Taurus confuses Scorpio

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ScorpGirl83
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18 YearsScorpio

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After a brief fling in the summer, me and a Taurus male started talking again in October. This time, things between us were kept a secret because it had previously affected our work environment. However, things started off very differently this time. He would call and IM me all the time, but always played it off like I didn't really mean much to him. He doesn't like to compliment and he would tease me constantly about other girls that like him. A few weeks ago, we finally had sex for the first time. About a week and a half later, he told me that he worries about having me as his girlfriend because he thinks that he would lose some friendships over it. He also told me that he felt like he holds me back from achieving my dreams because he just started college and I'm already getting my Master's. (There's a bit of an age difference, he's almost 19 and I just turned 23). He told me that he's afraid that I will end up hating him somehow and that he would rather me hate him now. During our argument, he made some rude remarks and told me that he was through with me completely. The next day, though, he told me that he had changed his mind. I just don't understand all of this confusion. Right now, we're going through one of our many silent treatments again. They last a few days and then things go back to being amazing. Please help me figure out his confusion. Thank you.
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queridagirl
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"About a week and a half later, he told me that he worries about having me as his girlfriend because he thinks that he would lose some friendships over it"

He is not worth it then!!! If you really meant something to him, then he would be willing to confront his friends regarding this relationship!!

Sorry, girl... but it sounds like he is trying to be a sweetheart in telling you that this relationship won't be going anywhere... "holds me back from achieving my dreams" (he is just trying to find an excuse).

I am a Taurus, and i will be honest here... When I am through with someone I will try to find an argument just because it seems more appropriate to end things off!!

His last argument may have just been a vehicle to end things with you!!!

But don't despair!! He might regret it!!!

You guys work together right? If I were you, I would go to work looking exceptionally great? Try a new hairdo - it always seems to grab their attention!! And another opinion - be nice towards him, but cut him short and show him that you have better things to do in your life!!! And running after him is not one!!!

Let's see if he starts to do the running?

Good Luck!!
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ScorpGirl83
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Thanks for you great advice and I completely agree with what you said about him losing friends. The problem, however, is that I think that it's some of his family members that don't want us together because of the age thing. And yea, whenever I basically ignore him, he is the one who tries to IM, call, or talk to me first. It just always seems like he's going back and forth with me trying to decide what he really wants. But he's never really had a real girlfriend before, so I think that makes things more difficult for him cus in his words, "I don't sweat girls." He pretty much just "talks" to them, but as far as I know, I'm the longest sorta "relationship" he's had.
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queridagirl
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If he is worried that his family won't like you... then it becomes a tricky situation!

I have been in a relationship where my ex's family did not like me... and our relationship ended becasue of that!! There was no way getting around it!!!

But then again, he doesn't know just as yet, if his family will accept you or not? Perhaps the best would be that when he does come after you again... discuss this situation honestly with him and let him decide for himself what he wants to do?

But don't let him manipulate you in a such way that the relationship becomes conveniente for him!! A relationship is a two way thing!! Don't frame yourself for getting hurt!!!

Sometimes Love aint' enough to conquer all!!! Family is a powerful force in someone's life!!! If you see that he may bring you more hurt than pain, perhaps cutting your losses at the begining of a relationship is much less hurtful than what it would a few years down the line...
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ScorpGirl83
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Thanks for your input as well.

It's so weird for me with him cus normally I'm such a good natural flirt, but for some reason whenever I'm around him, I start acting like I have no interest in him. I told him the other night though that I was sorry that I act like that, but that it's just me trying to play off my feelings because he tends to do that as well. Otherwise I just don't really know how to show him how much he does mean to me. Any advice there lol?
Can it work?

What are some things to watch out for with the Scorpio man?

What are some thing that a Taurus woman should not do?
houstonpeach74
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hey guys, i'm new to these boards. glad to meet you all.

i was just wondering how a relationship between a scorpio guy and a taurus girl would work out? she's so sexy and it drives me nuts, but it feels like she's playing with me a little sometim
scorpio_wreck
@scorpio_wreck
19 Years500+ PostsScorpio
Joined: Jun 27, 2006 · Topics: 52 · Posts: 502
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Scorpio_Kira104
@Scorpio_Kira104
19 Years
Joined: Mar 09, 2006 · Topics: 9 · Posts: 47
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gulf_lite
@gulf_lite
19 Years
Joined: Feb 24, 2006 · Topics: 3 · Posts: 8
OK, I am currently dating a capricorn, you might know my posts from the Capricorn thread. Has anyone had positive experiences with Scorpio men? I dated one once for a year, he was really nice, sweet, and loving then I moved away. Well after 15 years, I sa
Wheretomylady
@Wheretomylady
19 Years
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Just so I can add to the stats, this does NOT work. My scorp man is a sweetheart deep inside but he rubs me the wrong way & irritates me to death some days. I don't even know how to break up, he seems obessively emotionally involved in a short time. Great
taurusgoddess
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20 Years1,000+ PostsTaurus
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