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@virgoOPPP
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Posted by WarAngel
Not just no, hell no. 😝
Have some dignity for yourself!

Posted by WarAngelPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by WarAngel
Not just no, hell no. 😝
Have some dignity for yourself!
i don't feel any negativity about it. she wasn't like a sidechick or anything 🤷♀️🤷♀️
most of the time, she's always just complaining about him. telling me he was drunk last night and gave very little money to her stuff like that.
i told her she's welcome to visit me when she happens to find herself in my area.
So what you're really looking for is: a kindred spirit who will complain about the same things with you...
Women do the weirdest shit sometimes. 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️click to expand


Posted by WarAngel
It's like, you're the kind of person that is choking the hell out of the lifeguard while they're trying to rescue you from drowning in a swimming pool that is 4 ft deep.

Posted by WarAngelPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by WarAngel
It's like, you're the kind of person that is choking the hell out of the lifeguard while they're trying to rescue you from drowning in a swimming pool that is 4 ft deep.
whining is friendship 🤷♀️🤷♀️![]()
And what do you think is going to happen when that guy that shit on both of you finds out that there's a sisterly support group going on?click to expand


Posted by KimboSlice
Steal his whole roster and house the girls like you do with those stray animals.
You always wanted to be Lisa Vanderpump.

Posted by Wizardz_
If you befriend a random person then there is nothing inherent that will maintain the friendship, apart from your desire to do so but with this girl you have the common link of both having dated the same guy plus since you both like him it is likely you both have similar tastes. Plus you're kind of a masochist so befriending your ex's new lover is inevitable. You'll probably end up babysitting for them for free whilst they go out to dinner together 😂

Posted by Maxian
Yes, I'm friends with most (ex-)partners and their partners. There's love and respect, and even if I wouldn't like them, there's still respect because you want them to do good and not make the same mistake with a new one. Atleast I do.
Don't think there's an astrological explanation for this.

Posted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_
If you befriend a random person then there is nothing inherent that will maintain the friendship, apart from your desire to do so but with this girl you have the common link of both having dated the same guy plus since you both like him it is likely you both have similar tastes. Plus you're kind of a masochist so befriending your ex's new lover is inevitable. You'll probably end up babysitting for them for free whilst they go out to dinner together 😂
no i'm not 🙄🙄
it's just that i agree with all her complaints 😁😁
So you get something out of it... carry on then but it seems like it's only going to keep your mind on a subject that it should be forgetting?click to expand

Posted by cersei
How do you do that?! 😲 for me that would be self sabotaging af. Like it would agonize me to befriend someone who is with my ex. Maybe Im too jealous and toxic for that lmao
You’re a very good and secure person because I couldn’t do it 😂 maybe it’s something in your natal chart not in synastry?

Posted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_
If you befriend a random person then there is nothing inherent that will maintain the friendship, apart from your desire to do so but with this girl you have the common link of both having dated the same guy plus since you both like him it is likely you both have similar tastes. Plus you're kind of a masochist so befriending your ex's new lover is inevitable. You'll probably end up babysitting for them for free whilst they go out to dinner together 😂
no i'm not 🙄🙄
it's just that i agree with all her complaints 😁😁
So you get something out of it... carry on then but it seems like it's only going to keep your mind on a subject that it should be forgetting?
yeah but i never initiate convos tho.
and even if i keep stressing he's a hoe, i try to be optimistic with her in convos. i've told her that she has to think of what's best for the baby first. and that is obvi putting up with him. and i just get this vibe from her that she won't be leaving him anytime soon, not with that baby on the way. and not even when she constantly says: "i can leave him even if i'm pregnant." it's very hard to leave someone so emotionally-manipulative.
there's something about hearing about him continously being a POS that at first angered me then eventually kinda appeases me in that it reminds me how this is not a loss for me at all.
So you're kind of enjoying the fact that it's her not you 🤣 I guess it gives you a chance to be on the other side, she is the victim and you're the supportive person who is thankfully out of the situation. Plus like Kimbo Slice said you like to look after poor defenseless animals 😅 it triggers your caring side
I would look at your motivations. Sometimes there are things going on under the surface that you don't realise. Maybe you want her to stay with him and be trod upon in this way. Does it make you feel better?click to expand

