is it okay to have sex on the first date(which will be at his house)

I dont regard it as a date really, we've been friends for a while and once wanted me to come to his house fro him to make me lunch, i didnt go but now i want to and i kind of want to have sex but i dont want him to think less of me or anything and my friends say i should sleep over because its open weekend at college, we're all in college

yes it is perfectly ok go for it

@xXxAliciaXxX we're doing 1st year at college, i live in a sorority thats why i say its open weekend so i am able to leave the house and he lives alone

Posted by RosellaB
I dont regard it as a date really, we've been friends for a while and once wanted me to come to his house fro him to make me lunch, i didnt go but now i want to and i kind of want to have sex but i dont want him to think less of me or anything and my friends say i should sleep over because its open weekend at college, we're all in college

just do it

Posted by RosellaB
I dont regard it as a date really, we've been friends for a while and once wanted me to come to his house fro him to make me lunch, i didnt go but now i want to and i kind of want to have sex but i dont want him to think less of me or anything and my friends say i should sleep over because its open weekend at college, we're all in college

Sounds like you're trying to talk yourself into having sex with this guy...red flag...

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Posted by RosellaB
I dont regard it as a date really, we've been friends for a while and once wanted me to come to his house fro him to make me lunch, i didnt go but now i want to and i kind of want to have sex but i dont want him to think less of me or anything and my friends say i should sleep over because its open weekend at college, we're all in college

just do it

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Posted by RosellaB
I dont regard it as a date really, we've been friends for a while and once wanted me to come to his house fro him to make me lunch, i didnt go but now i want to and i kind of want to have sex but i dont want him to think less of me or anything and my friends say i should sleep over because its open weekend at college, we're all in college

Sounds like you're trying to talk yourself into having sex with this guy...red flag...

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nah everything will be swell

@xXxAliciaXxX hes such a gentleman, and very well mannered and i know that he wouldnt try anything with me that i dont approve, hes in all of my classes, hes always holding doors for me and my friends, the first time we met, we ended up sitting together and i was complaining about how cold i am and then he said he would give me his t-shirt if he was wearing a vest underneath

Practice on a banana before the big lay err day.

Is he a cancer? See ya on the board next week! 😄

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Posted by RosellaB
@xXxAliciaXxX hes such a gentleman, and very well mannered and i know that he wouldnt try anything with me that i dont approve, hes in all of my classes, hes always holding doors for me and my friends, the first time we met, we ended up sitting together and i was complaining about how cold i am and then he said he would give me his t-shirt if he was wearing a vest underneath

How long have you known him and how much older than you is he?

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We've known each other since the begining of the year, 4years older

Posted by kissmygrits
Is he a cancer? See ya on the board next week! 😄

no hes a capricorn and i'm a taurus

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Posted by RosellaB
I dont regard it as a date really, we've been friends for a while and once wanted me to come to his house fro him to make me lunch, i didnt go but now i want to and i kind of want to have sex but i dont want him to think less of me or anything and my friends say i should sleep over because its open weekend at college, we're all in college

Sounds like you're trying to talk yourself into having sex with this guy...red flag...

nah everything will be swell

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Stop making me giggle

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Posted by RosellaB
I dont regard it as a date really, we've been friends for a while and once wanted me to come to his house fro him to make me lunch, i didnt go but now i want to and i kind of want to have sex but i dont want him to think less of me or anything and my friends say i should sleep over because its open weekend at college, we're all in college

Sounds like you're trying to talk yourself into having sex with this guy...red flag...

nah everything will be swell

If my feelings are correct, you and I are on the same page. We both know its a bad idea, but we also know that no amount of words is going to sway her from doing what she wants to do. So she's just going to have to learn her lesson the hard way......or maybe you just want to watch the world burn lol

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i'm being positive. i think everything will go well, every event doesn't have to end with a negative outcome.

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Posted by RosellaB
I dont regard it as a date really, we've been friends for a while and once wanted me to come to his house fro him to make me lunch, i didnt go but now i want to and i kind of want to have sex but i dont want him to think less of me or anything and my friends say i should sleep over because its open weekend at college, we're all in college

Sounds like you're trying to talk yourself into having sex with this guy...red flag...

nah everything will be swell

If my feelings are correct, you and I are on the same page. We both know its a bad idea, but we also know that no amount of words is going to sway her from doing what she wants to do. So she's just going to have to learn her lesson the hard way......or maybe you just want to watch the world burn lol

i'm being positive. i think everything will go well, every event doesn't have to end with a negative outcome.

I knew you'd end up using the crack pipe you found in your back yard.

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So... you're a freshman and he's what, a junior/senior? AND a Cap?

Honey, he's playing you. College freshmen are so stupid and easy to fuck with.

Like someone else said, if you have to ask, then no. Considering the short amount of time you've known him, then no. If you're not down for a probable one night stand, then no. If you're worried about him losing respect for you, then no.

If you can handle it just being a one night stand, then go for it. There is nothing inherently "wrong" with putting out on the first date per se. If you're comfortable with it, then that's fine. However, unfortunately, there are too many guys who take advantage of women who may be fine with putting out so soon, and treat them as if they're disposable because of this.

