how to win cap back? ><

shez a capricorn sun and venus capricorn. last october 8 we end our special thing. this cap has some attachment issues she said but for me i think its not attachment but TRUST issues coz her first love broke her heart badly..blackmailing her like her ex will go suicide and etc. Her ex was some kind of obssess about her! its been already 4 years and her ex still not over about her. thats why we broke up coz her reason is shes afraid of attachment, her past haunts her. she thinks that im beginning to attached, being clingy but this was just misunderstanding coz im not really and we've already discuss it and find some closure bout it.

Oct 19: after we talked about "clingy issue" and prove to her that im not, and agree that i can still be her friend, coz she knew that im the type that burn bridges cut ties.. what bothers me now is that after that she still keep texting me "good morning and goodnyt" out of the blue .. i dont know maybe shez just being friendly or she still wants me? ugh. now she stop texting me. hahahah im hopeful but i dnt know how to win her back. 😢

im pisces and venus in aqua btw.

Bro I lost my Cap girl too to based on the same things. bad relationship before me. Go read My "how to handle this cap women Help!!!" In the Capricorn section. My ex would do the same things for a couple weeks. Text me everyother day. Tell me what's goin on in her life, then she just stopped. She has denounced you somehow. She thinks she knows what your all about and made her own conclusion. Some Caps do this. My Ex did that all the time. one of her faults. You got to give her space I know its hard trust me. But, if she thinks your clingy, prove your not by actions not words. Give, her time to forget why she is even mad at you & try again. Find out through a friend that knows her or her co worker or someboy that can keep.a serect if she thinks she will ever give you another chance. Then go from there and deciede if.you wanna walk or stay. Patients and persistents is key here. But, clingy stuff will get you no where. Scorpio male living the same situation as I type this!

Been there done that... 3 months now. I have no advice... and I'm not convinced it is even possible. It is long, but if you can find any pointers here, go have a read... you have plenty of time ! If you do figure it out... get back with me ! Best of luck !

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships-astrology/my-lovely-ex-capricorn-girl-3336098/

note to self: PATIENT AND PERSISTENTS.

Thanks! guys i guess my best move right now is just wait and not contact her :/ but how long? ugh. i just thought that this MERCURY RETROGRADE? could help me 🙂)) im not really good in astrology.

Posted by piscesisme
note to self: PATIENT AND PERSISTENTS.

Thanks! guys i guess my best move right now is just wait and not contact her :/ but how long? ugh. i just thought that this MERCURY RETROGRADE? could help me 🙂)) im not really good in astrology.

How long to wait, is something I don't know. Depends on how busy she is and how busy you are. Most likely shes real busy if she's a true Cap .Caps like to be in control so let her control this. I didn't contact my ex for one week. Didn't text, call or see her. She works at the gym I go to and can go and see her anytime. But, I try hard to aviod her. It took my Ex 1 week before she texts me this inside joke we share. And keep in mind i do want her back. I can't say that will happen for you. But, you really gotta wait for her to contact you. Unless you run into her completely by accident. Be patient and stay busy.

Interesting all the ladies had bad relationships.

I agree that it really is up to you. A bad relationship can nearly leave a permanent scar, and many Caps hate mistakes as is, so making a mistake again with love can literally become a fear, especially if these ladies feel they gave it their all the first time.

If her heart was heavily involved and crushed, a different route could be to not get involved again with someone who can have access to the heart again.

It can "feel" all types of right, to even her, but those feelings can bring back memories of the past...and thats when the mind comes in and talk her out of what she feels.

My Cappie grandmother married 1st at 20(lasted about 8yrs I think), married again in her 30s(didnt last) and there were no more men, ever. No potentials, no dates, no nothing. Its been about 40yrs.

Im just sayin..it may take time for them to get back out there again.

Posted by lnana04
Interesting all the ladies had bad relationships.

I agree that it really is up to you. A bad relationship can nearly leave a permanent scar, and many Caps hate mistakes as is, so making a mistake again with love can literally become a fear, especially if these ladies feel they gave it their all the first time.

If her heart was heavily involved and crushed, a different route could be to not get involved again with someone who can have access to the heart again.

It can "feel" all types of right, to even her, but those feelings can bring back memories of the past...and thats when the mind comes in and talk her out of what she feels.

My Cappie grandmother married 1st at 20(lasted about 8yrs I think), married again in her 30s(didnt last) and there were no more men, ever. No potentials, no dates, no nothing. Its been about 40yrs.

Im just sayin..it may take time for them to get back out there again.

Very, very interesting. My Ex got out of a 5 yr relationship and broke it off because she is not ready. Hearing that makes me think she may never be ready or ever get over her ex.

