Fate?

So I met this Leo, very recently. As in, a week ago! The only man I have EVER loved was a Leo...this new guy and I had an INSTANT connection. We have mutual friends; we met at a friend's b-day party. But we felt like we knew each other from somewhere, he kept saying how familiar I felt. I know it hasn't been long, but I haven't had sparks etc and feelings like this since the last guy I was in love with (the other Leo), and that was over 2 years ago! I've been doing lots of serial dating recently and I've just had no matches, nothing over 3 months. Would quickly fade or lose sparks, never had a STRONG connection to begin with. The creepy part? This Leo has the SAME b-day as the only other one I loved, just 1 year older. The first Leo and I, we really did get along quite well. I loved him and we had a great relationship; distance and school got in the way towards the end and I felt taken for granted, needs were not meant. I think it was also a point in time where I had no experience and wanted to see what else was out there as I was younger, and hadn't dated much. All and all though, pretty good relationship so it's not like I would say it was horrible and couldn't date anyone with the same b-day...just found it funny!

Me: Gemini Sun. Aquarius Rising. Libra Moon. Gemini Mercury. Cancer Venus & Mars. Mideheaven Scorpio.

Him: Leo Sun. Libra Rising. Capricorn Moon. Cancer Mercury. Gemini Venus. Aries Mars. Midheaven Cancer.


All I know, is it's redic how much chemistry and sparks I have. He is just as into me too, I usually have a lot of doubt but I don't have that this time. My communication is being met and I see him a lot, there is no "what is he doing? he hasn't texted me in...etc" Already we are making plans for the future blah blah. Where as, I have dated people 3 months+ and not been sure. He is going to school to be a chef and is so sweet.


Just curious to get some input from others, and share my cloud 9 lol. I'm just excited I feel this way, because it's def been awhile. I've had MANY crushes and dates since my 4.5 year relationship with first Leo ended, but never that true spark or chemistry or "this is it" feeling...until now. Funny, last night we went to karaoke and the couple behind us were people watching. They asked me how long we had been dating and I said very recently. They told me they would have guessed a year, we looked very into each other and comfortable, our body language was in sync and we looked good together. Strange

Instead of seeking more validation from others, how about you just worry about what you think of the situation? If you like it, fine. If you're excited, fine.

You're going to ruin this if you're already seeking "input" as you worded it.

Posted by Agentgem24

He is going to school to be a chef and is so sweet.

A Leo chef? Sheesh, get ready to be taken for granted again! It's a very demanding job and he probably won't have much time for you by the end of the day. Dating a chef is like dating a secret agent, or a doctor.

Rocky, I am very happy...and do have a strong feeling about him. I'm curious to what others say, but I'm not insecure about it as I have been others.

Enfant, that's not true. He would have a week day off AND a weekend day off. It's not as busy as you think; my ex was an engineering student that had to maintain a 4.0 and went to school 6 hours away so it was a little different.

I'm the one that will be super busy when I join the FBI. I'm also applying for 911 dispatch jobs, my hours will be all over the place.

I crush easily, so sure I've dated a lot. But it also lacked substance and easily faded. I thought maybe it was just me and being so young then that my feelings were skewed. But having felt it before, I know what it's like and this was far more similar. I think before, I was just hoping it would turn into that vs it already being there.

I met a leo the other day. It was the best sex I have had in forever. I felt like crying it was so good.

Aw sag. Was it just sex, a hook up? Or are you dating him etc

Posted by Sag89
I met a leo the other day. It was the best sex I have had in forever. I felt like crying it was so good.

You??re welcome =)

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by Sag89
I met a leo the other day. It was the best sex I have had in forever. I felt like crying it was so good.

You??re welcome =)

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For real tho ha

Posted by Agentgem24
Aw sag. Was it just sex, a hook up? Or are you dating him etc

I don't know. He's a Leo sun, taurus moon, venus leo, scorp riser, merc leo, mars leo, LOL

All he and I have done do far, is kiss. I want to wait a bit before throwing physical into the mix, as much as we want to ravish each other...just subtle hints tell me he will be fantastic in bed. But I would rather wait and build a connection, first.

This happened like just the other day. I don't know if it was a one time thing or not.

Posted by Agentgem24
All he and I have done do far, is kiss. I want to wait a bit before throwing physical into the mix, as much as we want to ravish each other...just subtle hints tell me he will be fantastic in bed. But I would rather wait and build a connection, first.

Yea if your after more than sex definitely wait and build that.

Just the things he whispered to me about how he would love to go down on me when the time is right, drove me wild! I love that, when a man can do it right...which is rare. My last Leo, wasn't so into that...but the sex was great.

