What’s the best way to ask people their sign when you meet them?

Hi

Whenever a guy starts talking to me I wish I could know what sign he is to see how compatible we could be.

I’ve given chances to signs that are not compatible with me because I don’t want to be so closed minded but for some reason it has never worked even though I want to believe it could.

I don’t ask people their signs because I know not everyone is into astrology so I prefer not to ask because some people think astrology is “dumb”.

But I really get curious and hate not knowing, especially because my last two failed relationships were with air signs, so I’d rather not go there. I prefer to give other guys a chance and see if we click better.

So how can I know at least their sun sign, not necessarily their whole chart. If I ask for their birthday they might already assume it’s because I want to know their sign and it might turn them off.

Do you ask people their signs? How can I do it without coming off as a crazy person obsessed with astrology?

I usually ask how old they are, and once answered, ask when will they turn _ yrs old 😂

I’ve never been found out, at least not to my knowledge lol

You’re a cancer, right ?

Also, I usually ask where they were born, but never in the same convo, so they can’t piece anything together (or suspect I’m asking for astrological reasons😂🤭)

Steal their wallet

My name is no

My sign is no.

i only get curious about someone’s birthday if they stick around in my life longer than 6 months or a year. by that time, i’ll just be like “hey when’s your birthday so i can write it down in my planner? i write all my friends’ birthdays here so i don’t forget. i’m so forgetful lol”

it’s not a lie cuz i actually am forgetful and so i have a habit of writing everything down.

just casually mention it in conversation.

they usually just give me their birthdays without side eyeing me like i’m crazy lol 😂

i also like getting birthday gifts for people, and sending birthday messages so it just makes sense to ask friends their birthdays.

do people even get that curious about temporary, “here today, gone tomorrow” type of people? lol cuz i just don’t 😅 i like stability.

also, about compatibility, i wouldn’t worry too much.

i’m a pisces/aries cusp (mostly air) and virgos and cancers as well as water moons tend to stay in my life, or come back around a lot as far as friendship goes. (males)

other reoccurring patterns:

venus in leo people, leo suns (due to my rising sign and jupiter being in leo)

taurus influence/2nd house people (i’m an 8th house sun so it could be that whole opposite/polarity thing)

gemini suns (i have moon/mars in gemini)

libra suns (am an aries sun so again, opposite/polarity thing?)

so instead of being like “i’m not compatible with air signs” maybe you can look at their other aspects like venus?

if you have gemini rising for example, you might attract a lot of gemini venus people? might even work harmoniously with them? i’m not too sure but yeah

Posted by TXCowboy
You look/act like a...:

See what happens from there! 🤷🏻‍♂️🤣

this is a smooth way of bringing it up too! i like that lol

it’s playful so it’s not suspicious lol

Posted by Rainbow87
Hi

Whenever a guy starts talking to me I wish I could know what sign he is to see how compatible we could be.

I’ve given chances to signs that are not compatible with me because I don’t want to be so closed minded but for some reason it has never worked even though I want to believe it could.

I don’t ask people their signs because I know not everyone is into astrology so I prefer not to ask because some people think astrology is “dumb”.

But I really get curious and hate not knowing, especially because my last two failed relationships were with air signs, so I’d rather not go there. I prefer to give other guys a chance and see if we click better.

So how can I know at least their sun sign, not necessarily their whole chart. If I ask for their birthday they might already assume it’s because I want to know their sign and it might turn them off.

Do you ask people their signs? How can I do it without coming off as a crazy person obsessed with astrology?

Mix it in with a short series of other questions.

It's not hard at all imo. Find something within the conversation that "randomly" brings up a past memory of a birthday from your childhood or past. It could be real, or fake. At that point "birthday" is now in the topic, and you can ask them when is their birthday without looking like you are prying into their personal information. Like you could even just bring up a memory from a personal birthday randomly. Again, it could be real or fake. If you act enthusiastic and outgoing enough while telling your story, asking them when their own birthday is won't even look out of place.

In conversation, I find birthdays come up. It’s not so hard to steer the conversation there. Or tell yours & ask when there’s is? It’s only fair 🙃

Current guy just tells me out of the blue, it was in his FB profile too 😉

Posted by poppyflower
I just straight up ask when their birthday is. 😁

Your Aries sun and my rising don’t mess about

😂😆

Good question. I'll read everyone's response thoroughly when I get some more time. Maybe ill learn how to go about asking people for their birthdays reading what the others say. I just wake up and bout to hit the shower if you will. I know one thing. Im not gonna do what poppyflower say cus ill get laughed at for sure. I can only tell you I don't know how to go about asking people their sign myself unless birthdays comes up during conversations and whatnot.

