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Curious to how many have dated a scorpio venus and what their thoughts are on them after the relationship is over. Do you still think about them years later?

I've had past boyfriends tell me they remember me fondly and admit they never forgot me. Even 20-30 years later, I have been told they felt they made mistakes letting me go. Of course, I'm not naive enough to think too much on the flattery, since it could have an ulterior motive, but I think they are somewhat sincere.

I have a theory. Perhaps, they always remember a scorpio venus because of our passion and look at us as the 'ones who got away'. I've read the scorpio venus carries the impression of a promise of what could be or what could have been.

So, curious. What are your thoughts of a scorpio venus after a relationship; after all the anger, bitterness, etc that led to the breakup is over. What are your thoughts on them years later? Crazy? Psycho? The one who got away? The one you can't get out of your mind? The one you compare passion to in other lovers?

Very curious if my theory is correct or if I'm living in fantasy land. 🙂
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I was just seeing a scorp sun/scorp venus for a month

I had to end it simply because there was too much baggage, funny thing was that it was going so smoothly
I told him I'm not ready for that basically sort his shit out since I'm not trying to emotionally invest in someone who is scared and unsure of their future.

when I invest in someone their issues are my issues...

He feels like i left him high and dry, he claims to have fallen in love with me.
As a scorpio I feel as if he is trying emotionally manipulate me but it is sort of working because I am questioning my decision.
When I talk to my mother who is also a Scorp sun/ Scorp venus, she feels like I made an extremely intelligent decision to end it.

I think scorpio venus can get lost in passion and forget about reality. that is my opinion
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I was just seeing a scorp sun/scorp venus for a month

I had to end it simply because there was too much baggage, funny thing was that it was going so smoothly
I told him I'm not ready for that basically sort his shit out since I'm not trying to emotionally invest in someone who is scared and unsure of their future.

when I invest in someone their issues are my issues...

He feels like i left him high and dry, he claims to have fallen in love with me.
As a scorpio I feel as if he is trying emotionally manipulate me but it is sort of working because I am questioning my decision.
When I talk to my mother who is also a Scorp sun/ Scorp venus, she feels like I made an extremely intelligent decision to end it.

I think scorpio venus can get lost in passion and forget about reality. that is my opinion



Based on just this, I don't think it was manipulation. We love deeply and intensely.

Wonder if in ten years if you will still question the decision.
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Posted by tiziani
Very respectful, no major disagreements in breaking up beyond the ordinary arguments. And I am all for ending a relationship acrimoniously if that's what's needed to get it out the system, the odd shouting match, threatening to tamper each other's brakes etc. But that never really went down with them.

The one that got away for me was a Pisces with Aries Venus which I met after them so no I don't think of them in that sense. I would describe them as the type of women where it really doesn't make sense that it ended but yet somehow it did. It happens.



Yes, it just happens. But it's good you have no hard feelings towards her.

My ex husband is the only one (I think) that has hard feelings against me. But, he tried to bully me and I wouldn't let him. He didn't get his way and I think that bothers him more. Maybe the cancer I broke up with has hard feelings. Those are the only two I can think of that might.
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My husband is Scorpio sun, Scorpio Venus. He has gone extra miles to prove his love,sometimes it was extreme( crazy extreme but I won't tell what).And during dating period whenever he and I had a rift and didn't speak for couple of days, he was always the one to reach out first. He would say with a shaky voice," if we don't end up together,I want you to know that you'll be in my heart forever even after I am long gone from this world. My feelings will never fade away."That always melt me because I felt the sincerity of his heart. Luckily we wound up together. That's my experience 🙂



Awwww....he really, really loves you!
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My boyfriends bestfriend is a Libra with a venus in scorp. He had feelings for her but she got married to another guy. He used to open up to me and tell me about her when we were friends. They still hang out and he has a soft corner for her. He tells me she is very possessive about him and might not like me. Lol.

