assertive but not bitchy...standing ground

so this guy i am seeing has a bad habit of "can i call you back?" when he wants to get off the phone. i don't want to stay on the phone forever either...but...if you have no intention of calling back don't say it. eventually we end up talking again via text or chat but that stupid line bugs me. so last time he said it i said "only if you really will" with a smile in my voice. just trying to let him know i don't appreciate it. i hate conflict...ah the libra in me. so anyway...wondering if i handled it ok and how or if i should address it in the future.

What?


Is this a joke?


How old are you because this is the second thread of yours that leaves me thinking you don't have the emotional maturity to be entertaining an adult relationship.



would you rather he say something like, "Ok, I've nothing left to say to you"? Huh? Would you? Or how about you coming to the realization that he isn't listening and so all your little feelings you've just poured out fell on deaf ears? How would you like that instead?


It's irrelevant HOW this man decides to end the phone conversation .. the point is, you recognize the exit and allow him to leave.

It doesn't fucking matter .... big, real things matter. A big real thing that matters is that he'd rather tell you that, then hurt your fucking feelings and telling you something like, "I'm done, you've nothing left to say that I want to talk about."

Because ............. that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is what he is thinking, that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is what all men are thinking when a woman starts babbling, and babbling she does as it's percieved by men.



I suggest you take a step backwards from trying to have an adult relationship, and work on growing up .... because from what I've read about your concerns thus far ... it's high school.

"can i call you back?" when he wants to get off the phone.

I do that. Most of friends now know that when I do that, I have to go, and it's no big deal. I do call them back within 48 hours.

If you know that's your guy's way of telling you politely that he's done with the convo at the moment (as P-A says), don't get offended. I'm sure he's not trying to offend you. Give him that much, k?

Now because you are feeling a little bummed by this, is being on the phone with him a way of making the most of the time you have with him because you aren't spending as much time with him as you need/like?