@Hmmm_87
9 Years
Confused
I think women always say they desire for men to be honest and up front from the beginning, "if he didn't want a relationship, why didn't he just SAY so at the beginning? No one seems to value honesty anymore!"
He's told you the truth. Now, anything that happens after is your responsibility.
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.
Posted by BubbleLeaf
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.Same as a no TBH.
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I don't mean anything negative. Just want to know what is your own relashionship status?
Posted by Hmmm_87
When a guy says he doesnt want a relationship right at the start, Can they change there minds while getting to know you?
How long do you know each other?
Why is relashionships talk started?
Posted by Hmmm_87
When a guy says he doesnt want a relationship right at the start, Can they change there minds while getting to know you?How long do you know each other?
Why is relashionships talk started?
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We havent known each other for long we where just talking and he brought it up I wasnt even thinking about that just abit confused, because he is asking everything about me telling me all about him his family friends his past ect. Calls me every day we got out always paying
Posted by BubbleLeaf
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.Same as a no TBH.
I don't mean anything negative. Just want to know what is your own relashionship status?
Why would I think you mean anything negative? I don't think that.
Single. 🙂 But there is nothing negative about that either. I don't feel being in a relationship is better than being single. If I fall in love....that's the only relationship i want. True love. 🙂
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I am asking because you are acting like relashionship expert. And I think you can't do that unless you are in long marriage happy and can share experience. Or have some other reasons to tell people flat out
NO he will not change his mind!
How can you say that with a spec of info given?
Posted by Hmmm_87
When a guy says he doesnt want a relationship right at the start, Can they change there minds while getting to know you?How long do you know each other?
Why is relashionships talk started?
We havent known each other for long we where just talking and he brought it up I wasnt even thinking about that just abit confused, because he is asking everything about me telling me all about him his family friends his past ect. Calls me every day we got out always paying
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So don't listen to anybody! You know him better. You keep enjoying his company and just keep your eyes open!
Like I said man can spend months to hunt you down and leave you right after sex!
Or he can leave you after first dye sex!
So you'll never know! Just keep talking.
And why not to ask him straight in his face what was that talk about relationships? Are you trying to tell me something?
And keep pushing! See how is he going to weasel himself out of this! Could be fun!
Posted by BubbleLeaf
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.Same as a no TBH.
I don't mean anything negative. Just want to know what is your own relashionship status?
Why would I think you mean anything negative? I don't think that.
Single. 🙂 But there is nothing negative about that either. I don't feel being in a relationship is better than being single. If I fall in love....that's the only relationship i want. True love. 🙂
I am asking because you are acting like relashionship expert. And I think you can't do that unless you are in long marriage happy and can share experience. Or have some other reasons to tell people flat out
NO he will not change his mind!
How can you say that with a spec of info given?
Ok well now i think you are waaay too desperate.
Yes it's possible he might change his mind. But calm down.
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Where have you seen her desperate?
It seems my dear as if you reading all posts and then go passing others words as your own!
Your advises don't fit!
Posted by BubbleLeaf
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.Same as a no TBH.
I don't mean anything negative. Just want to know what is your own relashionship status?
Why would I think you mean anything negative? I don't think that.
Single. 🙂 But there is nothing negative about that either. I don't feel being in a relationship is better than being single. If I fall in love....that's the only relationship i want. True love. 🙂
I am asking because you are acting like relashionship expert. And I think you can't do that unless you are in long marriage happy and can share experience. Or have some other reasons to tell people flat out
NO he will not change his mind!
How can you say that with a spec of info given?
Ok well now i think you are waaay too desperate.
Yes it's possible he might change his mind. But calm down.
Where have you seen her desperate?
It seems my dear as if you reading all posts and then go passing others words as your own!
Your advises don't fit!
She was referring to you
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No she wasn't.
Posted by BubbleLeaf
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.Same as a no TBH.
I don't mean anything negative. Just want to know what is your own relashionship status?
Why would I think you mean anything negative? I don't think that.
Single. 🙂 But there is nothing negative about that either. I don't feel being in a relationship is better than being single. If I fall in love....that's the only relationship i want. True love. 🙂
I am asking because you are acting like relashionship expert. And I think you can't do that unless you are in long marriage happy and can share experience. Or have some other reasons to tell people flat out
NO he will not change his mind!
How can you say that with a spec of info given?
Ok well now i think you are waaay too desperate.
Yes it's possible he might change his mind. But calm down.
Where have you seen her desperate?
It seems my dear as if you reading all posts and then go passing others words as your own!
Your advises don't fit!
Passing other words as my own? Sorry I don't understand that.
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What told you OP is desperate?
