@Aquastic
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My ex is cheating on his new girlfriend with me
Should You Reconcile With a Cheating Partner
Reconciliation with a partner who has cheated involves trusting their commitment again and addressing underlying issues. Consider whether both of you are willing to build honesty and respect. Reflect on whether this pattern is likely to repeat and if a healthy relationship is possible. Prioritize your emotional well-being before deciding to reunite.
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lol why u judging?
the ordinary is so unbelievable at times.
There is absolutely no way this is going to end well and I'm an optimistic person when it comes to love, but there is nothing redeemable here. Save yourself the heartache - just stop and move on.
You're a douche and so is this ex of yours. The only positive here is that both of you belong together.
Aquastic, your name isn't Kathryn or Melissa by any chance? This story is just way too similar to the circumstances that led upto me cutting off contact with a fuckboy friend who thought he was a smooth player.
lol why u judging?
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because we all are spreading waves of pain from one person to the other after we've not been able to keep it inside and be strong/self-less/clear-minded. #Oneness
"... he told me about his new girl.... I decide to call him ... I am not sure if would want this kind of man ..."
Posted by Aquastic
So I broke up with my ex boyfriend after he told me about his new girl.after a month of the breakup I decide to call him and we met and we had protected sex almost everyday.But now m starting to feel guilty , cause the other girl doesn't know we cheating on her.I love this guy so much, and now he tells me him and his new girl are fighting and he wanna mend things with me again, so we can officially get back together.
But I am not sure if would want this kind of man in my future cause he cheated on me with her , now he's cheating on her with me.
I am not proud of this situation, and everytime ,m in his place I feel like a criminal.
A part of me wants continue and press all his buttons until he dumps the other girl without me telling him to, however the other part says I should just let him go, and start a new healthy relationship.
He is a Pisces and m a Aquatic woman.
Are you a Venus in Aries?
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No m a Venus in Sag
I hope, there are other signs in your chart we could blame it on. cause if this is the aqua age, well....
The thing that irks me in all of this is that he's good enough to sleep with when you're secretly sleeping with another woman's man and enabling his bad behaviour. But then when he tells you that he'll leave her for you so you can have legitimate or justifiable sex, suddenly you feel that you deserve better. You're one delusional hoe.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
So you're gonna hang on till he dumps her and then you're gonna dump him?
I did think of doing that at some point, but then Because I love him I just can't play such a stupid game. I care too much, I even advised him not to break-up with her cause deep down I know I don't wanna win a cheating man.
Posted by Hemispheres
Aquastic, your name isn't Kathryn or Melissa by any chance? This story is just way too similar to the circumstances that led upto me cutting off contact with a fuckboy friend who thought he was a smooth player.
Lol m not any of those two names.
Posted by TaurusinTexas
There is absolutely no way this is going to end well and I'm an optimistic person when it comes to love, but there is nothing redeemable here. Save yourself the heartache - just stop and move on.
I agree ^^^^
@Blackphase..no beef , just teasing...that video is funny
Posted by cheekyfaerie
So you're gonna hang on till he dumps her and then you're gonna dump him?I even advised him not to break-up with her cause deep down I know I don't wanna win a cheating man.
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You're so noble....noble like a vulture. What I wanna know is why you think you deserve better/non-cheating man?
Yeah this is going to end badly. Start loving yourself.
Obviously he doesn't. If he says he does he is lying.
Posted by exxtasyx
I would get him back. Get proof of him cheating with you, like text messages or something confirming it and show his current girlfriend. Then both of you can delete him from your lives.
You're a moron. This would slightly be entertained by his gf if she was an innocent party in all of this, as in a woman who didn't know he has a gf. The moment she finds out that she is a fully aware and willing participant in the affair, the girl would probably wanna fight her in the parking lot. LOL
Posted by exxtasyx
You made a mistake (or a couple) lol.But the great thing about making mistakes is that you can correct them.
This guy is a loser who cheated on you with this girl, and now he's cheating on this girl with you. He's secretly laughing and playing the fuck out of both of you who are delusional as hell.
