Confused and aggressive Aries need help

I am an Aries women and as typical have always been in bad relationships and pursued them aggressively. I have now come to a point that I am so confused with everything regarding relationships. To giv a sneak peak to ma current situation, I am married to a Virgo man for 2 years, he is sincere and cares for me but not very emotionally expressive and passionate in relationship, he is more into routine and comfort and u know how low this can make an Aries, I need a passionate relationship where v express our love for each other. So meanwhile I fell for a cancer married man at work, we were so passionate with each other for 2 months got intimate, now he is suddenly acting distant but says he is still likes me and attracted to me but he is not emotionally expressiv anymore nd tat makes me so obsessed with him lik m chasing him lik a target.

Argh, I kno m messed up nd I kno m foing stupid but not able to stop running behind this cancer man mabbr cuz he showed me a flaming passion and vanished or mabbe for me its abt achieving somethin tat is unavailable for the high of it. I dunno but m obsessed nd on other hand I kn my virgo husband loves me but not in the way makes me happy but still cant hurt him cuz I genuinely love him too but m not able to jus stick to him.

Help pls