Need advice for a Scorpio woman. From a scorpio woman would be appreciated.

This Scorpio lady, we went to primary school together. She doesn't remember much. found her accidentally on Instagram. Message her, and told her we went to school together. We talked a bit. Sent her pictures of us in school. During this time she was in New York taking classes for a year.

During that year, I talked to her once in a while. 2 times actually. 1 advice about some dance workshop. 2 about a cooking recipe since she likes to cook.

She came back to our country in August. I took the courage to ask her out for bowling. Told her she would be pick the day. And that I wanted to talk about something that been wanting to tell her for a long time.

Went 2 weeks without a reply. ( Wanted to tell her am sorry for something that happened at school when we were kids. And to give her a necklace glowing moon at the end of the bowling night.)

After two weeks, I text her on instagram, that I wrote in a letter what I wanted to tell her, and included the gift. I would leave it a the post office for her to pick, to not ask her for her address.

On that letter, I told her how sorry I was, reminded her the story. And that the bowling was still on if she still wanted to go to just play. As it was replaced with the letter. Bowling night was still on but for November. Didnt tell her it was so I got my salary to be able to pay.

She accepted and went and took it. Read the letter. She only told me that she remembers that day and that she accepted my apology. Didnt mention anything about the necklace or the bowling.

Same afternoon, Told her the necklace glows in the dark is she didn;t notice. Replied "Oh ok". This was 10th of October.

Note that she didnt follow me on instagram when she was in New York. On Facebook though she accepted the my friend request. But when I first asked her to meet at the bowling she started following me on instagram..

Week later, I ask her out again, if she would like to meet. This time at a lounge bar she goes often with her friend. That I would like to listen about New York, how she liked it and about the Dance class she wants to teach.And what she;s done with it so far. She's seen the message. Hasn't replied though. And 2 days later she unfollows me on instagram. She uses quite a lot adding stories.

Now, I think I pushed it. I want to text her that: I just want to hug her for that day at school. Tell her I am sorry the proper way. And that we can meet whenever she decides to. when she is ready. And if she would like to.

I really do not know what to do.

I am a Virgo man, she is Scorpio woman.

30 she is 29.



I am confused and I really want to see her, to hug her for real and tell her am sorry. And when I do see her, to talk about new york and her class for real. Befriend her and maybe it could go further. Because I care for her a lot. I mean for years I was hoping to see her a local festival near where she lives. Every year. To talk to her.

Really want to text her that I want to hug her. But dont want to send her another text where she did not replied to the previous ones.

On the other hand, leave it after I told her to meet at the her usual lounge bar to talk about new york and her class. Might think that all this was to get close to her and it didnt matter. That it was just to get her to meet and want what every other guy would want from her.

But if I text her, might seem to much because it might be a long text after 2 texts she did not reply. to

If I do text her, I am afraid she might block me, and never have the chance to see her or talk to her again.

Need some advice please!

Preferably from a Scorpio woman. :/

She isn't interested.

Why the obsession? Girls don’t like a guy that is too available, or too forthcoming without us showing interest back. Forget about her for now, live your life and who knows maybe in the future she’ll come back around and you can check her temperature again but don’t go overboard with any gifts or extra acts of affection if she hasn’t proved herself worthy.

Posted by Cappadonna

Why the obsession? Girls don’t like a guy that is too available, or too forthcoming without us showing interest back. Forget about her for now, live your life and who knows maybe in the future she’ll come back around and you can check her temperature again but don’t go overboard with any gifts or extra acts of affection if she hasn’t proved herself worthy.

Because I have been wanting to see her since we split schools. And do not want to miss the chance after all these years.

But, you are probably right.

I should be patient, but at the same time I worry, about not doing enough and let her get away. That is what is breaking me down.

You are right, not worry about her for now. Giver her space to cool down. Work on my self.

On 14th November it is her birthday. Will tell her Happy Birthday.

Should I do something if she responds?

Also anyone else's advice would be appreciated as well. For all this. Got no one to talk about this with.

And I do need the help. I think too much because of the conflict with fighting emotions vs reason.

Posted by Draog

Posted by Cappadonna

Why the obsession? Girls don’t like a guy that is too available, or too forthcoming without us showing interest back. Forget about her for now, live your life and who knows maybe in the future she’ll come back around and you can check her temperature again but don’t go overboard with any gifts or extra acts of affection if she hasn’t proved herself worthy.

Because I have been wanting to see her since we split schools. And do not want to miss the chance after all these years.

But, you are probably right.

I should be patient, but at the same time I worry, about not doing enough and let her get away. That is what is breaking me down.

You are right, not worry about her for now. Giver her space to cool down. Work on my self.

On 14th November it is her birthday. Will tell her Happy Birthday.

Should I do something if she responds?

Also anyone else's advice would be appreciated as well. For all this. Got no one to talk about this with.

And I do need the help. I think too much because of the conflict with fighting emotions vs reason.

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Telling her happy birthday is ok as long as you understand she may not even reply but if you want to take that risk and if it makes you feel better then sure why not.

And if a woman is not interested and you keep pushing for a connection she will run faster than a rabbit vibrator js...

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Sun is down, freezin' cold

Where? Paris?

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Posted by Draog

Posted by Cappadonna

Why the obsession? Girls don’t like a guy that is too available, or too forthcoming without us showing interest back. Forget about her for now, live your life and who knows maybe in the future she’ll come back around and you can check her temperature again but don’t go overboard with any gifts or extra acts of affection if she hasn’t proved herself worthy.