Also hid ex gf is a a virgo with a venus in scorp. She was literally obsessed with him, would stalk him and chased him for a really long time. But he did not want to marry her. They still keep in touch and he finally gathered the courage to tell her about me.

And my bestfriend is a sag with a venus in scorp,she is dating another scorpio. Very passionate, wild and a deep relationship.They look very happy now. I am glad.I am surrounded by venus in scorp. The young,unevolved ones get insanely jealous and possessive about their partners. Its cute.
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I was just seeing a scorp sun/scorp venus for a month

I had to end it simply because there was too much baggage, funny thing was that it was going so smoothly
I told him I'm not ready for that basically sort his shit out since I'm not trying to emotionally invest in someone who is scared and unsure of their future.

when I invest in someone their issues are my issues...

He feels like i left him high and dry, he claims to have fallen in love with me.
As a scorpio I feel as if he is trying emotionally manipulate me but it is sort of working because I am questioning my decision.
When I talk to my mother who is also a Scorp sun/ Scorp venus, she feels like I made an extremely intelligent decision to end it.

I think scorpio venus can get lost in passion and forget about reality. that is my opinion



Based on just this, I don't think it was manipulation. We love deeply and intensely.

Wonder if in ten years if you will still question the decision.
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Doubt as im not in love 😛
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Posted by AquaMermaid
My husband is Scorpio sun, Scorpio Venus. He has gone extra miles to prove his love,sometimes it was extreme( crazy extreme but I won't tell what).And during dating period whenever he and I had a rift and didn't speak for couple of days, he was always the one to reach out first. He would say with a shaky voice," if we don't end up together,I want you to know that you'll be in my heart forever even after I am long gone from this world. My feelings will never fade away."That always melt me because I felt the sincerity of his heart. Luckily we wound up together. That's my experience 🙂



oh really? that's awesome. So is my husband. What's your husband's moon and mars and merc?

Anyway, i'd have to say that, my husband WALKS the WALK.

that saying where he's all action, and less talk.

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My husband is Scorpio sun, Scorpio Venus. He has gone extra miles to prove his love,sometimes it was extreme( crazy extreme but I won't tell what).And during dating period whenever he and I had a rift and didn't speak for couple of days, he was always the one to reach out first. He would say with a shaky voice," if we don't end up together,I want you to know that you'll be in my heart forever even after I am long gone from this world. My feelings will never fade away."That always melt me because I felt the sincerity of his heart. Luckily we wound up together. That's my experience 🙂



oh really? that's awesome. So is my husband. What's your husband's moon and mars and merc?

Anyway, i'd have to say that, my husband WALKS the WALK.

that saying where he's all action, and less talk.

Oh yes Lisa! Good for you too. He's Cap moon,Libra Mars, Scorpio Mercury. He's a serious guy. My husband is a beautiful combination of actions and words. Truly lucky me 😄
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😉 He sounds really fantastic.

I love mine a whole lot too. ~purrr~
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As a Venus and Sun Scorp I'm interested in the answers too!!



Have past lovers ever mentioned anything to you?
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I'd probably say that past lovers would say all of the things in your first post!

I've been with one Scorp Venus (maybe two) but we were more friends (platonic). We were intense with each other but mainly because we were very similar. He had Scorp Sun and Moon so he was a bit of a nut job! We remained friends until about a month ago. He's having a breakdown and told me to piss off so I've pissed off! He'd cut his nose to spite his face!!

I'd say there's one past lover who I was with for six months who would think I'm the one who got away. Lucky escape more like! He had Scorp rising and was very intense.

Another long term was very happy to be rid of me! Ha ha! We are still friends now. We were totally incompatible anyway.

I think maybe it's our intensity and passion that leaves a mark. Not everyone is into that though. It can be too much. When we love, we love hard. When we hurt we can become obsessive and unfortunately rather psychotic in some cases. Nothing worse than a Scorp Venus woman scorned or badly rejected!

