help w/ cancer man from female capricorn

onses on your last thread 3 days ago not what you wanted to hear but didn't acknowledge?
Allow me to help with the responses you did receive:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships-astrology/older-capricorn-woman-27-younger-cancer-man-20-4546730/

Posted by LetltB

Posted by tasha1225Christmas comes & I get in touch with him we finally meet up & its like we were never separated. He's back to calling me bae holding me telling me he loves me but still saying he doesn't want to hurt me again he doesn't want a relationship. I completely pour my heart out to him which as a Capricorn was the hardest thing I've ever done & he barely acknowledged it. Then I get pissed cuz he doesn't even speak on it so I start an argument over his insensitivity to my feelings.

If this man told you he still doesn't want a relationship, why would you get pissed that he didn't acknowledge or speak about you pouring your heart out? You were split for 7 months due to his cheating etc.. Time to forget about him and to realize your number one priority for the next 18 years is your child. That child will need you to pour your heart out and will need to be protected. You need to plan that childs future with you in it minus the b.s. Is the father paying child support? Those are the type of things you need to think about.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
I'm sorry you're experiencing this and its a tragedy. This really isn't an issue of astrology but more about maturity.

My advice to you is to try to keep it on a friendship level for your child. That's first and foremost. Hopefully one day he will step up and be responsible. Put aside any feelings of wanting a relationship because he's unlikely to change until he chooses to and you don't have time to wait. But talk to him about helping you with your child first and foremost. Focus on that only.

Good luck

Posted by scribble
He is 20 years old. Since you are much older you shouldn't be surprised at how immature he might behave. You guys had been together for a long time as well.

I know that emotions in that situation are super strong and it's hard to handle even without the stupid hormones going on.

My suggestion is to just find a way to cut through the emotions. Whatever hurt you feel now, it will be infinitely worse later for your child if you cut out their father from their life. So no matter how awful it might be; try to get some help for yourself to deal with the emotions and make a polite relationship for the sake of the kid.

Your own emotions can't be the focus anymore now with regards to him.

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Posted by truecap
I agree with LetitB.

Why did you pour your heart out after being told he didn't want a relationship? That's not normally a risk a capricorn would take. You should have expected the result wouldn't be what you wanted it to be. But, oh, well. It is what it is. The guy is very, very young and immature. He's not ready to grow up yet and now he's a father with responsibilities he's just not ready for and not mature enough to handle. Was the baby an accident or planned?

Does he have a job? Does he pay child support?

Focus on raising your child and giving that baby all the good things it deserves. Be friendly, but not romantic, with the father for the sake of the baby. Give your child a drama free and secure life.

Good luck!

Posted by truecap
Wait. I take that good luck back. You're 27 and he's 20 and you've been together for two years?

So, you were 25 messing with an 18 year old boy. If a 25 year old was messing with my 18 year old, we'd would have us a come to Jesus meetin' out behind the wood shed.

He's not even old enough to go to the bar and you're expecting him to act like a grown ass man.

Well, guess what, he's NOT a grown ass man and he's just acting his age.

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Posted by tasha1225
Hey I'm new to this but I'm completely confused with my cancer guy. I am a full blooded Capricorn female. We have been on & off for 2 yrs & have a child together. We have a bit of an age difference me being older. I see the traditional cancer traits in him mood swings, running in his shell to retreat. We have been apart for 7mos & the last time we were together we had a horrible fight & that just broke us apart. He disappeared & I was so hurt & angry I pushed him out of my mind but never out of my heart. Well we've gotten back in contact & the first time meeting up things fell back into place like they were before-when things were good with no arguing. I'm not sure of its just we're each others comfort zone or if its love. I finally swallowed my Capricorn pride & completely poured my heart out to him something I have never done in my life & he barely acknowledged it but only said he's not ready to talk about his feelings yet. But still told me he loved me when he left & that he cares for me deeply & never meant to hurt me. Me being a scorned Capricorn completely was hurt that I put my heart on the line. Need less to say we have now reblocked each other to stop communication & haven't spoken to each other. My question is is there any hope for a rekindle with my cancer man?