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Inspired by @virgal_perfectionist playing male hop scotch

I dated this girl off & on for years. We never had an official title so it was pretty much extended casual dating. My pisces friend forever had a crush on this girl. Anyway, one day I was out I randomly and saw a friend of my casual date. We flirted exchange numbers & decided to hang out. To avoid making the situation rocky, I hooked my pisces friend with my casual date & all was going well. Until I decided everyone in this situation was taking this whole thing too seriously. The friend basically fell in love with me over short period of time, my pisces friend was falling in love with my casual date, & my casual date I guess was just going along for the ride. Deep down I couldnt understand how any of them took this scenario seriously, and why would u even get into this kind of heart swapping affair. So, what I did was go back and have sex with my casual date & told my pisces friend about it. He was so heartbroken even though he tried not to show lol. My casual date went back & told her homegirl what happend & she started crying and almost ruined their relationship. Basically the whole match making game was over. Me & pisces are still good friends. Me & casual date are still kool, even though she's moved on in her life (boyfriend etc.) The only difference is the girl who liked me hates my guts 🤷‍♂️ whatever

In the end, I think it was the right thing to do. The bond between the two girls grew stronger from what I've heard. I dont think either one of them would do that again. The pisces friend is more wise about who he chooses to date seriously. Even though I was the one who seemed to be least affected in this scenario it taught everyone a valuable lesson.

Dont ever get involved in serious romantic relationship with friends leftovers. It's just desperate & fucking pitiful. It doesn't matter how u slice it

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Posted by virgoOPPP

you sound really manipulative

hooked her up with him when you know he liked her

"To avoid making the situation rocky, I hooked my pisces friend with my casual date."

yeah coz that's LOGICAL

you're the one that got that ball rolling


I'm sorry if I like women with strong will & principle. On top of that I was like 17 at the time. That other post just brought back old memories. I'm too old to play games like this anymore *sigh
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Posted by virgoOPPP

you sound really manipulative

hooked her up with him when you know he liked her

"To avoid making the situation rocky, I hooked my pisces friend with my casual date."

yeah coz that's LOGICAL

you're the one that got that ball rolling

I'm sorry if I like women with strong will & principle. On top of that I was like 17 at the time. That other post just brought back old memories. I'm too old to play games like this anymore *sigh
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pathetic

imagine banging someone who likes your friend better

you did it coz you're petty and insecure

i sure as hell won't bang a guy who likes my friend better than me

you're like every teenage drama show villain ever
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Posted by virgoOPPP

you sound really manipulative

hooked her up with him when you know he liked her

"To avoid making the situation rocky, I hooked my pisces friend with my casual date."

yeah coz that's LOGICAL

you're the one that got that ball rolling

I'm sorry if I like women with strong will & principle. On top of that I was like 17 at the time. That other post just brought back old memories. I'm too old to play games like this anymore *sigh

pathetic

imagine banging someone who likes your friend better

you did it coz you're petty and insecure

i sure as hell won't bang a guy who likes my friend better than me

you're like every teenage drama show villain ever
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Sorry if I'm not up to date with my high school musicals

But to understand ones story, you must understand ones life. Everyone was not raised in the same traditional manner. Sometimes actions are based on our own insecurity in the name of security & allegiance. The point of the post is to say that people shouldnt indulge in these types of scenarios. Like I said, I was 17. Life is an experience to learn from & gain wisdom. It's best to venture out and find genuine people.

I think it was a mix of thoughts & feelings, with insecurity being of one them.
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What's it like being such a giant asshole?

I can see ur definitely the emotional type. Pick ur panties out of ur ass

I am sometimes but in this instance I kind of assumed you were looking to get called an asshole. Why confess your villainy? 😂
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I just want people to be wary of this type of dating. It's more fulfilling & surprising when u get out in the world on you own terms and experience other people's personalities.
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What's it like being such a giant asshole?

I can see ur definitely the emotional type. Pick ur panties out of ur ass

I am sometimes but in this instance I kind of assumed you were looking to get called an asshole. Why confess your villainy? 😂

I just want people to be wary of this type of dating. It's more fulfilling & surprising when u get out in the world on you own terms and experience other people's personalities.
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Fulfilling for who?
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What's it like being such a giant asshole?

