How much space is space to a male Pisces?

I'm afraid I've scared off a fish by being aggressive.
From reading around here I assume I should give him
Space. I'm just wondering how much? I text him on Thursday
And no response since.
I am a Taurus/Gemini. So even an hour of space
Seems like more than enough to me, but I know
My impatience is not my best quality.
How long should I leave him be, or should I leave him
Be indefinitely..... As in if he doesn't answer me, he
Clearly doesn't want to be in contact with me?
Any advice, positive or negative are encouraged,
I can see both sides of every opinion and will be
Open minded with much appreciated responses 😉

Well I don't know much about Pisces men but when men want space, I would give him a week, two tops! If he doesn't contact you by then, move on! Strange the guy I'm with is a Taurus/Gemini but he seems to do just fine seeing me once per week. hmmmmmmmm

Scorpio72: if all is well then patience is my middle name🙂
But if I'm unsure of something then I have zero!
So if your Taurini is weekly, you're all good😉

Yes it's relationship wise.
I was hoping a quick reassurance text wasnt too much to hope for.
I had sent him a long text about what I was looking for (he'd said in a
text before he "didn't know what I was looking for" so I answered him.
So I was curious how it was received, then scared it wasn't received
Well with his silence. I don't want to crowd him, but I don't
Want him to forget me either.

Juke: thank you. Something simple sounds perfect to me.

Posted by mlpnko
If it is business matters, 24 hours.

If it is relationship matters, asap 😉 How quickly do you want your SO to respond to you?

You are presuming it's her SO....

Not my significant other. Although that's what I'd like him to be😉

Posted by Taurinian5
Scorpio72: if all is well then patience is my middle name🙂
But if I'm unsure of something then I have zero!
So if your Taurini is weekly, you're all good😉

Yes it's relationship wise.
I was hoping a quick reassurance text wasnt too much to hope for.
I had sent him a long text about what I was looking for (he'd said in a
text before he "didn't know what I was looking for" so I answered him.
So I was curious how it was received, then scared it wasn't received
Well with his silence. I don't want to crowd him, but I don't
Want him to forget me either.

Juke: thank you. Something simple sounds perfect to me.

We see each other extremely briefly at work, that's when he's not staring out his window when I come out of my office! lol But there are days that I don't hear from him and some days he will text back and forth sporadically. But thanks for letting me know. *another sigh of relief*

Your's, I wouldn't keep texting him. He's probably trying to digest what you said. Yes, I know, rude of him not to at least reply to let you know he got it. People have ZERO text etiquette nowadays. Don't they know that not replying is like hanging up on someone— DUH?? What made him ask you what you were looking for? Give us a little more background. And believe me, if you meant something to him, he WON'T forget you. So don't send him another text til we figure it out on here. k?? 🙂

I'm going to say - without any other facts of the situation - he's avoiding you because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings/doesn't want the same thing Taurinian...

I may be wrong, but that's what I would probably do.... disappear, or deflect...
The malemaids (that's right i'm changing it from mermen) may be able to better guide than I.

Ok. No texting. Lol. Well this is embarrassing,
B/c I know the context he asked me in was to
"Let me down gently" I suppose. We had a drunk
Night together, after a few times hanging out,
I spent the night. Not sleeping with him. Making out
Some fooling around. He actually did want to go all the way,
But my Taurus wont let me until share my body until
I'm actually with someone. Anyways ..... Before that night
We would text a lot & in true Pisces fashion there would be
Gaps, but that didn't bother me, as I like a lil space
Myself. Knowing we were hanging out In a week or so kept
My aggression through texts at bay. When we were
Together, the first night even, we were drinking at fundraiser
And after he tried to kiss me all night, he said
"I love you" when he was leaving. I giggled and said
"No you don't. But I know what you mean"
Knowing he was feeling the connection I felt.
So this last time, not my proudest moment, I was
Too drunk for anyone's good, & I remember being
Jealous, like asking questions about girls etc.
ashamed! I know it's none of my business if we're not dating, and
While sober don't even care so I don't know why I
Acted in that manner at all. Even after me acting that way
I spent the night. We went for breakfast in the morning
Where he ordered for me & conversation was normal
(Normal being that we say the exact same thing at the same time,
And he even said at one point, lets just stare at eachother
In silence & have a conversation in our heads
And just make facial gestures, b/c we just say the same
Things anyways). He drove me to my car, I gave him a hug,
And he pulled me back & kissed my mouth.
I didn't hear from him for a couple days.
His bday was coming up & I was taking him to an NHL game
For his bday. I texted him the day before and said
"We still on tomorrow? Dinner first?" In which he replied
"Well yes I can be but I dunno, I don't wanna give u the wrong impression, cause I don't know what ur looking for lol I don't really want ya to like waste it on me if ya catch my drift, I'm fairly content right. Now......#shittymessagetosend". I put back "
Wow. Thanks for being honest. Dude! Me and alcohol
Don't mix! I know I come off intense. But I'm not
Crazy/delusional. I'll call you after work"
So I ignored the question then & was embarrassed
And confused to what I had done. My pride not
Lettin me act like I cared he didn't wanna date me.
So we went to the game, had amazing chemisty

