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Why do women do this in dating and relating?? (Page 2)
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Posted by coolcappyPosted by bkbella86
I have it a lot better with someone I know and trust and am compatible with on top of which I actually love and it's not just selfish lust! So, I'm not even curious.click to expand
That right there sounds like you think you're better than single women. Your relationship is perfect huh? Lol, are you married?
Don't even know what you wrote because I don't care to read a block of useless text. As I thought. 12 years to the same person & he has YET to marry you. Lol, perfect example, trying to CONVINCE everyone you're SO happy is evidently clear that you're NOT.
Okay so this part about a guy not even paying his girlfriends electric bill?
Bring me a bucket, I feel a wave of nausea... Didn't the sufrogants emancipate you all from this sort of slavery?
Bring me a bucket, I feel a wave of nausea... Didn't the sufrogants emancipate you all from this sort of slavery?
Just as Rocky mentioned. One of those DESPERATE broads to put up with anything just to be in a relationship, lol.
Posted by coolcappyPosted by bkbella86
wow....you sound like the woman she is referring to. Why brag about such things as if you are better than people who dont have it like you. Whats gonna happen when you break up if it happens and cant find another mate QUICKLY? Are you still going to be this happy and a braggart? I doubt it. If you always in a relationshiop and never been single and are only happy in relationships then you sound just like the women decrsibed...your no diff
Alow me to enlighten your chip up your brain. How am I supposed to know I'm only happy in a relationship as you accuse me of if I've never yet been in the situation of being single and see what's like?! I have never stated I am happy only in relationships but that I've been only in relationships as they came to me quickly and easily without seeking them! And that they seem to make me extremely happy.
I yet have to see, if I'll ever get the chance, how I'll feel single. My suspicion is it'll be great! Not much will change for me except him gone. But I'll most probably enjoy my popularity and the sex I'll be getting, that's providing I'll loosen up on the idea of STI's and risks of it! And I'm sure once I'd be made feeling safe I'll be like unbelievably happy about it. The only positive I can imagine about being single is the fact that you get to sleep with various different people and whom you'd fancy whenever, wherever. But the way I feel right now and until now I'm not actually missing anything out there because I have it a lot better with someone I know and trust and am compatible with on top of which I actually love and it's not just selfish lust! So, I'm not even curious. And I doubt much has been changed in 12 years, right! Sex is sex no matter what decade you have it in.click to expand
girl bye....you cant convince me.... a person who has never allowed themself to be sinlge ever in life has an issue with being dependent on others. I mean when did you start dating at 2?
if its the truth why even chime in to this post and go HARD at convincing everyone of your truth? fishy fishy.
im an idiot but you continue to read and respond to what I write......why result to calling people names?
Posted by bkbella86
if its the truth why even chime in to this post and go HARD at convincing everyone of your truth? fishy fishy.
The bragging alone was pretty telling. That's what got under my skin. It's like, who the hell cares? Good for you, but I really don't give a shit, tbh.
And this thread is bashing women in relationships? Talk about skewing this like whoa.
Those two seem to be very insecure about their relationships because BOTH came in, all defensive, not "sharing" their view, but trying so hard to prove that their situation was a okay. In turn came the judgemental bullshit toward single people and boasting how great you both were because you were in relationships.
Now it's twisted into how THEY'RE being bashed? Don't like it when someone calls them on their conceit?
Lenore, I gotta give you credit, at least you get the other side of the argument. Your most recent comment is really off though and reaching for straws just to win the argument. The fact that both of you took this thread personally when it was about women with issues who cannot stand to be alone says a lot. If your relationships are fine and you're happy in your situation, so be it. If you know it doesn't apply to you, then why are you getting so offended and defensive? Why were both of you trying so hard to prove yourselves? Why brag about how great you think you are and how you look down on single people as being unhappy? It has nothing to do with disagreeing with you, but all the conceit, defensiveness, and judgement that was laced throughout all of the posts you two had that got the reaction it did. You were both far from sharing your side and basically proved my point. A "my situation is fine with me because of x,y,z." would have sufficed. Not the catty bullshit that was posted under the guise of "sharing" your experiences.
Sounds like this thread hit a nerve with both of you and you two seem to be very insecure about your life choices if you're this jumpy when a topic like this comes up.
This cap chick is just fucking looney tunes, though. :/
Both of you need to get your estrogen under control though. It shows in your arguments.
Posted by Lenore0908
When was the last time a group of married/coupled-up women created a thread on dxp bashing single women?
A "coupled up" woman created this thread to question why women are dipshits when it comes to guys. I'm not understanding your logic here.
Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by Sag89
Sexist men! haha ( not going there again 😉 )
I think if people tried to connect w self better while practicing connecting w ppl better at the same time. I mean REAL connection. Not this shallow shit we are suppose to look for in a " ideal " match. Things could be better.
Society won't teach you that though. And I think more ppl look at that for role models which suck cause their real aren't many good ones. They don't let them be upfront.
