Pisces female& Virgo Male…Things took a turn with him.

Post divorce after 7 years with a Pisces man, I met this Virgo man online . We began talking everyday and we still do till this day . He’s extremely caring , supports me ( gives solid advice) when asked etc . I live in another state and I plan on relocating back to my hometown which is not far from him at all . In July , I’ve advised him on my plans to relocate and he immediately said his area wasn’t a bad option to consider. At that time we had only known each other for 1 month.

Fast forward : we met in person a few weeks ago after texting and long calls since June . He took me out to a fancy restaurant and the rooftop after dinner . All in all we spent about 4 hours together . During our time together he complimented me on how good I smelled, told me I was very pretty and told me he liked my shoe game when I changed from heels to sneakers lol for us to walk around the city. When it was time for him to leave and I walked with him to Valet he gave me this long hug which took me aback . After he said I have to walk you back to the door and gave me another long hug . When he pulled away he shake his leg and I wondered if he had a boner from doing that lol.

At this time I am back in my hometown dealing with a family matter and I will be returning to my home within a few weeks . This is how things took a turn .

Today I asked him does he want to go to the museum prior to me leaving again. He immediately said I’m sorry some unexpected expenses have came up and I’m unable to travel . When I advised him and said I meant the museum in your hometown that you wanted us to go to . He clarified by saying he thought I was referring to him coming here based off of the museum we talked about a few months ago. He then goes to say “all good tho”. No reassurance of saying okay since I want to come there what date/ time . Etc

His lack of acknowledgment made me feel like it was still a no for him even though we clarified my plans and he mentioned about us seeing each other again during dinner.

Now I’m confused because him not initiating makes me feel like what does he want from me. Does he want this to be a phone thing etc . In no way I am in a rush , I’m very laid back however I am a direct person.

I don’t know how to address this with him . As of now ,I feel rejected .

What’s y’all take on this ?

A few aspects in his chart

Sun Virgo

Moon Cancer

Mercury Virgo

Venus Leo

Asc: Sag

My Chart:

Sun Pisces

Moon Gemini

Mercury : Pisces

Venus: Aquarius

Asc: Sag

Y’all we have Chiron in each other 7th house as well🥹. Individual his is Chiron in the 7th house -Gemini. Mine is Chiron in the 7th house -Cancer.

what's his Mars sign?

Maybe he's not sure when can he make it? did you suggest a specific day?

His Mars sign is Virgo

Mine is Capricorn

I’m not sure if he wasn’t aware if he could make it how ever I would appreciate open communication or at least some acknowledgment you know. It felt like a cliffhanger which led me feeling rejected .

this is the push and pull technique we do this both consciously and unconsciously.

this will be done more frequently for two reasons.. cautiousness and to see how much effort you are putting in.

there isnt much you can do EXCEPT a short reach out to give him the ball for the next "date/meetup" as long as you may be patient enough and pay enough attention how and when to give the same amount of effort you'll be fine. it's going to be slow.

This morning he mentioned he has intentions of buying a $ 600 camera because he has developed a love for photography . A few hours later I received his response about what I listed above.

Also, the museum in question is free admission.

Once I stated I had no intention of him traveling he could of been more receptive to what I was saying .

He mentioned his last relationship the girl deem him as selfish and things ultimately ended or came to a head because she opened a storefront and he arrived late , left to go down the street to buy a jacket and didn’t get her any flowers .

I never hold anyone to their past because we don’t live there however he’s very attentive , caring and in person he was a complete gentlemen even paid for our $ 200 dinner . I do notice he operations alone , complete introvert but states he wants someone in his life , wants to get married and have kids .

We have a 5 years age difference and he’s older .

Hey weeds

Initially I told him I wanted to visit the third week of October . Should I let this go for now and casually being it up about into town closer to the date ?

I’m not sure how to move forward .

I plan on having a conversation over the phone . I did notice after that text exchange he hasn’t reach the rest of the day and I haven’t either .

Sounds like he prioritizes his own passions, not the only priority but that's number one.

Are you ok with that. It might change when he gets attached to you and commits to a relationship. But until then...

So you are going to have to be more direct.

I can appreciate he has his passions and so do I . He mentioned to me that he loves that I have my own life , I’m independent and I have plans .

He’s mentioned that he recognizes he’s very reserved

And on my end I’m laid back . I will have a conversation with him to address plans but most importantly how it made me feel. What he did wasn’t okay .

It was suggested not to waist time on long distance if the are not making plans to visit on weekends on the regular

Otherwise it’s penpals

Posted by SoulfulGirlPisces
Hey weeds

Initially I told him I wanted to visit the third week of October . Should I let this go for now and casually being it up about into town closer to the date ?

