Pisces female acting distant?

So I been dating this Pisces female for about 8 years and probably been seeing her for a total of 14 years. We were official for a good period of this time.We meet in high school and have been in constant communication even when not officially together we still acted like it and made no mention about seeing other people it never came up .

However this year is the first year that we have not seen each other she is claiming that she is going through things and apologizes for acting distant.

I have been consistent in communication with her but made at the same time made sure i gave her space.



Now the thing is the Pisces female since claiming to be distant because things are not going well in her life and is not responding to my text but or really slow like a day or so but at the same time is on facebook commenting and liking status updates o.

now we both have Facebook but are not friend it felt weird it never came up and we have been talking before fackbook.

Now Pisces is complaining about her life and talking to people i know she feels she is better than, for awhile things were not working out kinda of for me ,things have gotten better and since than she is acting distant.

IMO if you distant than you distant with everyone . At one point she mentioned everything is going good for you and not me and i have always been there for Pisces even when i had nothing or had to work double with less support ans less chance to achieve my goals something is fishy no pun intended.


I have always treated he well and now i have the opportunity to afford to bigger things, we never argue for years straight or anything
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Now she will still respond like a day late and say i love you too but i know she got my message alot sooner. Is Pisces saying out of guilt because we know each other so long.

I thought she would be happy just like i was when she accomplished what she has set out in life.


I am looking for a Pisces take on this.

yes this "ring on it" came up sometime ago because her parents have an issue with religion and race.
However hat has not stopped us in the best of seeing each other for years and years since it has always been the issue.

It has never been my intentions to make her feel that way i never gloated ,it is strange when i was on the downside she was always there in fact if i lost it all i bet she would be right here.

i love her too much to be upset or act negative towards here but if i did i also bet she would be here but i dont want to fake anything .

she said something really troubling to me like a 5 months ago" she said that she was in school so long and that i went only 1 year now you started your own business and are doing better than me" this is troubling because some other girls have said this and we stopped talking i fear the same is happening although picses knows my struggle in fact im no where where i want to be in reality.


when she was in school in order to spend time with her on her breaks i would go to night school with her even though i didnt have school ( couldn't afford it at the time) ..

her parent gave her everything paid for school, bought her car etc.. i had to work myself to get it

it was just a bad year in the sense we didnt hang out we never even argued about anything, no bad exchanges but every birthday or valentines day, the whole of summer and different events we would normally go to didn't happen, because she said she was distant.

no like its def not that i wish i could marry her, we started in high school but her parents would be against it and her cousin was banished from the family and she respects her parents plus relied on them for a good portion of her adult life
at one point she said she is not the marrying type and further said why cant we just move together and have kids but this was 1 one sentence thing like six years ago

Posted by MissFisk
You never fought because she internalized everything in hopes some day you will see and understand how she felt. She loved you and probably still does. But I think at this point she is weighing out her hopes and needs versus what is currently happening in your relationship (and whatever else maybe happening outside your relationship). 14 years is a very long time. She should have spoken up and really stood her ground. It might have caused a fight, but at least she voiced what she actually felt instead of slinking away and letting things go on.

That "her parents gave her whatever she needed" vs "I worked for mine" makes you sound like things that were you had done for her were conditional. What I did for you vs what you did for me. IMO, internally keeping tabs isn't a good thing... and she probably did the same thing. In result when things go sour, it can fester into resentment.

I think there is a huge disconnect in the communication when it came to being in the same page about the future. She's probably dissatisfied with where she is in her life, whether that be regarding career, marriage... family. And it's just now starting to surface.

She know that im her for her and will do anything in a heart beat. When we missed her transit stop recently she called me and i picked her up and drove to her car and of course i was happy to see her.

Nothing I did was conditional "her parents gave her whatever she needed" vs "I worked for mine" i have one said this in conversation to give perspective . IMO she has accomplished so much the funny thing is she was my inspiration and she also says i was here, but really she is mine.

This is the feeling i think she took " parents gave her whatever she needed" vs "I worked for mine"
She used to get jealous of her cousins accomplishments and talked bad about them no i feel its my turn.

There is a disconnect after i bought up marriage knowing the whole parent issue so i never wanted to bring it up again and drive a final wedge between us ,i wanted to spend whatever time i could with her and still want to without forcing her to choose.

Posted by fishinamaize
oh. well why didn't you do that?

at that point she was still relying on her parents and in school ,she stills live at home separating her from her parents than would be much of a challenge that it would be today , i believe things were said out of frustration .


However year after year it was perfect , anytime she was available i would spend with her yes this may sound weird but her parent expects her home after work but that is besides the point

Posted by fishinamaize
I certainly believe that you never meant to make her feel that way, and I'd even believe if there was nothing you could have really done to avoid it. Other than not being successful when she wasn't- and that's not fair at all.

Well, you could have fucking married her before it got to that point. I mean, unless she told you she would under no circumstances marry you- and that's when she should have known it wouldn't last forever.

But if she told you there were reasons not to get married but not that she never would... that meant she always had doubts that you would last. And when you started doing better at life than her, it made her feel like she wasn't your equal. And she didn't want to be with someone who she'd feel like she was holding back. And also, jealousy. So it confirmed her doubts that you two weren't meant to be together. And she's also upset about things going poorly in her life. There probably isn't anything you can do to fix it at this point, because anything YOU DO will only make her feel more inadequate. And even if she got everything she wanted, on her own and overnight... her heart probably wouldn't be in it. Cause at this point, she feels you can't relate to her.

I do feel bad tho. I don't really have any advice to suggest but that's just how the situation looks to me.

Could be 100% wrong

You know I believe you may be right...14 years of dating/knowing her I still feel the same way about this girl, we never missed a valentines day or birthday. I hoping this will pass she promises that we will make it happen and see each other and i refuse to play the hold and cold games to get a reaction if this girl is going to think of me i will only be good thoughts

Maybe she didn't want marriage with you because you never committed to a relationship with her.

You talk about a Cancer ex, a Sag ex and a Libra you had sex with.

All these posts are from 2010 onwards so I'm not clear on the 6 year thing.

Where was this Pisces girl you care so much for during the last 4 years? Because it doesn't seem like you dated her exclusively at any point, yet alone the 6 years you claim in your OP. Hence why the Scorpio was puzzled with your story.

she had a brief relationship where she cheated it lead to our break up 4 years ago we made up but never made anything official.

So she was aware of the chicks you dated after that? Because the Cancer break up happened also 4 years ago.

Thing is, you allude to this being mostly on than off over the 6 years and it seems to have been mostly off. Or very casual.

That's why marriage might not be in the cards for you two. How much time were you both on and exclusive in reality?

^Double post

Correction: Might not be in the cards yet or ever because we still don't know how exclusive you were, for how long and how it played off.

On-off things can only go for so long. At some point someone will run into someone else to forge a future with.

nothing was made official after 2010 ,things is this is the first time she is acting distant ,marriage thing was a weird topic because it would also include a discussion about her parents not accepting based on race