To piscesisme and PP:

MINE had started to contact me from time to time to tell me about things happening in her life... wanting also to know what was happening in mine. A week and a half ago, seeming to me to be the next logical step, I asked her if she wanted to meet for dinner. We met after almost 3 months of not seeing each other. Just dinner. I got the 'I'm not ready' thing in those conversations too... I didn't even have to ask !

The longest I have 'not been ready' was almost a year... but even during that time I WAS READY for SOMETHING. What do these words REALLY mean ? Some other lifetime maybe ? I am thinking that a Capricorn is even more of a loner than ME !

Anyway... don't be tempted to be first in sending her communication of any sort. I have found Capricorn to actually mean what they say... the only 'agenda hiding' they have... is what we refuse to hear and accept... so replay her words carefully... make sure that you understood the rules. If there is ANY WAY to get a Capricorn back... it has more to due with disappearing than anything else. She wanted distance... GIVE IT TO HER. That is all we can really do.

I would like to know more of what the both of you have been doing with your situation... hopefully you have done nothing and now playing the waiting game. You being a Scorpio PP... you must have a secret plan of attack there somewhere !

Posted by lnana04
Interesting all the ladies had bad relationships.

I agree that it really is up to you. A bad relationship can nearly leave a permanent scar, and many Caps hate mistakes as is, so making a mistake again with love can literally become a fear, especially if these ladies feel they gave it their all the first time.

If her heart was heavily involved and crushed, a different route could be to not get involved again with someone who can have access to the heart again.

It can "feel" all types of right, to even her, but those feelings can bring back memories of the past...and thats when the mind comes in and talk her out of what she feels.

My Cappie grandmother married 1st at 20(lasted about 8yrs I think), married again in her 30s(didnt last) and there were no more men, ever. No potentials, no dates, no nothing. Its been about 40yrs.

Im just sayin..it may take time for them to get back out there again.

My cap is so over on her first love.

especially if these ladies feel they gave it their all the first time.? - yeah my cap gave her all on her first love, and her heart was heavily involved and crushed! thats why shes now afraid of attachment and no trust. afraid that i end up like her first love that would blackmail her and cant get over her.

and yeah OVERTHINKING! thats her! 🙂)) i just hope that shell give me a chance to prove that im not like her ex. thats why right now i guess ill give her space and no contact. but about this "mercury retrograde" they said it help fix past relationships something like that, now i dont know if ill wait for her or go directly to her now. :/

No no no... if the Mercury Retorgrade thing is really going to fix anything... make sure it is HER that comes to YOU.

@ DAVI😱

you have a point. shes the one who broke and end it.. so i guess shell be the one to fix it
even shez giving me mixed signals last time like texting me out of the blue, posting some "break-up and wanting to get back together" songs on her fb, and giving me so much attention last time we had group lunch with our friends.

and about what u said "replay her words".. she didnt say anything about distance, but she accuse me of being clingy and beginning too attached.

Posted by piscesisme
@ DAVI😱

you have a point. shes the one who broke and end it.. so i guess shell be the one to fix it
even shez giving me mixed signals last time like texting me out of the blue, posting some "break-up and wanting to get back together" songs on her fb, and giving me so much attention last time we had group lunch with our friends.

and about what u said "replay her words".. she didnt say anything about distance, but she accuse me of being clingy and beginning too attached.

By doing nothing... you will be showing her that you are NOT clingy and attached. Make sure that you are living your OWN life while you are waiting. I hate to break it to you... but SHE is capable of waiting a LONG TIME ! I have seen this first hand ! And unlike a lot of women... her being a Capricorn... when she says she just wants to be 'alone' she means it. She may go out with friends... but she IS in fact ALONE.

yeah! but something is bothering me now. i just checked fb and accidentally i saw in the feeds her ex not the one i mentioned, her ex before me commenting again in her photo some cheezy lines. i dont know but my instinct telling me something that theres something between them right now. their break-up is not good, her ex is a taurus and hes mad in my cap for breaking up to him. they had one month relationship officially and the guy court him like 8 mos. , and us we've been 6 mos. the time we are in a "getting to know phase" with my cap..
she and this guy already in agreement that they will be officially together after her exam, they've lasted for a month coz this cap shes not into this guy for some reason, shes not happy anymore with this guy and because she had more feelings for me.

right now, i dont know my instinct is telling me that what she did to her ex-taurus, she did the same to me. this time she goes back to this taurus. do you think cap would do this? when they find someone better they just leave? :/

How old is she ?

shes 21. im 23 and the taurus guy 20. O_O

Hmmmm... 'accidentally saw', interesting choice of words... you don't have to make up stories here. To be honest... the capricorns I knew at her age were all harlots. I am not really sure what she is capable of. But I have NEVER seen one go back to the last. This is why you must play the game... no one else has done it. Taurus-boy isn't a threat... he might be trying, but this is Capricorn he is dealing with... he won't fair any better... and he has no advantage.

