Gemitati
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Getting hurt and marriage
Posted by Astrology101But 'hurt' should prevent people FROM commitment huge as marriage! Isn't it?
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
Posted by Astrology101
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
This.
As a commitmentphobe myself, I got to say I'm more ready for marriage than I am a standard issue relationship because in theory marriage (a piece of paper) is more stable and "safe" than a spoken promise.
Yup... Marriage gives a sense of security.
I'd say "I do" faster than "let's do it" any day. I have fear of relationship not ending as marriage for whatever reasons.. not the relationship or commitment itself. So obviously I'd say yes coz that's what I actually want.
I'd say "I do" faster than "let's do it" any day. I have fear of relationship not ending as marriage for whatever reasons.. not the relationship or commitment itself. So obviously I'd say yes coz that's what I actually want.
There's no such thing as security, even in a marriage. The op is example enough of that.
Once you let go of 'forever' and live in the now is when forever seems possible.
Once you let go of 'forever' and live in the now is when forever seems possible.
Posted by LadyNeptuneTheoretically yes.
There's no such thing as security, even in a marriage. The op is example enough of that.
Once you let go of 'forever' and live in the now is when forever seems possible.
But the question was for people with relashionship phobia 'I might get hurt' - when and HOW that person commuting to marriage IF their biggest fear to get hurt?
Posted by LadyNeptuneI am an example of not having fear of marriage and not having fear period...
There's no such thing as security, even in a marriage. The op is example enough of that.
Once you let go of 'forever' and live in the now is when forever seems possible.
I haven't feared being hurt by getting married and I am not getting afraid not to be married. So suck it up! Will you?
Posted by GemitatiYour an example that you can't really trust anyone. People live to disappoint.Posted by LadyNeptuneI am an example of not having fear of marriage and not having fear period...
There's no such thing as security, even in a marriage. The op is example enough of that.
Once you let go of 'forever' and live in the now is when forever seems possible.
I haven't feared being hurt by getting married and I am not getting afraid not to be married. So suck it up! Will you?click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneI've lived enough to serve and makes others happy.Posted by GemitatiYour an example that you can't really trust anyone. People live to disappoint.Posted by LadyNeptuneI am an example of not having fear of marriage and not having fear period...
There's no such thing as security, even in a marriage. The op is example enough of that.
Once you let go of 'forever' and live in the now is when forever seems possible.
I haven't feared being hurt by getting married and I am not getting afraid not to be married. So suck it up! Will you?click to expand
When you served time of 23 years - speak up and now just SHUT UP!!!
Posted by GemitatiProblem is when you made those marriage vows did you promise service for 23 years, or death do you part?Posted by LadyNeptuneI've lived enough to serve and makes others happy.Posted by GemitatiYour an example that you can't really trust anyone. People live to disappoint.Posted by LadyNeptuneI am an example of not having fear of marriage and not having fear period...
There's no such thing as security, even in a marriage. The op is example enough of that.
Once you let go of 'forever' and live in the now is when forever seems possible.
I haven't feared being hurt by getting married and I am not getting afraid not to be married. So suck it up! Will you?
When you served time of 23 years - speak up and now just SHUT UP!!!click to expand
Posted by Fun4Life? More info about Gemitati Jr. paleeZe!Posted by GemitatiYes.Posted by Astrology101But 'hurt' should prevent people FROM commitment huge as marriage! Isn't it?
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
I had the same conversation with Gemitati Jr., just today. It isn't going over too well.
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Posted by Fun4LifeShe is desperate and trying too hard.Posted by GemitatiSpecific questions, please and thank you. She wants a commitment of some sort after 6 weeks.Posted by Fun4Life? More info about Gemitati Jr. paleeZe!Posted by GemitatiYes.Posted by Astrology101But 'hurt' should prevent people FROM commitment huge as marriage! Isn't it?
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
I had the same conversation with Gemitati Jr., just today. It isn't going over too well.
I want to know her better. Says she loves me, but I don't believe she could given what limited contact we've had.
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Remove yourself and do it asap.
Unless you are in love but it doesn't seem so...
Posted by Fun4LifeWhat do YOU want?Posted by GemitatiWell at this point, she just wants to live with me for a period of time.Posted by Fun4LifeShe is desperate and trying too hard.Posted by GemitatiSpecific questions, please and thank you. She wants a commitment of some sort after 6 weeks.Posted by Fun4Life? More info about Gemitati Jr. paleeZe!Posted by GemitatiYes.Posted by Astrology101But 'hurt' should prevent people FROM commitment huge as marriage! Isn't it?
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
I had the same conversation with Gemitati Jr., just today. It isn't going over too well.
I want to know her better. Says she loves me, but I don't believe she could given what limited contact we've had.
Remove yourself and do it asap.
Unless you are in love but it doesn't seem so...
But talking about commitment as well.
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Posted by Fun4LifeSo forget about her. Move on...Posted by GemitatiI appreciate your feedback, with the Gemini pov.Posted by Fun4LifeWhat do YOU want?Posted by GemitatiWell at this point, she just wants to live with me for a period of time.Posted by Fun4LifeShe is desperate and trying too hard.Posted by GemitatiSpecific questions, please and thank you. She wants a commitment of some sort after 6 weeks.Posted by Fun4Life? More info about Gemitati Jr. paleeZe!Posted by GemitatiYes.Posted by Astrology101But 'hurt' should prevent people FROM commitment huge as marriage! Isn't it?