I would get him back. Get proof of him cheating with you, like text messages or something confirming it and show his current girlfriend. Then both of you can delete him from your lives.
I thought of that too, but then again I think it's really not fair to sleep with her man and go back and rub it on her face that her man still prefers me over her.She seem like a very nice girl and she's really good looking, she's slim and tall , and always has good hair everytime my ex posts pictures of her on social media.
Me on the other side I have a big butt and hips, medium height,
I still don't understand why he's cheating on such a hot girl. But she calls 20 times when m with him( saying "she was just checking on him") , which I could point out an insecurity issue going on.
threesome?
I mean if the three are of the same stuff...
I agree with all those who say the original poster is a douche.
Where did you lose all your self respect? Gross - who has a sexual relationship with someone having a sexual relationship with another person. Ya'll belong together. You should tell the girl directly he's fucking you, save a possibly decent person wasted time.
"He was cheating on you with her."
did she know it?
Lmao
Posted by DwellingOnMove
"He was cheating on you with her."did she know it?
And how I am I suppose to know that!?
Posted by sweetmaree88
I agree with all those who say the original poster is a douche.Where did you lose all your self respect? Gross - who has a sexual relationship with someone having a sexual relationship with another person. Ya'll belong together. You should tell the girl directly he's fucking you, save a possibly decent person wasted time.
Normal people will understand that these kind of things happen. It will probably happen to u or anyone in your family or circle of friends, or maybe it already happened , and no one bothered to tell you cause they know you will probably "jump" !!!
Relax they still together, and I will not tell her ,instead I will leave them alone.
Posted by Aquastic
So I broke up with my ex boyfriend after he told me about his new girl.after a month of the breakup I decide to call him and we met and we had protected sex almost everyday.But now m starting to feel guilty , cause the other girl doesn't know we cheating on her.I love this guy so much, and now he tells me him and his new girl are fighting and he wanna mend things with me again, so we can officially get back together.
But I am not sure if would want this kind of man in my future cause he cheated on me with her , now he's cheating on her with me.
I am not proud of this situation, and everytime ,m in his place I feel like a criminal.
A part of me wants continue and press all his buttons until he dumps the other girl without me telling him to, however the other part says I should just let him go, and start a new healthy relationship.
He is a Pisces and m a Aquatic woman.
Are you a Venus in Aries?
No m a Venus in Sag
Moon or Mars in Aries? Or Gemini?
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Longitude House
position
Sun 10 Aqu 35' 10" 3
Moon 00 Pis 40' 11" 3
Mercury 23 Aqu 09' 46" 3
Venus 24 Sag 21' 56" 1
Mars 15 Ari 42' 56" 5
Jupiter 23 Pis 05' 08" 4
Saturn 18 Sag 24' 21" 1
Uranus 25 Sag 13' 04" 1
Neptune 06 Cap 45' 56" 1
Pluto 09 Sco 56' 03" 11
Chiron 16 Gem 06' 33" R 7
Lilith 07 Can 40' 06" 8
True Node 13 Ari 29' 05" R 4
P. of Fortune 16 Sco 16' 18" 12
Posted by aquarius09
The thing that irks me in all of this is that he's good enough to sleep with when you're secretly sleeping with another woman's man and enabling his bad behaviour. But then when he tells you that he'll leave her for you so you can have legitimate or justifiable sex, suddenly you feel that you deserve better. You're one delusional hoe.They broke up due to the fact that he had another girl on the side.. Why she ever wanted to call him again is unknown to me.
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At the time I was thinking I don't wanna loose him, and because I love him. But when I was close to getting him back I really panicked .
He does not prefer you over her. Remember, he cheated on you with her. Like someone else said, he's playing you both.
The Cancer Mars in me says: send her ass a snapchat of you two in bed, make sure something epic happens, then drop him like a hot potato.
The Stellium Aqua in me, says find a hotter, better guy, best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
Either way, none of those sides are rooting for you to keep him
Posted by exxtasyx
You made a mistake (or a couple) lol.But the great thing about making mistakes is that you can correct them.
