A list of apologies

You have a list of people to apologize to. Who do you apologize to first and why? Who would be last and why?

Posted by GODZ

mom because im an idiot

and to myself because im an idiot

Does the order of apologies matter to you? Like is it easier to apologize to your mom than to do it to yourself?

I don’t think so. I usually apologize at the time. I don’t like to leave things unsettled

I'm usually unapologetic.

Posted by maiden

is this strictly relating to past relathionships?

cos in that context...easier question to answer

Yes...in the past.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

I'm usually unapologetic.

As in you feel you don't mess up or that your ego won't allow you?

I used to have a hard time apologizing.

Posted by saggurl88

I don’t think so. I usually apologize at the time. I don’t like to leave things unsettled

I think that's a good way to look at things. I used to not apologize, but now I will alot easier.

Posted by christinelovessnickers

Posted by saggurl88

I don’t think so. I usually apologize at the time. I don’t like to leave things unsettled

I think that's a good way to look at things. I used to not apologize, but now I will alot easier.

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It’s so much easier to move past things and get back to normal. And it takes nothing from the person who was in the wrong.

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Posted by saggurl88

I don’t think so. I usually apologize at the time. I don’t like to leave things unsettled

I think that's a good way to look at things. I used to not apologize, but now I will alot easier.

It’s so much easier to move past things and get back to normal. And it takes nothing from the person who was in the wrong.

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That only works if all parties are willing to do that. Can't do it with someone who refuses to move forward.

Posted by xy_sigh

I have less than 10 things on my list.

What number would you give the people on your list for who to apologize to first and why?

Posted by mars_in_cappy

The cancer i was tardy with it. Regret it and i don't know how i'd handle an apology. Maybe she has ESP.. Am willing to do it though, but we aren't in contact, so maybe it'll never happen.

Have you tried at all to make contact?

I just recently read about how to make a good apology.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

I'm usually unapologetic.

As in you feel you don't mess up or that your ego won't allow you?

I used to have a hard time apologizing.

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I guess you can say my ego won't allow that. I just don't feel the need for apologies whatsoever. And I don't care much to accept it either.

I don't have any apologetic placements positioned in the right places in my chart nor aspects.

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Posted by xy_sigh

I have less than 10 things on my list.

What number would you give the people on your list for who to apologize to first and why?

My son. I feel like I was absent throughout his infant and toddler years.

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Are you involved in your son's life now?

Would you say he is first because you feel the worst about that? Because you think it would be easier? Etc.

Posted by mars_in_cappy

Have you tried at all to make contact?

No, decided to let sleeping dogs lay. Thought i'd leave it to fate, as we're not in contact and making contact now would only be awkward and probably unwanted.

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I could see how you would think that.

When there is an apology both people have to be open to it. It's tough to do.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

I'm usually unapologetic.

As in you feel you don't mess up or that your ego won't allow you?

I used to have a hard time apologizing.

I guess you can say my ego won't allow that. I just don't feel the need for apologies whatsoever. And I don't care much to accept it either.

I don't have any apologetic placements positioned in the right places in my chart nor aspects.

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There are placements for that? What are those?

Are to and those people able to move forward or is it "fuck em"?

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Posted by saggurl88

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Posted by saggurl88

I don’t think so. I usually apologize at the time. I don’t like to leave things unsettled

I think that's a good way to look at things. I used to not apologize, but now I will alot easier.

It’s so much easier to move past things and get back to normal. And it takes nothing from the person who was in the wrong.

That only works if all parties are willing to do that. Can't do it with someone who refuses to move forward.

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Yeah but that's also their right. As long as you know you've tried and made steps to correct whatever action you did that was wrong. The other person still will have a choice to forgive or to decide to part ways. In the end it will be about what's right for them individually. Saying sorry is just words. Whatever happened was an action taken against the person, so depending on how much it affected them, they will have the choice on what to do about it.

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Posted by christinelovessnickers

Posted by saggurl88

I don’t think so. I usually apologize at the time. I don’t like to leave things unsettled

I think that's a good way to look at things. I used to not apologize, but now I will alot easier.

It’s so much easier to move past things and get back to normal. And it takes nothing from the person who was in the wrong.

That only works if all parties are willing to do that. Can't do it with someone who refuses to move forward.

Yeah but that's also their right. As long as you know you've tried and made steps to correct whatever action you did that was wrong. The other person still will have a choice to forgive or to decide to part ways. In the end it will be about what's right for them individually. Saying sorry is just words. Whatever happened was an action taken against the person, so depending on how much it affected them, they will have the choice on what to do about it.

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I recently received an apology from an ex. It wasn't the best apology and he left a lot of things out, but I was surprised he even apologized. However, he made no efforts to even change the behaviors he apologized for.

I just thanked him for making the effort. I forgave him awhile ago. Not because I wasn't hurt by his actions, but because people make mistakes (and hopefully learn from them). Plus, I feel it's too hard to stay angry...like it's draining.

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Posted by xy_sigh

I have less than 10 things on my list.

What number would you give the people on your list for who to apologize to first and why?

My son. I feel like I was absent throughout his infant and toddler years.

Are you involved in your son's life now?

Would you say he is first because you feel the worst about that? Because you think it would be easier? Etc.

I'm involve in my son's life but I wish I had more quality time with him.

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Well, hopefully that will be something that changes in the future. 🙂 Sounds like a good start though.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

I'm usually unapologetic.

As in you feel you don't mess up or that your ego won't allow you?

I used to have a hard time apologizing.

I guess you can say my ego won't allow that. I just don't feel the need for apologies whatsoever. And I don't care much to accept it either.

I don't have any apologetic placements positioned in the right places in my chart nor aspects.

There are placements for that? What are those?

Are to and those people able to move forward or is it "fuck em"?

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Oh yeeaaahhhh!! There's definitely placements for that you better believe it. Water signs minus Scorpio and fire signs I would say are extremely apologetic. But in the right position tho. It's a lot to run it down the line. I just move forward. If I apologise it'll sound like a joke like people won't believe my apology ain't sincere.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

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Posted by christinelovessnickers

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

I'm usually unapologetic.

As in you feel you don't mess up or that your ego won't allow you?

I used to have a hard time apologizing.

I guess you can say my ego won't allow that. I just don't feel the need for apologies whatsoever. And I don't care much to accept it either.

I don't have any apologetic placements positioned in the right places in my chart nor aspects.

There are placements for that? What are those?

Are to and those people able to move forward or is it "fuck em"?

Oh yeeaaahhhh!! There's definitely placements for that you better believe it. Water signs minus Scorpio and fire signs I would say are extremely apologetic. But in the right position tho. It's a lot to run it down the line. I just move forward. If I apologise it'll sound like a joke like people won't believe my apology ain't sincere.

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Haha. I understand that. There are some people I just think to my self "why the hell did you even apologize?". I realize though sometimes that's all they had in them and it took a lot, even if it wasn't up to my own standard of apology.

Posted by NemDeux

imo apologies are predominantly self-serving.

Please elaborate. I think I might have an idea as of why, but I would like to hear your thoughts.