Pisces women and love

Hi all, new here and just looking for some input from actual people since we can all obviously read the standard astrological fare on the subject at hand.

So, my question is about how Pisces women love or fall in love; are they just being coy when they say they are not ready yet when all other indications show otherwise? Are they capable of showing extreme affection and attention for one person yet still view it as casual?

I understand that this could all be particular to this one individual, but I thought I'd try and find out if there are some common traits that might be useful to know about.

Thanks.

aw, too cute.

Lol, that was helpful, but what else would I expect from one of my own? 😉

""are they just being coy when they say they are not ready yet when all other indications show otherwise?""


possibly.

😉 back at ya

Well, it's clear as mud to me now, lol. I guess I'll just have to rely on the mysterious Scorp charm to work it's magic 🙂

To be fair, the 'casual' comment is of my own making, she has not said that but her personality is so carefree and giving that the question came to mind. She has only said that she does not want to fall in love, however for example we stay in contact with each other every day via phone, IM or text over the last month and keep each other up until 2 or 3 am on a daily basis. All of the signs are there in my estimation, but I am naturally skeptical, so I question.

Have you observed her in other atmospheres? Is she generally affectionate with other people?

Friendly, not "affectionate", she was not seeking a relationship with me, but hey, stuff happens right? I guess my concern is whether it would be typical for a Piscean to follow through with a seriously strong mutual physical attraction and try to ignore the emotional attraction out of fear of commitment or being hurt?

I find with myself... I fall very easily and hard.
I think to counteract that I tend to be afraid of commitment period. Like you said to avoid getting hurt. To avoid changing how things are... eventually I come around and decide full out that I want/need/must have this person.

That being said there are personal experiences that might leave it at the "casual" stage for good as well. But astrologically speaking, see above.

Hope that helps, but I'm sure it only makes things more muddy!

The first part of your reply sounds about right to me deezie, especially since she already admitted to falling hard and fast when she does fall, same words no less 😉

I think she is just making a feeble attempt to hide what she and I both already know, so that being the case there's nothing left to do but enjoy. Somehow I knew I'd return to my initial instinct.

Do you know anything about the rest of her placements? Like where her Venus is? That should give you a better insight.

No Thetis, I have never really gotten that far into the astrological stuff. I like to look at the general traits to see if they line up with the individual and to remind me of their probable likes and dislikes. I'm not trying to marginalize those that do delve deeper into this as I'm sure it can be quite interesting, I just don't want to concentrate too heavily on the astrological aspect of a relationship. Plus, I don't know how to do any of that, although obviously their are numerous online resources available.

"I just don't want to concentrate too heavily on the astrological aspect of a relationship"

And quite right too, but if that's the case then you should be wary of looking at general Piscean traits and trying to match her against those because there's way more to astrology than sun sign trust me - especially when it comes to affairs of the heart!

Anyway astrology aside maybe she's been hurt in the past and is just being cautious - just see where it goes and don't push her for any more than she's ready to give.

Enjoy!

We can "appear" coy sometimes when we are just scared of getting hurt. We come off this way because we are trying to decide what to do. When we allow ourselves to fall in love, it is completely...all or nothing, same as Scorpio.

Personally, I'm not a touchy-feely or overly affectionate type of person. Even with my Sig. Other. I tend to save this for private.

Many Pisces are very affectionate with everyone, though. Especially the men.

Oh I'm not trying to make her fit the Piscean attributes, rather I have gotten to know her without even researching her sign. And out of curiousity and an attempt to gain more knowledge about what may make her tick, I have just recently started looking into the Pisces astrology. I have long known that this astrological match up is considered the best for me, but I try to see if the person fits the ideal rather than trying to convince myself that the ideal fits them. The last Pisces woman that I knew also generated an instant attraction and connection but I misinterpreted her flirtatious nature with others as disinterest in myself and later found out how wrong I was, too late by then though.

Yeah, as far as her heart possibly belonging to someone else, that's just not even a consideration. I could always be wrong, but if I am I need to go back and retake Relationships 101. She's been hurt as we all have at some time or another.

See I'm not sure....

S"o, my question is about how Pisces women love or fall in love; are they just being coy when they say they are not ready yet when all other indications show otherwise? Are they capable of showing extreme affection and attention for one person yet still view it as casual?"

In answer to the former it really depends, not all of us are coy and some will actively pursue the object of their affections. Or maybe she really isn't ready.......how well do you know this girl? How long have you known her for?

As for showing extreme affection etc. for someone where there's no romantic involvement YES! For some of us, I have several guy friends who I am very affectionate and attentive towards - doesn't mean to say I have any interest in them romantically though.