Posted by BubbleLeaf
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.Same as a no TBH.
I don't mean anything negative. Just want to know what is your own relashionship status?
Why would I think you mean anything negative? I don't think that.
Single. 🙂 But there is nothing negative about that either. I don't feel being in a relationship is better than being single. If I fall in love....that's the only relationship i want. True love. 🙂
I am asking because you are acting like relashionship expert. And I think you can't do that unless you are in long marriage happy and can share experience. Or have some other reasons to tell people flat out
NO he will not change his mind!
How can you say that with a spec of info given?
Ok well now i think you are waaay too desperate.
Yes it's possible he might change his mind. But calm down.
Where have you seen her desperate?
It seems my dear as if you reading all posts and then go passing others words as your own!
Your advises don't fit!
She was referring to you
No she wasn't.
Yes I was .
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Ok. Even stranger!
You said no men wouldn't change his mind.
After my post you said ok he might!
So...do you have your own opinion on any subject? The one that you don't change?
My question is why do you think you can advise people on NO or YES form like you have 'she knows' certificate?
Posted by BubbleLeaf
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.Same as a no TBH.
I don't mean anything negative. Just want to know what is your own relashionship status?
Why would I think you mean anything negative? I don't think that.
Single. 🙂 But there is nothing negative about that either. I don't feel being in a relationship is better than being single. If I fall in love....that's the only relationship i want. True love. 🙂
I am asking because you are acting like relashionship expert. And I think you can't do that unless you are in long marriage happy and can share experience. Or have some other reasons to tell people flat out
NO he will not change his mind!
How can you say that with a spec of info given?
Ok well now i think you are waaay too desperate.
Yes it's possible he might change his mind. But calm down.
Where have you seen her desperate?
It seems my dear as if you reading all posts and then go passing others words as your own!
Your advises don't fit!
Passing other words as my own? Sorry I don't understand that.
What told you OP is desperate?
She is willing to believe the fantasy of what her desires want rather than his own words.
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It doesn't make her desperate!
Confused, inexperienced, looking for an advise...not desperate!
Posted by BubbleLeaf
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.Same as a no TBH.
I don't mean anything negative. Just want to know what is your own relashionship status?
Why would I think you mean anything negative? I don't think that.
Single. 🙂 But there is nothing negative about that either. I don't feel being in a relationship is better than being single. If I fall in love....that's the only relationship i want. True love. 🙂
I am asking because you are acting like relashionship expert. And I think you can't do that unless you are in long marriage happy and can share experience. Or have some other reasons to tell people flat out
NO he will not change his mind!
How can you say that with a spec of info given?
Ok well now i think you are waaay too desperate.
Yes it's possible he might change his mind. But calm down.
Where have you seen her desperate?
It seems my dear as if you reading all posts and then go passing others words as your own!
Your advises don't fit!
Passing other words as my own? Sorry I don't understand that.
What told you OP is desperate?
She is willing to believe the fantasy of what her desires want rather than his own words.
It doesn't make her desperate!
Confused, inexperienced, looking for an advise...not desperate!
you tell her what to do then
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I did. The whole scenario.
What he meant was you're not my type and I will never date you but I will f*ck you.
I think definitely yes, he could want a relationship. I've even said it, the reason is for most woman you need to let them get used to you etc, keeping it casual, no pressure and encourage friendly conversation. Now a woman doesn't open up to a guy coming on strong, the kind of guy that hasn't thought it through, or who just wants sex. And one way to mitigate the possibility she might think this, is to say you don't want a relationship. The other strong thing about this, is acting confident with yourself, and happy in who you are, it's attractive. So if he said he was happy being single, the comes across and more attractive to you, also you're thinking about it, so he's in your head, so the process is working. I could be totally wrong of course, not all guys think things through, and it depends how exactly he said it. But if he's messaging you, he can act like it's always friendly, he's said it's not a relationship thing, but he builds the connection while you think he's being friendly, and it keeps the mystery of is it friendly or is it more.
Whatever it is though, it doesn't matter, if you like him, and you enjoy his company etc, then just go with it and enjoy it, don't get caught up with expectations, it's better anyway, who knows what the future might hold, you might end up thinking he's a total tool after getting to know him.
Posted by BubbleLeaf
It'd be more comforting if he hadn't said anything at all. That would allow the possibility to be in the air.Same as a no TBH.
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Okay and...
Posted by Hmmm_87
When a guy says he doesnt want a relationship right at the start, Can they change there minds while getting to know you?
I don't understand the confused part though, seems like a pretty solid answer...
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When a guy says he doesnt want a relationship right at the start, Can they change there minds while getting to know you?