I can't cope with loneliness

I keep reading that pisces people like to be alone, but whenever I'm alone I feel really, really bad.

I used to have a girlfriend that was always by my side, but she broke up with me and now I'm having a hard time being by myself. I have a few friends, but none who I can relate to.
I just feel alone. I have few hobbies such as playing video games, guitar and piano, but lately I just don't feel like doing anything I used to like; none of these things makes the loneliness feeling go away.
Sometimes I wake up in the morning crying because I find this feeling unbearable and it has been like this since my relationship ended (8 months so far). I've lost interest in everything I used to do and even lost my job because my performance dropped drastically after the break up due to my incapability to deal with the fact of being by myself.


I don't know, I'm really confused. I'm having a hard time to explain whats going on here, but anyway, I just seek for some guidance on how to "get better", how to feel good alone. The only thing that relieves this "pain" are my cats.


I'll list a few planets of mine, if this helps, even though I don't think it will.

Sun: Pìsces
Moon: Gemini
Mercury: Pisces
Asc: Taurus
Venus: Aries
Mars: Cancer

You betta get over it nigga.

Especially if ya dick little.

Use the alone time to reflect on yourself and heal. Ask yourself why you don't like being alone and try to overcome what ever it is.

Do you have friends?

That's really sad and you do sound like you're dealing with depression. You need to speak to someone a counsellor try looking for free ones first if you don't have the money. Start from there first you need to heal. Why did she leave? maybe it's not loneliness but guilt about something

Being alone and being lonely .... aren't the same thing.

it sounds like your only problem is that you were rejected, and so you are experiencing break up butt hurts ... that really has nothing to do with liking alone time to recharge/daydream.

You have confused these two completely different concepts, while calling them the same thing.

So long as you wallow on your pity road, you will certainly find many people, things and memories to aid you in your suffering .... and it sounds like this is exactly what you want to do, considering the time that has gone by and you're still crying in your beer.

Nobody is going to feel sorry for you, now ... because the time has past to man-up.

People are suppose to grow, not stay stagnant in a pool of self pity.

I've no pity for you. Your suffering is by choice. People are what they think - literally.

You are so choosing to wallow in this that you've even make a thread on the internet so your suffering can be honored and memorialized.

People don't really like self proclaimed victims, especially when there hasn't been anyone who has abused you. This trait is the #1 reason why the other signs get disgusted with the Pisces.


Because there is no issue here, except in where you want to make one so you can wallow in self pity.

correction: not "past"

... the time has passed to man-up

I've been trying different things to leave this ~pool of self pity~. I've started swiming, gym, learning new instruments, anything to get out of this mental state, yet I always end up being back there. I've been lacking focus and determination. And yea, I learned the hard way that people really don't like self proclaimed victims since this will lead the person nowhere.
Anyway, I feel like there is so much to do and so much to see that I'm wasting my time staying in this bad mood, but lately I've been lacking strength to move on and stay focused. Also, I'm not looking for superficial relationships or such, it is just that I miss having someone to share things with like before, but I wanna "learn" to not need someone to be okay.

Posted by MagicPowas
Awwww pobresito...

I'm not going to tell you not to feel lonely because as humans were not wired that way. But what I will tell you is to really feel that loneliness or the root cause of it. Sounds like you're running away from feeling it so despair has take a hold of you. I will say don't let despair get a hold of you. Ask yourself these questions for clarity:
-Why do you feel lonely? Do the things that lead you to feel lonely (like a relationship with your ex) add or subtract to your well being?
-Is there anything you can do to improve upon your human interactions and find balance in other areas of your social life? Or is repairing your relationship with the ex a possibility?
-Why do you feel you need someone in order to feel non-lonely?
-What are some new experiences you can take on to increase your happiness and independence?
-What does happy look like for you?
-Are there any unresolved things from your childhood or fragile times that could be bringing up these feelings?

I'll try to answer some these questions.


1: I feel lonely because lately I have zero contact with people, either online or in real life.
2: As much as I want, there is no way to repair the relationship. I just want to truly move on and not have any feelings about it.
3: I just like to share experiences with someone. I've been doing things alone for long time and I've grown tired of this
4: No idea
5: Not sure anymore
6: Didnt have any "friends" in my childhood. Most of my time was spent inside my house doing something.

Posted by KaptainKhaos
You betta get over it nigga.

Especially if ya dick little.

Use the alone time to reflect on yourself and heal. Ask yourself why you don't like being alone and try to overcome what ever it is.

I can't right now, but DAMN you sound like you could be my relative. LMBO!!!!!!

OP, we have the same chart except for moon. I was supposed to have a gemini moon but I was born a week early. Otherwise, we probably would've been bday buddies!

