@P10
11 Years
Asking someone to hang out too much?
just ask him ?
Posted by tcta
just ask him ?
I was going to but I didn't want to put him on the spot, since he's on the shy side.
I'm an introvert. I never go out to any outings with my co-workers but they always invite me still. The day they stop asking and extending the offer will make me cry *wahhhh*
Posted by Rubyred717
I'm an introvert. I never go out to any outings with my co-workers but they always invite me still. The day they stop asking and extending the offer will make me cry *wahhhh*
Are you being sarcastic? So I should not ask him anymore?
@getmisted Yes he does.
I assume that's his way to say leave me alone
You got a bf so I think it's time to mind your business lol
take him out for coffee...tell him you think he's cool...tell him that you consider him a friend and you enjoy his company... ...tell him it's OK to be introverted... ...ask him if he'd like to get out more and do things with people... ...something like that...
...bottom line...you don't know him that well... ...you don't know if he's happy.. ...what he wants...
...I'm reading that you don't want to be more than friends with him.. ...you think he needs/wants to get out more with people...you think he has a lot to offer... ...take things slow and get to know him as a friend...that's how people become closer friends... ...the more you learn about him and the more he learns about you the easier it will be to help him...
...the right opportunity will present itself re: inviting him over to dinner with you and your bf
Posted by P10
Posted by Rubyred717
I'm an introvert. I never go out to any outings with my co-workers but they always invite me still. The day they stop asking and extending the offer will make me cry *wahhhh*
Are you being sarcastic? So I should not ask him anymore?
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Oh no, I wasn't being sarcastic! Definitely ask him...I'm sure he appreciate you inviting him out. Don't make him feel left out
Oh ok, thank you @rubyred717 🙂
Posted by P10
Oh ok, thank you @rubyred717 🙂
You are so welcome @P10
Don't make too much of it. He was merely expressing himself to you. He sounds appreciative and introspective and nothing else.
Posted by LillyPetal
Don't make too much of it. He was merely expressing himself to you. He sounds appreciative and introspective and nothing else.
Yeah I asked a friend who is an introvert, and he said that he likes it when someone asks him to do something, even though a lot of times he turns them down.
So if you think he appreciated it, that's good. I just didn't want to keep bugging him if he'd rather be left alone.
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This is a weird question but I need feedback. I met this guy, platonic, through work. He's really cool and a few times after work, I asked if he wanted to join a few of us for coffee. He always comes and seems to enjoy himself.
He came to me the other day, and says that I am the only one to ever initiate to do things with him. And that he is quite introverted. Also, that I talk to him more than most people. I can't read him to see if this is a good thing? I'm not sure what to make of this? Is it a hint to stop asking him on these get-togethers? He doesn't like to say no to people. I was going to invite him over for dinner with my boyfriend and I, but maybe I should ease up? I don't want him to feel obligated to say yes...