@Brickhouse27
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What do you think about rebound relationships?
I think rebound relationships are inevitable...everyone has one at some point. I don't think anyone goes into it thinking "this is a rebound" it just ends up being one.
You can be single for 2 years and still get into a rebound situation.
I have to say though I think they are positive for someone to realize what they want out of a relationship. It's a good trail marker...helps one orient themselves back into the dating world.
If you are an introvert, another person is just not worth the hassle lol, much prefer my own space and time to work things over by myself. Idk about extroverts but it could work for them - help them get over the ex, heal their ego etc, since they gain energy from being around people in general anw
Posted by Boots1313
I think rebound relationships are inevitable...everyone has one at some point. I don't think anyone goes into it thinking "this is a rebound" it just ends up being one.
You can be single for 2 years and still get into a rebound situation.I have to say though I think they are positive for someone to realize what they want out of a relationship. It's a good trail marker...helps one orient themselves back into the daring world.
So what if their not happy in the relationship and its obvious from the people around them. Is it worth staying in the relationship, especially if your still communicating with your ex...
Posted by Horsey
If you are an introvert, another person is just not worth the hassle lol, much prefer my own space and time to work things over by myself. Idk about extroverts but it could work for them - help them get over the ex, heal their ego etc, since they gain energy from being around people in general anw
Yeah I see what your saying.
Posted by Boots1313
I think rebound relationships are inevitable...everyone has one at some point. I don't think anyone goes into it thinking "this is a rebound" it just ends up being one.
You can be single for 2 years and still get into a rebound situation.I have to say though I think they are positive for someone to realize what they want out of a relationship. It's a good trail marker...helps one orient themselves back into the daring world.
So what if their not happy in the relationship and its obvious from the people around them. Is it worth staying in the relationship, especially if your still communicating with your ex... click to expand
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No.
Not if it's a rebound and there are no real deep feelings.
Also you can't fully give yourself to a person if you are still communicating with an ex. To me that's shady.
Maybe that person needs some time alone and to be single instead of a rebound
Posted by tiziani
They are cool. I know 3 couples who started out agreeing to be each other's rebound and turned out to like one another a whole lot.It probably boils down to multi tasking.
Some people have this mindset they either work on themselves as a person or their share their time with a partner. People who can manage both are probably better suited to this, and to relationships in general.
Yeah I guess it just depends on the person.
You asked about typical time frame...
I'd say 1 to 6 months.
My recent one was ~5 months
Posted by Boots1313
You asked about typical time frame...
I'd say 1 to 6 months.
My recent one was ~5 months
Who ended it?
Posted by HoovesofTopaz
Those are never any good for anyone involved. Only things that can be considered “good” is the element of distraction and sometimes sex lolUsually only last around 0-6 months lol
Who ended it?
Posted by HoovesofTopaz
Those are never any good for anyone involved. Only things that can be considered “good” is the element of distraction and sometimes sex lolUsually only last around 0-6 months lol
Who ended it? click to expand
I haven’t been in a rebound since I was like 21 but I was the one that ended it. click to expand
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Maturity at its finest... it wasnt worth it huh?
Not healthy
I rebounded when I was younger and it lasted like 3 months. I ended it. I just didn't feel anything for the guy.
I was someone else's rebound and it lasted about 6 months. I ended it too. I just got tired and stopped taking his bullshit.
Posted by Dolluxxe
Not healthyI rebounded when I was younger and it lasted like 3 months. I ended it. I just didn't feel anything for the guy.
I was someone else's rebound and it lasted about 6 months. I ended it too. I just got tired and stopped taking his bullbutter.
Exactly, when you were younger. It's like a waste of time and energy
Posted by HoovesofTopaz
Those are never any good for anyone involved. Only things that can be considered “good” is the element of distraction and sometimes sex lolUsually only last around 0-6 months lol
Who ended it? click to expand
I haven’t been in a rebound since I was like 21 but I was the one that ended it. click to expand
Maturity at its finest... it wasnt worth it huh? click to expand
Problem with rebounds are you don’t take the same amount of time and effort to get to know them.. This Dude was a cry baby, always got too drunk, and wound up naked and falling into pointy sharp hedges. Lmfaoooooo
Def not worth it but I got some good stories. click to expand
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That's the main thing, it's just to pass time. I know you do lol.
Posted by Boots1313
You asked about typical time frame...
I'd say 1 to 6 months.
My recent one was ~5 monthsWho ended it? click to expand
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I did.
I just didn't feel like there were deeper feelings growing.
He was a nice guy and we treated each other well just there wasn't that "loving" feeling" and he wasn't in a place to fully commit.
