrong. Why place the blame on yourself? If your actions are as you say then you have been honest and more than enough for this guy. He is the one that is wrong and is now enjoying mind games.
Do this. Ignore him for a few days, a week, a month and see what he does. Itll be hard but its time to make him come clean and realize you deserve honedty and directness.
Posted by Vixen2
Something must of happened...that you might be oblivious too. He may have interpreted something you said or done to be hurtful or felt you've ignored him somehow. We can mirror people like that...sometimes conciously, sometimes unconciouslyHi Vixen2 ..I think you might be right. But I'm not sure what I would have said or done. He first told me of his love in January this year - that's when I said it back, and for the first time too.
And as I mentioned on here, his reply was 'Really?" So followed it up with Yes! And I said Yes really obviously so he'd believe me.
Now, I've read in Astrology books that Pisces man needs to hear that he is loved every single day! I am fine with this but not sure I did it. Maybe I should have repeated it on a text later that day, and maybe I should have continued to say it over and over every single day! But I didn't. I think I was just on such a high! Then again why didn't he say it later that day? Or the next day?
Maybe it's because Pisces men are incredibly sensitive and shy and need to hear it all day every day non-stop!
He did say to me once that he needs a great deal of attention and that it can get tiresome - meaning tiresome for the girl having to give him SO MUCH attention! I'd love that! I love telling a guy over and.over and I love giving him tons of attention!
ANYWAY. .I have ignored him too. WHY? Because he goes a while ignoring me. I can't stand it! Maybe thats my Pisces Venus at work? But swing from messaging him to ignoring him, purely because he won't always reply to my messages since the 'I'm in love with tou' in Jan this year.
But like you said, maybe I have unconciously done something to hurt him and not realised. X
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No you didnt do anything wrong. Why place the blame on yourself? If your actions are as you say then you have been honest and more than enough for this guy. He is the one that is wrong and is now enjoying mind games.
Do this. Ignore him for a few days, a week, a month and see what he does. Itll be hard but its time to make him come clean and realize you deserve honedty and directness.
No matter what sign you are if you have someone bombarding your phone with texts it could be perceived as a red flag and cause the recipient to pull away.
I know that is an instant turn off for me, I agree with P-angel; this is most likely the reason for his disappearance.
Posted by P-Angel
Title: Pisces Man says 'Im in love with you.' Then goes cold and Silent!He then said it 2 or 3 more times over the next few weeks.
You have misled the people here.
Your title suggests that once he told you that .. he instantly went silent .. and that's a lie.
In reality, he continued to say it to you .. he didn't go cold and silent at all, as it pertains to saying those words to you.
Once a person lies in here, it's hard to recover from that.
Now here's the thing. I have bombarded him with text messages.
This ^^ is the likely reason he's gone silent.
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Oh just shut it P-Angel! Or P-Devil should I say.
If I actually wanted YOUR opinion I would have asked for it. So go back to your bitter little hole you crawled out of.
xx
Posted by Fire-Water
No matter what sign you are if you have someone bombarding your phone with texts it could be perceived as a red flag and cause the recipient to pull away.I know that is an instant turn off for me, I agree with P-angel; this is most likely the reason for his disappearance.
At least you are nice about my post. I only bombarded him with messages after about a long period of silence, AFTER he said I love you etc.
P-Angel - Do NOT respond with your usual Venom!
Posted by Vixen2
Something must of happened...that you might be oblivious too. He may have interpreted something you said or done to be hurtful or felt you've ignored him somehow. We can mirror people like that...sometimes conciously, sometimes unconciouslyHi Vixen2 ..I think you might be right. But I'm not sure what I would have said or done. He first told me of his love in January this year - that's when I said it back, and for the first time too.
And as I mentioned on here, his reply was 'Really?" So followed it up with Yes! And I said Yes really obviously so he'd believe me.
Now, I've read in Astrology books that Pisces man needs to hear that he is loved every single day! I am fine with this but not sure I did it. Maybe I should have repeated it on a text later that day, and maybe I should have continued to say it over and over every single day! But I didn't. I think I was just on such a high! Then again why didn't he say it later that day? Or the next day?
