Pisces boyfriend wants to break-up (Page 2)

Honestly, if I was just diagnosed with Cancer the last thing on my mind would be to come to this board and find out why my Pisces boyfriend was not being sympathetic. Now maybe when I was in remission I might write something about how my "EX Pisces was a total tool when I was sick"

Wowzers...

U pisces people are cut throat.

"I was recently diagnosed with cancer,I have been with my boyfriend for less than a year. Ever since, he has been acting strange...emotionally distant. He will reassure me and say things like "WE WILL GET THRU THIS" but then he pulls these other stunts and I don't know what the hell is going on."


Actually, I went back and re-read this ... and it appears to me from her description, that he does reassure her that everything will be fine, they will get through the medical issue.

The "stunt" that was said, in which flipped her out .. was only one incident in which he couldn't make it to see her while hospitalized, and quite frankly, we didn't hear why this is, and people have speculated that it's because he was a jerk, by her prompting. We don't know that. He might have a valid explanation. He didn't make her get a cab .. he picked her up.

By interpreting the first several sentences ... it appears to me that once she was diagnosed with cancer, he became distant, and this is normal for a Pisces person, since we have to internalize our feelings. This is something that's not being understood. The Virgo in this situation is emotionally needy at this time because of her issues, and a Pisces is quite a different creature than that.

Also, it was said that during the car ride home after being picked up from the hospital, that she asked him why he didn't come, he didn't answer, so she persisted Virgo style .. then she changed the topic to money, which is obviously a sore spot with him, since a fight ensued.

If this incident about not coming to visit her in the hospital was such a main factor in her agnst to trash him, then why would the topic of conversation be so readily changed? Wouldn't this be her sore spot, in which she wouldn't "let go" if it was such a big deal?

But, it was "let go", which means it wasn't the catalyst .... the words, "break up" didn't come from this situation, it came from talking about "money", in which she claims she's stressed about and overwhelmed.

So, in reality ... the whole issue in which led him to say, "break up" was over her overwhelming him about her financial situation .. and she's only using this no-hospital-visit, as a means to trash him because he wants to break up with her .... for, if this no-visit was the real issue .. then that is what would have created the argument.

You people are being more sensitive to P angels feelings than this woman who has cancer and possibly a broken heart.

And Klover you had the audacity to tell me not to attack her personal life.... Smh..

Her personal life is irrelevant. Your personal life is irrelevant and so is mine. Arent we all just commenting on what someone posted

I think Imitation wants to live in a world of "warm fuzzies" where everyone is nice and giving regardless

Ms pisces can you be honest with P angel? Or is she some how off limits?

The whole problem here is a difference in how two people handle issues, without any understanding of these differences.

This man internalizes his emotions before he is able to express them, just like any other Piscean. This woman is having critical situations in her life, such as health & finances, which is making her emotionally needy at this time.

He isn't understanding her neediness .. she isn't understanding his need for emotional reclusiveness to be able to handle her emotional needs ...... and so he tells her not to worry, they will get through this.

This doesn't describe him as an asshole.

Klover.

You didn't tell her that her personal life was irrelevant when she brought it up in this post.

A world where everyone is nice and giving sounds like a beautiful world to me.

Actually I didnt. I dont know anything personal about her. But I see you had the "audacity" to mention her marriage and question her disposition. Listen honey, just because someone doesnt have the same POV as you doesnt make you a better person, it just makes your thought process different. Attacking someone in a personal manner is an act of someone who feels threatned. A world where everyone is nice and giving will never exist no matter how nice it sounds.

Lol@ mi burro.

I'm compassionate...and nurturing...and I don't have any pisces on my chart.

thank god.

Amazing klover.

You can see all that but you fail to see how virgo has been attacked by your master p angel in this thread.

Lol...or are u her? Another multiple screenname? Hmmmmmm...

"Honestly, if I was just diagnosed with Cancer the last thing on my mind would be to come to this board and find out why my Pisces boyfriend was not being sympathetic."


That's an excellent point .. wouldn't it seem logical that a person in this much distress would seek those who know her plight and heart, and not some random strangers who really know nothing about the situation except what she wishes to reveal?

Additionally .. we have to keep in mind that a person who means to trash another because they are angry .. is only revealing limited information, which is one-sided, with intentions to paint the parties involved in a certain light ... to drive their desired point across.

Lol..

I swear I gotta start going to the gym this week. I'm losing my 6 pack. My flat stomach means so much to me.

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Indeed. There is her side, his side, and the truth.

Goodnight mi burro.

P-angel you are right about the financial part...I am working two jobs to make my co-pays and rx's. I asked the why you did not come to the hospital before anything financial came up...I just wanted him there, plain & simple. If you read my 1st post I changed my appt to a day I would have my own money, he had agreed to give me the monies but I sensed a TENSION, I am not a martyr, I don't want to be a burden to him.

I've made it clear I will take care of me and whatever he chooses to do for me, I'm grateful, he owes me nothing...yes, he has reassured me we will get thru this, but it is easier said than done when for the most part you are doing it alone...No expectations, No dissapointments...

I am doing my best in the circumstances,

THANKS ONCE AGAIN FOR THE SUPPORT...IT MEANS MUCH!!