I can see ur definitely the emotional type. Pick ur panties out of ur ass

I am sometimes but in this instance I kind of assumed you were looking to get called an asshole. Why confess your villainy? 😂

I just want people to be wary of this type of dating. It's more fulfilling & surprising when u get out in the world on you own terms and experience other people's personalities.

Fulfilling for who?
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Fulfilling for anyone who is in search of meaning. For those who take the path less followed. For anyone looking to understand themselves spending time reflecting on past , present, and future.
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“I dated this girl off & on for years.”

“Until I decided everyone in this situation was taking this whole thing too seriously.”

“The friend basically fell in love with me over short period of time”

“Deep down I couldnt understand how any of them took this scenario seriously, and why would u even get into this kind of heart “



The story contradicts itself-

You dated someone on and off for years and your wondering how she fell in love with you?

Then YOU decided that it was being taken too seriously AFTER you’ve been fucking her for years? 🧐😏

The whole story sounds like the way Sag do things.

Denying and deflecting to avoid heartbreak. But years into something? 😰

What’s the point in casually fucking the same girl for years, even though feelings never developed?
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Posted by saggurl88

“I dated this girl off & on for years.”

“Until I decided everyone in this situation was taking this whole thing too seriously.”

“The friend basically fell in love with me over short period of time”

“Deep down I couldnt understand how any of them took this scenario seriously, and why would u even get into this kind of heart “



The story contradicts itself-

You dated someone on and off for years and your wondering how she fell in love with you?

Then YOU decided that it was being taken too seriously AFTER you’ve been fucking her for years? 🧐😏

The whole story sounds like the way Sag do things.

Denying and deflecting to avoid heartbreak. But years into something? 😰

What’s the point in casually fucking the same girl for years, even though feelings never developed?


I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience.

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years

2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship.
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Posted by saggurl88

“I dated this girl off & on for years.”

“Until I decided everyone in this situation was taking this whole thing too seriously.”

“The friend basically fell in love with me over short period of time”

“Deep down I couldnt understand how any of them took this scenario seriously, and why would u even get into this kind of heart “



The story contradicts itself-

You dated someone on and off for years and your wondering how she fell in love with you?

Then YOU decided that it was being taken too seriously AFTER you’ve been fucking her for years? 🧐😏

The whole story sounds like the way Sag do things.

Denying and deflecting to avoid heartbreak. But years into something? 😰

What’s the point in casually fucking the same girl for years, even though feelings never developed?

I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience.

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years

2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship.
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"I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience."

Is it my convenience that I'm trying to make sense of what you said and why it's contradicting to me?

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years-

You were doing this at 17 and "dating" but not fucking?

Your story was a little bit interesting until you just admitted this bit of info-Now I see why the situation was to be taken lightly. Do you call friendship dating?


2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend- how was I supposed to be able to tell who was who when you started off the story that way?

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship. I don't have relationship expectations and I don't use sex as a trick to secure anything. If that was so, I would've put up with the last Virgo I was dating, just to have a relationship with him. It's not about me though, so I won't explain further on this.
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Posted by saggurl88
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Posted by saggurl88

“I dated this girl off & on for years.”

“Until I decided everyone in this situation was taking this whole thing too seriously.”

“The friend basically fell in love with me over short period of time”

“Deep down I couldnt understand how any of them took this scenario seriously, and why would u even get into this kind of heart “



The story contradicts itself-

You dated someone on and off for years and your wondering how she fell in love with you?

Then YOU decided that it was being taken too seriously AFTER you’ve been fucking her for years? 🧐😏

The whole story sounds like the way Sag do things.

Denying and deflecting to avoid heartbreak. But years into something? 😰

What’s the point in casually fucking the same girl for years, even though feelings never developed?

I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience.

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years

2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship.

"I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience."

Is it my convenience that I'm trying to make sense of what you said and why it's contradicting to me?

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years-You were doing this at 17 and "dating" but not fucking?

Your story was a little bit interesting until you just admitted this bit of info-Now I see why the situation was to be taken lightly. Do you call friendship dating?


2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend- how was I supposed to be able to tell who was who when you started off the story that way?

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship. I don't have relationship expectations and I don't use sex as a trick to secure anything. If that was so, I would've put up with the last Virgo I was dating, just to have a relationship with him. It's not about me though, so I won't explain further on this.
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I'm sorry to disappoint you by not fucking at 14. I guess you've never had friendship that turned into bf/gf stuff when younger.