Posted by Agentgem24
Just the things he whispered to me about how he would love to go down on me when the time is right, drove me wild! I love that, when a man can do it right...which is rare. My last Leo, wasn't so into that...but the sex was great.

HAHA the fuck! Mine kept saying that too me and I was like ya no lol I don't like that stuff but they must be into pleasing

Posted by Sag89
I met a leo the other day. It was the best sex I have had in forever. I felt like crying it was so good.

This proves that a person must NEVER say "never". I remember one post of yours when you laughed when some of us said sex can make you feel like crying. We are all human, none of us is immune to some mysteries of life. I hope you've finally found your match, I truly do. And I mean that in a positive way lol.

Wait, he met you a week ago and he's already talking dirty to you? ...Hell, it's been a week and you already think he's the one?

Totally missed that snippet. :/

Oh, to be young and dumb... And an air sign. You all are so fickle.

Wtf is wrong with women that when a guy starts whipping out sex talk that soon that they don't see it as some fuckery? :/

Posted by Agentgem24
I crush easily, so sure I've dated a lot. But it also lacked substance and easily faded. I thought maybe it was just me and being so young then that my feelings were skewed. But having felt it before, I know what it's like and this was far more similar. I think before, I was just hoping it would turn into that vs it already being there.

I think you lack substance and easily fade. You're the common denominator here, dear.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by Sag89
I met a leo the other day. It was the best sex I have had in forever. I felt like crying it was so good.

This proves that a person must NEVER say "never". I remember one post of yours when you laughed when some of us said sex can make you feel like crying. We are all human, none of us is immune to some mysteries of life. I hope you've finally found your match, I truly do. And I mean that in a positive way lol.

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Oh yea, that'd be great.

Rockyroad

I'm not sure of an emotional future with him, just cause there were some red flags there. That's why I slept with him that night. If I thought there could of been one, NEVER would of done that. But physically he has a rock climber bod we had stuff in common there was a connection and I hadn't had sex in a LONG time so I was like I'm gonna splurge here a bit. Very much worth it.

I'd do it again too but if not it was a beautiful night. 3 times 😛

Posted by Sag89
I'm not sure of an emotional future with him, just cause there were some red flags there. That's why I slept with him that night. If I thought there could of been one, NEVER would of done that. But physically he has a rock climber bod we had stuff in common there was a connection and I hadn't had sex in a LONG time so I was like I'm gonna splurge here a bit. Very much worth it.

I'd do it again too but if not it was a beautiful night. 3 times 😛

lol @ it was a beautiful night x3. What are you looking for in a man? One that's worth having something serious with?

Btw I've always imagined leo to be good lovers. 1 leo guy I know sits in a wheelchair but has girls rolling lol. He's not even handsome, just carries himself like a rockstar. I've witnessed a fight between 2 girls, fighting over him. He must be really good lol.

Another one I almost dated. One look at him & I could tell he'd be great. I can "smell" sex out of people lol. 6th sense.

Posted by starlover
Any guy can offer to go down on a woman or feck the life out of them...that is a given

What is he made of, aside from that i wonder?

I wouldnt at all be impressed with sex talk...it is the guys that don't mention that and wait a while to get to know you that are worth sticking around for you, they are usually more mature and intelligent

If a man i had recently met said he wanted to go down on me i would tell him *listen love, go down on yourself, i happen to want someone to get to KNOW me first*

Uughhh...p r e d i c t a b l e....

I agree with you on this one. It's disgusting. Major turn-off for me too.

Posted by starlover
turn off indeed WaterCup

i have been asked by quite a few young guys lately to have sex with them. when i tell them i don't do casual sex or go there until i get to know a guy well, they look at me like i am alien

why aren't men aware of this, i wonder?

Because it obviously works with other women hence the cluelessness. Guys do this a lot lately. IDK if it's the lack of a lengthy dating experience on my part or that most guys are pigs, period. It makes SO angry when they start with this sex talk thing. Like, what do you take me for? Its unappealing & will only work on idiots.

Lol @ the knitting circle judge, jury & executioner -panel telling other women what they should and should not want from men!

You two are gonna have to accept that not everyone's like you & they're not idiots BECAUSE they're not like you! Many women happen to be after EXACTLY what these guys are selling so get over it.

So guys are pigs bc they are open and upfront about what's up? 😆

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Posted by enfant_terrible
Lol @ the knitting circle judge, jury & executioner -panel telling other women what they should and should not want from men!

You two are gonna have to accept that not everyone's like you & they're not idiots BECAUSE they're not like you! Many women happen to be after EXACTLY what these guys are selling so get over it.

So guys are pigs bc they are open and upfront about what's up? 😆

What are you on about? I personally couldnt give a shit what other women are doing with their bodies, but I do have a problem with the men who come to me, thinking I'm like the women he is used to. And yes, I think its piggish behaviour when a guy who knows nothing about you, comes to you & works up a nerve to talk about sexual relations. If that being upfront, then I want nothing to do with it.