So I kind of met someone in the meanwhile (I didn't cheat but he piqued my interest) and I figured if someone could make me feel something while I was in a relationship with someone else, that I needed to leave it because it's unfair. And so I did.
Posted by HoovesofTopaz
Those are never any good for anyone involved. Only things that can be considered “good” is the element of distraction and sometimes sex lolUsually only last around 0-6 months lol
I agree and disagree...
Usually good for sex, but I think there are other good qualities that come from it.
Sometimes one person gets hurts but usually it can be a mutual break uo, and I think it really helps people learn what they want out of a relationship.
Noone should ever settle.
Posted by HoovesofTopaz
Those are never any good for anyone involved. Only things that can be considered “good” is the element of distraction and sometimes sex lolUsually only last around 0-6 months lol
I agree and disagree...
Usually good for sex, but I think there are other good qualities that come from it.
Sometimes one person gets hurts but usually it can be a mutual break uo, and I think it really helps people learn what they want out of a relationship.
Noone should ever settle. click to expandYou didn’t name any good qualities, but only agreed on the sex part. LOL not convincing. click to expand
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Lol
For me, it taught me how to not be so co-dependent. Taught me a bit of self control.
I realized there are real gentlemen out there that are chiveralious and romantic, whom will open the door for you and buy you flowers just because.
The man I dated before him was a lazy Bum in comparison.
Unfortuanly, there wasn't a deeper connection and it was hard to leave a relationship where someone treated me well, but I said to myself "that man exists " and I was able to go out and not settle on the next Joe who came along. I made sure I found that person who was all of the above, but who I also felt connected with.
Like I also said rebounds help us assimilate back into the dating world.
Posted by Boots1313
You asked about typical time frame...
I'd say 1 to 6 months.
My recent one was ~5 monthsWho ended it? click to expand
I did.
I just didn't feel like there were deeper feelings growing.
He was a nice guy and we treated each other well just there wasn't that "loving" feeling" and he wasn't in a place to fully commit.
So I kind of met someone in the meanwhile (I didn't cheat but he piqued my interest) and I figured if someone could make me feel something while I was in a relationship with someone else, that I needed to leave it because it's unfair. And so I did. click to expandclick to expand
At least you were honest and knew what it was.
Posted by Boots1313
You asked about typical time frame...
I'd say 1 to 6 months.
My recent one was ~5 monthsWho ended it? click to expand
I did.
I just didn't feel like there were deeper feelings growing.
He was a nice guy and we treated each other well just there wasn't that "loving" feeling" and he wasn't in a place to fully commit.
So I kind of met someone in the meanwhile (I didn't cheat but he piqued my interest) and I figured if someone could make me feel something while I was in a relationship with someone else, that I needed to leave it because it's unfair. And so I did. click to expandAt least you were honest and knew what it was. click to expand
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Yes that's the hard part, being honest with youself and knowing when to leave.
I could have stayed, it was a "Nice" relationship, but I knew I wanted more.
HE was cool about it also btw...prob a rebound for him to,
He told a mutual friend that I was " a great girl, but not the girl for him"
so we both knew it wasn't long term.
Posted by Boots1313
You asked about typical time frame...
I'd say 1 to 6 months.
My recent one was ~5 monthsWho ended it? click to expand
I did.
I just didn't feel like there were deeper feelings growing.
He was a nice guy and we treated each other well just there wasn't that "loving" feeling" and he wasn't in a place to fully commit.
So I kind of met someone in the meanwhile (I didn't cheat but he piqued my interest) and I figured if someone could make me feel something while I was in a relationship with someone else, that I needed to leave it because it's unfair. And so I did. click to expandAt least you were honest and knew what it was. click to expand
Yes that's the hard part, being honest with youself and knowing when to leave.
I could have stayed, it was a "Nice" relationship, but I knew I wanted more.HE was cool about it also btw...prob a rebound for him to,
He told a mutual friend that I was " a great girl, but not the girl for him"
so we both knew it wasn't long term. click to expandclick to expand
Yep that is hard being honest but it's necessary. Yeah when both know it's better. Do you still communicate?
Posted by Boots1313
You asked about typical time frame...
I'd say 1 to 6 months.
My recent one was ~5 monthsWho ended it? click to expand
I did.
I just didn't feel like there were deeper feelings growing.
He was a nice guy and we treated each other well just there wasn't that "loving" feeling" and he wasn't in a place to fully commit.
So I kind of met someone in the meanwhile (I didn't cheat but he piqued my interest) and I figured if someone could make me feel something while I was in a relationship with someone else, that I needed to leave it because it's unfair. And so I did. click to expandAt least you were honest and knew what it was. click to expand
Yes that's the hard part, being honest with youself and knowing when to leave.