I’m not sure how to move forward .

I think you can go about things as normally as you can but with the awareness there is going to be alot of this in the future and you can have the understanding to A: give him just enough space and B: reach out when things go a little too quiet just to touch base with him. if things end up working then great if it becomes not to your standards of relationship then do whatever you see fit to remove yourself from any lack of progress.

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It was suggested not to waist time on long distance if the are not making plans to visit on weekends on the regular

Otherwise it’s penpals

Lol

I guess

Ice storm - for some reason I couldn’t quote you but I do plan on being direct . The first meet up I was direct however he applied pressure while I was there and showed me a good time which allowed me to feel things wasn’t one sided .

I will wait until I have a phone call with him to let him know how I feel.

Ice storm- idk how to post the screenshots here however I see square: opposition : trine and sextile in our charts together .

I feel youre over thinking this.

He wasn’t enthusiastic about a museum…is that the issue here?

I think the issue is not responding to what I initiated. Basically leaving me on “ read”. We are in the talking stage and talk almost everyday . I was initiating a meet up based off of what he suggested from begin with however I’m taking steps to make it happen then respectfully he should respond to that .,

It’s like what are we doing ?

You’re not initiating meet up or receptive to me going out my way however things were great when we was together . Like do you want to be phone buddies . I can make that happen and not speak quiet frequently or expose my intermost thoughts or give him space to do so

Stubbornsag- I mean if he wasn’t interested in the museum then I’m not sure why he would bring it up in the first place , so with that being said I don’t agree with you however I believe it’s his too late back/ reserve nature that gets in the way. He’s well aware of this but chooses not to do anything about it.

Can't think of anything to contribute but would like to be part of this active thread.

You’re taking this waaay too personally. Maybe he’s just busy or has family plans that day/week. People can have events, you know? Seriously, people who assume that someone doesn’t like them back over the fact that they didn’t respond to them or have plans are so slow.

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Posted by SoulfulGirlPisces
Stubbornsag- I mean if he wasn’t interested in the museum then I’m not sure why he would bring it up in the first place , so with that being said I don’t agree with you however I believe it’s his too late back/ reserve nature that gets in the way. He’s well aware of this but chooses not to do anything about it.

If he wanted to go to the museum you can be sure he would simply respond with something like " oh, sure then let's go, when can you be there?". I'm with Virgo with Leo Venus over a decade...I think by now I know exactly how they operate in love. And I know how Pisces are because my mom was Pisces...also I had met many Virgos before and not one has ever been reserved. They are very open, friendly and social people.That's why I wrote what I did. Virgo with Leo Venus goes for wha they want and they're not reserved at all. Leo Venus is a very open position for that planet when it comes to love. He had reasons he didn't want to go to the museum at a time. It doesn't mean he rejected you entirely.

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Certainly you can have your perspective about your experiences and the person who is currently in your life all you want HOWEVER we are referring to a individual person aside from the astrology aspect of things . I said he’s laid back and reserve BECAUSE HE HAD THOSE FEELINGS ABOUT HIMSELF and says this quiet often .

Also, it’s something I noticed by speaking to him damn near everyday.

When I went to see him the last time he was super nonchalant up until I got there and damn near didn’t want to leave me once I was there .

I’m well aware he hasn’t rejected me entirely . If ever I felt that way I wouldn’t even posted a question it would a nail in the coffin and onto the next one . I believe I felt thrown off by the whole text exchange however I’ll make sure to communicate to him like I’ve been stating throughout this thread and report back for those who care. He’s very respectful to me so I know I can expect him to hear me out even if they’re are some reservations .

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Posted by SoulfulGirlPisces
I don’t know how to address this with him . As of now ,I feel rejected .

Yes, I don't know what I'm talking about but you "clearly do"

I don't understand people who ask questions then pretend they know everything and don't need help. If you knew you wouldn't have asked in the first place 🤷🏼‍♀️ but clearly you're not getting what I'm saying so whatever. You got defensive since you read your charts aren't complementing each other and you know well what that means but refuse to acknowledge it. What will be will be. Good luck, have a nice day.

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You don’t know me and I don’t know you . This has nothing to do with charts . I’ve been saw our charts prior to me posting my question however my issue is you coming in here like you have it all figured out based off of a chart , and that’s that, who does that ? You clearly.

Now I’m blocking you and go on about your day . Ms assumption, Ms stubborn whoever you are.