Yeah, it is kind of hard, since there can be other various life-factors involved. For the most part commitment is serious buisiness for any pisces, and initially she may feel more comfortable with one foot in, one foot out; testing the waters and her own emotions, so-to-speak. She must feel totally secure in her own realizations, before she'll admit to anyone else. Astrology-wise, I really think the placements of Mars (attraction factor, what excites her), Venus (love, commitment style , what moves her on a deeper level) & Rising can be quite telling, as well, and will color, intensify or moderate her basic sun-sign traits. (but yes, in the very end, as JD mentioned, it all goes back to her own individual heart, at this very moment in time.) Best of luck, hope you find some insight!

Well I could have expounded on 'affection' I guess, let's just say that there is no doubt about the sexual attraction and not really much doubt about the romantic and emotional nature of the relationship. I do know that she was not planning for this to happen and neither was I for that matter. We were both enjoying being single quite nicely. She tries to resist falling in love, though I sense her resisting less and less each day. I suppose I'm just wondering if I could expect what appears to be a fairly text book example (in broad terms) of a Piscean woman to be capable of shutting down the emotional feelings out of fear while continuing to pursue the physical. Me thinks not, but when someone comes along that appears to be a perfect match, well I'd have to change my sign not to wonder where an imperfection might come from 😉

Hehe, yeah I just figured that I might have taken R101 so many times that I'd only have to go back to R102 next time.

"I suppose I'm just wondering if I could expect what appears to be a fairly text book example (in broad terms) of a Piscean woman to be capable of shutting down the emotional feelings out of fear while continuing to pursue the physical"

In (very) general terms, for a Pisces woman, no. Pisceans aren't great at hiding how they feel for the most part.

lol @ SF he's asking for advice based on general Piscean traits - I said as much earlier.

My comment was based on text book Pisces, because that's what he asked for.

lmao OC you have such a way with words.

Lol outcast, why do you think I'm so enamored with her? If this is hell, heaven can wait.

Takes two to tango 😉

Low lifer? Did I miss something here? I'll let you explain yourself before giving you the response that a statement like that usually deserves.

OC stop scaring off all the newbs lol, hardly anyone comes here now as it is! 😛

Okay, 'outcast' what exactly is your problem? Am I raining on your parade somehow? Are you that insecure that a new poster in your domain incites you into name calling? Pretty pathetic don't you think? Here's what I can grasp; you're just another person with an inflated opinion of themselves that can't accept the fact that Scorpios are atributed with being the best lovers of the Zodiac, sounds like you've been spurned by a lover or two for being lackluster between the sheets. It's okay, there will be somebody out there that wants a below average lover and is willing to take you in, but until then why not take your pompous bullcrap and use it as fertilizer instead of taking your frustrations out on me?

Nice profile by the way, fancy yourself as an assasin tough guy eh? Pfft, you've just proven my point...another keyboard hero living in fantasy land. Speaking of reality do you actually even own an AR15? Doubtful, otherwise you wouldn't need a game character to represent your Napoleon syndrome ass now would you?

Get my goat? Never happen, I used to play the e-thugging game for pure entertainment, I'll be your Huckleberry. Fire away hot stuff.

Thanks, have a nice day.

well, if she's anything like me, you're going to have to spell it out for her. i'm so not one to flatter myself by assuming that a person is digging on me. if he doesn't say it, i won't know it, despite what i may be vibing.

with some women, you have to take the lead.

Oh she knows it, she'd have to be Hellen Keller to miss it 😉 In spite of her not wanting a serious relationship and the fact that she knows that I do; she hasn't gone anywhere and shows no indications of doing so.

"In spite of her not wanting a serious relationship and the fact that she knows that I do; she hasn't gone anywhere and shows no indications of doing so."

Have you told her specifically you want a relationship with HER? She is most likely feeling the connection as strongly as you, but she still has no confirmation you feel the same if you haven't come out with it. Sometimes, you think you have communicated something clearly when you have not. Most Pisces women will not pursue. We like to be pursued. We like our men to be MEN.

This is what happened with my Scorpio and me. I was def. interested in him the first time we met, and I was pretty sure he was into me as well, but I needed proof. A few weeks later, he called and said he couldn't stop thinking about me and wanted to get to know me better. And that was that.

If we feel that someone is interested in us, we'll wait for them to make a move, but we all have our cut off point, and then we'll just disappear, without warning and without a word. However comfortable you may feel, believe me, her clock is ticking. We have to be with someone who wants us passionately enough to prove it.

Sea Siren, trust me, she knows unequivocally and she is not lacking for attention from me either. She mainly has been caught off guard by the suddeness of this relationship, I think she wants to fight the urge to give in to her desire just so that she can tell herself that she tried to stick to her original plan of staying emotionally unavailable to anyone, or not, psychology is an inexact science 😉

BWAHAHAHA! Okay...you go ahead with what you're doing and see how that turns out. *sets timer for "how to get Pisces woman back" post.

Lalalala. Cookies anyone? Euchre? 🙂

"BWAHAHAHA! Okay...you go ahead with what you're doing and see how that turns out. *sets timer for "how to get Pisces woman back" post."

