The Ex Games; Loss of a friend feels

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Silvuh
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For those of you who have had healthy (non tumultuous) romances in a serious commitment that just didn't work out, do you ever find yourself missing the companionship/ unity you once had?

More importantly, have you had these feelings amidst a new relationship?

Unfortunate to be me.

For the record, Scorpio with Aries Ascendant and Gemini moon -missing that exact aspect of what once was. I really care for my SO, I love him, he's great! but as of late i've worried if we can ever reach the depths once swam with my ex. Sometimes i feel like we float on the surface of things. Don't get me wrong, i don't miss him (ex) in any physical, romantic, or non platonic sense. I just cannot figure out why I've been reminiscing about the quality of friendship we had! Maybe, it can be traced back to sharing those all important "firsts" (dated from teens-20s) and all the sentiment that goes with losing such a fundamental relationship... Maybe its the seasons. Sometimes i feel its because of the (unfair) mental comparison between a 5 year relationship and a quickly approaching one year relationship with not too much "simmering" time in between. Ah well.

I'm interested in hearing experiences or views. Wondering if we all go through this one day or another.. Help me gain some levelheadedness haha
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Aquaviper
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I like to date my best friend so to speak. When the relationship ends it's like a double loss. My last ex was my rock. We talked all the time and enjoyed spending time together no matter what we did. It took months to get over (I typically bounce back somewhat quickly) because I constantly found myself wanting to tell him something or ask advice, etc.

In the past I've always remained on friendly terms with my ex's but this was the exception. We found we had become each others crutch because it was easy. I should add we had wonderful synastry; Moon conjunct Moon, Sun sextile Sun, Mars trine Venus, a loaded 1st and 5th house and complimentary elements.