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I can relate to so many comments in this thread. I'm a virgo with Venus in Scorpio. I think that it depends a lot on the man but 90% of the guys I left came back admitting they made mistakes. A common theme in my life unfortunately .. While I'm seeing someone I'm too dark/ intense for them.. I love too deeply. I argue with too much passion. Im addicted to sex (it's how I express love and only when I love someone) I'm possessive. Just typical Scorpio typa love. Although they haven't come out and said it, looking back I feel like it was too much for most of the guys if not all of the guys I dated. So they all disappeared, cheated or just pulled back enough to piss me off. Of course long after I dumped them they come running back but it's always AFTER I move on smh while I'm at home suffering thinking of them not a single one comes back.. I meet someone else and move on and boom buddy magically reappears explaining how bad he messed up.. But it's too effin late! Just ONCE just ONCE I would like to fall for someone that matches my level of intensity and doesn't realize after it's too late that they have feelings for me...
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I could give so many examples.. Right off the bar a few I can think of:

Dated a capricorn who was never around and would text me very rarely. I eventually disappear and change my number. YEARS later I see him driving by my moms house. I was in the backyard visiting her and he pulls into the driveway. I was confused. Turns out he had been driving by my moms house EVERY DAY for months hoping to see me.. I was already engaged at this point and he was too dam late.

Dated an Aries very briefly. He had a problem with the fact that I never exited him first. I was doing my typical Venus Scorpio self preservation thing because I didn't trust him yet. Found out he was dating another girl at the same time and dropped him. Still talked his social media and saw them livin together at some point. That's when I moved on and randomly met some guy. One night I was in the middle of textin my new man and a longgggg message pops up from mr Aries that even though he's living with someone and supposed to be happy he thinks about me every day and "realized now that I was such a good girl" - again too late.

Dated a sag who left me to get back with his ex. Turns out I was the rebound and he lied to me about when they broke up (it was just days before he met me not months like he said) Took me months to get over this one cuz the breakup up came out of left field. A YEAR later I'm in Mexico with my new bf and buddy sends me a long birthday email wishing me well and hoping we could "reconnect." Out of curiosity I looked up his FB and he was still with her! Ugh. I had moved on anyway.

I have no idea why this constantly happens to me. There are so many more examples.. I wish I could figure out why this is the theme in my love life.
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Now I met my first Venus in Scorpio and it's me that's pining over him. I literally fantasized about this guy at night which I haven't done in years! That's how excited I was about this relationship because he just sparked that passion inside me and he was equally intense with me. Especially when we had sex..

But this one didn't work out either! Go figure! He's been the hardest to figure out and let go of.. I still think about him every day. Because he's a Venus in Scorpio I make so many excuses for him because I know how hard we love but also have a tendency to manipulate as a way to self preserve. At least I know I do it.. and I still feel like this could have been something great.. Still confused about the whole thing but time will give me clarity I guess.
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Thanks tiziani

And rockyroadicecream tell me more about the Venus in Scorpio me. You can across.

I have emotional hang ups and I don't think it's necessarily immature. It's the inability to use logic or think rationally no matter how hard I try to control my fixed emotional crazy intense Venus. Thank god my earth sun balances me out a bit but the most dominant sign in my chart is def Scorpio and it screws up all ofmy relationships regardless of all the "lessons" I've tought myself after the fact (as in after the emotional tide subsides and my virgo logic takes over)
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met one recently and had a bad experience. I felt violated by her eyes. She went full on and refused to stop staring at me when it was just us. One thing I can say, I'm still not used to being seen as sex meat on the first meeting. no. just. no.

She called me hubby on the 2nd date onwards. God know why I tried to pull through instead of running for the hills.
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met one recently and had a bad experience. I felt violated by her eyes. She went full on and refused to stop staring at me when it was just us. One thing I can say, I'm still not used to being seen as sex meat on the first meeting. no. just. no.

She called me hubby on the 2nd date onwards. God know why I tried to pull through instead of running for the hills.