I've read we're all connected to each other and live under an illusion of separation
which would have meant that I'm already connected to you 🙂 my hopes were up 😢
I need to stop reading that metaphysical mumbo-jumboclick to expand
We're all connected through the internet right now. ...close enough? :p
Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by Sag89
Sexist men! haha ( not going there again 😉 )
I think if people tried to connect w self better while practicing connecting w ppl better at the same time. I mean REAL connection. Not this shallow shit we are suppose to look for in a " ideal " match. Things could be better.
Society won't teach you that though. And I think more ppl look at that for role models which suck cause their real aren't many good ones. They don't let them be upfront.
I've read we're all connected to each other and live under an illusion of separation
which would have meant that I'm already connected to you 🙂 my hopes were up 😢
I need to stop reading that metaphysical mumbo-jumboclick to expand
you took that out of context and tried to make me sound like a hippy which wasn't what i was saying at all.
Posted by Lenore0908
*You're the only one getting upset and getting aggressive, so how am I taking it personally? I didn't insult you, so why are insulting me and CoolCappy. Anyway, do you it's your life it's your world. This isn't a ocnversation, this is a battlezone, for what I don't know.
It started to be a battle zone as soon as you both came in looking down on others like you did, further illustrating my point.
But like I said, props to you. You aren't totally in lala land like the cap chick. :/
Posted by coolcappyPosted by RealTalk
Don't even know what you wrote because I don't care to read a block of useless text. As I thought. 12 years to the same person & he has YET to marry you. Lol, perfect example, trying to CONVINCE everyone you're SO happy is evidently clear that you're NOT.
wow you really don't understand your own language!!
we are married since 9 years! and it wouldn't be the first time I state, together with him since 12 and married since 9 years. wow I am really starting to believe only idiots try and offend me lol read properly and try and analize! How much simpler can I make a sentance sound to you? I said it clearly we are married but it doesnt mean more than a relationship that piece of paper we signed is the only thing saying we're married but it really is just a piece of paper!
Jesus, why so many imbeciles in the world when's so easy to at least use common sense. Why am I made feeling often I know english better than a lot of english native speakers lol when I know I shouldn't!
This was the proof there, you said it. I feel no need for me to explain myself anymore. Feel free to envy me though because it doesn't get to me. One of my forte as a Cap is being totally carefree when it comes to what people think of me or my actions! And I'm very good at showing you the cold sholder because I haven't got the time to talk to morons!click to expand
Bitch please....I'm not about to read all of that bullshit you write, but thanks for proving my point ya dumb shit.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by bkbella86
Those two seem to be very insecure about their relationships because BOTH came in, all defensive, not "sharing" their view, but trying so hard to prove that their situation was a okay. In turn came the judgemental bullshit toward single people and boasting how great you both were because you were in relationships.
click to expand
That's the thing that aggrivated me. It's CLEAR that they're unhappy in their uh..."relationships", or lack there of so addressing how "great" they are is a way to make themselves feel a little better.
Posted by PiscVirgAquaFishPosted by MountainLeo
Okay so this part about a guy not even paying his girlfriends electric bill?
Bring me a bucket, I feel a wave of nausea... Didn't the sufrogants emancipate you all from this sort of slavery?
Okay...I don't know if you were addressing my quote or not so fug it I'm gonna respond. If you were responding to my post either you didn't read the whole sentence or you're trifling as well. If we f*cking on the regular, you are my "boyfriend", and I lose my job, I expect that you wouldn't let me get my d*mn lights cut off. And if you did, ain't no way in h*ll you would be back when my lights came back on. If I'm f*cking you on the regular, and I am your "girlfriend", and you lose your job, I wouldn't let you get your lights cut off. And if so I wouldn't bring my trifling behind back to your house once they came back on out of respect. If you disagree with this assessment I will grab two buckets, one for you, and one for me. Because the thought of someone being that trifling makes me ill as well.click to expand
Lol...
Posted by CluelessCancer
Of course women who do jumping jacks through relationships are weird, i just don't get them at all....
They hate themselves.
Posted by Lenore0908
Coolcappy is just being misunderstood. She is offering another perspective that opposes your own. It's not a popular view, so of course she is going to ruffle some feathers. But it is HER reality, and it's just as valid as your reality. People aren't going do things you agree with. Some people are serial daters. It has no effect on you. Not everyone is judging you for, I assume, talking extended periods alone to work on yourself. Does that make you better than someone who has not had extended periods of the single life? Does that mean you are more "evolved" then them?
That's essentially what your OP was saying.
You seriously don't get it.
Posted by tizianiPosted by CluelessCancer
I was single for a very long time prior to the Virgo , on purpose too, very single...i don't think i'll ever go back to that mind state, even if it hurt like heck dealing with this person, i prefer developing that aspect of me (relationships) than chilling for another however many years being single.
