Cancer Intuition/Taurus Cheating?

My intuition led me to finding my Taurus at another womens house......This woman Ive asked her about and she says its nothing, but ive seen her send her little memes about, someone being home, those who give peace should get the most time....

I do believe it didnt go further than a visit and phone convos which is still emotionally cheating...BUT now WHAT?

We got into a very bad fight, we both calmed down and spoke civilized about whats going on. Taurus says she is tired and this was her escape for the moment. That I was no longer reciprocating as a partner. Despite her distance with me due to my nagging and accusations smh...She still came home and did her part.

But NOW, am I loosing her for good? Although she apologized and owned up to being wrong, She somehow made me feel bad for my reaction (Physical Violence is never the answer) and also for my part in causing her to run away.

Since our discussion and her minimal details on how shes not going to entertain her anylonger, shes been very affectionate and trying to get back to the way we were....BUT then I saw she sent the girl another pic of some celebrity, then a nother quote about people just clicking...My Virgo friend says this is bait to see if I am keeping my end of the bargain and not snooping....

We live together so my wanting to just run away with my daughter isnt the easiest option.... and lately I know ive allowed my insecuritues to turn me into a nag, but her inability to communicate didnt help....

Ive read that Taurus's dont cheat, but I also read that they would start to court somoene new before leaving....

Whats with her efforts, her affection, her telling me im her home.....Is this woman (Virgo) a real threat??

What is the underlying reason she’s emotionally confiding in this other woman? Need to figure that out and have a plan in place for it to stop. Otherwise her apology means fuck all.

Posted by LadyNeptune
What is the underlying reason she’s emotionally confiding in this other woman? Need to figure that out and have a plan in place for it to stop. Otherwise her apology means treetrunk all.

This Taurus of mine ( or hers smh) is 40+ and always had trouble with trusting people. She is very private and proud and HATES feeling violated. I admit I did violate her things by snooping on more than one occasion, and that is ONLY because she would ommit to keeping in contact with a very harmless ex but for whatever reason shed always deny it, stating she didnt want to engage in confrtontation....So since this and other instances her guard has gone up. Since her guard has went up I think i began getting lazy. According to her i focus more on the outside noise, not the relationship and constantly fighting.

My mother recently died, and ive had 2 surgeries and been out of work for some time. Before this she was diagnosed with something and also told she cannot have children. She states I wasnt being a partner and just nagging and not doing my share consistenly (cooking, cleaning, being a friend)

Posted by HearttofTopaz
Listen to your intuition

It’s usually right

My intuition led me there....But once I got home, that gut feeling of the worse wasnt there when we spoke.

Posted by greylatern
Your both right. You had a lot on your mind and she was feeling neglected, so leaned on a ex. How far who is to say but neither of you are right or wrong. What happened happened.

Relationships require maintance and time. She found what she was missing from you at the time elsewhere. We are human and make mistakes and have our own issues and triggers. She could have hide it to avoid confrontation not because she was up to no good. At that age I would hope not otherwise your relationship needs a hell a lot more work then you realise.

You need to decide how much effort and how important this is too you.

If you want to salvage this then start by droppibg your hang ups about what happened. Instead focus understanding hers. Restate what you know how she feels and why you think she did what she did. That will show you you understand her and she will open up then or eventually and tell you more and talk about who what where and why.

When that is done OE during tell her not what you think about it but how you feel. Drop them blame game or right and wrong stuff. There is no point.

If you can do this and really mean it, you can definity salvage the relationship. We are human and we have needs.Yes she gave in to a point but that doesn't make her wrong or evil just.

You really want her to trust you and have access to her stuff? Be more accepting and don't assume or judge. Instead be genuinely interested in what she is doing and look to engage and understand.

Actually she omitted speaking to an ex and that was the constant fight.... she leaned on a totally different person. A new woman but your post makes sense.

Taurus and scorp..do similar bullshit. Find your uncool spots and dig into it. First if I know something make my partner uncomfortable why will I continue to do it to test you. You shouldn't be texted in that way. All contacts of the other person should be lost. She's not taken full responsibility if she now testing you as if you are in the wrong. You will not stop the insecurity because you don't trust her. I say woke her up a little. Maybe back off and ask for a break.

Posted by SpaceBird
Cancer intuition is ALWAYS correct.

Well that’s how I found her!