Lmao! The intense eyes looking at you like a piece of sex meat thing I can relate to... But the verbalizing how you feel part? That's not very Venus Scorpio. We can feel soooo much but yet say so little. In fact I never compliment someone or talk about my feelings but my actions show it. (Especially when I get jealous)

The hubby comment is strange. (And creepy!) Even if I felt that way I would never say it.
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met one recently and had a bad experience. I felt violated by her eyes. She went full on and refused to stop staring at me when it was just us. One thing I can say, I'm still not used to being seen as sex meat on the first meeting. no. just. no.

She called me hubby on the 2nd date onwards. God know why I tried to pull through instead of running for the hills.

Lmao! The intense eyes looking at you like a piece of sex meat thing I can relate to... But the verbalizing how you feel part? That's not very Venus Scorpio. We can feel soooo much but yet say so little. In fact I never compliment someone or talk about my feelings but my actions show it. (Especially when I get jealous)

The hubby comment is strange. (And creepy!) Even if I felt that way I would never say it.
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yes, 2014 has been a year of attracting creepy girls. creepiness is not only a trait of men, as women would often proclaim..
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Posted by truecap
Curious to how many have dated a scorpio venus and what their thoughts are on them after the relationship is over. Do you still think about them years later?



Yes, I have and I don't have any thoughts about him. My chart is overloaded with Scorp energy though, so once I'm done with you, I'm done. I also have an Air Moon and detach very easily from people regardless of the connection we once shared, so I truly don't think about people after a certain point. That can be a little cold for some, but it is what it is.

He was also a Scorp Sun. The problem was his jealousy, possessiveness and he became quite obsessed once it ended (1.5 years after it ended), where I had moved on and had been seeing someone else. While I have two of these traits as well, he presented them in a very different way than I did. Jealousy for me is very much based on the situation and when I am feeling that way, I'm boiling inside and once we are behind closed doors tell you point I and not happy and depending on what provoked my jealousy will tell him point blank to cut that sh*t out. Jealousy for him was letting everyone know he was my man, going through my phone (without my knowledge), calling my friends to confirm I was where I said I was going to be, deleting phone messages.

Once we went to a club and I saw my ex. We hadn't spoken for over a year. I said hello. Told him who my boyfriend was, stating clearly he was my boyfriend. He said I looked great and asked me a few additional questions to quickly catch up. Nothing personal. We went on our way. At some point during that night, my boyfriend approached my ex and told him if he had plans on contacting me, to forget about it. Lol. What?

I on the other hand, had no problem going to a strip club with my boyfriend and paying for a lap dance. I didn't mind him going, as long as I was there....like I stated, same traits, just demonstarted differently. As loaded as I am with Scorp, even I find elements of that Venus placement to be intense and I need space to breathe which only activates the placement more from my experience.
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Curious to how many have dated a scorpio venus and what their thoughts are on them after the relationship is over. Do you still think about them years later?



Yes, I have and I don't have any thoughts about him. My chart is overloaded with Scorp energy though, so once I'm done with you, I'm done. I also have an Air Moon and detach very easily from people regardless of the connection we once shared, so I truly don't think about people after a certain point. That can be a little cold for some, but it is what it is.

He was also a Scorp Sun. The problem was his jealousy, possessiveness and he became quite obsessed once it ended (1.5 years after it ended), where I had moved on and had been seeing someone else. While I have two of these traits as well, he presented them in a very different way than I did. Jealousy for me is very much based on the situation and when I am feeling that way, I'm boiling inside and once we are behind closed doors tell you point I and not happy and depending on what provoked my jealousy will tell him point blank to cut that sh*t out. Jealousy for him was letting everyone know he was my man, going through my phone (without my knowledge), calling my friends to confirm I was where I said I was going to be, deleting phone messages.

