Dating a Scorpio Man

I am a Cancer woman dating a Scorpio man for 6 months now. It is so hard to get him to open up, and I think it's because he has trust issues. His ex wife left him, and he talks about it a lot. I have gotten over that part, as I have realized it's because he is still hurt from it and not in love with her still. My issues with him now are that he is obsessed with his work, and becoming more successful to the point that we barely see each other anymore. I am trying not to be clingy and give him space because I know us Cancers have that clingyness as a fault. I just find it really hard to read him and get him to talk to me about our relationship without it seeming pushy. I feel left in the dark, and I don't want to seem demanding and have him run away. Does anyone have any insight to this match?

Sorry it posted twice.

I can accept that he's not healed. I know that can take 3-5 years after a divorce. I already love him so I can't walk away. I guess I will just do my best and let him self reflect and withdraw when he needs to, and hope he slowly opens up. The only way I can prove I am trustworthy is with time I guess. Thank you.

He has been separated for 2 years and divorced for 1.

And I know that's not very long...

Actually those numbers were right when we met, so add six months to both.

He's damaged and possibly secretly still in love with her if he's still discussing his ex wife. What do you want from a man that has damaged emotions?

If you want something other than what you have then leave him and keep your eyes peeled for the right guy. You're a Cancer so you're going to cling to this damaged man but you'll suffer for it for sure.

He does try to include me I think. We speak several times a day, text as well. I hear about every day and what happened that day. We really only see each other about once a week, but he is working every day. I just wish he talked about feelings instead of facts. The conversations lack emotional response, but not from me. I know he has feelings, like an extreme amount of them, it's written all over his face. I think you are right with the bad timing, but I also think he will have this hurt from this failure forever, so I will stick by him for now. It's like I'm expecting the flood gates to just open one day.

Men don't like to discuss feelings like women do, unless they are Cancer males.
How about talking less about feelings and more about doing things together this summer?
Take him by the hand and show him a beautiful garden show, festival, carnival, concert, etc.
Planning to do things on his days off. Tell him about your latest hobby or art class.

Posted by tiki33
He's damaged and possibly secretly still in love with her if he's still discussing his ex wife. What do you want from a man that has damaged emotions?

If you want something other than what you have then leave him and keep your eyes peeled for the right guy. You're a Cancer so you're going to cling to this damaged man but you'll suffer for it for sure.

i agree with the part of, if a man keeps on discussing and talking about his EX wife, or EX gf past, and won't give up, and MOVE ON....he's messed up. He can't get over that ex, no matter how much the ex is a slut or whore or has treated him like shit. Something wrong with that guy if he can't LET GO. I would never ever deal with those types. I've never even encountered that with any of my three ex's....they had gfs before of course, and they NEVER talked about their ex's. It's as if the ex's never existed. Only my ex husband when intoxicated and drug addled, he'd BRAG about how many gals he had BANGED....but, then dropped into a stupor and drunk as hell slept after that. He was just being cocky about how he can easily get women like that. And i believe it, because alot of women out there are easily swindled and easily caught.

my husband has had ex's too, but he NEVER talks about them at all.
I believe a couple times when we started dating, he mentioned who he had dated before -- out of a random discussion, when we would go to a special clothing store. He'd mention something like, yeah there was someone who liked to go to this clothing store alot that i knew once. And i was curious so i kept asking...WHO WHO—?!!! He would say, naww...it's not important. But I was like, NOOOO!! you tell me!!! WHO?? then he'd say it was some girl who he was kind of dating at the time. Then I said...Oh. Never mind, you're right, it's not important. Jealousy was brewing inside of me. The evil green monster wanted to ban the store. I was like, pfffff ....looking at the store as if it grew horns. Lmao!!!

anyway.....yeah i wouldn't bother with men who talked about ex's ALL the freaking time. They're something WRONG with them if they can't MOVE the fuck on. Why the fuck get divorced/separated if you're gonna keep on talking about them all the fucking time— move the hell on!!!

think about it. If you're divorced and you're dating...do you wanna keep moping about your ex all the freaking time? Obviously N

that is WHY it is a LARGE suspicion why they keep talking about the ex's....

they have NOT gotten over the ex's. If they had, they would have HAPPILY moved on.

Something in your gut should tell you something is UP.....something is definitely UP.

that the divorce/separation was due mostly from the OTHER side (the ex they supposedly left), and not the person you're trying to date who keeps talking about their ex.

you can't be FOOLED...nuh uh...NO WAY...when they keep talking about ex's...it's time to MOVE ON.

you can't live with a freaking ghost.