Interesting response, what is it exactly that you think I am doing? I'm constantly amazed at people's inability to realize that they have a sliver of the entire story and then make assumptions on the fractional information available.

Fwiw, I don't do the "how to get her back" stuff, not wanted is not appealing.

LMAO! No, believe me, I'm always sure I'm never getting the full story from a Scorp.

You came here asking for advice from Pisces women, yeah? What your posts tell me is you haven't told her how you feel and you're not going to. Which means it won't last. How could it? You think she knows this and you think she knows that...but that will be your downfall. We will not commit to someone who doesn't make their intentions perfectly clear via communication and action. It's really not the end of the world. Quite simple. Man up and just do it for chrissakes. 😛

Sea Siren, are my posts showing up in Swahali on your screen? Go back and look how many times I have stated that she knows without a doubt! Yes, this means that I have told her in plain english what my intentions are and my actions mirror my words.

It's a good thing that I was direct with her, judging by the way I had to spell out for you what I have already said multiple times. A good illustration of your point really, too funny.

Cheers 😉

"Yes, this means that I have told her in plain english what my intentions are and my actions mirror my words."

Why didn't you just SAY that from the beginning instead of all this bloody hinting around? If you were this "clear" with her, then yes....I can see why she's still confused. Poor, poor child. 😛

I do believe you are right Ms. Pisces, she loves the brand of attention I show her, and just for you Sea Siren; I know this because she has told me that she does, just want to be as clear as possible 😉

Good job! See, that's the way the rest of us communicate with one another. Refreshing, isn't it? lol

Haha, I thought by my saying that she knew 'unequivocally' it would have sufficed as crystal clear communication, my bad.

Lucky for me she understands me very well, hence the mutual attraction 🙂

Honey, after being in relationships with three different Scorpios, I have found that your idea of "unequivocally" in the area of communication is quite different from, well, everyone else.

Anyway, if you really have told her all of this (because how would we REALLY know if you're telling the truth?) and she's still being coy, it seems that maybe she doesn't trust you, or needs more proof of it to feel secure. Or maybe she's just not into you. If I'm into a guy and he confesses his love, the only thing that would stop me is trust issues or lack of interest.

Case in point; you are basing what I say here on your past experiences with Scorpios. My Pisces is basing her fear of commitment and allowing herself to trust based on her past experiences with failed relationships. I don't blame either one of you for using this reasoning, however being a little more open minded can be rather enlightening.

As far as what I'm REALLY saying (lol) What reason would I have to lie here? Nobody knows me, I have complete anonynimity.

I wise man once said to me (and I'm sure he wasn't the originator of the thought); "Do you know why the windshield of your car is many times bigger than the rear view mirror?"

I try to choose my words carefully in hopes that they convey exactly what I intend them to.

I agree with Sea Siren. There is something underlying about you scorpio's and if she's a smart highly evolved pisces, maybe she picks up on something in your nature that's slightly off. Her instinct to hesitate will always trump your carefully chosen words.

"maybe she picks up on something in your nature that's slightly off"

Or maybe we just don't know the full story lol. Seriously without really knowing all the ins and outs of the situation it's easy to make assumptions. There could be a million and one reasons she doesn't want more at this point on time, neither of which may have anything to do with SSP. The point is we don't know enough about it.

"maybe she picks up on something in your nature that's slightly off"

He sounds pretty on to me...maybe SHE'S the one that's off.

Anyways...like Thetis said...the story's a bit hazy. Who knows?

They could both be off...lol

It would help knowing her Venus/Mars placements...

"My Pisces is basing her fear of commitment and allowing herself to trust based on her past experiences with failed relationships. I don't blame either one of you for using this reasoning,"

Well, I would hope not since everyone on the planet does this, whether they are aware of it or not.

"maybe she picks up on something in your nature that's slightly off."

And maybe that's what I'm picking up on, too. lol Anyway, she's just doesn't seem to be behaving like a Pisces woman in love, that's all.

"Anyway, she's just doesn't seem to be behaving like a Pisces woman in love, that's all"

That's exactly what I meant SS, all we know is she's sun sign Pisces, and for all we know with her other placements she could be anything but!

Of course we dont know enough about the situation-we arent in it. But we can comment on what we know. I am slightly biased when it comes to Scorpio, but as a Pisces female I can say that her hesitation speaks volumes.

"That's exactly what I meant SS, all we know is she's sun sign Pisces, and for all we know with her other placements she could be anything but!"

My bff is a sun sign pisces and the only reason I get along with her is cuz that's ALL she has in pisces. The rest of her is earth and air. I could never get along with a typical pisces.

He needs to figure out her full chart as well as his own cuz all this questioning he's doing without having a framework to look into is a total waste of time.

"I am slightly biased when it comes to Scorpio"

In favour of or against?

"I'm constantly amazed at people's inability to realize that they have a sliver of the entire story and then make assumptions on the fractional information available."

Welcome to DXP!

Sigh.