This goes for anyone else who comes on this thread . I’m all for opinions obviously because I posted a question. However no one knows anyone here so let’s not get so hung up on “ astrology “ that we forget to acknowledge these are real people , real situations etc . I don’t play the P-Angel game with anyone . Respect yourself .

Why are you expecting him to carry on making plans if it was you who initiated them?

From his perspective, you started something and then pulled back. He is probably wandering why didn’t you give him a date and time for visiting the museum. Why didn’t make plans to invite him for dinner? Don’t always expect it is the man who organises such things. Take turns!

I plan on giving him a date I just wanted him to acknowledge I wanted to see him and then tell him when .

Unfortunately I live far from him at this time and he would have to take a flight to see me for dinner . I would love that as an option since I love to cook and host. Perhaps if things last that would be something I would consider when I relocate

We have a Venus in Leo and he's not parading you around or trying to impress you? Moon in Cancer also.. aren't they more family oriented?

Something smells fishy here. You don't need to do anything.. business as usual. Venus in Leo will let you know what they want from you.

Posted by SoulfulGirlPisces
This morning he mentioned he has intentions of buying a $ 600 camera because he has developed a love for photography . A few hours later I received his response about what I listed above.

Also, the museum in question is free admission.

Once I stated I had no intention of him traveling he could of been more receptive to what I was saying .

He mentioned his last relationship the girl deem him as selfish and things ultimately ended or came to a head because she opened a storefront and he arrived late , left to go down the street to buy a jacket and didn’t get her any flowers .

I never hold anyone to their past because we don’t live there however he’s very attentive , caring and in person he was a complete gentlemen even paid for our $ 200 dinner . I do notice he operations alone , complete introvert but states he wants someone in his life , wants to get married and have kids .

We have a 5 years age difference and he’s older .

I think you've answered your own question here.

- Unexpected expenses came up

- No enthusiasm to see you

- Wants to buy $ 600 camera

- Confesses relationship ended because of selfish behavior

Tha.. tha. that's all folks!

Posted by LuckyLibra7
We have a Venus in Leo and he's not parading you around or trying to impress you? Moon in Cancer also.. aren't they more family oriented?

Something smells fishy here. You don't need to do anything.. business as usual. Venus in Leo will let you know what they want from you.

It’s not easy to parade me around when I currently live 10 hours away which is why it took 3 months for us to meet in person . Moon in Cancer - he doesn’t have children and was married once for a few years however I noticed he’s nurturing in a way of asking did I get home safely , did I eat , checking up on my son etc . I appreciate the message and yes I’m paying attention to the signs and keeping score

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Posted by SoulfulGirlPisces
This morning he mentioned he has intentions of buying a $ 600 camera because he has developed a love for photography . A few hours later I received his response about what I listed above.
Also, the museum in question is free admission.
Once I stated I had no intention of him traveling he could of been more receptive to what I was saying .
He mentioned his last relationship the girl deem him as selfish and things ultimately ended or came to a head because she opened a storefront and he arrived late , left to go down the street to buy a jacket and didn’t get her any flowers .
I never hold anyone to their past because we don’t live there however he’s very attentive , caring and in person he was a complete gentlemen even paid for our $ 200 dinner . I do notice he operations alone , complete introvert but states he wants someone in his life , wants to get married and have kids .
We have a 5 years age difference and he’s older .

I think you've answered your own question here.

- Unexpected expenses came up

- No enthusiasm to see you

- Wants to buy $ 600 camera

- Confesses relationship ended because of selfish behavior

Tha.. tha. that's all folks!

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Yes I feel everything what you’re saying and if I gotta let go I would . He’s the first guy I started talking to after my marriage ended over 1 year ago so this whole talking thing to me is new lol. However I’m paying attention .

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Posted by LuckyLibra7
We have a Venus in Leo and he's not parading you around or trying to impress you? Moon in Cancer also.. aren't they more family oriented?

Something smells fishy here. You don't need to do anything.. business as usual. Venus in Leo will let you know what they want from you.

It’s not easy to parade me around when I currently live 10 hours away which is why it took 3 months for us to meet in person . Moon in Cancer - he doesn’t have children and was married once for a few years however I noticed he’s nurturing in a way of asking did I get home safely , did I eat , checking up on my son etc . I appreciate the message and yes I’m paying attention to the signs and keeping score

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There’s other ways to do so. I’m not saying you need to leave.. but lower your expectations here. Sounds like he has to work to do on himself.

I believe so too

He’s 5 years older than me and has never been in a type of committed relationship where his spouse lived together . I thought it was odd when he told me he was in love 4 times

You hit the nail on the head with he has to work on himself .