This guy is a loser who cheated on you with this girl, and now he's cheating on this girl with you. He's secretly laughing and playing the fuck out of both of you who are delusional as hell.
I would get him back. Get proof of him cheating with you, like text messages or something confirming it and show his current girlfriend. Then both of you can delete him from your lives.
I thought of that too, but then again I think it's really not fair to sleep with her man and go back and rub it on her face that her man still prefers me over her.She seem like a very nice girl and she's really good looking, she's slim and tall , and always has good hair everytime my ex posts pictures of her on social media.
Me on the other side I have a big butt and hips, medium height,
I still don't understand why he's cheating on such a hot girl. But she calls 20 times when m with him( saying "she was just checking on him") , which I could point out an insecurity issue going on.
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Lmaoo! From this comment you're actually enjoying this, since you've taken time to compare yourself to her. He is posting pictures of her cause he's proud of her. He's sleeping with you cause you're stupid. You are the option he can pick and drop whenever, he's cheating with you cause you allow it. It can be any other girl. He's a cheating bastard that's why she's insecure, tell her so she reevaluates her options.
Posted by Gennie
The Cancer Mars in me says: send her ass a snapchat of you two in bed, make sure something epic happens, then drop him like a hot potato.The Stellium Aqua in me, says find a hotter, better guy, best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
Either way, none of those sides are rooting for you to keep him
Thank you @ Gennie
Posted by cheekyfaerie
So you're gonna hang on till he dumps her and then you're gonna dump him?
gangsta
Posted by exxtasyx
You made a mistake (or a couple) lol.But the great thing about making mistakes is that you can correct them.
This guy is a loser who cheated on you with this girl, and now he's cheating on this girl with you. He's secretly laughing and playing the fuck out of both of you who are delusional as hell.
I would get him back. Get proof of him cheating with you, like text messages or something confirming it and show his current girlfriend. Then both of you can delete him from your lives.
I thought of that too, but then again I think it's really not fair to sleep with her man and go back and rub it on her face that her man still prefers me over her.She seem like a very nice girl and she's really good looking, she's slim and tall , and always has good hair everytime my ex posts pictures of her on social media.
Me on the other side I have a big butt and hips, medium height,
I still don't understand why he's cheating on such a hot girl. But she calls 20 times when m with him( saying "she was just checking on him") , which I could point out an insecurity issue going on.
Lmaoo! From this comment you're actually enjoying this, since you've taken time to compare yourself to her. He is posting pictures of her cause he's proud of her. He's sleeping with you cause you're stupid. You are the option he can pick and drop whenever, he's cheating with you cause you allow it. It can be any other girl. He's a cheating bastard that's why she's insecure, tell her so she reevaluates her options.
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Aaaach! That hurts!
Why should I tell her? She will find out one day. Like u said m an option to him, do u even think she would believe me or she would just think of me as a crazy jealous ex? And since he's so proud of her , don't you think he would say or do anythink to make sure she stays , so that he continue showing her off , while using other people on the side?
And , most of the time I initiated the meetings, this whole thing was on my terms, where and when I wanted him.
I will never tell her!
Posted by Gennie
The Cancer Mars in me says: send her ass a snapchat of you two in bed, make sure something epic happens, then drop him like a hot potato.The Stellium Aqua in me, says find a hotter, better guy, best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
Either way, none of those sides are rooting for you to keep him
Thank you @ Gennie
Don't play games about it.. It's not High School, Why create a bunch of drama. WALK AWAY
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Ja I have decided to walk away for good this time. No hard feelings, or anger or games. That way I will move to the next relationship on a positive note .
Posted by cheekyfaerie
So you're gonna hang on till he dumps her and then you're gonna dump him?gangsta
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I would do this, teach that fuk boy a lesson.
Posted by Gennie
The Cancer Mars in me says: send her ass a snapchat of you two in bed, make sure something epic happens, then drop him like a hot potato.The Stellium Aqua in me, says find a hotter, better guy, best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
Either way, none of those sides are rooting for you to keep him
Thank you @ Gennie
Don't play games about it.. It's not High School, Why create a bunch of drama. WALK AWAY
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No no, play the game the player put you in....and WIN. Just don't keep him, hes a scumbag
Posted by blackphase
You put yourself in this situation fully aware of the outcome. I don't know what more you could have expected.