Ask for the star sign rather than birthday, since: 1) most people know their sign, even those who don't believe in it; 2) birthday is often used as a security layer and they may find this question coming from a stranger too intrusive.

All you have to do is to stir the conversation towards something they have done or liked/disliked or believed or whatever, and then your question will follow naturally in the context of trying to understand his/hers motivations.

If you are unable to have a slightly deeper conversation that a chit-chat, then asking for their star sign is none of your business.

"steer the conversation"

What happened to the edit button?

Posted by Rainbow87
Hi

Whenever a guy starts talking to me I wish I could know what sign he is to see how compatible we could be.

I’ve given chances to signs that are not compatible with me because I don’t want to be so closed minded but for some reason it has never worked even though I want to believe it could.

I don’t ask people their signs because I know not everyone is into astrology so I prefer not to ask because some people think astrology is “dumb”.

But I really get curious and hate not knowing, especially because my last two failed relationships were with air signs, so I’d rather not go there. I prefer to give other guys a chance and see if we click better.

So how can I know at least their sun sign, not necessarily their whole chart. If I ask for their birthday they might already assume it’s because I want to know their sign and it might turn them off.

Do you ask people their signs? How can I do it without coming off as a crazy person obsessed with astrology?

You don't. You establish a relationship and when something comes up like a minor conflict or misunderstanding THEN you look synastery.

Sometimes we are drawn to people for a reason. That needs to play out. Perception is interpretation and can create bias.

In astrology it's possible to create issues that are not there by actively conscious stimulating the aspect.

Without really studying astrology academically, The SAFEST way to look at synastery charts is a map of natural connections and influences you may have on each other. The connections themselves.

Case and point You are putting too much value on sun placements.

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Rainbow87
Hi
Whenever a guy starts talking to me I wish I could know what sign he is to see how compatible we could be.
I’ve given chances to signs that are not compatible with me because I don’t want to be so closed minded but for some reason it has never worked even though I want to believe it could.
I don’t ask people their signs because I know not everyone is into astrology so I prefer not to ask because some people think astrology is “dumb”.
But I really get curious and hate not knowing, especially because my last two failed relationships were with air signs, so I’d rather not go there. I prefer to give other guys a chance and see if we click better.
So how can I know at least their sun sign, not necessarily their whole chart. If I ask for their birthday they might already assume it’s because I want to know their sign and it might turn them off.
Do you ask people their signs? How can I do it without coming off as a crazy person obsessed with astrology?

You don't. You establish a relationship and when something comes up like a minor conflict or misunderstanding THEN you look synastery.

Sometimes we are drawn to people for a reason. That needs to play out. Perception is interpretation and can create bias.

In astrology it's possible to create issues that are not there by actively conscious stimulating the aspect.

Without really studying astrology academically, The SAFEST way to look at synastery charts is a map of natural connections and influences you may have on each other. The connections themselves.

Case and point You are putting too much value on sun placements.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Rainbow87
Hi
Whenever a guy starts talking to me I wish I could know what sign he is to see how compatible we could be.
I’ve given chances to signs that are not compatible with me because I don’t want to be so closed minded but for some reason it has never worked even though I want to believe it could.
I don’t ask people their signs because I know not everyone is into astrology so I prefer not to ask because some people think astrology is “dumb”.
But I really get curious and hate not knowing, especially because my last two failed relationships were with air signs, so I’d rather not go there. I prefer to give other guys a chance and see if we click better.
So how can I know at least their sun sign, not necessarily their whole chart. If I ask for their birthday they might already assume it’s because I want to know their sign and it might turn them off.
Do you ask people their signs? How can I do it without coming off as a crazy person obsessed with astrology?

You don't. You establish a relationship and when something comes up like a minor conflict or misunderstanding THEN you look synastery.

Sometimes we are drawn to people for a reason. That needs to play out. Perception is interpretation and can create bias.

In astrology it's possible to create issues that are not there by actively conscious stimulating the aspect.

Without really studying astrology academically, The SAFEST way to look at synastery charts is a map of natural connections and influences you may have on each other. The connections themselves.

