Arguing in front of others

Arguing in front of the kids is always a NO-NO BUT SO is venting out your relationship problems in front of family members, friends, co workers or associates or anywhere out in public.

Doing so automatically invites others into your relationship. And 9 times out of 10, those "others" are people who, if given enough access, can ruin things b/w you & your partner.

I've seen it all...--Couple starts out fine, while at a family BBQ or while out with friends. 1 person does something the other doesn't like & instead of waiting to discuss things or fight when they get home or to themselves, they hash it out right in front of everyone.--BAD MOVE!

And ooooh man it's even worse when couples, on top of arguing in front of others, start using the fact that others are there to their advantage. You know, 1 person will conveinantly say, "Krys, don't you agree that what Tommy did was wrong?! If you were me, wouldn't you be mad too!?" Ooooooo bad move!

Or when 1 person is out with their friends, gets a disturbing phone call, starts arguing with their partner, only to ruin the mood of the "girls/guys night out"

Even worse, when a person purposely throws low blows and/or tries to embarrass or air out dirty secrets (i.e. "showing out") all b/c others are around. I think doing so can really put some HUGE strikes on a couple's "relationship stability" board.

If I see 2 people drooling all over eachother in public, most people's response is to yell, "GET A ROOM!" But yet, how come when couples are about to scratch eachother's eyes out, that's somehow code for, "Argue here, so everyone can hear you!" Wtf, I just don't get it! I wish people would scream, "GET A ROOM!" in these situations too, but nope they don't. They listen b/c they want to be nosy or b/c they are always seeking any situation that allows them to put their judgmental "2 cents" in. Smh

After a couple is done arguing, & once they get home, they're no longer fighting about the original issue. No, now 1 or both people are worried about who else heard it, who had something negative to say, & blah blah blah!

I think some people get a kick out of arguing with their partners in front of others. I think some even purposely "show out" or take things to a further extreme simply b/c they like the aspect of appearing to have balls when around others, when we all know good & damn well things wouldn't have went down that way persay that couple were alone & at home to themselves!

I hate it when I see couples using other's presence as a means to provoke themselves to get further upset or angry. Like the passive girl who never fights/argues back at home, but yet suddenly has balls when she's fighting with her partner while around other people. Or like the guy who gets even MORE upset that his girlfriend keeps "ssssshhhhh" him while they're out in public.

They were talking about women & how they feel about their partners looking at other women while they're around & out in public. Granted, some women might catch their man & his "wandering eye" BUT I don't think that facing all issues right when they happen is worth it OR the solution, especially if others are around. Sometimes you have to suck it up, hold it in & WAIT until you get home and/or until it's just you & your partner. That way pride/ego will be alot lower

Oh ya.....lol. I've seen this situation as well. Hell, I've even been the one trying to be pulled in on it!!!!! I've even seen people purposly CREATE drama between others and themselves just to see how the other person would react/handle themselves. (Good thing is that person caught on to it and walked away) *shakes head*

I agree that relationship "issues" should be delt with in private. There is no need to invite everyone into the relationship unless the situation warrants an outsider. Even then, that could create MORE problems because if the outsider has self-serving interests...you run the risk of leaving yourself open to be taken advantage of emotionally.


And yes, you are correct in saying that some people get a kick out of arguing with others in public. For some reason, it makes them feel superior. Unfortunatly for some, pride is their biggest downfall. I've seen many relationships and potential relationships fail because one partner simply thought WAY to highly of themselves to admit they have a problem and refuse to seek help for it.

Yeah, no reason in the world to make other people endure the drama of your relationship. It's not right on so many levels.

I always wait til we're alone. I don't forget that there are others.

Posted by Shadows
Yeah, no reason in the world to make other people endure the drama of your relationship. It's not right on so many levels.

lol the ONLY people that are usually all ears/eyes when they see couples arguing out in public are those who are nosy and/or attracted to drama. I try to keep that in mind whenever I feel the urge coming on to "check" my partner about something even though we're not at home or alone yet. Just remembering that keeps me in line/check.

I totally agree!

Me & the Libra have bickered back in forth for a few minutes in front of people - who later joked that we sound like a cat and dog fighting.

I'm like *meow meow meow* and he's like *woof woof woof*

😄 (You know you liked that visual.)

I'm a leo moon, very very dramatic when I feel wronged or sense some kind of injustice. But I save the theatrics for home. I'd never make a public scene. He'll just be wishing we don't go home haha

I kind of feel like you're either a considerate person or you're not. If you're not, you're more likely to argue in front of others because you don't really give a damn about how others feel.

No public scene. I save that for home turf. In public it could be a raised brow or icy look, but a scene? No. Just a preview for what will come later.

Hehe, the ol' raised eyebrow warning. Let him know a storm is brewing.

Hell I think even some arguments at home can be "tacky" if neighbors or others are around & can hear it!

Once, I heard a loud noise coming from down the street. I opened the door, took a peak & saw a woman furiously throwing all her fiance's belongings out the door & window! Even worse, she set them all on fire! ...Talk about having everybody in your business! Then she had the nerve to get mad that 3 people called the cops & fire department on her. She was shouting "Mind your business!" My response? Oh come on!!! You can't put on quite a show like that & expect for us not to watch!

Ugh, speaking of...just heard my rabid neighbors fighting in the apartment below me.

i'm totally against public fights.

but i'm totally for fake fights. it's a great way to get out of something. and especially fun when you're horny and don't want people to know that you're leaving to fuck. like at a family type thing.

or just for the fun of it. but not real fights.