Still... be careful with facebook... it really doesn't show anything... and the perceived truths can be skewed. It can be troubling to see something that you don't want to see... and the possibility heightens making it likely to act on the impulse that was created... which is NEVER a good thing. After MINE broke up with me... three days later, I deleted her from facebook.

Facebook isn't necessarily a bad thing in your case... just don't post sad songs that might be for her... don't let the longing for her be seen... don't post anything geared toward her. It really depends on you... and whether it is a lie or not... make sure that the illusion exists that you are content with everything in the public eye... including facebook.

By the way... you are not in a place that you can be trusting your instincts... you must be counter-intuitive... if your heart is telling to do someething... DON'T. Got It ?

Posted by David13
Hmmmm... 'accidentally saw', interesting choice of words... you don't have to make up stories here. To be honest... the capricorns I knew at her age were all harlots. I am not really sure what she is capable of. But I have NEVER seen one go back to the last. This is why you must play the game... no one else has done it. Taurus-boy isn't a threat... he might be trying, but this is Capricorn he is dealing with... he won't fair any better... and he has no advantage.

Still... be careful with facebook... it really doesn't show anything... and the perceived truths can be skewed. It can be troubling to see something that you don't want to see... and the possibility heightens making it likely to act on the impulse that was created... which is NEVER a good thing. After MINE broke up with me... three days later, I deleted her from facebook.

Facebook isn't necessarily a bad thing in your case... just don't post sad songs that might be for her... don't let the longing for her be seen... don't post anything geared toward her. It really depends on you... and whether it is a lie or not... make sure that the illusion exists that you are content with everything in the public eye... including facebook.

By the way... you are not in a place that you can be trusting your instincts... you must be counter-intuitive... if your heart is telling to do someething... DON'T. Got It ?

after her first break up she acts like that "harlot" it was 4 years ago. she kiss lots of different people because of that break-up but right now i know she different person already.
ok sir! i must be COUNTER-INTUITIVE. ugh i dont know maybe im just jealous and afraid she will do what she did to this taurus guy.
by the way sir im not make up stories..the thing is the 3 of us went on the same school, and same course. thats why its so easy for me to see it on the feeds (fb).

thank you Sir! ill follow your advice. i hope i can survive the waiting. 🙂

I dont think you have to worry about the other guy. Really, Sade(Jan 16th) put it best in "Never As Good as the 1st Time."


If you get a chance listen. I honestly think it can apply to a lot of whats posted in here, as going back is not impossible, but pretty rare. Maybe a bit of that Cardinal energy is also a part of that, idk.

You are young though. Plenty of time to settle and plenty of other fish in the sea. Time is valuable, dont cling to a wonderful moment you shared with her.

@David:
btw sir, she did gve second chance to her first. maybe because its her first love, they spit then gt back then broke up. and same with my brother whos a Capricorn sun and venus, they split with her cancer girl then got back and married.

but idk if it will be the same for "going back to the last guy after a break-up of new one" scene.

P.S. im sorry if my english not so good.

Posted by lnana04
I dont think you have to worry about the other guy. Really, Sade(Jan 16th) put it best in "Never As Good as the 1st Time."

If you get a chance listen. I honestly think it can apply to a lot of whats posted in here, as going back is not impossible, but pretty rare. Maybe a bit of that Cardinal energy is also a part of that, idk.

You are young though. Plenty of time to settle and plenty of other fish in the sea. Time is valuable, dont cling to a wonderful moment you shared with her.

Thank you. I know im to young. and my friends telling me this joke or saying that "how would you know if pasta is your favorite if you havnt tried diff dishes?" shez my pasta and my favortie but im not craving.

i just like and love her. i want to be in serious relationship with her, shes the first one. and before her just flings nothing serious.

Note to self: i wont worry about the other guy.

I'll keep yall posted. On me and my exs progress. It's been a month since we broke up. I feel this one will come around, because the chemistry we have is off the charts. But, no one knows for sure if she will.

Posted by PP
I'll keep yall posted. On me and my exs progress. It's been a month since we broke up. I feel this one will come around, because the chemistry we have is off the charts. But, no one knows for sure if she will.

same here. we broke up last oct 8. 1 month now. good luck to us! let the waiting game begin!

my cap ex texted me last tuesday that she missed talking to me.
was it a good sign?

Posted by piscesisme
my cap ex texted me last tuesday that she missed talking to me.
was it a good sign?

Mine did that to like a week ago. Gave me a text list of what she misses. But, also said I was doin to much when she said she needed space. So. Keep your distance still. It's a good sign but don't go overboard.