Case and point You are putting too much value on sun placements.

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“You don't. You establish a relationship and when something comes up like a minor conflict or misunderstanding THEN you look synastery.

Sometimes we are drawn to people for a reason. That needs to play out. Perception is interpretation and can create bias.

In astrology it's possible to create issues that are not there by actively conscious stimulating the aspect. “



^^this…! i couldn’t agree more…!



there’s something sad and unfortunate about going into a friendship or relationship with negative projections/predictions you created in your head like “ugh we have so many squares and oppositions this is gonna suck so badly.” or like “ugh this person’s moon squares my moon. we are gonna have so much issues. why even bother in the first place?”

almost as if like you’re preparing yourself for misfortune. maybe that person we just wrote off based solely on astrology had many things to teach us that could’ve enriched our lives in some way or form. and maybe we could’ve helped them in some way or form too.

i’m glad i didn’t write off the pisces moon male or the cancer sun male in my life because they both taught me so much and changed my life in ways i couldn’t believe. i didn’t look at both their charts until a few months in. heck, i didn’t even look at my spouse-to-be’s chart until like 8 months in lol 😅 i wanted to let it play out. let all connections play out naturally like you said.

we don’t have to be in such a rush, narrowing down our own options with bias, projecting our saltiness (😅😂) on new people who had absolutely nothing to do with anything from our past, we’re gonna develop unnecessary wrinkles from always frowning and being on guard lol

don’t overlook obvious red flags. but don’t imagine problems that aren’t there.

those who aren’t meant to be in our lives will just fall away on their own.

Well here's part 2 of my post.

The only way I know how to do this is strike up a conversation about birthdays. Of course it would be easy for me because I have my zodiac sign tattoo on display. Like I can't just walk up to a perfect stranger and ask when's your birthday or at first meeting someone new. That would get me one of those stink faces response.

Just strike up a conversation. Tons of people probably already mentioned that anyway.

Have you guys tried not caring at all?

Posted by Sleepyquantro1
I usually ask how old they are, and once answered, ask when will they turn _ yrs old 😂

I’ve never been found out, at least not to my knowledge lol

You’re a cancer, right ?

That's how I do it too. 😁

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Posted by Sleepyquantro1
I usually ask how old they are, and once answered, ask when will they turn _ yrs old 😂

I’ve never been found out, at least not to my knowledge lol

You’re a cancer, right ?

That's how I do it too. 😁

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It’s never fails me, and they never suspect that I’m asking for astrology 🤭

Posted by StubbornSag
Why not simply ask when is their birthday? What's wrong with knowing someone's birthday, regardless on astrology?

She’s asking how to go about without letting them in on the fact that it’s for astrology, bc some guys are turned off by it or feels that it’s stupid

Personally I don't see anything wrong with asking someone their bday, but I get why OP feels that way, bc I’ve encountered guys that even hate the topic of Astrology being brought up 😂🤷🏽‍♀️

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Posted by Sleepyquantro1
I usually ask how old they are, and once answered, ask when will they turn _ yrs old 😂

I’ve never been found out, at least not to my knowledge lol

You’re a cancer, right ?

That's how I do it too. 😁

It’s never fails me, and they never suspect that I’m asking for astrology 🤭

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Same for me. 😄

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Posted by StubbornSag
Why not simply ask when is their birthday? What's wrong with knowing someone's birthday, regardless on astrology?

She’s asking how to go about without letting them in on the fact that it’s for astrology, bc some guys are turned off by it or feels that it’s stupid

Personally I don't see anything wrong with asking someone their bday, but I get why OP feels that way, bc I’ve encountered guys that even hate the topic of Astrology being brought up 😂🤷🏽‍♀️

Yeah but asking about birthday doesn't directly indicate you're into astrology, you could simply be asking out of interest in them. You can also make it into something funny about birthday presents if topic leads you there, not out of nowhere ofc. Anyway, I have no problem being straight up about it and even if they are that much against it, that could be considered a filter too. If we can't talk about anything under the Sun, we're not for each other right away, because I prefer people I can talk to about literally anything🤷🏼‍♀️ so if they have no interest in my topics of interests, then we have no things in common to continue

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And that remind me. I always play dumb (like I don't already know) and ask when this scorpio girl birthday is so I can get her a present. And when my birthday is near I ask her you gone get me something for my birthday. I want a present. See, I like to play like that asking about birthdays. Not because I'm serious in knowing. And I wouldn't dare ask for a birthday present from any other sign if I don't know them enough to open up my playful self like that.

