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True or false: no trust = no relationship
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truth or dare
Posted by Shashkay
Posted by HouseCleaning
truth or dare
How DARE you lie to me! :-P
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i tell sweet little lies
Posted by littlegigabyte
I think that there can definitely be trust issues within a relationship, but I think that person needs to be aware of them and the partner on the receiving end of the trust issues needs to be willing to put up with/working with the partner who has the trust issues.So I am going to say not necessarily true π
Hence my dilemma. I don't think one should just give up on a relationship when they want it, but at the same time, if you don't trust me when I've done nothing wrong (and this is obviously going to be a continuing issue), how can we be together?
Everyone in my life has my trust from the very beginning until they do something to break it. I expect the same.
Tuhwooo
Posted by tiziani
Posted by Keres
Posted by littlegigabyte
I think that there can definitely be trust issues within a relationship, but I think that person needs to be aware of them and the partner on the receiving end of the trust issues needs to be willing to put up with/working with the partner who has the trust issues.So I am going to say not necessarily true π
Hence my dilemma. I don't think one should just give up on a relationship when they want it, but at the same time, if you don't trust me when I've done nothing wrong (and this is obviously going to be a continuing issue), how can we be together?
Everyone in my life has my trust from the very beginning until they do something to break it. I expect the same.
Well that's an unfair expectation to place on someone. But the rest I share the sentiment.
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I think it's unfair to just automatically assume I'm gonna hurt or stab you in the back when I've only been completely honest, straightforward, and trustworthy.
I wouldn't say "no relationship". Plenty of people out there in relationships with people they don't trust. However I will say that no trust = doomed relationship.
True!
Posted by Shashkay
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I wouldn't say "no relationship". Plenty of people out there in relationships with people they don't trust. However I will say that no trust = doomed relationship.
Zero relationship. And zero chance of one.
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I'll have to pitch that to my bro who has been in a relationship (been with) his girlfriend of 25 years who doesn't trust him for shit. I will let you know what he says. Not all relationships are woven with golden thread.
I think jealousy stems from insecurity, and maybe even immaturity. A little bit is okay, because it does show they care and don't want to lose you, but I think it's just wrong to think your significant other is going to cheat unless they've done so.
It's hurtful, too, that you think I'd do that after I've committed to you. I'm not going to get into a relationship to cheat. If I were so concerned about being able to fuck other guys, I'd have stayed single. If I'm in a relationship, it's because I want to be with you, and I'm not going to do anything to intentionally cause you pain.
Posted by capricornmoon
If I don't trust, you, I might be cordial, I might be polite, I might even offer you a piece of gum, but hell no b*tch we ain't friends!
good thing we're friends
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@capricornmoon
good job scaring off shaskay with your incessant need to prove me right
Posted by capricornmoon
Posted by HouseCleaning
@capricornmoongood job scaring off shaskay with your incessant need to prove me right
Your split personalities bore me, Bout to go cook dinner.
Bye.
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are you trying to turn me on?
Posted by sunkisses26
Posted by HouseCleaning
@capricornmoongood job scaring off shaskay with your incessant need to prove me right
lol what did you guys do to shashkay .....
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I don't think trust should have to be earned unless it's been broken. Why are you assuming someone new is going to hurt you, so you have too hold back from them to protect yourself? You're automatically assuming this person that has done nothing wrong is going to. That isn't their fault, it's yours. No doubt you've experienced pain at the hands of someone you trusted, or know someone who has, so you're allowing the past to predict your future.
Not everyone is out to get you. Most people who care about you will never do you harm. If you're afraid to open up, that's your issue that you need to work on, but please don't close yourself off or push someone away because of what they MIGHT do - especially when they've only been good to you thus far.
Also, if you're one who needs to "feel someone out," you do that BEFORE you get into a relationship with them.
Posted by Keres
Also, if you're one who needs to "feel someone out," you do that BEFORE you get into a relationship with them.
Everyone should do this..
Posted by blackphase
Posted by FyzaGememiee
I have trust issues.So I would say, nah for me. I'm insecure too. π
I'm with you, but when there is little to no trust, the relationship is never a harmonious one.. so it may as well = no relationship.
Obviously there are certain people that can gain our trust easier than others, but for the ones that are not able to attain it, the relationship will be very poor and filled with hardships.click to expand
Hello ladies. How's it going?