Maybe it's because Pisces men are incredibly sensitive and shy and need to hear it all day every day non-stop!
He did say to me once that he needs a great deal of attention and that it can get tiresome - meaning tiresome for the girl having to give him SO MUCH attention! I'd love that! I love telling a guy over and.over and I love giving him tons of attention!
ANYWAY. .I have ignored him too. WHY? Because he goes a while ignoring me. I can't stand it! Maybe thats my Pisces Venus at work? But swing from messaging him to ignoring him, purely because he won't always reply to my messages since the 'I'm in love with tou' in Jan this year.
But like you said, maybe I have unconciously done something to hurt him and not realised. X
No you didnt do anything wrong. Why place the blame on yourself? If your actions are as you say then you have been honest and more than enough for this guy. He is the one that is wrong and is now enjoying mind games.
Do this. Ignore him for a few days, a week, a month and see what he does. Itll be hard but its time to make him come clean and realize you deserve honedty and directness.
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Thank you Malloryor x really appreciate your response. He's a very secure guy and has all the attributes of a Pisces man I like..eh quiet sensitive shy and gentle. He's also contradictory but doesn't seem to realise it. Or...maybe he does ??
I'm going to take your advice of ignoring him. See what happens eh? Thanks again..?
Posted by Vixen2
Something must of happened...that you might be oblivious too. He may have interpreted something you said or done to be hurtful or felt you've ignored him somehow. We can mirror people like that...sometimes conciously, sometimes unconciouslyHi Vixen2 ..I think you might be right. But I'm not sure what I would have said or done. He first told me of his love in January this year - that's when I said it back, and for the first time too.
And as I mentioned on here, his reply was 'Really?" So followed it up with Yes! And I said Yes really obviously so he'd believe me.
Now, I've read in Astrology books that Pisces man needs to hear that he is loved every single day! I am fine with this but not sure I did it. Maybe I should have repeated it on a text later that day, and maybe I should have continued to say it over and over every single day! But I didn't. I think I was just on such a high! Then again why didn't he say it later that day? Or the next day?
Maybe it's because Pisces men are incredibly sensitive and shy and need to hear it all day every day non-stop!
He did say to me once that he needs a great deal of attention and that it can get tiresome - meaning tiresome for the girl having to give him SO MUCH attention! I'd love that! I love telling a guy over and.over and I love giving him tons of attention!
ANYWAY. .I have ignored him too. WHY? Because he goes a while ignoring me. I can't stand it! Maybe thats my Pisces Venus at work? But swing from messaging him to ignoring him, purely because he won't always reply to my messages since the 'I'm in love with tou' in Jan this year.
But like you said, maybe I have unconciously done something to hurt him and not realised. X
No you didnt do anything wrong. Why place the blame on yourself? If your actions are as you say then you have been honest and more than enough for this guy. He is the one that is wrong and is now enjoying mind games.
Do this. Ignore him for a few days, a week, a month and see what he does. Itll be hard but its time to make him come clean and realize you deserve honedty and directness.
Thank you Malloryor x really appreciate your response. He's a very secure guy and has all the attributes of a Pisces man I like..eh quiet sensitive shy and gentle. He's also contradictory but doesn't seem to realise it. Or...maybe he does ??
I'm going to take your advice of ignoring him. See what happens eh? Thanks again..?
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Yes good luck. I believe people are always mindful of how they are treating someone in terms of love. Either they want to do or dont.
Now you gotta buy a waterbed.
Posted by malloryor
Pisces men like there women to chase them and so I would imagine with him spilling his heart out to you, he is feeling a bit insecure, stepping back to see if you will "chase him" and "prove" to him your love.Fucking Pisces men.
You have to chase him after he says "I love you" even though you also said "I love you too"?!?!
Why? Why wouldn't he be content that the feeling was equally reciprocated?
Thats how they roll. I have witnessed that first hand with my Gemini friend and her Pisces bf
Hmm... I guess I got really lucky then, because most of the Pisces men I went out with didn't need THAT MUCH reassurance. I don't think I would have had the patience for that, nor do I find that to be fair. It's a turn off, really.
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Yes, you have great Pisces males and not so great. Eitherway this guy is jerking her around ;(
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Why would a Pisces guy do this?