Anyway, it's okay to need someone in your life. Most of us probably wouldn't do well without having friends, family, and/or a partner to lean on. I feel lonely, myself, yet I still have a few friends and a partner. But, I don't have that connection with my friends - the sort where I feel completely understood and can express all of my thoughts. A bond like that is something many try to gain. Honestly, it's hard to obtain new friendships, especially those that you share that bond with. But, there's always a start or something you can do. I personally enjoy finding random people to talk to and be friends with online. I can share whatever I want with them and hey, a lot of people online are lonely so it's easy to find people to relate to. I'm not sure what social media sites you use but there's TONS of people of twitter on tumblr who post things like 'I'd like some online friends', etc. Heck, I'd even be your internet friend. There's always someone willing to talk and attempt to bond with. I think perhaps if you tried to fill the hole with another romantic relationship, that might end the same way as it did this time. It's best to have the whole deal - friends, family, good relations with coworkers, etc. Partners take up a lot of time - there was an article that states falling in love makes you lose 2 friends on average- so it's best to start with other things, imo. I didn't really give any good advice, but I hope you find something that gets you out of this depression.

Posted by TonySniper
I've been trying different things to leave this ~pool of self pity~. I've started swiming, gym, learning new instruments, anything to get out of this mental state, yet I always end up being back there. I've been lacking focus and determination. And yea, I learned the hard way that people really don't like self proclaimed victims since this will lead the person nowhere.
Anyway, I feel like there is so much to do and so much to see that I'm wasting my time staying in this bad mood, but lately I've been lacking strength to move on and stay focused. Also, I'm not looking for superficial relationships or such, it is just that I miss having someone to share things with like before, but I wanna "learn" to not need someone to be okay.

Join a local meet up group having to do with people depending on you to show up...like a community competitive sports team. I stay involved with the community in that way, so that if things aren't going well with my partner or friends or I just feel like getting away from my usual crowd, I have that activity once a week to look forward to. The last thing I did like that was a community based learning experience regarding creative writing based on natural conservation. We read many short stories and excerpts by authors who had a passion for nature and natural resource sustainability. It was great. I hosted a couple of our sessions in my work place conference room. It was rigorous, took about 1.5 hours of face to face meeting time out of my life, I got to meet new and interesting people, etc. I unfortunately, due to health issues, had to skip playing soccer.

22 is a good age to become an adult.
Drop the videogames, get the fuck out of the house, become the socialite that you hate.
You don't have to enjoy it, just enjoy the newfound powers.
Pisces secret motto: become the thing that you fear the most

Posted by Rachelannthepisces
WHO SAID PISCES LIKE TO BE ALONE!??! That is the biggest lie ever! Pisces are usually very dependent on others. I know I would die being alone. Now that doesn't mean I like being in crowds 24/7. What I mean is living with someone wise I hate being alone. I get sad even thinking of the day I move out of my mom's place. And I tend to get lonely when I think about the fact that I'm single. Don't feel weird for being lonely. It's normal and tons of people feel the same way.

I'm sorry you feel that way but p-angel is right. There is a difference between lonely and alone.
I like being alone. I can read, meditate, listen to music and just be. I do also think Pisces are more introverted than extrovert. What value connection a lot

Posted by livictori

Posted by Rachelannthepisces
WHO SAID PISCES LIKE TO BE ALONE!??! That is the biggest lie ever! Pisces are usually very dependent on others. I know I would die being alone. Now that doesn't mean I like being in crowds 24/7. What I mean is living with someone wise I hate being alone. I get sad even thinking of the day I move out of my mom's place. And I tend to get lonely when I think about the fact that I'm single. Don't feel weird for being lonely. It's normal and tons of people feel the same way.

I'm sorry you feel that way but p-angel is right. There is a difference between lonely and alone.
I like being alone. I can read, meditate, listen to music and just be. I do also think Pisces are more introverted than extrovert. What value connection a lot

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I found most Pisces, myself included, to be outgoing introvert, if that makes sense.

The title you made here says: "I can't cope" ....... and voila, you can't, right on cue.


You won't be able to do anything that you tell yourself you cannot do.


People really don't like others who pretend to be helpless.

Posted by Palerio

Posted by livictori

Posted by Rachelannthepisces
WHO SAID PISCES LIKE TO BE ALONE!??! That is the biggest lie ever! Pisces are usually very dependent on others. I know I would die being alone. Now that doesn't mean I like being in crowds 24/7. What I mean is living with someone wise I hate being alone. I get sad even thinking of the day I move out of my mom's place. And I tend to get lonely when I think about the fact that I'm single. Don't feel weird for being lonely. It's normal and tons of people feel the same way.

I'm sorry you feel that way but p-angel is right. There is a difference between lonely and alone.
I like being alone. I can read, meditate, listen to music and just be. I do also think Pisces are more introverted than extrovert. What value connection a lot

I found most Pisces, myself included, to be outgoing introvert, if that makes sense.

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I became a real estate agent with the intention to grow professionally and personally. Every time I had to meet people and introduce myself I cringed. Id wear my name tag in public so I could really be out there. Now when I tell people I'm an introvert, they don't believe me. It's not natural for me. But I understand what you're saying

I think that you might be too much inside you head the reason that we are so sensitive is because we are a water sign and every water creature feels the motion of the ocean even from hundreds of miles away. This might he harder then it sounds but you must take control over you mind and emotions especially your emotions they can lead you down a very dark path. I would say listen to India Arie Album Testimony volume 1 Life and Relationship to me this is a very healing album for a Pisces she talks about getting over love and loving yourself to your best ability. When I went through a break this album did volumes and too my pessimist thought to optimistism.