The only thing that was on my head at the time, was to get him back, I . But then while in the process of it all, I woke up and realized that this was super wrong, and I would not fully trust this man even if we were to get back together or even get married.
Posted by Aquastic
So I broke up with my ex boyfriend after he told me about his new girl.after a month of the breakup I decide to call him and we met and we had protected sex almost everyday.But now m starting to feel guilty , cause the other girl doesn't know we cheating on her.I love this guy so much, and now he tells me him and his new girl are fighting and he wanna mend things with me again, so we can officially get back together.
But I am not sure if would want this kind of man in my future cause he cheated on me with her , now he's cheating on her with me.
I am not proud of this situation, and everytime ,m in his place I feel like a criminal.
A part of me wants continue and press all his buttons until he dumps the other girl without me telling him to, however the other part says I should just let him go, and start a new healthy relationship.
He is a Pisces and m a Aquatic woman.
* face palm* SMH ‘ Why do girls do that to themselves. It only sweets you up for hurt in the long run, and you never ever want to meddle in between a relationship - didn't matter who it is. You ought to be the bigger person and do your own thing.
Posted by Aquastic
So I broke up with my ex boyfriend after he told me about his new girl.after a month of the breakup I decide to call him and we met and we had protected sex almost everyday.But now m starting to feel guilty , cause the other girl doesn't know we cheating on her.I love this guy so much, and now he tells me him and his new girl are fighting and he wanna mend things with me again, so we can officially get back together.
But I am not sure if would want this kind of man in my future cause he cheated on me with her , now he's cheating on her with me.
I am not proud of this situation, and everytime ,m in his place I feel like a criminal.
A part of me wants continue and press all his buttons until he dumps the other girl without me telling him to, however the other part says I should just let him go, and start a new healthy relationship.
He is a Pisces and m a Aquatic woman.
* face palm* SMH ‘ Why do girls do that to themselves. It only sweets you up for hurt in the long run, and you never ever want to meddle in between a relationship - doesn't matter who it is. You ought to be the bigger person and do your own thing.
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Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
It's no self respect having sluts like you who make it hard for good women to get into new relationships and be able to love and trust again.He's obviously the main culprit and the main one to blame, but any woman that willingly partakes in tearing down a fellow woman to that degree is lower than scum. You have no idea how sad and stupid you are. I can tell by the way you're responding and by how you talk about this, that you have very little to no shame. Someone needs to knock some sense (and decency) into you, literally.
I am sorry if someone ever did this to you. But before you judge others , put yourself in their shoes. When you love someone , you can stoop so low that you don't even care what other people will say about you. All I was doing , was to get the love of my life back to my arms. And yes I am not proud of this, and I would never ever do something so low not even for the love of my love.I learned my lessons, and one day I will be one of the wise woman to give young girls a sound advice that I have experienced , not read somewhere.
We all walk in different paths in our lives.
You also have done worse things in your life than falling back with an ex if only u could open up and tell us , we would not judge you cause we not perfect.
In my experience with life , people who JUMP at other people's situations, they are the ones who have the most immoral deeds in their lives, so when they get any opportunity to judge others, they start acting like saints or virgins in bad behavior.*just saying*
Sorry!
Just walk away, he will never respect you cause you're willing to indulge. I just hate being the other woman, the one that has to hide and sneak.
So many judgemental comments......i myself have never cheated and never would,but i know a couple of couples who have been through that,they are stil together,it's all about how you go with things and how well you communicate,how much you love and how much work are you willing to put on,but your situation sounds bad,my advise would be walk away for now and live your life,if he is the one for you,fate will bring you together again,if not,you'll have another one....i'll tell you one of my fav quotes when it ends...
Maybe wel'll meet again, when we're slightly older and our minds less hectic, and i'll be right for you and you'll be right for me. But right now I am chaos to your thoughts and you are poison to my heart. 🙂
Sometimes you have to try your hardest not to care, no matter how much you do, because sometimes you can mean nothing to someone who means the world to you.It's not pride.It's self respect 🙂 goodluck!
