Cancer boyfriend flirts with other girl over texts

Hi,

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months, we met during our year studying abroad in the United States but we are both from the same country. He is now back to our country, but I still have 6 months left in the U.S.

Right after he got back to his home, he told me he was going out to dinner with one of his friends (a girl whom coincidentally I also happen to know), I was fine with it because I trusted him and I understand if he has female friends. They are neighbors, so some days after they had dinner, he invited her to walk his dog with him around the neighborhood twice. I was told about all of this by him. One day, I was talking on facetime with him and he called me by her name, I was very mad about it but eventually I let it slide, however in the back of my mind I started to have my doubts and my instincts told me there was something off.

He went to Brazil on a family trip and we kept texting and calling each other constantly, however, I noticed that many times he will say goodbye to me but he remained online.

During Christmas time I traveled to my home country to visit my family and to see him, I've been having my doubts for a long time, so one time when he was taking a bath and he left his cellphone in the room, I started checking his WhatsApp conversations. As I imagined, he was totally flirting with her, he called her baby and sweetie, said several times how beautiful she is, complemented her on her looks and told her that he wished she was in Brasil with him and that he wanted to take her with him, he wanted to "sneak her in his luggage" as he said. The weird thing is that she knows about me and even asked him how we were doing, to which he responded that everything was amazing. I still think that many of the things he wrote to her were very inappropriate for a man in a committed relationship. What hurts me the most is that many of the things he was saying to her were the same things he said to me.

I confronted him about it and he said they were "just friends", however that's not the way you talk to just a friend. He apologized and recognized that he shouldn't have said some of the things he said, he even cried, but I just found this behavior very disrespectful towards me and those messages made me feel as if I'm not enough for him, that he needs another woman's attention to feel good about himself, which is also very immature. I know I shouldn't have checked his phone and I know it is against his privacy, but my instincts were telling me that there was something wrong and I could corroborate that I was right.

I told him that I needed a break to think what I want to do, I don't know if I should break up with him or not. What are your opinions on this situation?



(Extra notes:

-He gave me his cellphone password a while ago and he set my fingerprint on his cell phone, that's why I have access to it.

-At the time all this happened I really thought that our relationship was going great. )

Step out of the picture and let them be together.

Girl let that man go. It should be a dealbreaker. You don't need our help.

If he was really into you, he would never jeopardize what you have. If he's doing this 4 months in what do you think he'll do in a year.

thanks for all your comments! 😄