Why are capricorns so hot and cold?

I recently stumbled upon this site with other questions about capricorns and I loved all the in sight! I thought it'd give it a go?

My cap was hurt in a previous relationship, with a woman he wanted to marry. He's an older cap. Anyway, he told me had trust issues, in the begining. He's cocky, has an inapropriate sense of humour, vain. I've met his friends, and his siblings, and we used to go out together. His friends were eager to meet me. He's definatley family oriented. We fooled around, but didn't hit home base, if you know what I mean. This was my doing, because I wasn't ready. It's been three months, and unfortunatley, my low self-esteem, caused me to want to please him at every turn, because I felt I wasn't good enough. This caused me to be very sensitive and my friends noticed that I acted very different around my cap. I always apologized to my cap for anything I did, to the point where he told me to stop apologizing. He said I was a sensitive chick (I'm not in reality, I like him so much I made myself like that). My cap usually calls me everyday, I never call him. (One time he even asked why I don't call him, in a joking manner). He's so hot and cold though, one minute he's sweet, the next he's rude. He recently called me his "friend" and when I confronted him about this, he said he wasn't into labels. I told my cap that I was into labels and that I was leaving the ball in his court, after that he didn't bring up the subject at all and last week, he would call for five minutes, then tell me he would call me back. And he wouldn't! I would wait up for him and told him I did and it wasn't nice to do that. I told him I missed talking to him, and he called me back, which was last sunday. After that he didn't call me at all. Two days later with no contact, I called him this past wednesday and now, four days later, he hasn't called at all. I fear that it's over with my cap, but it makes me sad because I'm finally ready to be myself! What can I do?

he is c*cky, i meant lol

You shouldn't change who you are for any potential mate. I am a gemini also. The qualities that acttract me o capricorn are usually in the beginning. He doing you a huge favor by not calling you back. Let him ind love with a virgo or something! You'll be bored.

One of my best friend is a Gemini, and another friend (she is Cappy)'s husband is a Gemini. This pair can work well well.

If is see it right, in this pairing Capricorn should lead things, and be very stable in herself. (Even if he/she is not stable) he/she should know if he want the relationship or not.

On the Gemini side, you should definitely start to be a bit more open. Capricorn are very private people, and i think Geminis generally are very open. If he is the only one who initiates thing he will think that you don't want to be with him. If you want him be more open, talk about your feelings. At this point probably he is already thinking if he can be with you or not. Fight for him, you have nothing to lose! And also you will feel better, no matter of the outcome, you can say you did what you could.

Oh, most importantly. It's about you, and not about him.

I have this mistake you. Insecurities, "am i good enought?" kinda things. So more and more you will lose yourself, just to please him. It won't make you happy. It can never make you really happy. I am in the process of learning why i act like this, what should i change about this. Please do the same. Ok?

Whatch your parents relationship and try to analyse it. Maybe they give you not the best example to love matters. (Sorry, i don'T want to talk bad about your relative, i am just guessing here.) Look around you and see the relationship of your friends. If you see happy couples go to them and ask them, how it's work, what they do, how they handle conflicts etc. Or how they started daintg.

First solve the problem inside you. I am having this same problem, so i know it's hard. But i am almost sure, that if you don't love yourself enough, you can never be happy in a relationship.