initiating conversation / confidence

just in general fellow pisceans, or any sign for that matter, how do you feel about initiating conversation with people you don't really know?


do you find it, that a lot of the times you find it hard, unless someone starts talking to you first? or maybe some people just really strike your interest enough for you to start the conversation?


i think us pisceans can really get down on ourselves and shy in certain situations, feeling left out and our characters really reflect it. I think that brings to the mystery of us though, because in reality (in mine anyway) we aren't even that shy, and i think we are or can be the most unaware confident looking people.


if i am in a situation where there are quite a few people around that i don't know, i will try to stick with those i do know until at least someone breaks the ice with me, then that opens me up to being more of myself towards the people who showed a bit of interest towards me.

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I can relate to that feeling of uncertainty about initiating conversations,especially from back when I was younger.I think it is alot to do with sensitivity in what their reaction might be.I can sometimes sense whether to bother or not with starting conversations with people.I used to be heavily reserved about conversing with people I dont know and I still am.Best thing is to relax in socail situations and be yourself and I feel you will attract the kind of people who are worth your while talking to.Alot of standing around in bars and clubs,wanting to connect and get on with people can be tedious.A smile,a nod,an acknowledgment of someones presense does no harm,if you feel it is appropriate.Being relaxed is the key,and things unfold from there I reckon

Yeah, pretty much what PP says, for the most part. Other times, maybe too tired, over-worked, or mentally preoccupied.

LOL, could you imagine a table full of stranger pisceans all looking at each other? 😉 Intuitions & body language on HIGH alert, now who's going to jump in first, or maybe we could just READ each other's minds..LOL I mean it's not like we want to rudely interrupt anyone.. ha ha! (and yeah, maybe? do we even care all that much..) Anyway, that would be a hoot..

Yeah, we are a mysterious bunch, but that's what i like about my fishes! Bring it on!

Couldn't agree more with everyone lol

For me, it really depends because I don't know about the rest of you, but sometimes I'd just get an intuitive sense that myself and the other person would get along really well. It would be just a gut feeling and then I'd actually initiate a conversation with whomever *snaps* just like that. 90% of the time I would be correct about that gut feeling. Most times it would seem inevitiable and alot of those people are friends of mines today. Usually, that gut feeling doesn't happen very often. It's usually once in a blue moon.

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I can talk to anybody, anywhere, in any situation. I'm very bold about it, fearless. Possibly because I TRULY don't give a shit if that person likes or doesn't like me, thinks I'm weird or strange or an idiot or talks too much. I truly, truly don't care - because they cannot change how *I* feel about me! And THAT.. is very freeing.

But a strange thing... the more fearless and completely relaxed and confident I am.. the more positively people react to me.. like they're surprised and impressed with my happy, gregarious nature, my lack of self-consciousness, stiffness or discomfort, my lack of fear.. I don't FEAR their (negative) reaction to me.. therefore there IS NO negative reaction! Hmmmm.

My Aries Venus? Probably. She jumps me straight from the frying pan into the fire, more often than not! haha

I used to be real shy about starting a conversation. Now, I am more comfortable with it. I just tell myself, "what the hey, it wont hurt." If they respond, ok. If not, I move on.

i can be both extremes. i'm either in people's face, asking loads of questions and talking/laughing really loudly. or i'm very introspective around people; drinking in the atmosphere with a few one liners and a slight smile.

it just depends on my mood and how comfortable i am in my surroundings.

For me, I guess it matters how much I am interested in them. If I really don't care- I'll go up and start an conversation. But if I'm attracted to them, I get really shy. I guess on that aspect, it just depends.
Typical Pisces answer, right? NOTHING concrete?

My powers of observation are amazingly strong .. so, to communicating with strangers would be an easy task, for I know a lot about every person I've never met, just from watching them.

So, that ^^^^^ part of the equation isn't an issue. There would never be a lack of conversation.



However, I don't really care enough to be a participant in other people's problems ... and them using people as a sounding board to vent off all their problems seems to be pretty much what people want to talk about.


If you stop and listen to others conversations, pretty much anywhere ... grocery store, mall, office ... someone is bitching about something .. and I don't have any interest in particiapting, so I have no interest in engaging them in conversation.


Now, if I come across someone interesting, you wants to talk about and share their knowledge in something other than how miserable their life is ... then I will most definitely initiate a conversation with them.

If someone engages with me I am happy to engage with them if they are remotely interesting. If they bore me, I can't keep up idle chit chat. I don't know how to do small talk. The times I will engage someone first in a conversation is either when they are incredibly interesting to me, or more frequently, when they seem even more shy than me--then somehow my bravado comes through wanting to help them through their own social awkwardness as I "feel their pain." My idea of hell is walking into a party where I don't know anyone. Blech

I really dont like talking to people.
unless there deep like me.
& I can usually tell how people are anyways without talking to them.
I never go out of my way to talk to people.
for what?
I feel like I dont need to.
& im right.

But i would feel akward intiating a conversation definately.
I guess thats why i dont go out of my way.
Im a girl anyways.
so its the mans job to talk to me.
period.
some will disagree, but, to me. no man is worth me walking up to.
the end.

If I don't wish to speak to them, it means I'm not interested lol. Otherwise I'll push past my shyness and start a convo. That's how I met my Cap/Gem friend. I didn't know anyone in the classroom, saw her and walked right up and sat next to her. I loved her vibe.

Posted by BeautifulPiscesDollNYC
I really dont like talking to people.
unless there deep like me.
& I can usually tell how people are anyways without talking to them.
I never go out of my way to talk to people.
for what?
I feel like I dont need to.
& im right.

But i would feel akward intiating a conversation definately.
I guess thats why i dont go out of my way.
Im a girl anyways.
so its the mans job to talk to me.
period.
some will disagree, but, to me. no man is worth me walking up to.
the end.

i can relate to certain things uve said as far as convos go; i dont really like to talk to people-at least, small talk is generally boring, i can get chatty when im around people im comfortable with, but that usually subsides too.lol initially im pretty awkward often, so i tend to just be quiet lol, which is funny cause my current job is of a cashier; i have to have interaction with people, however i hide behind the requirements of the position, ha i dont say more than i need to.
im not big on initiation either, ive had gf's but i havent conventionally approached a girl in years which brings me to a point u said in ur post, particuarly ur last 5 lines, id have to say im one to disagree;its 2011 as much as the world has changed and people still try to cling to certain old fashion things/beliefs, its kinda baffling, especially with the "world gone bi" trend thats growing among us; what exactly is a "man's job" these days?. its one thing for a girl to say she may not ever approach a guy cause she is too shy, but its another thing to say "im a girl, its ok to sit on my azz, n let the guys approach me-for he is a guy;no man is worth walking up to". to me that sounds lazy,half azzed, resigned, and alittle narcissistic. i call that common female persona the "pedastool complex". and as a pisces male, im def. true to the trait; Id def. keep it moving rather than approach a girl who thought like that on the street. if i met a girl who thought men werent worth approaching id say likewise about trying to know someone who held beliefs like that

no offense, wasnt my angle posting my reply.