Being single doesn't entail you're reflecting or know what your needs are, it could also mean you're a love avoidant...than when men like the VIRGO come you lose all types of common sense and even yourself.
Sometimes relationships are good so you can learn from them. Of course women who do jumping jacks through relationships are weird, i just don't get them at all....
It's a good point.
I don't know why this thread turned into a battle.click to expand
Because you have two very dense females who just cannot comprehend why there was an issue with their approach.
Posted by coolcappyPosted by rockyroadicecream
Why do they perpetuate the bullshit? Why do they let bad treatment happen? Why are they so desperate for relationships?
First of all this post should have had a totally diffrent title! It isn't new that single women dislike and continuously bash and misunderstand women in relationships than the opposite. And it is because the singles feel the need to prove their attitude as well as choice more than the women in relationships.
click to expand
That's not what this was about, you freaking retard. You're the one who came in here and flipped it, looking down on single women, acting as if you're better than they are because you are in a relationship.
You two are exactly like the two girls I was talking to who sparked the idea of this thread.
This isn't about single vs taken. This is about women who think their lives should revolve around a relationship to the point where it's unhealthy. Where they are NEVER single because they CHOOSE to jump from relationship to relationship because they cannot handle being alone. They choose to stay in unhealthy relationships because oh no, it's so terrible being single. Something will be wrong with them if they're alone! Can't have that!
YOU came in with the vibe that you were trying to convince everyone that you were oh so happy in your relationship (which was fine, but it was a bit strange that you were trying so hard to convince everyone) but started peppering snide bs in your posts. The shitty attitude toward single people is what got shit to fly. Your insecure ass took it personally and twisted what the topic is around because you did not understand the point, apparently.
That said, I'm done addressing you as you clearly are dense and not capable of thinking logically. I'm tired of constantly repeating myself and rewording so you can begin to comprehend. I don't think either of you are ever going to get the point being made because apparently you're just like the women I'm referring to?
Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by Sag89Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by Sag89
Sexist men! haha ( not going there again 😉 )
I think if people tried to connect w self better while practicing connecting w ppl better at the same time. I mean REAL connection. Not this shallow shit we are suppose to look for in a " ideal " match. Things could be better.
Society won't teach you that though. And I think more ppl look at that for role models which suck cause their real aren't many good ones. They don't let them be upfront.
I've read we're all connected to each other and live under an illusion of separation
which would have meant that I'm already connected to you 🙂 my hopes were up 😢
I need to stop reading that metaphysical mumbo-jumbo
you took that out of context and tried to make me sound like a hippy which wasn't what i was saying at all.
we're talking abt the predatory men thread, right ?
you have like 2 posts in there
and you agreed with the females saying all(?) men are predators
all I'm asking is: if men are predators, who are the preys ?
why would anyone want to perceive him/herself as a prey ?
that's an expression of a victim consciousness, IMHOclick to expand
When the fuck did I say that? It had to do with how people connect. And I said there needs to be a balance. Wow you have really made it into your own shit haven't you?
All rocky said in this thread was an observation of how some people connect and she wanted to discuss cause she didn't understand it.
No one said men are bad and no one said being in a relationship was bad.
It was based on relating in and out of relationships.
God.
No one said men are bad and no one said being in a relationship was bad.
It was based on relating in and out of relationships.
God.
Posted by oldskoolflavor
made it into my own shit ?
nope, I'm not trying to put words in your mouth to get my point across (if that's what you're saying)
I'm sure I did get roxy's point .. otherwise, she's have called me a tard or sthg
you'll have to explain to me *where and how* I tried to make you 'sound like a hippie' (
Your try to make fun of whatever one says and belittle them. I don't need to explain what you know you do.
I wouldn't know. Your the one who does it, u tell me.
Posted by sewdopePosted by Leeeebra
hahaha... I'd like to point out the attitude of down-grading relationship is as fear riddled as up-grading it. It's all about that healthy balance. I just see the fear of one trying to overcome the fear of the other and vice and versa in all honesty. hehehe...
OK, done with trouble making for now. and the picture with lion in the grass is funny, it's like the lion had made all this effort in growing all the fur and teeth and patience... for the hunt. man, the power of survival. 😉
I personally wasn't downgrading relationships. I just would prefer not to be in an unhealthy one. I'd rather be alone and wait for the right mate instead of settling for what's available.click to expand
Amen! I feel like I am happiest when I am single. My friend made a good point last night that it isn't being in a relationship that made me unhappy, but the types of guys I chose to be in one with.
Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by Sag89
I wouldn't know. Your the one who does it, u tell me.
(...)
you win, sag89 .. you can have the last word
to the next battleclick to expand
Posted by Sag89
All rocky said in this thread was an observation of how some people connect and she wanted to discuss cause she didn't understand it.
No one said men are bad and no one said being in a relationship was bad.
It was based on relating in and out of relationships.
God.
Yep. What the hell is so hard to understand about that?? Bunch of sensitive assholes chiming in. Get over yourselves.
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