Marriage Q

Is it only right to marry someone you feel crazy about when you look at them. Or is it enough that they are a good person? How necessary is physical attraction for a lasting marriage...

Marriage is a contract. Commitment is what is required.

If being attracted to your partner helps you stay committed, than it would be necessary.

Because it is a contract no one is going to marry anymore. That's a huge title and responsibility...

in 10 years everyone changes in appearances actually year by year people change.

So in the beginning physical attraction is important if you are high sexual active person.. If you're mediocre in the sexual active or low sex drive then physical attraction isn't huhe at all love you for who you are..

I think you need a combination of both.

I mean how many people out there are attractive, but are just douchebags. The bad boy you can't get enough of physically, but treats you badly isn't going to make a good husband.

Then there's the good guy that would make an excellent husband, is respectful, sweet and a good provider, but isn't very attractive and the thought of sex with them isn't very appealing.

So, a combination of both, in my opinion. We deserve the whole package.

However, keep in mind that looks do fade with age and you're left with someone's personality and character. My ex-husband had six pack abs when we married. A few years later he had a big beer belly stomach. I didn't care, I loved him.

So, think about it this way - 20 or 30 years down the road are you still at least going to like this person? Will he or she be loyal to you and have your back? Marriage is a partnership - two people standing up against the world together, battling the downs together, celebrating the ups together.

So, in my opinion, a combination is ideal. Love is the deciding factor. Do you love them and what exactly is it do you love about them? Do you just love the way they look and kind of ehhh on their personality? (don't marry them). Do you love their personality and they are somewhat attractive? (marry them).

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Because it is a contract no one is going to marry anymore. That's a huge title and responsibility...

That sounds so sad.
Seems like a generational thing - a generation that doesn't have commitment or follow through.

Now, I'm not saying that everyone in that generation is like that, but I only hear comments like this either from someone in this generation or by someone who got screwed over by an ex.