When a Pisces turns rough

Hi all. So.. I've never encountered this before, but maybe have mentioned it in some posts. It always and ever baffling to me that my own Pisces brother, who was once so soft, empathetic and kind has turned hard and really snappy. I don't know what it is. Maybe it's because he's gotten married to an extremely logical person and all they talk about are logical matters? Anyway, besides that, he has a Sagittarius moon and Saturn is currently in Sagittarius. I just wonder if this is affecting him in some way. He snapped at me so harshly the other day, but not in the usual "Fucking shut up!" flash of fire that Pisces gives so every once in a while. It was so rude. The lack of empathy and the emphasis on apathy is even more baffling. I tell him an extremely traumatic dream I had the other day through messages/text... Nothing.

I think i've done it. I'm dead to him, even though he won't even admit it. I can just feel it instinctively, no matter how much he tries to Logic it away and say, "Stop being negative. I'm not even mad" and continues to ignore my texts. Sorry, guys, I'm just in mourning. Mourning the loss of the empathic Pisces brother I once knew.

Question: have you ever cut someone out of your life and even if they reappear in your life, are there people that are just dead to you?

You still haven't said what you've done that could've made him turn such a leaf.

My siblings and parents are all dead to me simply because they were too concerned with themselves when I needed them. While I was in my teens when I was supposed to be exploring my identity and sexuality, I was stuck with an emotionally impotent mother who needed her hand held because she couldn't cope with her ex husband still inserting himself into her matters. Later in my 20s I needed a ton of help while being my father's personal carer for 3 years, which did serious permanent damage to me. But as usual, the bitches were too concerned with their own coochies than helping the baby of the family. Nevermind the fact I was born gay in a family of homophobes. Don't get me started.

So they don't exist to me.

Fishies don't shut you out for no reason. There's definitely something you did wrong. You just haven't realized it. Oh and you're a Cap, like my oldest sister and the ice queen of the bunch, always expecting others to make an effort for her but never willing to make an effort herself. Usually it has to do with having our feelings completely trampled, or when we feel just plain unappreciated.

Exactly what I asked him, I asked, "Do you have a problem with the way I'm living my life. do you disagree with anything I'm doing?" In that sense, I gave him full permission to call me out on my bullshit. Maybe it is personal things that are truly getting in the way. I'm going to give him a lot of space. I'm sorry, my Scorpio Mars can't help but suspect things. When you instinctively feel that someone is just mean or unwelcoming, it's visceral. I don't hate him, but if he does have anything against me, the first thing I'd suspect is brutal honesty. though I've been in this situation with another person and realize they don't owe me shit. Maybe I have to find some ways to draw those answers out of him without directly asking. Or just go my own way. I'm almost dead, but since he's so social and that I'm his sister, he can't help but be conditioned to respond in a brotherly manner, even if it has died down, way down. I need to shut up, it's only natural.

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Exactly what I asked him, I asked, "Do you have a problem with the way I'm living my life. do you disagree with anything I'm doing?" In that sense, I gave him full permission to call me out on my bullshit. Maybe it is personal things that are truly getting in the way. I'm going to give him a lot of space. I'm sorry, my Scorpio Mars can't help but suspect things. When you instinctively feel that someone is just mean or unwelcoming, it's visceral. I don't hate him, but if he does have anything against me, the first thing I'd suspect is brutal honesty. though I've been in this situation with another person and realize they don't owe me shit. Maybe I have to find some ways to draw those answers out of him without directly asking. Or just go my own way. I'm almost dead, but since he's so social and that I'm his sister, he can't help but be conditioned to respond in a brotherly manner, even if it has died down, way down. I need to shut up, it's only natural.

Doesn't look like he needs your permission to call you on your bullshit if he can go straight ahead and tell you "fucking shut up!".

I doubt he kept anything back with you. The problem is that you just don't get it.

And like one smart professor once said, "some people cannot be saved".

Maybe one day you will receive the answers you are looking for. Even I still have to work towards getting there still. When that day comes, I still wonder if it is going to be a harsh treatment of everybody around me, or will I mellow out and go ahead without crushing them like a bug first.

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He never said "fucking shut up." that was just an example of the Pisces flash of anger that happens when they snap and then say sorry literally seconds after. This is more like coldness. Absolute coldness. And why are only bitter Pisces answering? I guess y'all can relate because you've felt super slighted and this is bringing up issues which make your blood boil. I doubt I am that much of a bitch to my own brother that he would disown me, I know the difference between evil and not evil. And he's man enough to tell me if I were truly evil. Maybe it is my self-perception like others have said, but it hurts to see non-emotion coming from a once caring person. Feel free to warp my message into your own interpretation through your own bitterness., I'm not stranger to being bitter either.

You will mellow out for sure IF you can find forgiveness. It's a really long road and my bro has passed that road. I've just gone down to hell in my personal life, and maybe he just wants nothing to do with that? I USED to rely on him for support. Not anymore. Time to grow up and be a big girl, as much as it hurts.. or seems to be a bad situation.

I know when i'm really pissed off, it may take a while to calm down. Like years.

Example: Once my cousin was being her usual stupid meany self and I just had enough of her mouth and just flipped out. I was so mad partly because she was talking about a topic she knew nothing about and acting like she knew it. After a while I lost it with her. I went the F*** off on her. And then we didn't speak for 3 years. I mean I acted like she was dead. When she would call the house I would see her number on the caller id and ignore the call. When she came into town she never saw me. I remember once I was at my mom's house and she called, and my mom was doing something, and I told my mom it was a telemarketer. *HAHAHA✨ (classic Pisces)

I don't know what happened, but she called my mom and I was over there, and I answered the phone and she apologized. I still don't like her, but I am civil to her. She knows not to cross me again with her mouth, or she will get it.

So if we are truly mad about something it may take a LONG TIME for us to get over it. It could be years. We can hold a grudge for the longest. We usually don't get that mad unless it was something dramatic or tragic proportion.

If it's something small, give a few days or a week. Hopefully your brother will come around and your relationship can be repaired. Another example: My other brother and I used to be so close. He is 10 years older, he is a Leo. I loved him so much. Then he went and married this really crazy Aries. Our relationship has never been the same. She controls him, however, since the death of one of our parents, he has been more straightforward. We talk and all, but we aren't as close as we used to be. I don't know if we will ever be that close again. I do miss our childhood, because we did have an awesome relationship.

So if your brother is married to one of the logical controlling and know it all types, your relationship could be rocky. Pisces do not like to rough feathers, unless we have to fight, and if we do have to fight...it's to win at all cost.

Good luck to you!

PS: When we act crazy let us have our moment, and then afterwards we want to be loved on again. 😄

Pisces turn aggressive when they aren't being true to themselves.

When they feel like being an outsider in a world that is incredibly psychopathic becomes overwhelming.

ALL Pisces go through this period. Some turn to drugs and alcohol and recovery is harder.

Your brother is simply angry - he just needs a reminder of his true nature.

Anger is love turned sour.

He could be going through something very personal and doesn't have time to comfort you.