@Driftaway
5 Years
Pisces Question
Why Is the Pisces Man Reaching Out and Showing Kindness After Hurting You
A Pisces man often seeks emotional connection and comfort. His recent actions suggest he is feeling vulnerable and possibly regrets past decisions. He may be reaching out for reassurance or trying to reconnect emotionally. His kindness indicates a desire for healing or closure, but it is important to establish boundaries to protect your feelings.
Let me translate:
"Yes, once in a blue moon I think I've made a mistake. But...at least I haven't married this sucker, that would have been the biggest mistake of my life".
Runs home quickly and for an extended session of blissful sex.
Poor miserable husbands. Big bad marriage keeping them that way and hooking up with side girls is the only thing that will cure his ailment.
Don’t fall for it. Once he gets a divorce, you will know he actually was miserable. Then you can be there to pick up the pieces all you want, if you wish.
It would make all the difference to know how he ended things with you. "Year 3, he starts pushing away". Elaborate please. Did he man up to say he met someone else or just cowardly fade and ghost? If it's that second thing, then invite him to kiss your ass. 💋
@saggurl88 - that meme is TOO MUCH! 😂
You were in a relationship with him for 3 years and he didn’t choose to marry you, instead he married someone else while he was still in a relationship with you.
My question would be why are you still there? Kick his arse to the curb as he did yours. Nothing good is going to come from entertaining him and his woe is me life.
Oh lordes... the blinding charm of a Pisces man is... all-consuming. It is a literal sea, in which there are calm days and torrent days... but you are stranded in the middle of the sea, trying to find direction with rationality. But you can't it's madness - as north is east, and east is south! So, you know, I'll come back to reality and translate this the best I can.
The Pisces is the sign of the victim. He can never do wrong, and when he does he just runs away and covers his trail up. Everything is a fantasy with him if you don't ask outright what he means, and even so he probably won't tell you.
Man, actually I don't know if I can describe him rationally. But I sympathize, or rather empathise with you. It took a long time... and maybe I'm still trying to navigate out of his maze. They can play on your imagination, without realising it... (or maybe they do and I'm not giving them enough credit). Regardless! He actually, ultimately (because I unconditionally loved a Pisces, I can understand a bit of Piscean madness, myself not being a Pisces anything) just wants to stroke his ego. *Sigh* Such potential but honestly, he screws himself over... and therefore all that potential is wasted.
Ooooo~ but what a beautiful dream turned reality it could have been, hm? 🙂
It would make all the difference to know how he ended things with you. "Year 3, he starts pushing away". Elaborate please. Did he man up to say he met someone else or just cowardly fade and ghost? If it's that second thing, then invite him to kiss your ass.
The end started out as not spending as much time together, then ultimately saying we were better off as friends. I agreed, actually. Then a year later, he got marroed.
"My question is why, after hurting me the way he did, is he coming to me and in that one hour, treating the best he had since that first year"
Answer: his marriage failed and you were the last person where he felt love and affection. He's going back to that feeling, not you. Remain his friend only if it doesn't cause you pain. You aren't "the one".
He's treating you nice cause he wants something from you.
He's gonna need a distraction from how miserable he feels in his marriage. Or its a ploy to suck you further in. I'm so unhappy wah...
Dude it's over. It has been over for years if you can even say anything was there- that anything ended awhile ago. It doesn't mean anything. He's coming back to you because he can. He is unhappy but this does not mean his happiness was left with you because he already left you before. Why do you care? You miss him? Well enjoy the ride and hope for the best then...
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Four years ago, I me an amazing Pisces guy. It was a long distance relationship. Only a couple of hours apart. The first 2 years were great. Year 3, he starts pushing away. Year 4, he gets married. I let it go. One day, out of the blue, he calls and tells me that he made a mistake and that he's miserable. I really didn't know what to do with that. I especially didn't know why he would call me - the person he pushed away. I told him at the time that if he was unhappy he needed to get out, that no one deserves to be miserable.. I know he's afraid that people will think he failed. Recently, he wanted to see me. After a couple of weeks, I gave in and met him. He was overly happy to see me. I hadn't seen that much sparkle in his eyes since the first year we were together. We talked for about an hour, but nothing was brought up about his situation. I didn't feel that it was my place to bring it up. I will literally never turn a friend in need away, and I know that one day he will go off the deep end and I am pretty good at calming him down, so I won't shut him out completely. Yes, he really hurt me. He's not a bad person, but he does make bad decisions. My question is why, after hurting me the way he did, is he coming to me and in that one hour, treating the best he had since that first year?