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
It's no self respect having sluts like you who make it hard for good women to get into new relationships and be able to love and trust again.He's obviously the main culprit and the main one to blame, but any woman that willingly partakes in tearing down a fellow woman to that degree is lower than scum. You have no idea how sad and stupid you are. I can tell by the way you're responding and by how you talk about this, that you have very little to no shame. Someone needs to knock some sense (and decency) into you, literally.
I am sorry if someone ever did this to you. But before you judge others , put yourself in their shoes. When you love someone , you can stoop so low that you don't even care what other people will say about you. All I was doing , was to get the love of my life back to my arms. And yes I am not proud of this, and I would never ever do something so low not even for the love of my love.I learned my lessons, and one day I will be one of the wise woman to give young girls a sound advice that I have experienced , not read somewhere.
We all walk in different paths in our lives.
You also have done worse things in your life than falling back with an ex if only u could open up and tell us , we would not judge you cause we not perfect.
In my experience with life , people who JUMP at other people's situations, they are the ones who have the most immoral deeds in their lives, so when they get any opportunity to judge others, they start acting like saints or virgins in bad behavior.*just saying*
There is no paper proof that I can present here to make my point, but TRUST me, I have not done nearly as much f*cked up shit towards other people as most people I come across have. So I'm WELL within my rights to call you on your shit. You're deflecting and attempting to put the spotlight on me with your "we all make mistakes" bullshit because you're wrong and you know it. I don't care if you felt like you "loved" him or any of that nonsense, you knew what you were doing was wrong and that's all that matter. Be a grown woman about your shit and stop making excuses for participating in such a vile act. I strongly believe in karma and this will come back around on you. Mark my words. You say "you're not proud" of this, yet you're still defending it by making excuses for why you did it. You're a manipulative one. It's easy to see that. You will reap what you sow.
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Ok Miss Perfect I understand you now.Atlesast you are perfect.
I know I am wrong , if you can go back and read all my posts.I did say I was not proud of myself.Atlea
Posted by rakac
So many judgemental comments......i myself have never cheated and never would,but i know a couple of couples who have been through that,they are stil together,it's all about how you go with things and how well you communicate,how much you love and how much work are you willing to put on,but your situation sounds bad,my advise would be walk away for now and live your life,if he is the one for you,fate will bring you together again,if not,you'll have another one....i'll tell you one of my fav quotes when it ends...
Maybe wel'll meet again, when we're slightly older and our minds less hectic, and i'll be right for you and you'll be right for me. But right now I am chaos to your thoughts and you are poison to my heart. 🙂
Sometimes you have to try your hardest not to care, no matter how much you do, because sometimes you can mean nothing to someone who means the world to you.It's not pride.It's self respect 🙂 goodluck!
Thank you so so much! I really appreciate your words! God bless you!
Posted by Namy
Sorry!Just walk away, he will never respect you cause you're willing to indulge. I just hate being the other woman, the one that has to hide and sneak.
It sucks big time! I know my worth now!
Posted by rakac
So many judgemental comments......i myself have never cheated and never would,but i know a couple of couples who have been through that,they are stil together,it's all about how you go with things and how well you communicate,how much you love and how much work are you willing to put on,but your situation sounds bad,my advise would be walk away for now and live your life,if he is the one for you,fate will bring you together again,if not,you'll have another one....i'll tell you one of my fav quotes when it ends...
Maybe wel'll meet again, when we're slightly older and our minds less hectic, and i'll be right for you and you'll be right for me. But right now I am chaos to your thoughts and you are poison to my heart. 🙂
Sometimes you have to try your hardest not to care, no matter how much you do, because sometimes you can mean nothing to someone who means the world to you.It's not pride.It's self respect 🙂 goodluck!Thank you so so much! I really appreciate your words! God bless you!
