Might as well go for it . . .

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by P-Angel on Thursday, June 30, 2005 and has 32 replies.

Understanding Male and Female Emotional Dynamics

Men and women often have different emotional expressions. Men tend to be more physical and less verbally emotional, while women seek emotional connection. Recognizing these differences can help manage expectations and reduce misunderstandings in relationships.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Since I make it my business to ticked people off . . . I might as well go all the way . . .

This isn't for everyone, because there are plenty of valid issues in here and people really need help. I hope everyone finds what they are looking for. However, at least 50% of what I read on these posts is self-inflicted anguish.

Mainly . . . the women . . .

It seems that these 50% come in here and whale about how their man is either ignoring them, ditching them, or whatever . . . but, the problem isn't these men, ladies. I've heard people say things like, he hasn't said in so many words that he likes me, or loves me . . . or, we've gone out a couple times and I don't know what happened . . .

What happened is that because you are female, you think that just because a man looks at you that he is suppose to be in love with you, or some such crap.

Grow up and get on with it already. Just because you've gone out a couple times, doesn't mean he's supposed to now call you, or come by, or tell you all these sweet sentiments. I mean, for Christ's Sake, these are MALES were talking about.

"I'm so upset, I'm so worried that I did something wrong" . . . dah . . . yeah, you did something wrong . . . you're expecting him to be female and he's MALE. He's NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT - going to have an emotional attachment to you just because he went out with you. That's a female way of thinking . . .

AND HE'S MALE - he is physical, not emotional . . . HELLO

Geeeeeeeez . . . . P-Angel, quit being so mean, already and go chill out!

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@greeneyedgemini
21 Years500+ Posts

Im guilty of being one of those 50% and you are absolutely right it is self-inflicted! And it does not feel good! So P-Angel how do you do it how do you get on with it?? LOL I would love to! Im so tired of thinking about this stinker and he does not even deserve a minute of my time!

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Ahhhhh, you're so sweet, even when I'm being evil. I had myself in the corner to think about what I had said and was expecting to get whipped for not playing nice. Thank you for forgiving me my harsh outbreak!

I get on with it by telling myself everyday that men are physical - nothing more! Of course, I'm not talking about their intelligence - I am referring, the dating thing! They are looking to get laid - that's all! Yes, you can find someone sweet, who wants to have a relationship and treat you the way you deserve, but you can't have that expectation because 99.999999999% of the time - he just wants to be humped. If you go into it looking at this, then you won't get burned when he doesn't call. If you go into it thinking that he is going to be sensitive and emotional, then you've burnt your ownself.

Make no mistake - if a man is sizing you up and down - he's thinking SEXUALLY and nothing more. That's not to say that there can't be more - eventually. But, not initially. If we women get that plastered in our brains, then we won't be crying and whimpering about our little feelings getting hurt.

I don't know why I'm on a rampage today - you'd think I'd be all sugarry and nice, since I got flowers and laid last night!

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Women say that they have to carry the emotional burden because these men won't . . .

IS ANYBODY IN THERE - WAKE UP - REALITY IS KNOCKING

Back to your corner P-Angel and don't come out until you can be nice!

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@haffo
21 Years5,000+ Posts

I'm glad that I'm not female. With all those emotions..Being Pisces is heavy enough burden, though.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

It's so elementary - understanding the genders!

Why must we make it so hard?

Probably an impossible task to figure me out, Haffo. Not sure I've figured myself out yet!

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@haffo
21 Years5,000+ Posts

" Why must we make it so hard?"

I dont know. Perhaps otherwise it wont work. But I'm sure there is explaination for that too.

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@greeneyedgemini
21 Years500+ Posts

lol P-Angel im glad you got yours last night!! I think the reason I was so vulnerable is because I am coming out of a marriage and I thought this "special person" that I had an amazing "connection" with was going to be my "soul mate"! LOL!! ya right! What a freaking joke! I did not feel like he was just after me for the sex as he never once tried to make a move we had many intimate conversations before our first "encounter"!! These little bastards are getting trickier and more patient as I get older!! lol I guess it's what I get for dating a younger man!....I need 19eleven to help me!! Im going crazy I need a wanton blount!! did I spell it right?

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@Tiamat
21 Years1,000+ PostsScorpio

Does get annoying doesn't it P-angel?I suck though and always tend to piss off people whenever I tell them to get thier heads out of thier butts.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

It's not 420 yet. At least, not here.

I don't know GEG, maybe they are on to us and have come up with some tricks. I'm better now and will quite being so hateful . . . I promise!

It seems like most women (me included), are just so desperate to be loved the way that we need it to be that we throw ourselves at their feet. We want to jump right out there and fill them full of sentiment, and then it scares them and they run. Our needs are so much different than theirs and as much as we can't see their needs as clearly as we should - we aren't the only ones at fault. They don't see ours either, or at least, most of them don't. It's not really fair to say "all people". I really and truly believe that if both men and women could seperate themselves and look at the other person's needs and desires - then, it would all be so simple. We make it harder than it has to be and perhaps we, as humans, will never be able to fully grasp that. I know that with my husband and myself - we do that and always have. Maybe that's why I have such a hard time understanding why it's so difficult for other people. I let him be male and he let's me be female - and for 23 years we still clutch onto each other and look at each other like there is nobody else on earth except us two. And it's all because we respect that he is male and I am female.

You know how to calm me down, thank you, I needed it - obviously, lol

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@waterbearer
21 Years

Boy, that looks painful... whew!

P-Angel, everything you've said rings true. Have you been reading "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." There are 2 sections in the book that I've tested and find to be quite true, they are: Men are like rubber bands, and Escape to the Cave.

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@Alana
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Yes Waterbearer............if a woman reads the rubber-band theory, she need never worry again:-) about her guy.......go read it ladies!!!

A x

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@Freebird
21 Years1,000+ Posts

There is absolutely NO stinkin way that toilet paper will clean up that guy! UGH.....

*also notice that is a MAN with his head up his butt....* YOU guys are soooooo silly - and adventureous!

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@seizeTheDay
21 Years1,000+ Posts

LMAO.. That picture is out of control! I read that book, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." I think it made several valid points, but I think it also glazed over some issues that are ambiguous. P-Angel, your original post reminds me of another book I read.. "Top 10 Mistakes Women Make to Mess Up Their Lives". Long title, very short, to-the-point, book that gut-punches you with the truth.

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@cancerlady
21 Years1,000+ Posts

OMG P-Angel...Thats a crazy picture!

I don't think you were being hateful when you wrote initial post, and if I didn't get offended...NO ONE SHOULD! LOL

Seriously...sometimes people need to hear that but on the other hand venting on here is a way that we can get it out of our system and/or get another person's perspective that may help you to see an angle you didn't before.

For instance...just a few days ago, you helped me to understand my Pisces just a bit more with the whole birthday thing. Now if I hadn't been on here whining, I never would have known that. But I know it gets annoying!

Cancerlady

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@Tiamat
21 Years1,000+ PostsScorpio

HUH,eeer,*cocks head to right*uh,okay,attempts to lift leg over head,nope can't do it,I can't do anything right,I suck*runs off crying* waaa

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@blueangel83
21 YearsPisces

HEY P-ANGEL THANK YOU FOR THE ENLIGHTENMENT! I UNDERSTAND IT ALL NOW, NO MAN CAN EVER HURT ME AGAIN, I NOW KNOW HOW TO HANDLE A SITUATION THANK YOU!