Posted by Foreverloveme
Posted by Keres
I don't think trust should have to be earned unless it's been broken. Why are you assuming someone new is going to hurt you, so you have too hold back from them to protect yourself? You're automatically assuming this person that has done nothing wrong is going to. That isn't their fault, it's yours. No doubt you've experienced pain at the hands of someone you trusted, or know someone who has, so you're allowing the past to predict your future.
Not everyone is out to get you. Most people who care about you will never do you harm. If you're afraid to open up, that's your issue that you need to work on, but please don't close yourself off or push someone away because of what they MIGHT do - especially when they've only been good to you thus far.
Not to pass judgment. People in general feel that other people in general have ulterior motives, are backstabbers, liers, cheaters, etc fill in the blank. Yes past experiences plays a part in this, yes it is that person's issue and not yours.I don't see it as letting the past predict the future, it's learn from the past. If you burn your hand on the stove, you will eventually cook again perhaps being more cautious not to make the same mistake.
Sometimes people have such a limited lense of their own life that they fail to see others pov or anything besides what they themselves have experienced. "Most people who care about you will never do you harm" the thing is those are the times that hurt the most, when it comes from those you care about and who you thought cared about you. People heal, cope, and process things in different ways and at different paces.
Again neither is right or wrong, I just think people could be more open-minded, understanding, and accepting of people's differences.
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That's just it: the worst that could happen is you get hurt. It sucks and it's fucking horrible, but you'll heal. You're not gonna die. You can't spend your life trying to protect yourself from pain, because it's impossible. As unfortunate as it is, pain is just as much a part of life as joy.
People always focus more on the negative. You probably have more people in your life who are good to you than the ones who haven't been, but your tunnel vision won't allow you to see past the hurt by the few, when really you should be more focused on the joy from the many.
Yes, you learned from every incident where you got hurt, but the lesson shouldn't be that people in general can't be trusted. The lesson is what to look out for next time. You also survived each time. Trust in yourself to have the strength to encounter whatever comes your way, and try to trust others not to hurt you.
Posted by FyzaGememiee
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Posted by blackphase
Posted by FyzaGememiee
I have trust issues.So I would say, nah for me. I'm insecure too. π
I'm with you, but when there is little to no trust, the relationship is never a harmonious one.. so it may as well = no relationship.
Obviously there are certain people that can gain our trust easier than others, but for the ones that are not able to attain it, the relationship will be very poor and filled with hardships.
Hello ladies. How's it going?
Life has been kind baby. π
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That's good.
Posted by blackphase
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
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Posted by FyzaGememiee
I have trust issues.So I would say, nah for me. I'm insecure too. π
I'm with you, but when there is little to no trust, the relationship is never a harmonious one.. so it may as well = no relationship.
Obviously there are certain people that can gain our trust easier than others, but for the ones that are not able to attain it, the relationship will be very poor and filled with hardships.
Hello ladies. How's it going?
Hey lovely, I'm doing alright, How about you? π
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I'm groovy can't complain.. Muahzzzzzz.
True.
To me, a "relationship" implies a give and take. The only kind of love you can have towards someone you don't trust is one-dimensional. You can act and choose for their well-being, but cannot rely on them to reciprocate.
True and once it's there and gets broken, it's done
Yea it's pretty hard to continue a relationship with no trust. I'm constantly judging my partner from the type of friends they trust, amount a validation from others They need, and the mistakes from their past they openly admit to me. Its kind of fucked up because I give this persona I'm a nice genuine guy who is extremely down to earth and hard to piss off, when the fact of the matter is I'm contastly waiting for people to prove me right about my assumptions.
I'll be the odd one out and say that trust can actually be developed.
Trust for me is fundamental. If it's not there, the relationship will fail. See I have always marched to my own drummer, and personal space is very important to me. I hate feeling suffocated and tied down all the time. I need my me time now and then, and for that to not be an issue, my better half has to trust me.
No vulnerability = No relationship
Trust can be built, but it takes a certain mindset to allow yourself to get to the raw nitty gritty reality of it.
People are way too polished to allow themselves to stumble or be caught off guard, which to me removes the "real" part of it.
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True or false: no trust = no relationship