Saying I love you first

IMO: if its been greater than 6 months than that is definitely an appropriate amount of time to fall for someone, and I believe you should have the right to express yourself without fear to this person you say you love. if its been less than 6 months i'd say don't let yourself worry about it, and just focus on getting to know him better to love even more.

Posted by Astrobyn
IMO: if its been greater than 6 months than that is definitely an appropriate amount of time to fall for someone, and I believe you should have the right to express yourself without fear to this person you say you love. if its been less than 6 months i'd say don't let yourself worry about it, and just focus on getting to know him better to love even more.

Thank you for your response Astrobyn 🙂

Yup what astrobyn mentions holds truth to that...

See here is when shit hits the fan you have a perfect relationship and ban I love you spews out either it is going to be a very good moment to cherish or its affiliates attachment that maybe isn't all that it seems..

@Op -And someone can show I love or very much interested in someone without words. But how long can you go with someone saying it everyday? Once a week? To every once awhile meanwhile you are still doing couple things? Does saying I love you really important to you in a relationship?

I know nothing about virgo men but I'm seeing a guy I am getting feelings for, and I am definitely playing it cool and letting him make first moves.
I was so proud of myself yesterday when I didnt notice him email me for 4 hours 😆

guys of all signs seem to be pretty sloooow moving with love.

try and relax and just enjoy the moment, thats what Im trying to do, with few expectations.

Calling some love is a pet name. Not actually saying I love you two different notions.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Hmm. I'd say he says it first more than I do now, but I was the one that said it first to start with. Think it was prolly a week or two before he caught up and we were somewhere around the 4mth mark. He'd been hinting at it for a bit tho. I just took the load off.

I know there's gender roles we're *supposed* to adhere to, but I've never regretted a single "I love you" that I've spoken. Can't say the same about the ones I didn't.

Good luck and don't stress about it. Sounds like you're doin fine.

I completely agree with this - I have never regretted saying I love you.

I dont believe in "I love you" . A person needn't EVER say it. Do you feel it? Does he show it? You already said it's serious so why bother 🙂 is it serious commitment on his part?

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Hmm. I'd say he says it first more than I do now, but I was the one that said it first to start with. Think it was prolly a week or two before he caught up and we were somewhere around the 4mth mark. He'd been hinting at it for a bit tho. I just took the load off.

I know there's gender roles we're *supposed* to adhere to, but I've never regretted a single "I love you" that I've spoken. Can't say the same about the ones I didn't.

Good luck and don't stress about it. Sounds like you're doin fine.

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saying I love you is the nicest thing you can say to someone and if you mean it, there is no way in hell you will regret it...

if I feel it I say it.
It's not a race... it just is.

I dont mind saying it first, might take a while for me to say it bcuz I need to make sure it's really love that I feel.

Not lust, infatuation, etc.

I like the words, otherwise I'd never fucking notice. I am the worse person to give this kinda of advice, so I'll lurk.

Posted by LovesRed
I am a female and in every relationship that I have been in I have waited for the man to say I love you first. Generally it seems that is something that men like to be in control of and I have always been fine with holding my declaration of love for the man I am with until he says it to me first. I am a bit more on the conservative side and I am sure there are a lot of females out there who do not care about traditional gender rules.

I am currently in a serious relationship with a Virgo male with a Libra moon. He has yet to say I love you, but he does call me 'love'. He is always showering me with sweet words so he is not your typical unromantic , scared of showing his affection/feelings Virgo. I have read that most Virgo men will like the woman to make the first move because he is so emotionally vulnerable.

I can definitely say that I love this man. But I am waiting for him to say it first.

Any Virgo men out there that have an opinion on this matter or what is the usual for you? Or if you have had this experience with a Virgo male.

Thank you 🙂)

If you say it first and he doesn't say it back how will you feel? Confident? Insecure? Nervous? Scared? Will your vibe change?
If you say it first, be confident, own it and don't have expectations that you will hear it back.

Posted by Libsizzler
I don't like the saying I love you or apologies. Deeds are what I like; good ones.

Leave the l love you words and roses for another chick.

Yes I have always been a believer that actions speak louder than words!