Posted by SoulfulGirlPisces
This goes for anyone else who comes on this thread . I’m all for opinions obviously because I posted a question. However no one knows anyone here so let’s not get so hung up on “ astrology “ that we forget to acknowledge these are real people , real situations etc . I don’t play the P-Angel game with anyone . Respect yourself .

All that mutability in your chart and but you’re coming across a bit controlling.

Controlling how he responds

Controlling how others respond to you

You found his response lackluster and it made you insecure.

Maybe this is something you need to work on personally

Posted by SoulfulGirlPisces
I plan on giving him a date I just wanted him to acknowledge I wanted to see him and then tell him when .

Unfortunately I live far from him at this time and he would have to take a flight to see me for dinner . I would love that as an option since I love to cook and host. Perhaps if things last that would be something I would consider when I relocate

Yeah, you just want acknowledgment and attention to a degree that you find worthy and acceptable.

Lack of it makes you insecure.

These are personal issues

Earth signs, especially Virgo men are independent by nature.

They can be dry and almost retreat to handle things.

It seems to their partners like they don’t care. But they just have lives and are trying to be rational about things.

Pisces are emotional and enjoy being involved.

They don’t do well with those who close themselves off unless they’re on drugs themselves.

I would suggest a more happening kind of place to meet. The museum compared to his new found love of photography may be way too boring for him. He probably doesn’t find it fun to take pics of other works of art.

Maybe look for interesting/emotional places to take pics at. Suggest it to him and go down this adventure with him. Support his photography endeavors.

Cancer moon is emotional and loves living in the past. Bring up the past good times.

Hey y’all I wanted to report back lol

We had a talk a few days ago . I felt it was best to keep the conversation light hearted but also be expressive in how I truly felt not only this situation but a few things I noticed .

All in all he was very receptive and respectful to what I said . He told me he always wants to see me and now that he knows the date he will plan something for us . I feel much better now and I’m looking forward to seeing him again . Even though I initiated the meet up I like the fact he meet me half way and will plan a day for us .

I really like this guy and he feels like a breath of fresh air for me . I hope our friendship continues to grow and it will lead into more eventually.

Also, I forgot to mention last post . He frequently brings up having kids and wants to be married as well as his mom complaining about him not having children yet at his age . It’s a common topic that takes place when we speak daily .

It’s not like I don’t want to show interest however these are general things he brings up and I want to respond with the same energy . For ex: I told him things can change quickly . You could be a single man now and in three years have a family w/ the love of your life . It’s not that I’m singling myself out , just wanted to give a perspective but I don’t want him to thing he isn’t an “option” for me in the near future .

Posted by SoulfulGirlPisces
Also, I forgot to mention last post . He frequently brings up having kids and wants to be married as well as his mom complaining about him not having children yet at his age . It’s a common topic that takes place when we speak daily .

It’s not like I don’t want to show interest however these are general things he brings up and I want to respond with the same energy . For ex: I told him things can change quickly . You could be a single man now and in three years have a family w/ the love of your life . It’s not that I’m singling myself out , just wanted to give a perspective but I don’t want him to thing he isn’t an “option” for me in the near future .

not to freak you out or anything but personally as a virgo, i'd make it a point to mention having kids coz i'd really wanna have them like yesterday and your response is kinda vague-ish so maybe he's checking if you're on the same page?

just my opinion tho, best to ask him directly 🤷🤷

Previously we both discussed waiting children . I’m already a boy mom but would love a daughter one day . He will like a daughter too . I’m not too sure how I could have responded directly to what he said because what he stated wasn’t directly to me .

He’s a great guy and if we were together I would love to have a child with him one day. I wasn’t sure how to convey that during the talking stage lol.

Posted by SoulfulGirlPisces
Previously we both discussed waiting children . I’m already a boy mom but would love a daughter one day . He will like a daughter too . I’m not too sure how I could have responded directly to what he said because what he stated wasn’t directly to me .

He’s a great guy and if we were together I would love to have a child with him one day. I wasn’t sure how to convey that during the talking stage lol.

I think he wants more reassurance from you, that you want more kids. It is good to bring up family values and other important things as early as possible during the process of dating. If these clash, you two are just wasting time. That “he was now single but things may change” was the worst thing to reply to him. Change when…..? When he meets someone else…? Unless you said it face to face with a 😉

Hey Undine

I can definitely mentioned kids more . I believe I’ve previously spoke about having another child or two but maybe he wants to hear about that in real time when he mentions it.

Yes I mentioned things could change for him whether he’s single now or not in a few years .