How to know when to give up on a Virgo man?

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I've been dating this Virgo man for almost half a year. I've been getting nothing but mixed signals. He'll tell me one day that he needs me, but he doesn't act like he does. By going with the flow, we ended up just keeping in touch although we ended up living in different states. He's a great guy and he seems worth it to me. Being a cap woman, I don't like to put in investments that will go to waste. But to be honest, even if we text daily, the conversations are always very minimal. He always just stops texting all of a sudden.

Seems to me he just doesn't want to talk to me. But then again he's mentioned plans like moving closer to me. I know he has work and everything but I know his schedule by heart. I know for a fact that he just doesn't want to reply.

I told him before that I'm not gonna chase after someone who makes it clear that he doesn't want me. But everytime I mention that, he goes ahead and tries. And then he'll stop again after 2-3 days. It's just fairly tiring. I feel unloved and wasting my time. Although he bought a ticket to come see me, but the reason he tells me is just that he just wants to be away from home. Not even because he wanted to see me or something?

Help?
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Posted by July
It seems the common feeling of Virgo's lovers, sometimes he disappears
That is not the common feeling of Virgo's lovers at all. The disappearing part does not exist with our partners.

A Virgo who's partnered up with you would keep you in their sight. We're like satellites...what if something happened to you and we weren't there to fix/look after you/be of service?
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Posted by xxxxcap
I've been dating this Virgo man for almost half a year. I've been getting nothing but mixed signals. He'll tell me one day that he needs me, but he doesn't act like he does. By going with the flow, we ended up just keeping in touch although we ended up living in different states. He's a great guy and he seems worth it to me. Being a cap woman, I don't like to put in investments that will go to waste. But to be honest, even if we text daily, the conversations are always very minimal. He always just stops texting all of a sudden.

Seems to me he just doesn't want to talk to me. But then again he's mentioned plans like moving closer to me. I know he has work and everything but I know his schedule by heart. I know for a fact that he just doesn't want to reply.

I told him before that I'm not gonna chase after someone who makes it clear that he doesn't want me. But everytime I mention that, he goes ahead and tries. And then he'll stop again after 2-3 days. It's just fairly tiring. I feel unloved and wasting my time. Although he bought a ticket to come see me, but the reason he tells me is just that he just wants to be away from home. Not even because he wanted to see me or something?

Help?
I feel like he's just keeping you on the shelf. Like some kind of backup, you know? Ugh. Leave him, he's clearly not putting in effort. But if you wanna at least give him the benefit of the doubt, try talking to him directly.
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Posted by xxxxcap

I told him before that I'm not gonna chase after someone who makes it clear that he doesn't want me.




Please point out where he makes it clear that he doesn't want you ... because that isn't clear to me, at all.

In fact, knowing Virgo men as well as I do, I say he is giving clear Virgo-signals that he likes you.

But it is all a moot point ... if you're not going to chase/direct/maintain the Virgo, then you lost before you even went through the door.

So, pretty much this is just you randomly barking at whomever is in close proximity, empty headed.

My advice to you is that if in the future you decide to try and date a Virgo again ... you have to take the lead. You have to be confident, secure, and in control of yourself and the relationship.

If you can't do that, or won't do that, and so resort to bitching about being too fragile and weak, and your little feelings my not be able to withstand being the leader because you lack mental fortitude ... then you probably shouldn't come crying here because you might find real talk here.

Once you uttered that partial sentence ...... you were rendered uncreditable, imo