I could have stayed, it was a "Nice" relationship, but I knew I wanted more.HE was cool about it also btw...prob a rebound for him to,
He told a mutual friend that I was " a great girl, but not the girl for him"
so we both knew it wasn't long term. click to expandYep that is hard being honest but it's necessary. Yeah when both know it's better. Do you still communicate? click to expand
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no, not on our own accord.
He texted me on my birthday, and I ran into him around town 1x.
were civil, no reason to be mean to eachother...it wasn't a nasty break up.
Posted by Boots1313
You asked about typical time frame...
I'd say 1 to 6 months.
My recent one was ~5 monthsWho ended it? click to expand
I did.
I just didn't feel like there were deeper feelings growing.
He was a nice guy and we treated each other well just there wasn't that "loving" feeling" and he wasn't in a place to fully commit.
So I kind of met someone in the meanwhile (I didn't cheat but he piqued my interest) and I figured if someone could make me feel something while I was in a relationship with someone else, that I needed to leave it because it's unfair. And so I did. click to expandAt least you were honest and knew what it was. click to expand
Yes that's the hard part, being honest with youself and knowing when to leave.
I could have stayed, it was a "Nice" relationship, but I knew I wanted more.HE was cool about it also btw...prob a rebound for him to,
He told a mutual friend that I was " a great girl, but not the girl for him"
so we both knew it wasn't long term. click to expandYep that is hard being honest but it's necessary. Yeah when both know it's better. Do you still communicate? click to expand
no, not on our own accord.
He texted me on my birthday, and I ran into him around town 1x.
were civil, no reason to be mean to eachother...it wasn't a nasty break up. click to expandclick to expand
Yeah your right on that. Well that's a decent ending.
Posted by Boots1313
You asked about typical time frame...
I'd say 1 to 6 months.
My recent one was ~5 monthsWho ended it? click to expand
I did.
I just didn't feel like there were deeper feelings growing.
He was a nice guy and we treated each other well just there wasn't that "loving" feeling" and he wasn't in a place to fully commit.
So I kind of met someone in the meanwhile (I didn't cheat but he piqued my interest) and I figured if someone could make me feel something while I was in a relationship with someone else, that I needed to leave it because it's unfair. And so I did. click to expandAt least you were honest and knew what it was. click to expand
Yes that's the hard part, being honest with youself and knowing when to leave.
I could have stayed, it was a "Nice" relationship, but I knew I wanted more.HE was cool about it also btw...prob a rebound for him to,
He told a mutual friend that I was " a great girl, but not the girl for him"
so we both knew it wasn't long term. click to expandYep that is hard being honest but it's necessary. Yeah when both know it's better. Do you still communicate? click to expand
no, not on our own accord.
He texted me on my birthday, and I ran into him around town 1x.
were civil, no reason to be mean to eachother...it wasn't a nasty break up. click to expandYeah your right on that. Well that's a decent ending. click to expand
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Posted by LaMadrina
I think it's selfish as hell. Using someone you really have no interest in, just so you won't be lonely. Not that it has to do with loneliness, but more with ego. Deep down people are insecure about being alone and having self time before starting a new relationship. They may still pine for an ex. But you don't use someone to cope with that.
I totally agree. So why not just try to reach out to the ex?
Posted by HoovesofTopaz
Those are never any good for anyone involved. Only things that can be considered “good” is the element of distraction and sometimes sex lolUsually only last around 0-6 months lol
I agree .... desperate measures to fill the void
No-time-to-breath
....or heal
👎🏻
It depends...
Some people never recover from a broken relationship unless they fall in love with someone else...
Take a chance....
Ive never done the reboundthing myself, dont want people around me when im really down. but had a best friend that was a walking rebound, a cancer man. Never saw anything but short lived happieness and then days of regret and then a new girl and another day of happieness, back to regret, a never ending cycle.
I watched 1 rebound couple that was good for several months but it ended too.
Ive seen several guys steal another guys girl that worked out well but thats not a rebound.
Posted by 4reefer2man0
Ive never done the reboundthing myself, dont want people around me when im really down. but had a best friend that was a walking rebound, a cancer man. Never saw anything but short lived happieness and then days of regret and then a new girl and another day of happieness, back to regret, a never ending cycle.
I watched 1 rebound couple that was good for several months but it ended too.
Ive seen several guys steal another guys girl that worked out well but thats not a rebound.
Wow that's alot, see it never really works then.
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Are they worth it? Is there a typical time frame they last? Why the new interest is total opposite from the ex and so forth?