So even though it's totally fucked and outdated that guys treat women like shit when women approach sex like a guy, it's something you really do have to consider, much like you're doing now with your uncertainty.

General rule of thumb, just assume worst case scenario and hold off. There's no major negative outcome for waiting, tbh. Well, unless this is his main goal- to bed you, then he may show his true colors and take off. Either way, my suggestion is holding off for now until you know him better.

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Posted by RosellaB
I dont regard it as a date really, we've been friends for a while and once wanted me to come to his house fro him to make me lunch, i didnt go but now i want to and i kind of want to have sex but i dont want him to think less of me or anything and my friends say i should sleep over because its open weekend at college, we're all in college

Sounds like you're trying to talk yourself into having sex with this guy...red flag...

nah everything will be swell

If my feelings are correct, you and I are on the same page. We both know its a bad idea, but we also know that no amount of words is going to sway her from doing what she wants to do. So she's just going to have to learn her lesson the hard way......or maybe you just want to watch the world burn lol

i'm being positive. i think everything will go well, every event doesn't have to end with a negative outcome.

Oh ok. Although I do agree that every event doesn't end negatively, we live in times where in this type of situation more than likely things would not work out. At least not in her favor.

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i'm staying positive so i'm hoping it doesn't

Like @rockyroadicecream wrote:

"If you're not down for a probable one night stand, then no."

You are trolling right?

The best experience in life is college years. Go for it..

Don't be surprised if he stops contacting you afterwards.

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Posted by kissmygrits
Is he a cancer? See ya on the board next week! 😄

no hes a capricorn and i'm a taurus

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capricorns don't play games , he won't go cold on you. Just do it girl!

But actually I wonder Capricorn and Taurus have very similar approaches to life, so who knows but I think it would be okay to have someone cook for me but not jumping his bones quite yet, or take him to a nice restaurant away from home, go with the flow if he has any other way expressed taking your friendship to a fwb then could do that.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
You are trolling right?

Me? No. I don't have a problem with ons, I just don't know if she does, and she may not want high expectations for this one. But time will tell.

Since it's open weekend ... why stop with him?


Open the fucking house up and sleep with all the men .... you can sort through them later to decide which one(s) you can try and trick into having feelings for you.

I was going to say don't do it. But then I thought about it.

If you want to roll in the hay with him, go for it, but own the situation. He MIGHT, not certain, but MIGHT, just stop hanging around so much after he's had your kitty sandwich.

If you can be cool and casual about the sex, then don't let anyone impose their own morality on you. But also don't cry if he doesn't stick with you.

For you(TYPO NOT ME) or you take him out, and just see. I have Capricorn in the 7th so I take friendship seriously but casually, and I am very much into inviting people over to cook for WITHOUT sex on the mind.

I wasn't talking to you, I really thought it was just one of those threads because well there have been alot on here lately....@happycapper, it was addressed to the OP. Sorry, @happycapper- How have you been?

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Posted by kissmygrits
Is he a cancer? See ya on the board next week! 😄

no hes a capricorn and i'm a taurus

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Yeah in that case... do what you wanna. Just curious why do you feel you need to bone this guy? If he's a really good friend do you care about losing him? And he's going to be in EVERY class of yours. That's going to be weird.


Ah well just use protection.

That's weird. Did taureye mention it will be ackward as hell if it doesn't go the way you planned or imagined.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I wasn't talking to you, I really thought it was just one of those threads because well there have been alot on here lately....@happycapper, it was addressed to the OP. Sorry, @happycapper- How have you been?

lol No, that was just me jumping to conclusions. Sorry. You never actually said it was for me.🙂

How are you?🙂

@HappyCapper- Lol, I am good nonetheless.

It's college.

What kind of lunch?

I like how two of the most fucked and damaged women on DXP come here and condone freely giving it out without evaluating self, when they've done it in the past and have shown how unhinged and neurotic they are when it comes to men. Yet, they tell other women to approach it much like they have... only to turn around and cry about being used.

oy

Posted by Wynter
What kind of lunch?

Apparently tube steak.

did you do him @RosellaB?

does anyone here know what a cockblocker is?

























good, you do.





















BECAUSE THATS WHAT YOU ALL ARE A BUNCH OF COCKBLOCKERS

It's okay if you ask this question.

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Posted by RosellaB
@xXxAliciaXxX hes such a gentleman, and very well mannered and i know that he wouldnt try anything with me that i dont approve, hes in all of my classes, hes always holding doors for me and my friends, the first time we met, we ended up sitting together and i was complaining about how cold i am and then he said he would give me his t-shirt if he was wearing a vest underneath

This is what's most likely going to happen. You two will end up doing it. He'll go cold on you. You're gonna come here and make a thread about why this guy who you are totally into and thought was totally into has suddenly gone cold on you after you two bumped uglies. Don't do it. Study instead you have midterms coming up and if you already passed them then study for finals they're only 2 months away.

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I HAVE FOUND HIM!!!!!

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