Once we went to a club and I saw my ex. We hadn't spoken for over a year. I said hello. Told him who my boyfriend was, stating clearly he was my boyfriend. He said I looked great and asked me a few additional questions to quickly catch up. Nothing personal. We went on our way. At some point during that night, my boyfriend approached my ex and told him if he had plans on contacting me, to forget about it. Lol. What?

I on the other hand, had no problem going to a strip club with my boyfriend and paying for a lap dance. I didn't mind him going, as long as I was there....like I stated, same traits, just demonstarted differently. As loaded as I am with Scorp, even I find elements of that Venus placement to be intense and I need space to breathe which only activates the placement more from my experience.
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you sound so cool esp the strip club part.
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Dated one many years ago. Deep down I know he wasn't sincere but golly I was young and flattery is what he did best. He was intense. The night we first met, he proposed in the cafe. LOL. We broke up because I got a phone call from one of his other girlfriend. After I hung up with that other gf, I called him up and said I'm done, goodbye! He stalked me afterwards. I had to change my address. He sent me an email last year claiming he was standing outside the chapel on my wedding day. He asked if I received his gift for me, a lamp which was on my night stand. I threw it out after I realized it was from him.

After all said and done, I have to say he did bad so well. Plus I was young and he was tall. Then I found myself and I realize that I prefer my men to be a Teddy Bear with fire within and some shell for him to scuttle away from me so I can seduce him to come out and play, like my husband.
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Im currently in a relationsihp with a scorpio sun, scorpio mercury, scorpio venus, all conjunct pluto. And believe me, I have a lot of thoughts about this relationship. Im a cancer sun and moon with capricorn ascendant.

Our relationship is pretty much close to perfect. Except for the communication. Yes he has a lot of passion that I can actually feel as if it were my own. He's really emotional and committed. We haven't had problems until recently. Been together about 10 months and knew each other longer than that. He's texted me everyday since then. I feel like he's the one and I don't want to let him go.

I agree with partners getting the sense that there was something promised, something that could've been. I not only believe that about me but about his past girlfriends too. I have this issue with him where he married somebody before me, before he went into the military just like everybody else does. He says it was for money. But he said millions of times that he loved her and always will to her face but he denies it to me. And she happened two or three years ago. He said he had no values back then and wanted to get her back for cheating on him. She cheated on him twice and the last time after they got married she got pregnant with another dudes baby, supposedly. To me it looked like he was obsessed with her and I have a problem with that.

After everything him and I have been through and how we feel about each other now. We have mutual feelings of love, care, respect, commitment and loyalty. He wants to marry me and I feel the same way but I really dont want to be second. He already married somebody else and he says he never loved her, he was just a person who didn't care and was stupid at the time. Deep down i feel like he's manipulating me though. Like he's told me how he feels about me and supposedly I'm the one, I feel like Im not the first but he says I am and I feel like he's only saying that to keep me with him.

He's sketchy sometimes to me. And he's also rude sometimes and I'm really sensitive. He also doesn't communicate with me he just shuts down and puts up a wall and shuts me out. He also says hurtful things and I'm kind of fed up with him.
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Yes I have. They a ferociously loyal and want to do the very best for their loved one. At the same time, they never fully trust you enough to not question alternative motives that we might have. Over thinking is another huge aspect which got annoying, when nothing to a Scorpio Venus on the surface is really for what it is.

If I ever marry a woman, I would hope she is a Scorpio Venus. I would never have to worry about adultery.
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Well, I just got accused of constantly interrogating. He said "Ugh, here we go again with the interrogations!" Supposedly, I'm always working an angle and if I ask ANY question there's a motive behind it and I'm going somewhere with it.

My Cap friend has a VinS and he is annoying, so I can only imagine how I come across at times.