Because I have been wanting to see her since we split schools. And do not want to miss the chance after all these years.

But, you are probably right.

I should be patient, but at the same time I worry, about not doing enough and let her get away. That is what is breaking me down.

You are right, not worry about her for now. Giver her space to cool down. Work on my self.

On 14th November it is her birthday. Will tell her Happy Birthday.

Should I do something if she responds?

Also anyone else's advice would be appreciated as well. For all this. Got no one to talk about this with.

And I do need the help. I think too much because of the conflict with fighting emotions vs reason.

Telling her happy birthday is ok as long as you understand she may not even reply but if you want to take that risk and if it makes you feel better then sure why not.

And if a woman is not interested and you keep pushing for a connection she will run faster than a rabbit vibrator js...

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Yes, I do understand she might not even reply.

Would do it because it is her birthday anyway, and I believe anyone likes it when people wish them Happy Birthday.

It is not about making me feel better. It is about not losing contact with her and at least the last message would not be asking her to meet where she would felt annoyed by it but it would be wishing her birthday. Something positive at least.

:/

Yea it might have seemed to her like I came out of the blue to her.

I will be patient :/

"that'll probably her being like 🤔" What is the 🤔 meant to be ? I guess it is an icon that isn't being read by the forums?

From what I’ve read so far, I think you might be coming off too strong. If someone approached me that way then I’d feel pretty uncomfortable and back off, especially if I’m not romantically interested.

I’d suggest just leaving it for now. You’ve done your part, you shouldn’t push for anything further especially if she’s leaving you on read. Wait for her to initiate contact but don’t lose sleep over it or get your hopes up.

Posted by LaMadrina

she doesnt have the best memory of you. from what she did remember, you were a jerk. now here you are out of the blue wanting to do too much. the apology was okay. so was the making amends. but gifts, asking her out, and affection is a giant no!

we believe everyone has a motive. she probably thinks you only apologize because you want her. that makes your words seem insincere. also the gifts and outings make it seem like you're trying to buy her. i know you are not but all kinds of things run through Scorpio's mind when she is distrustful. She definitely doesn't trust you and she's creating space. Back off.

scorpio old woman

Oh that is exactly what is in my mind, what she might have thought. Misreading my motives.

"she probably thinks you only apologize because you want her." I apologised because because, I've been wanting to for more than 15 years. Not because I found her on instagram, seen that she is beautiful and decided to get her. I wanted this for years... I thought of her and cared for her before I have ever seen her since school.

There might be some truth though, following her on Instagram for a year, while she was in New York, I started falling for her. That might have affected my patience.

But wanting to meet her is purely because I wanted to tell her I am sorry for years, in person. The proper way. Not on a piece of paper. Or even worse through text. Those mean nothing. Feel nothing.

Been longing for that for so long.

That is the motive.

Then whatever happens... :/

" that makes your words seem insincere. also the gifts and outings make it seem like you're trying to buy her."

This was my thought after I asked her out the second time, asking her to meet to talk about New York and the class she wants to make... It does seem like it dismisses the rest, along with the apology as well. I see that... Should have left it with her response of "Oh ok" after telling her the necklace glows... :/ Leave it with her having the last reply.

What you wrote is what I fear and do not want her to believe or think that after the last message.

And you are a Scorpio woman :/

Will back off for now.

Will send her a Happy Birthday, though.

And I do Latin classes. Our teacher told us, we will go to a Lating party outing sometime in Novemeber.

The girl, she does dance, it is what she wants to do, went to New York for.

Thinking of telling her if she would like to come.

Like : " Name, we are going to go a Latin party with the school I go to. If you would like to come. We will go at "Place name" on "day". They are good people, and our teachers are awesome 🙂. If you want to go out somewhere and socialise."

What do you think?

There might be some truth though, following her on Instagram for a year, while she was in New York, I started falling for her. That might have affected my patience.

What I mean is through Instagram for a year, I saw what she might be like. Silly, caring, kind, observant, intelligent, likes to cook, lively, funny, sensitive. And it is attracting.

When I found her on Instagram, it was the time she was going to new york. or I would told her then. So I waited for her to return. And through that time, got attracted to her by what I was seeing. But now, that strong attraction, with all this thinking and space, is left to the side. Been almost two weeks since last messaged her.

Don't want to date her right now. I have things I have to sort for my self.

If she agrees to meet. Will tell her what I always wanted. Then if she wants to keep in touch, hang out, would be great.

Then would see how things would go. If I am still attracted to her, would ask her to date. But my care for her is real, that is no doubtful. If I saw her cry because she was hurt for any reason, i'd probably cry seeing her and do anything to help her. Because of that memory I have from school.

That is how I am with my little sister. I hate seeing her cry. Breaks my heart and would do anything for her.

This girl is at the level of care to me.

She is not with someone else at the moment.

Part of the reason why I lost some patience control and asked her again to meet. Out of fear missing a chance.

If she had one, would still want to meet her. Make amend. But also respect her boyfriend if she had one.

She is not though.

One thing... should I not wish her Happy Birthday on the 14th November, to give her even more space. Because she might think I did to get her attention? or might think I am creeping on her? or go "ye thanks. now go away" in her mind. And just only ask her to the Latin party. ( Dont know when the party will be. It is going to be on November for sure. Could even be before her birthday. )

Or do both?



I know I got too many worries and questions and I really do appreciate your replies. LaMadrina, Cappadonna, mewmewgirl and all.