LEO WOMAN WONDERING WILL THE LIBRA MAN COME BACK?

Please can someone give me some advice/ help I was going out with a libra guy for 2 and a half years - it wasn't an easy time I will be honest, he suffered with depession and had difficulty believing in life, we walked through this together, then recently I have had a lot of issues health wise and career - he seemed to find it hard that I was trying to cope with this - within 5 weeks he kept saying he was upsetting me and he was no good for me - he should go and the next he wanted to stay - he sent me a text saying he had put a deposit on somewhere else to live , he didnt want to loose me but felt he should go. I was so upset we went to one of his counselling sessions together he literally tried to pull to bits because I was too good at everything I feel so lost and hurt that within 2 days he moved out and no contact - except to text and ask me to put his post in the bin cupboard!! His counsellor asked why couldn't I be his friend when he moved out - I trusted and loved him - I have friends I wanted to keep our relationship

can you delete the other 3 threads? i think you do so by flagging them.


as for your question, you're a fixed sign. perhaps you're too controlling and critical? aside from that, i learned a lesson a LONG time ago...

a man who isn't truly needed, won't stay.

a "real" man wants to be your knight in shining armor, provider, caretaker, backbone, foundation... if he's incapable of doing so, if you can do better by yourself, a "real" man will find it difficult to stomach the fact that he offers you nothing but his heart. he's faltered and where he may be a "man" in your eyes, he's missed the mark in his own.

i'm sure he appreciates your having been there for him but in a way, you probably remind him of what he is not. if he's going to counseling, he's trying to reconcile and deal with his issues.

how about you try comparing what he's going through to someone with an addiction going to AA/drug treatment program? this person is trying to heal and once healed, they don't want to return to their old stomping grounds. they want to overcome their past, not continually confront it. while they're doing so, this person's fam/friends need some therapy of their own.

is it possible that you contributed to/enabled his depression?

you said...

"recently I have had a lot of issues health wise and career - he seemed to find it hard that I was trying to cope with this - within 5 weeks he kept saying he was upsetting me and he was no good for me"

question, what were you doing to "cope?"

also, it's not about what happened during the last 5 weeks. this has been building so try not to focus on the catalyst, the "last straw," but rather try focusing on everything that led up to it.

It sounds like both of you have a lot of things to work out ... maybe you should be putting your focus on fixing yourself, rather than what he is doing because if he comes back now, while you both are still at this place ... then it will be the exact same.

Thank you that is what I am doing concentrating on my life - coping meant accepting the illness I have - I have got over one stroke and know I have to be careful but live life to the full.

Enabled his depression I allowed him to talk about - it was very difficult - me wanting to live him not seeing a reason to it.


Life has many lessons - I always believe people believe in rainbows but with sunshine we need rain