Posted by starlover
...we take forever to let go...sadly 😢

no not really. Some water suns will CUT OFF someone if their partners were mean and cruel.

Ie. Scorpio Lorenna Bobbit.

ok....she cut off LITERALLY but also emotionally. I'm sure she hates him....or rather....don't give a damn. (it's better if she don't give a damn, no feelings at all)

Posted by starlover
..also we are one of the signs that connects with very few, so if one of those few were past lovers, god help the present partner

i have 8th house, all my water houses are filled and I connect to very FEW people in my life. so if that is a water sign /house trait...allright then.

Posted by confusedkp
The conversations lack emotional response, but not from me. I know he has feelings, like an extreme amount of them, it's written all over his face. I think you are right with the bad timing, but I also think he will have this hurt from this failure forever, so I will stick by him for now. It's like I'm expecting the flood gates to just open one day.

you're on the right track

Posted by confusedkp
I am a Cancer woman dating a Scorpio man for 6 months now. It is so hard to get him to open up, and I think it's because he has trust issues. His ex wife left him, and he talks about it a lot. I have gotten over that part, as I have realized it's because he is still hurt from it and not in love with her still. My issues with him now are that he is obsessed with his work, and becoming more successful to the point that we barely see each other anymore. I am trying not to be clingy and give him space because I know us Cancers have that clingyness as a fault. I just find it really hard to read him and get him to talk to me about our relationship without it seeming pushy. I feel left in the dark, and I don't want to seem demanding and have him run away. Does anyone have any insight to this match?

When did his ex wife leave him and has he been through the divorce process yet?

Posted by confusedkp
He has been separated for 2 years and divorced for 1.

Oh never mind.

Depending on how the divorce went, meaning if it was nasty and expensive. That really does take it's toll on emotions. Took me a while to even think about putting myself out there to be asked out. It took A LOT. Prior to having the nerve to do that, I was emotionally & mentally exhausted from the divorce process and mine wasn't nasty, it was mainly the lawyers who made it very difficult until my ex and I caught onto what they were doing. STILL...it is difficult and takes a long time for things to get back to normal. It's a process, and I also dove into my work, and constantly kept myself preoccupied. So..my advice to you is be very patient. I personally wouldn't be with anyone who has just divorced, as I know the person would not be fully in it for me, since I've worn those same shoes.
Let him release his demons as he see fit. If it's only seeing you once a week, and that's ok with you, then just go with it. If it's not ok with you..WALK, don't make matters worse. When he does come around he will look you up again.

Posted by starlover

Posted by lisabethur8
ok....she cut off LITERALLY but also emotionally. I'm sure she hates him....or rather....don't give a damn. (it's better if she don't give a damn, no feelings at all)

*no feelings at all* doesn't enter into the Scorp vocabulary Lisa ~~ we have deep and profound feelings, whether that be negative or positive...we rarely never feel

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but you can ICE out people very well.

Trust me, i know this. And even my Cancer bff has a Scorpio Aunt, who has ICED out her own mother....

why? Due to money/property. True story. Hasn't talked to her in over seven years. ICED OUT.

It was a somewhat nasty divorce, and in his opinion he was blindsided. He still feels she screwed him over, which I'm sure is a fairly common feeling. He claims he went kind of crazy after the divorce and slept with a lot of women. But now he says he wants a relationship and marriage and babies. I have read that scorpio men are quite aloof, and was wondering if anyone has any insight to this? Do they eventually show feeling? I mean, if he was married before he had to have opened up to her at some point, right? How can you possibly expect to remarry one day if it's extremely hard for you to be open. Mind you, if he's been drinking he is VERY open about a lot of things he wouldn't normally talk about at all. So is he just holding the feelings inside on purpose?

Posted by confusedkp
It was a somewhat nasty divorce, and in his opinion he was blindsided. He still feels she screwed him over, which I'm sure is a fairly common feeling. He claims he went kind of crazy after the divorce and slept with a lot of women. But now he says he wants a relationship and marriage and babies. I have read that scorpio men are quite aloof, and was wondering if anyone has any insight to this? Do they eventually show feeling? I mean, if he was married before he had to have opened up to her at some point, right? How can you possibly expect to remarry one day if it's extremely hard for you to be open. Mind you, if he's been drinking he is VERY open about a lot of things he wouldn't normally talk about at all. So is he just holding the feelings inside on purpose?

Well with that^^ info, he's still very bitter especially since he was blindsided. Hopefully the drinking is occasional. I've seen way too many people drown in the bottle over divorce. He's not ready for any relationship. Trust me.