Thankfully, not all guys are like that, so the ones who are like that can go try their luck with the women who are just fine with being sex chatted. There's a lid for every pot & thanks God for that.

Posted by WaterCup
What are you on about? I personally couldnt give a shit what other women are doing with their bodies, but I do have a problem with the men who come to me, thinking I'm like the women he is used to. And yes, I think its piggish behaviour when a guy who knows nothing about you, comes to you & works up a nerve to talk about sexual relations. If that being upfront, then I want nothing to do with it.

There are types of guys who could work on their manners around certain women, I agree.

But guess what, this isn't about you or that guy who pulled the wrong move with you! This is just you and Starlover getting you judgemental panties in a twist over Agentgem's latest flame telling her he'd love to go down on her, and based on this both of you've come to the conclusion that HE'S A PIG AND SHE'S AN IDIOT (in your own words) !

But what if they are just two adults with great chemistry enjoying eachother's company? 😱

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by WaterCup
What are you on about? I personally couldnt give a shit what other women are doing with their bodies, but I do have a problem with the men who come to me, thinking I'm like the women he is used to. And yes, I think its piggish behaviour when a guy who knows nothing about you, comes to you & works up a nerve to talk about sexual relations. If that being upfront, then I want nothing to do with it.

There are types of guys who could work on their manners around certain women, I agree.

But guess what, this isn't about you or that guy who pulled the wrong move with you! This is just you and Starlover getting you judgemental panties in a twist over Agentgem's latest flame telling her he'd love to go down on her, and based on this both of you've come to the conclusion that HE'S A PIG AND SHE'S AN IDIOT (in your own words) !

But what if they are just two adults with great chemistry enjoying eachother's company? 😱

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Nowhere in this thread did I say anything to the OP. I read the the whole & if I wanted to be judgmental about anything she wrote, believe me, I wouldnt have waited until ST's post. I have no judgments towards the OP or her choices, my reply was to what ST wrote...which was not directly linked to the OP fyi. Go look at it.

*SL, not ST. Too many typos. Ugh.

Posted by enfant_terrible
Rockyroad

Until you've grown a vagina, I don't think you'll understand why this tidbit she shared is so telling of this guy.

She just sounds as young and clueless as she did with the other guys, tbh.

Again, if she's into all of this, fine. But I think it's really telling where he's coming from if he's whipping out sex talk so suddenly. A week after meeting her. A WEEK. How rude and crass is that shit?

Of course these young, inexperienced girls think that this is flattering and some sort of sign of interest. It's nice to be told your desired by someone, so when they start whipping out sex talk like that, it's easy to get caught up in the "attraction" of it all. "Omg, this guy is so hot and amazing, and he wants ME!" *swoon*

Guys who start talking sex with women so readily usually are not chasing after them for genuine reasons. And if they happen to get sex from the girl, there's a 50/50 chance he could totally flip a bitch on her.

Nevermind it's rather disrespectful to think it's perfectly okay to talk to someone like this that who you barely know.

I find it sad that she's bringing this up as if it's something to be excited about. If she's okay with being talked to like that, whatever. But she needs to slow her roll and hold off on sleeping with the guy.

OP, is this guy older as well?

Posted by enfant_terrible

Many women happen to be after EXACTLY what these guys are selling so get over it.

And then they're back here later, wondering what went "wrong" and why the guy is suddenly "changing" on her.

The OP has a history of this type of behavior and goes through men like dirty socks.

If she doesn't care that he talks to her like that so soon, fine. Whatever floats her boat. I just think it's sad she sees it as a genuine sign of interest. If she wants to see this guy as "the one" he isn't acting like it. He seems to be approaching this as a hook up situation and not a genuine relationship scenario. Guys who respect the girl he's interested and genuinely wants something with her won't talk to her like that when he barely knows her.


He sounds almost ridiculous cocky. Please enlighten us on this behavior, Enfant. You'd know all about that approach.

Just because someone has a sex drive doesn't mean that they ONLY want sex. Sheesh he didn't try to do anything past kissing with me, he wants to wait just as much as I do. My first Leo and I talked about it within the first week, so fucking what? I like to talk about sex. We didn't have it until a month in though and dated for years. That's my plan here, I want to wait a month. There are other signs I see him do that show he cares, far more than a guy just interested in sex. That was a few words he said, our conversations are very rarely sex related.

I know what you mean...I've dated guys and wanted more but it was a turn off because I could TELL they only wanted sex. They tried to do considerably more than I wanted and tried to test my boundaries. They talked mostly about sex. Conversation was sporadic, they couldn't talk to me all day every day about little things and just everything you are doing. I could feel it in my heart, it was just physical. No real connection there.