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Posted by StubbornSag
Why not simply ask when is their birthday? What's wrong with knowing someone's birthday, regardless on astrology?

She’s asking how to go about without letting them in on the fact that it’s for astrology, bc some guys are turned off by it or feels that it’s stupid



Personally I don't see anything wrong with asking someone their bday, but I get why OP feels that way, bc I’ve encountered guys that even hate the topic of Astrology being brought up 😂🤷🏽‍♀️

Yeah but asking about birthday doesn't directly indicate you're into astrology, you could simply be asking out of interest in them. You can also make it into something funny about birthday presents if topic leads you there, not out of nowhere ofc. Anyway, I have no problem being straight up about it and even if they are that much against it, that could be considered a filter too. If we can't talk about anything under the Sun, we're not for each other right away, because I prefer people I can talk to about literally anything🤷🏼‍♀️ so if they have no interest in my topics of interests, then we have no things in common to continue

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I agree! Asking someone’s birthdate doesn’t necessarily mean it’s astrology related, by my response was just based on OP’s assumption…stating “ most people assume you’re into astrology “.

I’ve done both! 😂

It’s been times where I asked about birthdates, making it appear as just general convo, knowing I planned to look up that persons birth chart, but also times where I just asked straight up. I’ve been hesitant in certain situations as to not come off looking like the crazy astrology lady 😂, and other times I could care less if they weren’t into astrology or what that person thought about people who were.

I definitely feel you on “if they have no interest in my topics of interest…”

I feel the same way to an extent. Someone doesn’t have to be into astrology for me to be interested, but does have to be open minded enough, to be willing to listen/discuss of I initiate.

Quickest way to turn me off/ put out my fire, is to be closed minded.

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Posted by StubbornSag
Why not simply ask when is their birthday? What's wrong with knowing someone's birthday, regardless on astrology?

She’s asking how to go about without letting them in on the fact that it’s for astrology, bc some guys are turned off by it or feels that it’s stupid







Personally I don't see anything wrong with asking someone their bday, but I get why OP feels that way, bc I’ve encountered guys that even hate the topic of Astrology being brought up 😂🤷🏽‍♀️

Yeah but asking about birthday doesn't directly indicate you're into astrology, you could simply be asking out of interest in them. You can also make it into something funny about birthday presents if topic leads you there, not out of nowhere ofc. Anyway, I have no problem being straight up about it and even if they are that much against it, that could be considered a filter too. If we can't talk about anything under the Sun, we're not for each other right away, because I prefer people I can talk to about literally anything🤷🏼‍♀️ so if they have no interest in my topics of interests, then we have no things in common to continue

I agree! Asking someone’s birthdate doesn’t necessarily mean it’s astrology related, by my response was just based on OP’s assumption…stating “ most people assume you’re into astrology “.



I’ve done both! 😂

It’s been times where I asked about birthdates, making it appear as just general convo, knowing I planned to look up that persons birth chart, but also times where I just asked straight up. I’ve been hesitant in certain situations as to not come off looking like the crazy astrology lady 😂, and other times I could care less if they weren’t into astrology or what that person thought about people who were.



I definitely feel you on “if they have no interest in my topics of interest…”

I feel the same way to an extent. Someone doesn’t have to be into astrology for me to be interested, but does have to be open minded enough, to be willing to listen/discuss of I initiate.

Quickest way to turn me off/ put out my fire, is to be closed minded.

Yup, exactly that. They just need to be open minded. I don't expect them to know enough to discuss it with me or to understand it as deep as I do, but if they're straight up against it, then we have no things in common😂 cause at some point I'm just going to have to say that is so "(their sign)-ish from you..." jokingly and they can't be worked up every time I mention the topic😂

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I agree with so much, that I could’ve wrote it myself 😂

Just ask when his birthday is

I just ask outright. Usually after several interactions though. Besides the astrology part, I like knowing because I genuinely love to wish someone a happy Birthday. It gives me the warm fuzzies to know I told someone happy birthday on their solar return.

Well if you really like them you will know them longer and the Zodiac sign will come out by itself.

My son is dating a girl, her mother was trouble from day one. I told my son I don't know her SUN sign, but for sure Moon is in Libra. Was correct unfortunetly.