Posted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_
If you befriend a random person then there is nothing inherent that will maintain the friendship, apart from your desire to do so but with this girl you have the common link of both having dated the same guy plus since you both like him it is likely you both have similar tastes. Plus you're kind of a masochist so befriending your ex's new lover is inevitable. You'll probably end up babysitting for them for free whilst they go out to dinner together 😂
no i'm not 🙄🙄
it's just that i agree with all her complaints 😁😁
So you get something out of it... carry on then but it seems like it's only going to keep your mind on a subject that it should be forgetting?
yeah but i never initiate convos tho.
and even if i keep stressing he's a hoe, i try to be optimistic with her in convos. i've told her that she has to think of what's best for the baby first. and that is obvi putting up with him. and i just get this vibe from her that she won't be leaving him anytime soon, not with that baby on the way. and not even when she constantly says: "i can leave him even if i'm pregnant." it's very hard to leave someone so emotionally-manipulative.
there's something about hearing about him continously being a POS that at first angered me then eventually kinda appeases me in that it reminds me how this is not a loss for me at all.
So you're kind of enjoying the fact that it's her not you 🤣 I guess it gives you a chance to be on the other side, she is the victim and you're the supportive person who is thankfully out of the situation. Plus like Kimbo Slice said you like to look after poor defenseless animals 😅 it triggers your caring side
I would look at your motivations. Sometimes there are things going on under the surface that you don't realise. Maybe you want her to stay with him and be trod upon in this way. Does it make you feel better?
at first i think my motivation was absolutely pure in that i was so righteously angry like how dare this hoe try to con another woman!
but as time passed and she has to put up with him, it's not that i enjoy her misfortune but i feel RELIEF that i did not marry this hoe. turns out he'd never really change and i've made no mistake in throwing him out. there are no whatifs, no regrets.
Do you think she will become dependent on you? I wonder if you're enabling in some way? because she can't tell her friends or family that the father of her child is potentially cheating on her but she can tell you and you will say "that son of a bitch" but you won't do anything like confront him because you're not even supposed to know he has a pregnant gf... you're a confidante but also a way of her releasing the stress so she can carry on in a dishonest relationship. Assuming you don't think there's much chance he will become a loyal partner to her?click to expand


Posted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Wizardz_
If you befriend a random person then there is nothing inherent that will maintain the friendship, apart from your desire to do so but with this girl you have the common link of both having dated the same guy plus since you both like him it is likely you both have similar tastes. Plus you're kind of a masochist so befriending your ex's new lover is inevitable. You'll probably end up babysitting for them for free whilst they go out to dinner together 😂
no i'm not 🙄🙄
it's just that i agree with all her complaints 😁😁
So you get something out of it... carry on then but it seems like it's only going to keep your mind on a subject that it should be forgetting?
yeah but i never initiate convos tho.
and even if i keep stressing he's a hoe, i try to be optimistic with her in convos. i've told her that she has to think of what's best for the baby first. and that is obvi putting up with him. and i just get this vibe from her that she won't be leaving him anytime soon, not with that baby on the way. and not even when she constantly says: "i can leave him even if i'm pregnant." it's very hard to leave someone so emotionally-manipulative.
there's something about hearing about him continously being a POS that at first angered me then eventually kinda appeases me in that it reminds me how this is not a loss for me at all.
So you're kind of enjoying the fact that it's her not you 🤣 I guess it gives you a chance to be on the other side, she is the victim and you're the supportive person who is thankfully out of the situation. Plus like Kimbo Slice said you like to look after poor defenseless animals 😅 it triggers your caring side
I would look at your motivations. Sometimes there are things going on under the surface that you don't realise. Maybe you want her to stay with him and be trod upon in this way. Does it make you feel better?
at first i think my motivation was absolutely pure in that i was so righteously angry like how dare this hoe try to con another woman!
but as time passed and she has to put up with him, it's not that i enjoy her misfortune but i feel RELIEF that i did not marry this hoe. turns out he'd never really change and i've made no mistake in throwing him out. there are no whatifs, no regrets.
Do you think she will become dependent on you? I wonder if you're enabling in some way? because she can't tell her friends or family that the father of her child is potentially cheating on her but she can tell you and you will say "that son of a bitch" but you won't do anything like confront him because you're not even supposed to know he has a pregnant gf... you're a confidante but also a way of her releasing the stress so she can carry on in a dishonest relationship. Assuming you don't think there's much chance he will become a loyal partner to her?
a hoe will always hoe.
if she does become dependent on me, what harm will that do tho? but i have this dumb trait where i confuse compassion/pity for care. whenever i feel some pity, i always think i must probably care about this or that 🤔🤔 and i tend to stick to people when they have huge problems like ending up in jail 🤷♀️🤷♀️
this why i keep to myself and avoid hearing any news so i don't get the opportunity to do something stupid.
It's passive. Sticking to someone whilst they are in jail is more down to your passivity than anything else. Same as with this girl, she has attached to you and you're not finding it unpleasant so you go along with it
"Pity is the feeling of sympathy or sharing in the suffering of another human being or an animal while compassion is the feeling of mercy, empathy, and a desire to help the suffering person or animal"
You can pity a homeless person yet still walk right past them. Being compassionate is about having a desire to help as well and to treat them as you would like to be treated.
Caring is more action-based. You can physically care for someone without feelings being involved, although compassion is usually involved too
You're not really caring but you have latent compassion which causes you to be passively involved and people recognise that. Probably the thing that people detect in you that makes them feel it's safe to ask you for loans 😂
Have you ever thought of working in an animal sanctuary? It might be the way to direct all of that energy into actionclick to expand

Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by WarAngel
Not just no, hell no. 😝
Have some dignity for yourself!
i don't feel any negativity about it. she wasn't like a sidechick or anything 🤷♀️🤷♀️
most of the time, she's always just complaining about him. telling me he was drunk last night and gave very little money to her stuff like that.
i told her she's welcome to visit me when she happens to find herself in my area.click to expand

Posted by MarstrineplutoPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by WarAngel
Not just no, hell no. 😝
Have some dignity for yourself!
i don't feel any negativity about it. she wasn't like a sidechick or anything 🤷♀️🤷♀️
most of the time, she's always just complaining about him. telling me he was drunk last night and gave very little money to her stuff like that.
i told her she's welcome to visit me when she happens to find herself in my area.
Yes absolutely. It actually gets exes so mad 😂😂🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
One ex was creeping on his current girl and tried to pull me into his shit show with this elaborate story about me trying to sleep with him lol
Never happened. Not ever.
She was calling and reaching out daily to me, sending me shit she found on his phone 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Sent me selfie’s of her crying 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
She was a mess and all I could do was encourage him to check on her cos she was on a knifes edge and had a baby to look after so I was panicked whenever my phone blew up.
She called me her sister... so weird. I wasn’t ready for that rapid attachment so I did a fade away which triggered her into this crying fit.
So then they both hated me 😂😂😂😂
There’s an epic email thread where we all go toe to toe it’s hilarious.
10h Aqua Mars/Venusclick to expand

Posted by GammaArietis
I’ve never befriended an exes current lover but I’ve been friends with an exes best friend for the same reason I think you’re doing it. He would tell me how he was still a horrible person and I felt vindicated in a way. But when it came down to it, the friends loyalty was to my ex so it felt horrible when he continued to stay friends with him for years and years, even was the best man in his wedding. Ex was racist and even called the friend a slur and he still stayed friends with him.
I just woke up and the Pisces Mercury is a struggle some days but my point is, you think that you’re using her for your benefit and you might be right now, but ask yourself how you’ll feel if she eventually chooses him, this spawn of Satan, over the friendship you provide?
Put yourself first. Easier said than done. But you got what you needed from her and you don’t owe her anything and actually she is prolonging heartache for you whether you realize it now or not.

Posted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by GammaArietis
I’ve never befriended an exes current lover but I’ve been friends with an exes best friend for the same reason I think you’re doing it. He would tell me how he was still a horrible person and I felt vindicated in a way. But when it came down to it, the friends loyalty was to my ex so it felt horrible when he continued to stay friends with him for years and years, even was the best man in his wedding. Ex was racist and even called the friend a slur and he still stayed friends with him.
I just woke up and the Pisces Mercury is a struggle some days but my point is, you think that you’re using her for your benefit and you might be right now, but ask yourself how you’ll feel if she eventually chooses him, this spawn of Satan, over the friendship you provide?
Put yourself first. Easier said than done. But you got what you needed from her and you don’t owe her anything and actually she is prolonging heartache for you whether you realize it now or not.
the only thing is that whenever she messages me, it's like i get a reminder that this POS exists and i just feel instantly pissed. then the next, i feel better coz she starts to whine about this hoe. and it's always a confirmation to me:
"you didn't miss out on anything with this hoe."
i've told her i broke up with the cancer. and i noticed i didn't tell anyone about it but her. it's like we can tell each other things we can't tell other people.
my really good Aqua guy friend i met through a Pisces who used to be a mutual friend. but this Pisces threatened suicide once and turned out to be sleeping when i rushed from work, which really angered and hurt me. i avoided him yet the Aqua he introduced to me became even more of a good friend. they are still friends but the Pisces is off--topic for me.
there are people you just meet through someone else 🤷♀️🤷♀️
What are you hoping for anyone to say then? or just curious as to whether anyone else is friends with their ex's new lover?click to expand

