What in the hell does she want!? #2

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it's been a long time coming for this. As it turns out Alyssa does have feelings for me, but does not want a relationship. She feels connected to me in a way that she has not been with anybody else. She said it scares her, and she wanted to step back.

she didn't.



The whole day after that went well we texted nearly all day. She comes over and we hang with mutual friends. They end up leaving around 3am..I say im gonna watch this last movie and go to bed. It 357am..415am now.

She kinda withdrew herself from me. Not even sure why.. I asked if she was okay. Physically shes fine. Mentally I can tell there is more to it, I still accepted her fine.

was I suppose to do something.. I have a feeling shes gonna text me saying "Imma step back." or something. Im so lost.
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Posted by Happy_Aqua
What she wants? Well, she told you....

Your connection scared her, she's not ready for that type of intensity. And she doesn't want a relationship so that's why she withdrew herself from you.

She probably will step back.

Pisces usually tell you the truth, all you have to do is listen......


I'm not sure how to listen when she contradicts. Now that shes home shes talking to me ..laughing... when she waa here she was distant and quiet

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Posted by Happy_Aqua
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Posted by Happy_Aqua
What she wants? Well, she told you....

Your connection scared her, she's not ready for that type of intensity. And she doesn't want a relationship so that's why she withdrew herself from you.

She probably will step back.

Pisces usually tell you the truth, all you have to do is listen......


I'm not sure how to listen when she contradicts. Now that shes home shes talking to me ..laughing... when she waa here she was distant and quiet



She probably does not feel comfortable at your place/around you, but at her own home, she's probably in her comfort zone so she loosens up a bit.

Does she really contradict? I mean, she doesn't want to get romantically involved but to me it seems she doesn't want to lose the friendship you two have.



I feel she DID step back (being distant/quiet around you)...all else is just...Pisces friendliness.....

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Sounds like you should step back maybe? Asses if you want to fight for a one sided ROMANTIC love. Or if you want to fight for a friendship?.. Pisces dont mince their words. They say what they mean and mean what they say relatively in the moment and always with purpose. She said "I have feelings. But I dont want to be in a relationship with you. it scares me." right? Did you ask her WHY it scares her? She could value your friendship so much that the thought of losing a friend truly terrifies her. Now those are "feelings" arn't they? Did you ask her what type of feelings she had for you? Feelings are all relative.

This all coming from a QUEER cancer (me) whos deeply in love with a pisces. But its one sided. I know she has "feelings" I don't need to even ask her that. My pisces put the breaks on it TWICE saying she "didn't want to take it further" for a 2nd time. I had to gather my evidence and make a decision with that. And decided I want to fight for a friendship now..A decision I made. .and that's currently what we are building between the two of us. Im dating around. Because I didn't let her go. And im forcing my self to explore new options. Something I recommend for you. But she truly means something to me. So friendship from a distance is best for now. But Id rather have her in my life as such than not by trying to force something on her thats not really there. You are lucky. you already have your pisces as a close friend. Don't take that for granted.
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Dude I've read your posts and while I'm not a Pisces I fell for one too lol. I'm gay also. Listen she made it clear. I know their actions and words can be confusing but she told you what she told you. Don't try to make something else out of it or wonder or analyze it more than it is. I know I do this when my feelings are involved because I'm so badly trying to disect and understand every word, every action but it drives me crazy after a while.

If you don't want to lose whatever it is ya'll have just be her friend. Don't question what she said. Stay by her side. Who knows.. eventually she may come around but for now just accept what she has said. I know its easier said than done but you need to get your feelings out of this one. At least until something progresses. You're just doing your own head in.

I learnt the hard way and like the poster above me, I realised I had to move on and keep a friendship if I couldn't have anything else with my fish.
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I think actions speak louder than words
Her action dont coincide with her words. at all.
How?... it doesn't matter at this point. It doesn't work that way...

When someone is interested they will show it through action.

When they're not, they will say so even if their actions are confusing.

It's the opposite... don't reach too much into it. When someone says they're not ready for a relationship it's either #1 their not interested #2 they really aren't emotionally, mentally, etc prepared to be in one
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That's what I am saying. What she says and does do not match.

If I wasnt one for keep things private I would screenshot our conversations just so you all can understand even better why I keep posting these ridiculous threads