I have accused the same. Is there truth to this ?
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I dated a Scorpio Sun, Pisces Moon, Scorpio Venus, Scorpio rising.... I definitely remember him!! lol


I think there were too many contacts to my Moon, Venus, Mars, and Jupiter... The passion was out of this world, I could never live with that. He has told me he has never felt that way about a person ever. We dated 15yrs ago.... It took my YEARS to get over him but I did and I'm good with it. He is the one that still has the lingering feelings.
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I dated a Scorpio Sun, Pisces Moon, Scorpio Venus, Scorpio rising.... I definitely remember him!! lol


I think there were too many contacts to my Moon, Venus, Mars, and Jupiter... The passion was out of this world, I could never live with that. He has told me he has never felt that way about a person ever. We dated 15yrs ago.... It took my YEARS to get over him but I did and I'm good with it. He is the one that still has the lingering feelings.



Same placements here but Sag rising.

Those lingering feelings are a pain in the arse! Depending on how things end I usually find that the way I started out liking a person is the way I'll continue to like them even after its finished. Doesn't mean I act on it though. If someone is cute I'll always think they're cute. If I love them then I'll always love them. Time and no contact can help.
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Im currently in a relationsihp with a scorpio sun, scorpio mercury, scorpio venus, all conjunct pluto. And believe me, I have a lot of thoughts about this relationship. Im a cancer sun and moon with capricorn ascendant.

Our relationship is pretty much close to perfect. Except for the communication. Yes he has a lot of passion that I can actually feel as if it were my own. He's really emotional and committed. We haven't had problems until recently. Been together about 10 months and knew each other longer than that. He's texted me everyday since then. I feel like he's the one and I don't want to let him go.

I agree with partners getting the sense that there was something promised, something that could've been. I not only believe that about me but about his past girlfriends too. I have this issue with him where he married somebody before me, before he went into the military just like everybody else does. He says it was for money. But he said millions of times that he loved her and always will to her face but he denies it to me. And she happened two or three years ago. He said he had no values back then and wanted to get her back for cheating on him. She cheated on him twice and the last time after they got married she got pregnant with another dudes baby, supposedly. To me it looked like he was obsessed with her and I have a problem with that.

After everything him and I have been through and how we feel about each other now. We have mutual feelings of love, care, respect, commitment and loyalty. He wants to marry me and I feel the same way but I really dont want to be second. He already married somebody else and he says he never loved her, he was just a person who didn't care and was stupid at the time. Deep down i feel like he's manipulating me though. Like he's told me how he feels about me and supposedly I'm the one, I feel like Im not the first but he says I am and I feel like he's only saying that to keep me with him.

He's sketchy sometimes to me. And he's also rude sometimes and I'm really sensitive. He also doesn't communicate with me he just shuts down and puts up a wall and shuts me out. He also says hurtful things and I'm kind of fed up with him.
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Dont mean to sound rude, but how can it be near perfect when he doesnt communica
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Because he communicated very differently than I do. He's more affectionate and shy. He gets hurt easily and is extremely emotional, he cries a lot of the times when he gets sad and he'll do it right in front of me and when he does he'll just want me to hug and hold him. He communicates differently because of who he is and how he was brought up. I didnt mean that he NEVER communicates with me, if I explained more I would've said that when we are in argument or discussions that get emotional he shuts down and gets really sad and ends up not talking much, and I just keep getting more and more frustrated when I should probably slow down and stop talking. I think he's a lot slower than me with communication, I'm really fast and say things wuickly and think quickly and for him he has to sit there and think about it and sometimes he doesn't even know how to put his thoughts into words and I can relate, I've been there before. I don't think he's ever really communicated like how he has with me. He's tried really hard and still working on it and because we're working on communication together. His family doesn't even communicate either, they're just like him so I can see how our communication differs because of our background, they're more laid back and I'm a person who needs to know every detail about everything and know why this or that. And it's near perfect because it's what we both want, we're both committed, we have mutual feelings. It's near perfect because it's perfect enough for me and I'm happy.
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Posted by warmwaters
I was just seeing a scorp sun/scorp venus for a month

I had to end it simply because there was too much baggage, funny thing was that it was going so smoothly
I told him I'm not ready for that basically sort his shit out since I'm not trying to emotionally invest in someone who is scared and unsure of their future.

when I invest in someone their issues are my issues...