Posted by GammaArietisPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by GammaArietis
I’ve never befriended an exes current lover but I’ve been friends with an exes best friend for the same reason I think you’re doing it. He would tell me how he was still a horrible person and I felt vindicated in a way. But when it came down to it, the friends loyalty was to my ex so it felt horrible when he continued to stay friends with him for years and years, even was the best man in his wedding. Ex was racist and even called the friend a slur and he still stayed friends with him.
I just woke up and the Pisces Mercury is a struggle some days but my point is, you think that you’re using her for your benefit and you might be right now, but ask yourself how you’ll feel if she eventually chooses him, this spawn of Satan, over the friendship you provide?
Put yourself first. Easier said than done. But you got what you needed from her and you don’t owe her anything and actually she is prolonging heartache for you whether you realize it now or not.
the only thing is that whenever she messages me, it's like i get a reminder that this POS exists and i just feel instantly pissed. then the next, i feel better coz she starts to whine about this hoe. and it's always a confirmation to me:
"you didn't miss out on anything with this hoe."
i've told her i broke up with the cancer. and i noticed i didn't tell anyone about it but her. it's like we can tell each other things we can't tell other people.
my really good Aqua guy friend i met through a Pisces who used to be a mutual friend. but this Pisces threatened suicide once and turned out to be sleeping when i rushed from work, which really angered and hurt me. i avoided him yet the Aqua he introduced to me became even more of a good friend. they are still friends but the Pisces is off--topic for me.
there are people you just meet through someone else 🤷♀️🤷♀️
I agree. I don’t think the relationship with the Pisces is automatically doomed because of the Cap. But there is potential for it to turn bad, don’t you think? How will you feel if Cap does a 180 after the baby is born and becomes the man of everyone’s dreams (unlikely, but still)? Then she’s going to have everything you ever wanted with him.click to expand

Posted by MarstrineplutoPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by MarstrineplutoPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by WarAngel
Not just no, hell no. 😝
Have some dignity for yourself!
i don't feel any negativity about it. she wasn't like a sidechick or anything 🤷♀️🤷♀️
most of the time, she's always just complaining about him. telling me he was drunk last night and gave very little money to her stuff like that.
i told her she's welcome to visit me when she happens to find herself in my area.
Yes absolutely. It actually gets exes so mad 😂😂🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
One ex was creeping on his current girl and tried to pull me into his shit show with this elaborate story about me trying to sleep with him lol
Never happened. Not ever.
She was calling and reaching out daily to me, sending me shit she found on his phone 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Sent me selfie’s of her crying 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
She was a mess and all I could do was encourage him to check on her cos she was on a knifes edge and had a baby to look after so I was panicked whenever my phone blew up.
She called me her sister... so weird. I wasn’t ready for that rapid attachment so I did a fade away which triggered her into this crying fit.
So then they both hated me 😂😂😂😂
There’s an epic email thread where we all go toe to toe it’s hilarious.
10h Aqua Mars/Venus
what's that POS sign?
you went along with his dumb plan?
it's like these men live off on their egos.
It was weeks of ignoring him at first which seemed so wrong cos he had a baby and I am genuinely happy for him. I wouldn’t get friendly with an ex unless they were completely moving on.
He called me out of desperation one day saying his fiancé found shit on his phone and asking for advice. He admitted to talking with girls on bumble but no sex.
I just gtfo
Then she’s coming at me
Then him
Then she’s apologising to me
Then he is
Then they both turn
Lol
He admitted that he didn’t want to introduce me to his Fiancé because he knew we would hit it off.
Libra guy
Scorp girl
Both cooked.click to expand
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yet somehow it feels very comfy?
what sign energies would that imply? is it something in synastry?
(not pulling a frida kahlo i swear)