How would you handle this? (Page 2)

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Andalusia

...... he's looking for is acknowledgment.

Then he should have gone to his friends.

We're not his friends, and have no desire to be. These games aren't for fun. You cannot be friends with the players, because then that causes collusion which is illegal play in Texas Hold'em.

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What da FUCK?

Poor older dude. How awful, heartbreaking and humiliating for him.

Hes going to take it like an insult. Whats worse is he may not have even been aware of any, and his wife probly made a cake. He probably just thinks people don't like him or something.

Posted by P-Angel

The group has been together for about 6, maybe 7 years .. this particular man (and his wife) joined about 2 years ago.

I don't even mind buying a person a gift. It's not even that, really. It's more about the principal. My whole issue is that I don't want to send a message to him in that we're a push over. Because to me, for an acquaintance to expect a gift registers as user in my mind.

But, again ... I'm extremely critical and suspicious by nature, so I may be thinking on this from the wrong angle.

Flowers. And card. 'Congrats, all the best. Now let's shuffle that deck'...
OR the group gallon of wine. LOL

And think of IF you all coming and there is a table spread for you with delicatessen food.
You will feel like crap then. LOL

I would skip poker that night to not have to think about it.

Posted by P-Angel

There are several couples, and though we draw for seats at each table ... couples are not allowed to sit at the same table, so couples are assigned to draw from certain stacks.

If a couple makes it to the final table ... they are strictly observed. In fact, we assign people to watch and make sure no gestures are made, no chip dumping.

this is series play

series?

Also if you know somebody for 6 years - or 2 years - don't these people become your something?
Not friends but people who you have similar interests and if one of them get sick - won't you visit them
in a hospital or at home just because they don't have a 'friend' button?
And would you keep 'poker face' if you found out some is dead and won't attend funeral?

Posted by BlackMamba
OLD people ...should celebrate every birthday that comes before they croak...

+1

i believe this too.

My leo neighbor and her virgo husband are Always so happy i remember their bdays.

Just this week i got her virgo husband a bottle of Chardonnay and bought a big strawberry cake for him. They were so happy!! She's over 70, and hes in his 60s still.

and today she was at the door saving me a piece of strawberry cake. lol

Posted by ellle
I don't think she's looking for your conventional this-person-is-not-that-important-to-me-but-I-don't-want-to-be-rude gift ideas.

She's looking to give a gift that has a hidden meaning that says "You are an idiot".....that he figures out later and cries himself to sleep at night.

Hahahahaha I wish I had seen this sooner

I'd get him a $ 20 gift, something related to poker. Enough to show respect for the group, but not reward him for the childish way he behaved. Some glasses with poker chips/cards on them or something related to poker. That way you've met your social obligations, without selling out.....just a thought.