But I didn't wanna corner him with talking about it
In fear of rejection.
Then a week went by and I sent him a text saying
That I was sorry for coming across aggressively
& that it's none of my business who he's dating etc.
I said I'd be more than happy to be friends
And that I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to persue him in a
Romantic way, and I respected his honesty & could
Accept being friends.
I know he told me he wasn't looking for anything with me.
I guess it's just hard to accept what I felt with him
And I know he felt it too. It just disappeared for him I guess?!
I guess I'm finding that hard to swollow.

So is friendship out of the question as well?!
He really is an awesome person. I feel like I still
Want to be friends if that's all he can offer. I
Would hope that my feelings would fade as time goes by.
If they didn't then I would Seperate myself for my own
Sanity.
I guess I'm just hoping he has a change of heart.

I know. It sounds so black & white, the guy said
I don't like you like that, etc. I guess it's hard to
Forget the feelings I have for him.

Posted by deezie
I'm going to say - without any other facts of the situation - he's avoiding you because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings/doesn't want the same thing Taurinian...

I may be wrong, but that's what I would probably do.... disappear, or deflect...
The malemaids (that's right i'm changing it from mermen) may be able to better guide than I.

This sounds about right. That's what I was thinking
Too, I was just hoping I could save it somehow.
🙂

Posted by Taurinian5

I know. It sounds so black & white

Black and white is hard to accept when you like someone in colour 😉
Don't be too hard on yourself for that.

Posted by deezie

Posted by Taurinian5

I know. It sounds so black & white

Black and white is hard to accept when you like someone in colour 😉
Don't be too hard on yourself for that.

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Aww thanks Deezie. I can understand I should
Leave him be. I just don't want to.

Lol

Posted by juke

Posted by deezie


Black and white is hard to accept when you like someone in colour 😉
Don't be too hard on yourself for that.

are you sure, deezie?

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lol he still needs something in colour.
I'm high maintenance that way 😉

Posted by Taurinian5
I'm afraid I've scared off a fish by being aggressive.

You did...lol sorry to be so straight forward...

When you say you are a "Taurus/Gemini", does that mean you are a Taurus Sun and Gemini Moon? Or are you a Taurus/Gemini Cusp? I just recently removed myself from a relationship with a Taurus Sun/Gemini Moon woman...she was the most destructive woman I think I've ever been with...

HOWEVER...

I also have a female friend who is a Taurus/Gemini cusp...I've known her for 6 or 7 years, we've never argued once since we met..


--Jack

Posted by juke
occasionally toss a short, bite-sized reminder that you exist, 'hello hope you're well,' and see if he takes the bait. keep it simple

this is good advice as well...

--Jack

lol..couldn't resist...great song back when they used to be good...

--Jack

Posted by yellow01gt

Posted by Taurinian5
I'm afraid I've scared off a fish by being aggressive.

You did...lol sorry to be so straight forward...

When you say you are a "Taurus/Gemini", does that mean you are a Taurus Sun and Gemini Moon? Or are you a Taurus/Gemini Cusp? I just recently removed myself from a relationship with a Taurus Sun/Gemini Moon woman...she was the most destructive woman I think I've ever been with...

HOWEVER...

I also have a female friend who is a Taurus/Gemini cusp...I've known her for 6 or 7 years, we've never argued once since we met..


--Jack

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Hi Jack🙂
I like straight forward, even if it's not what someone wants to hear, I prefer honesty every time!
Yes, I'm a cusp. I don't know my moon, etc.
Most destructive....wow lol. Maybe she is a cusp that hasn't found that balance yet. It's hard to find that balance, believe me! Our minds and souls contradict ourselves constantly, it's hard to find the ground sometimes. It's a constant game of trying to help people understand us, yet no one ever does. lol. If she's young, I'm sure she will find a good balance as she lives and learns.
So is there no redemption with this Pisces then? I think he is my soulmate, and I've never thought or said that ever in my life (I'm 30 yrs old). That is why I was aggressive in the first place, excitement and emotions I've never felt, I allowed it to overwhelm myself. A regret, I might add!
I was on vacation and sent him a text this weekend "Wish you were here dancing with me" and of course, no response! I don't want to continue to look like a fool by messaging, but I don't want to stop either, I want my Pisces connection back! (Example of the contradiction! LOL)

Posted by yellow01gt


lol..couldn't resist...great song back when they used to be good...

--Jack

Great song!!!!!!

I'm a Taurus sun/Gemini moon gal and frankly I adore some Pisces men namely: Bruce Willis, Mitch Hedberg, and Jason Newsted

Taurinian, reading your posts is like reading a long poem