He feels like i left him high and dry, he claims to have fallen in love with me.
As a scorpio I feel as if he is trying emotionally manipulate me but it is sort of working because I am questioning my decision.
When I talk to my mother who is also a Scorp sun/ Scorp venus, she feels like I made an extremely intelligent decision to end it.

I think scorpio venus can get lost in passion and forget about reality. that is my opinion




yeah i dated one. super intense people , but i think they kinda hide it under their exterior bubbliness..

just too traditional and very "in my comfort zone" people. got pretty boring.
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Posted by Impulsv
Yes my emotions overwhealm me n I can't speak n communicate at the time.



I would say that that's what happens to my scorpio boyfriend
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I'm totally like this too.

It's like my brain works. I can think what I want to say and hear it in my head but the words just don't come out my mouth.

It's like there's a disconnect somewhere.

It's highly irritating.

It makes me feel like an emotional retard sometimes but I'm not, it's just how I am and it's nice to know others have this too!
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Posted by Libralula
I remember being cornered on the phone by a Virgo Venus, and he demanded to know where our future was going and how I felt about him.
He refused to hang up until I gave a solid aanswer. The phone call lasted about a hour and a half, most of which I spent crying because I didn't know what to say.

That's insane, the exact same thing happened to me, lol. I'm also female and Scorpio Venus and the guy I was dating was also a Venus Virgo and did the same
thing, except in real life. He basically sat down in my lap (he's 6ft 2in, lol) and forced an answer out of me and yelled at me "look me in the eye and tell me how you feel!"

Is this a general Virgo Venus traits? I thought maybe they were supposed to be a bit more.. subdued, or maybe Scorpio Venus just drives them crazy.
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As a Scorpio Venus myself, when I was younger my jealousy and rage was more prominent. the reason being was because I was dating a Virgo w a Scorpio moon (I think libra Venus and Virgo Mars) who cheated on me constantly. he cried and I gave him another chance, but there was no trust there so...given the circumstances I'm sure I was a little psycho. lol...but it was because the original trust was broken. we finally broke up after being on and off (I broke up with him constantly because I knew it was toxic but he was a very good manipulator). he contacted me...maybe...1.5-2 years later and said he never forgave himself for how he treated me and how I was probably the one but he was too stupid to see it. I said it was too late to take him seriously and that everything we had was in the past and there was no connection left there. he said he understood but he hoped that I knew he was sorry. I forgave his apology, and we haven't spoken since.

other stories are just short-lived relationships with 2 Aquarius, 1 libra and 1 Gemini. I am still friends with all 4 of them to this day. no hard feelings. with them....there wasn't much jealousy. we were friends first (well minus the Gemini who pursued me ardently in general), so it was easy to transition into just being friends.

the Libra ending was the hardest for me, because it was unexpected. I remember having that fleeting feeling of deep loss. I scrambled to grasp anything that could still be there through words, but it was too late. it took about a year for me to fully recover and be able to become friends with him again. he was the first serious relationship I had since the Virgo even though it didn't last long. the Libra said that it was just the wrong time and bad timing. he said he couldn't start something he couldn't finish and it hurt him to say that to me. he was getting over a breakup at the time even though we waited a few months after his breakup to start anything. he's now dating a Taurus who is the only female Taurus I really find myself getting along with and I'm happy for him! she is wonderful.
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That Venus in Scorpio is highly overrated. They are good for short term fun but they kill the relationship as soon as things start getting hot and heavy. Their own insecurities get the better of them. HELP! This guy is falling for me and I'm scared shitless! Fuck, I better back way the hell off and get my security blanket out and regroup. Oh WOW! How dare he want to break up with me because I need space now! I'll just win him back so I can dump his ass and then "ICE" his ass for eternity.

"Why can't I find a man that will stick around"? Questions she asks her friends 2x a year.
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