Only time will tell, but I do feel something with this one and I'm glad he's respected my boundaries and haven't even attempted to go further

Also btw, slut shaming is the biggest bunch of bull shit I've ever heard. Women are sexual beings too, a woman hasn't the right to call another woman a slut. She would be horribly offended if a man did, so why can a woman? I personally want to wait, but I don't look down on those who have sex within the first few dates. Who am I to judge? I know people that have married the girl that was supposed to be a one night stand or it just happened that way.

I believe in boundaries and keeping some rules but at the same time, some of those dating rules are rather silly and out dated

He's going to be 26 this month. Also? I brought up the sex to begin with. Not to do it, but hey it's very important to me when I'm in a relationship. Yes I want substance, yes I want loyalty. But sex is a huge to me too. I ask some little questions here and there to find out about them. To find out they have a sex drive, and to find out if they are over sexed and porn crazy. Both are deal breakers to me. I use body language. I've had guys try to go crazy on me on the first date. On our first date, he asked if he could hold my hand. Our last date was the 4th...it also lasted from 3pm to 5 am and no, NOTHING happened. He didn't try. And man was it hard for me. Every time I tried to be sneaky and move my hand down, he brought it back up and held it. Good sign, to me.

Yeah star, I will wait a few weeks. I've dated a lot and can tell he's not only after just sex. I know what worked with my last Leo and what didn't, plus I've sewn the wild oats phase so that's over with. I've learned. Empty sex is just, empty. Not saying its wrong, but I would rather have an emotional connection and commitment before. I can tell in his eyes, he's head over heels. He doesn't say "you're hot." "You're sexy." "I wanna fuck you." Instead it's, "you're beautiful. Gorgeous. Can get lost in your eyes. I really want to take you to this place I think you'll like" it's romantic but as true as he seems, talk is cheap. You show it in actions. He's been talking to me non stop. Last few guys? Have told me I'm too clingy, too pushy, to into wanting a serious relationship. Sure I can see that, but then they aren't right for me if they are easily threatened. He's on the same wave length

Posted by starlover
enfant...i don't knit, not sure wastercup and rocky do either?

why equate women that have standards to be frumpy? most of my friends are artists, singer, musicians, healers, astrologers, psychics ~ there is nothing dull bout my life ~ quite the opposite..i bet yours is duller

none of my friends knit

i go out and dance like a wildcat ~~ men may look at me and think i am very sexually tuned into myself..

...i am...

...but not with an ol dick that offers it to me...


come out of your box man

lmao @ wastercup. I do knit sometimes but I'm not some old frump either lol.

How can I tell though that he's not just after sex? Well I know he's not, but that he won't change AFTER sex. Many guys vanish after I say I only want sex with commitment and a relationship. He's fine with our high school slow pace.

He's def already told his parents about me lol

Leos like the chase and they are very steady and single minded to get what they want. For some of them it doesn't necessarily matter how long it takes as long as they get what they want in the end .. And if it's sex with you then it will be sex. It's a means to an end.

It's about his overall behaviour; like Rocky says, guys interested in you in the long term do not jump in talking about sex and those types who blow hot quickly blow cold just as quick.

People are just saying be careful that's all

Yeah I understand, it was partially my fault for the sex stuff too. We've just agreed to keep it really clean for awhile and to not test any waters with slight sexy talk.

I just don't want to fuck this one up

My Cancer sun, Gemini Venus best friend says I should not worry so much. She's an Aries rising with an Aquarius moon, it's easy for her!

I'm a mess with a Gem sun, libra moon and cancer mars AND Venus

Then just be cool. If he wants to be with you you'll know. Take his lead and watch his words and actions

That's all!

Plus the fact that both of us are telling friends and family about each other is good.

The last guy I dated was a Virgo. We got along well enough and I initially did want to date him and have a relationship but that spark wasn't there. His pre pubescent voice annoyed me. We saw each other a lot but it was mostly physical for me because I LOVED the sex. I felt weird so I never had my friends meet him etc nor did I tell my family or talk about him all the time. We were exclusive physically. He said he didn't want to date others, but I was talking to and dating a few more. A date here and there. Communication wasn't that stimulating. Then when I was in the hospital with surgery and couldn't be physical for a week, I totally lost interest and broke it off

Posted by AriesGirl74
Then just be cool. If he wants to be with you you'll know. Take his lead and watch his words and actions

That's all!

Thanks Aries 🙂 ill take it from a fire sign lol

The Virgo didn't do it for me because he was too reserved and couldn't handle my very emotional and sensitive nature

He texted me today telling me he was couldn't stop thinking about it haha oh man, this is a slippery slope for me...