THE GUY I WAS SEEING FOR ABOUT 2 WEEKS. HE'S AN ARIES AND HE IS A POLICE OFFICER. HE TOOK ME ON DATES, FLOWERS, EVERYTHING. THEN ONE DAY HE CALLED AND I DIDNT ANSWER. I WENT TO HIS APT (WE LIVE IN THE SAME APT COMPLEX) AND HE SAID HE WAS DONE WITH ME BECAUSE I WANTED TO PLAY HIM AND I DIDNT ANSWER MY PHONE, HE ACCUSED ME OF HAVING SEX WITH PEOPLE ON MY LUNCH BREAK, ACCUSED ME OF PLANNIN STUFFF WITH OTHER MEN, OR WHEN WE GO OUT HE COULDNT UNDERSTAND WHY MEN WOULD STARE AT ME (CRAZY HUH) WHEN I SPENT EVERYDAY WITH HIM FROM THE TIME WE MET. WELL BEFORE THE THANKSGIVING WEEKEND WE SPENT TIME WITH EACH OTHER AND I WENT HOME ON THANKSGIVING TO KANSAS. HE CALLED ME AND IT WAS GREAT. THE DAY AFTER THANKSGIVING HE STARTED ACTING STRANGE AND SAID HE WANTED TO TALK TO ME WHENI GOT BACK. HE TOLD ME THAT HE DIDNT WANT TO BE WITHME CAUSE HE COULDNT TRUST ME. HE SAID HE DIDNT HAVE PROOF BUT HE HAD A GUT FEELING. PLUS HE SAID HE MET SOMEONE ELSE. I CALLED HIM ONE NIGHT AND HE TOLD ME HE WAS EATING DINNER WITH KENYA. HIS NEW FRIEND HE MET. HE TOLD ME HE CARED ABOUT HER AND SHE WAS NOT BETTER THAN ME BUT BETTER FOR HIM. I TOLD HIM HE DOESNT EVEN KNOW HER LONG ENOUGH TO CARE FOR HER. ANYWAY HER I FOUNDOUT HER REALNAME IS KAYLEE. WHY WOULD HE JUST PUSH ME AWAY? DO YOU THINK HE MIGHT WANT ME BACK? EVER?
My question to you is- do YOU want him back? and if so, why? It really sounds to me like he is playing you. Of course, I do not know the whole story - only what you have written. When a man says to you that he does not trust you and he has NO reason to be saying that (meaning that you have not done anything for him to feel this way), there is a possibility that he is the one that is not to be trusted. It is so important to LISTEN to another person because if you listen close enough, they will tell you who they are.
Are you with another man at the moment as well? Being the outside observer here...sounds like he is the player and needed an out to be with this new woman so, he blamed you instead of owning up to his real feelings - this makes him feel better for the moment - the downside to this is: he will not be developing any real authentic relationships.
I say that you are better off without him. When a man walks away as he did, it is a gift to you. You may not see this yet but someday you will understand and be grateful for him doing this favor for you.
There are men out there who will not play with your feelings...
I hope this was of some help to you my friend.
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WELL BEFORE THE THANKSGIVING WEEKEND WE SPENT TIME WITH EACH OTHER AND I WENT HOME ON THANKSGIVING TO KANSAS. HE CALLED ME AND IT WAS GREAT. THE DAY AFTER THANKSGIVING HE STARTED ACTING STRANGE AND SAID HE WANTED TO TALK TO ME WHENI GOT BACK. HE TOLD ME THAT HE DIDNT WANT TO BE WITHME CAUSE HE COULDNT TRUST ME. HE SAID HE DIDNT HAVE PROOF BUT HE HAD A GUT FEELING. PLUS HE SAID HE MET SOMEONE ELSE.
I CALLED HIM ONE NIGHT AND HE TOLD ME HE WAS EATING DINNER WITH KENYA. HIS NEW FRIEND HE MET. HE TOLD ME HE CARED ABOUT HER AND SHE WAS NOT BETTER THAN ME BUT BETTER FOR HIM. I TOLD HIM HE DOESNT EVEN KNOW HER LONG ENOUGH TO CARE FOR HER. ANYWAY HER I FOUNDOUT HER REALNAME IS KAYLEE. WHY WOULD HE JUST PUSH ME AWAY? DO YOU THINK HE MIGHT WANT ME BACK? EVER?