Take ur time and read, bcuz you seem to lack deductive reasoning.

R u slow?
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Posted by saggurl88

“I dated this girl off & on for years.”

“Until I decided everyone in this situation was taking this whole thing too seriously.”

“The friend basically fell in love with me over short period of time”

“Deep down I couldnt understand how any of them took this scenario seriously, and why would u even get into this kind of heart “



The story contradicts itself-

You dated someone on and off for years and your wondering how she fell in love with you?

Then YOU decided that it was being taken too seriously AFTER you’ve been fucking her for years? 🧐😏

The whole story sounds like the way Sag do things.

Denying and deflecting to avoid heartbreak. But years into something? 😰

What’s the point in casually fucking the same girl for years, even though feelings never developed?

I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience.

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years

2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship.

"I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience."

Is it my convenience that I'm trying to make sense of what you said and why it's contradicting to me?

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years-You were doing this at 17 and "dating" but not fucking?

Your story was a little bit interesting until you just admitted this bit of info-Now I see why the situation was to be taken lightly. Do you call friendship dating?


2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend- how was I supposed to be able to tell who was who when you started off the story that way?

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship. I don't have relationship expectations and I don't use sex as a trick to secure anything. If that was so, I would've put up with the last Virgo I was dating, just to have a relationship with him. It's not about me though, so I won't explain further on this.

I'm sorry to disappoint you by not fucking at 14. I guess you've never had friendship that turned into bf/gf stuff when younger.

Take ur time and read, bcuz you seem to lack deductive reasoning.

R u slow?
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Yes I'm slow- Especially when it has to do with a person telling a story about kids playing on the play ground and playing spin the bottle then getting teased about having their first kiss in front of everyone.

Were you 14 or 17? What age are you now that you bring up a pre-pubescent story like this?

I can see how you've contemplated dating life now, based off you telling this story.
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by 777
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Posted by 777
Posted by saggurl88

“I dated this girl off & on for years.”

“Until I decided everyone in this situation was taking this whole thing too seriously.”

“The friend basically fell in love with me over short period of time”

“Deep down I couldnt understand how any of them took this scenario seriously, and why would u even get into this kind of heart “



The story contradicts itself-

You dated someone on and off for years and your wondering how she fell in love with you?

Then YOU decided that it was being taken too seriously AFTER you’ve been fucking her for years? 🧐😏

The whole story sounds like the way Sag do things.

Denying and deflecting to avoid heartbreak. But years into something? 😰

What’s the point in casually fucking the same girl for years, even though feelings never developed?

I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience.

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years

2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship.

"I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience."

Is it my convenience that I'm trying to make sense of what you said and why it's contradicting to me?

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years-You were doing this at 17 and "dating" but not fucking?

Your story was a little bit interesting until you just admitted this bit of info-Now I see why the situation was to be taken lightly. Do you call friendship dating?


2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend- how was I supposed to be able to tell who was who when you started off the story that way?

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship. I don't have relationship expectations and I don't use sex as a trick to secure anything. If that was so, I would've put up with the last Virgo I was dating, just to have a relationship with him. It's not about me though, so I won't explain further on this.

I'm sorry to disappoint you by not fucking at 14. I guess you've never had friendship that turned into bf/gf stuff when younger.

Take ur time and read, bcuz you seem to lack deductive reasoning.

R u slow?

Yes I'm slow- Especially when it has to do with a person telling a story about kids playing on the play ground and playing spin the bottle then getting teased about having their first kiss in front of everyone.

Were you 14 or 17? What age are you now that you bring up a pre-pubescent story like this?

I can see how you've contemplated dating life now, based of you telling this story.
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@black-mamba come & get ur sister
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by 777
Posted by saggurl88

“I dated this girl off & on for years.”

“Until I decided everyone in this situation was taking this whole thing too seriously.”

“The friend basically fell in love with me over short period of time”

“Deep down I couldnt understand how any of them took this scenario seriously, and why would u even get into this kind of heart “



The story contradicts itself-

You dated someone on and off for years and your wondering how she fell in love with you?

Then YOU decided that it was being taken too seriously AFTER you’ve been fucking her for years? 🧐😏

The whole story sounds like the way Sag do things.