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welcome 🙂 bless you 2 🙂
Posted by Aquastic
So I broke up with my ex boyfriend after he told me about his new girl.after a month of the breakup I decide to call him and we met and we had protected sex almost everyday.But now m starting to feel guilty , cause the other girl doesn't know we cheating on her.I love this guy so much, and now he tells me him and his new girl are fighting and he wanna mend things with me again, so we can officially get back together.
But I am not sure if would want this kind of man in my future cause he cheated on me with her , now he's cheating on her with me.
I am not proud of this situation, and everytime ,m in his place I feel like a criminal.
A part of me wants continue and press all his buttons until he dumps the other girl without me telling him to, however the other part says I should just let him go, and start a new healthy relationship.
He is a Pisces and m a Aquatic woman.
Don't think twice no matter how much of an a $ $ -hole he is. Make you exit Hun cho chop.
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Thank studio91, it's about time I put this horror behind me! And focus on myself!
Posted by Finbuff
Whoa, whoa, Alicia. Who are we to judge? It's her life to try to get the guy back by whatever means necessary. I'd say the probability is low that it will work as expected, but in the end she will either lengthen the amount of time it takes to get "over him", or maybe get him back. All is fair in love and war.
Let her judge. This is life, as long as we still on this earth trouble will follow us. I myself use to judge girls who would do this kind of thing. I use to say "NEVER!" A whole lot, until it happened to me .and as such I have stopped judging people or their kind of relationship. One day she will eat her words!
Posted by Finbuff
Whoa, whoa, Alicia. Who are we to judge? It's her life to try to get the guy back by whatever means necessary. I'd say the probability is low that it will work as expected, but in the end she will either lengthen the amount of time it takes to get "over him", or maybe get him back. All is fair in love and war.Let her judge. This is life, as long as we still on this earth trouble will follow us. I myself use to judge girls who would do this kind of thing. I use to say "NEVER!" A whole lot, until it happened to me .and as such I have stopped judging people or their kind of relationship. One day she will eat her words!
You mean the same way you eat your ex-boyfriends dick after he just got done fucking his actual girlfriend the same day with that very same dick? Doubt it. I have more respect for myself than that sweetheart.
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Hold it right there you Miss Perfect!! Did I tell u or anyone I sucked his dick—? Just because you suck your boyfriends dick doesn't mean I do it!
I hope your boyfriend is fucking other women , and does not even tell you about it. And you suck other women's shit right after he fucked them!
You sound like a girl who have been cheated on a whole lot! Sorry I was not one whom you were cheated with. DO NOT TAKE IT OUT ON ME PLEASE!!!
And , he is my ex boyfriend for crying out loud, normal people know that feelings don't just vernish after a break-up dets why people go back to their safe zone to avoid sleeping around with a lot of men before they find the one meant for them.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Girl, bye. You're so sad.
You are the sad one! Dets your boyfriend cheats on you so much!!! You are full of.....
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Girl, bye. You're so sad.
You are the sad one! Dets why your boyfriend cheats on you so much!!! You are full of.....
Posted by cheekyfaerie
So you're gonna hang on till he dumps her and then you're gonna dump him?I even advised him not to break-up with her cause deep down I know I don't wanna win a cheating man.
You're so noble....noble like a vulture. What I wanna know is why you think you deserve better/non-cheating man?
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Because is not nice to be cheated on , or being the one whom they are cheating with. I experienced both sides , m talking from own experience.
And I can proudly say , I deserve a faithful man, since I know better now!
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So I broke up with my ex boyfriend after he told me about his new girl.after a month of the breakup I decide to call him and we met and we had protected sex almost everyday.But now m starting to feel guilty , cause the other girl doesn't know we cheating on her.
I love this guy so much, and now he tells me him and his new girl are fighting and he wanna mend things with me again, so we can officially get back together.
But I am not sure if would want this kind of man in my future cause he cheated on me with her , now he's cheating on her with me.
I am not proud of this situation, and everytime ,m in his place I feel like a criminal.
A part of me wants continue and press all his buttons until he dumps the other girl without me telling him to, however the other part says I should just let him go, and start a new healthy relationship.
He is a Pisces and m a Aquatic woman.