Denying and deflecting to avoid heartbreak. But years into something? 😰

What’s the point in casually fucking the same girl for years, even though feelings never developed?

I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience.

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years

2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship.

"I think ur mind creates realities that are totally non existent for ur own convenience."

Is it my convenience that I'm trying to make sense of what you said and why it's contradicting to me?

1. I never said we fucked on and off for years-You were doing this at 17 and "dating" but not fucking?

Your story was a little bit interesting until you just admitted this bit of info-Now I see why the situation was to be taken lightly. Do you call friendship dating?


2. The girl who fell in love fast was her friend- how was I supposed to be able to tell who was who when you started off the story that way?

3. U always talk about not having relationship expectations, but clearly u use long term sex as a trick to secure relationship. I don't have relationship expectations and I don't use sex as a trick to secure anything. If that was so, I would've put up with the last Virgo I was dating, just to have a relationship with him. It's not about me though, so I won't explain further on this.

I'm sorry to disappoint you by not fucking at 14. I guess you've never had friendship that turned into bf/gf stuff when younger.

Take ur time and read, bcuz you seem to lack deductive reasoning.

R u slow?

Yes I'm slow- Especially when it has to do with a person telling a story about kids playing on the play ground and playing spin the bottle then getting teased about having their first kiss in front of everyone.

Were you 14 or 17? What age are you now that you bring up a pre-pubescent story like this?

I can see how you've contemplated dating life now, based of you telling this story.

@black-mamba come & get ur sister
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lol

I'm gonna tell a story about someone stealing my bike when I was in 5th grade and then having a sleep over and my bike turning up back at my house, based off your story.

Thank you for the inspiration. ❤️
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Posted by but_didyoudie

well i think this situation became a problem because you had a problem with it... as in yes, it was your fault.... BUT also the rest of the people involved your friend, the other one and her friend had terrible defense mechanisms with you... they trusted you i suppose and you screwed them over.

the way you make it sound at the end that what you did was ultimately beneficial is bs... but again all our f - ed situations do tend to make us into a better person than before bc we got f - ed over.

anyway, i will hook up my friends and/or acquaintances in a hearth beat... doesn't mean i will f any of them 😄 so i can be a match maker all day long


Sometimes the hardest lessons are the most valuable. I was raised by older people, so many of the generation "whatever" parents traits didn't rub off on me. & boy aren't I glad. All of the irrelevant unessary confusion
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Posted by but_didyoudie

well i think this situation became a problem because you had a problem with it... as in yes, it was your fault.... BUT also the rest of the people involved your friend, the other one and her friend had terrible defense mechanisms with you... they trusted you i suppose and you screwed them over.

the way you make it sound at the end that what you did was ultimately beneficial is bs... but again all our f - ed situations do tend to make us into a better person than before bc we got f - ed over.

anyway, i will hook up my friends and/or acquaintances in a hearth beat... doesn't mean i will f any of them 😄 so i can be a match maker all day long

Sometimes the hardest lessons are the most valuable. I was raised by older people, so many of the generation "whatever" parents traits didn't rub off on me. & boy aren't I glad. All of the irrelevant unessary confusion

What do your parents have go do with the way you juggled your friends around?
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I would have never thought a situation like that could possibly be sustainable
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Posted by 777
Posted by but_didyoudie

well i think this situation became a problem because you had a problem with it... as in yes, it was your fault.... BUT also the rest of the people involved your friend, the other one and her friend had terrible defense mechanisms with you... they trusted you i suppose and you screwed them over.

the way you make it sound at the end that what you did was ultimately beneficial is bs... but again all our f - ed situations do tend to make us into a better person than before bc we got f - ed over.

anyway, i will hook up my friends and/or acquaintances in a hearth beat... doesn't mean i will f any of them 😄 so i can be a match maker all day long

Sometimes the hardest lessons are the most valuable. I was raised by older people, so many of the generation "whatever" parents traits didn't rub off on me. & boy aren't I glad. All of the irrelevant unessary confusion

What do your parents have go do with the way you juggled your friends around?

I would have never thought a situation like that could possibly be sustainable

Im sorry im not understanding... so you learned that from your parents?
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I learned to see things for what they are, and not fall for the theme of what could be. Given the certain circumstances it makes no sense in my mind why any of these people would attempt serious relationship in the given situation. It would have just ended with everyone being awkward anyway