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
I had the same conversation with Gemitati Jr., just today. It isn't going over too well.
I want to know her better. Says she loves me, but I don't believe she could given what limited contact we've had.
Remove yourself and do it asap.
Unless you are in love but it doesn't seem so...
But talking about commitment as well.
I honestly don't know right now, but I'd say it's a long shot to make it work. Difference in cultures, language barriers, non-citizenship, plus the fact I have a LOT to lose.
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Trust me.
What language is hers?
Posted by Fun4LifeWhat's staying power?Posted by GemitatiShe's got staying power, and she doesn't quit, like most of them usually do.Posted by Fun4LifeSo forget about her. Move on...Posted by GemitatiI appreciate your feedback, with the Gemini pov.Posted by Fun4LifeWhat do YOU want?Posted by GemitatiWell at this point, she just wants to live with me for a period of time.Posted by Fun4LifeShe is desperate and trying too hard.Posted by GemitatiSpecific questions, please and thank you. She wants a commitment of some sort after 6 weeks.Posted by Fun4Life? More info about Gemitati Jr. paleeZe!Posted by GemitatiYes.Posted by Astrology101But 'hurt' should prevent people FROM commitment huge as marriage! Isn't it?
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
I had the same conversation with Gemitati Jr., just today. It isn't going over too well.
I want to know her better. Says she loves me, but I don't believe she could given what limited contact we've had.
Remove yourself and do it asap.
Unless you are in love but it doesn't seem so...
But talking about commitment as well.
I honestly don't know right now, but I'd say it's a long shot to make it work. Difference in cultures, language barriers, non-citizenship, plus the fact I have a LOT to lose.
Trust me.
What language is hers?
Speaks English, but doesn't comprehend all of it very well. Moldovan/Romanian.
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Posted by Fun4LifeLanguage barrierPosted by GemitatiTesting her with doses of reality and she doesn't do the ghosting trick, like most do.Posted by Fun4LifeWhat's staying power?Posted by GemitatiShe's got staying power, and she doesn't quit, like most of them usually do.Posted by Fun4LifeSo forget about her. Move on...Posted by GemitatiI appreciate your feedback, with the Gemini pov.Posted by Fun4LifeWhat do YOU want?Posted by GemitatiWell at this point, she just wants to live with me for a period of time.Posted by Fun4LifeShe is desperate and trying too hard.Posted by GemitatiSpecific questions, please and thank you. She wants a commitment of some sort after 6 weeks.Posted by Fun4Life? More info about Gemitati Jr. paleeZe!Posted by GemitatiYes.Posted by Astrology101But 'hurt' should prevent people FROM commitment huge as marriage! Isn't it?
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
I had the same conversation with Gemitati Jr., just today. It isn't going over too well.
I want to know her better. Says she loves me, but I don't believe she could given what limited contact we've had.
Remove yourself and do it asap.
Unless you are in love but it doesn't seem so...
But talking about commitment as well.
I honestly don't know right now, but I'd say it's a long shot to make it work. Difference in cultures, language barriers, non-citizenship, plus the fact I have a LOT to lose.
Trust me.
What language is hers?
Speaks English, but doesn't comprehend all of it very well. Moldovan/Romanian.
Keeps coming back for more, and tells me she loves me, even though I am the constant cynic/realist.
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Posted by Fun4LifeRemember! People who wants to stay will eat your shit! Until they get green card and only THEN you will see real thing!Posted by GemitatiTesting her with doses of reality and she doesn't do the ghosting trick, like most do.Posted by Fun4LifeWhat's staying power?Posted by GemitatiShe's got staying power, and she doesn't quit, like most of them usually do.Posted by Fun4LifeSo forget about her. Move on...Posted by GemitatiI appreciate your feedback, with the Gemini pov.Posted by Fun4LifeWhat do YOU want?Posted by GemitatiWell at this point, she just wants to live with me for a period of time.Posted by Fun4LifeShe is desperate and trying too hard.Posted by GemitatiSpecific questions, please and thank you. She wants a commitment of some sort after 6 weeks.Posted by Fun4Life? More info about Gemitati Jr. paleeZe!Posted by GemitatiYes.Posted by Astrology101But 'hurt' should prevent people FROM commitment huge as marriage! Isn't it?
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
I had the same conversation with Gemitati Jr., just today. It isn't going over too well.
I want to know her better. Says she loves me, but I don't believe she could given what limited contact we've had.
Remove yourself and do it asap.
Unless you are in love but it doesn't seem so...
But talking about commitment as well.
I honestly don't know right now, but I'd say it's a long shot to make it work. Difference in cultures, language barriers, non-citizenship, plus the fact I have a LOT to lose.
Trust me.
What language is hers?
Speaks English, but doesn't comprehend all of it very well. Moldovan/Romanian.
Keeps coming back for more, and tells me she loves me, even though I am the constant cynic/realist.
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Don't fall prey!
Posted by GemitatiThe fell in love ? Or ....want kids i dunno
How do these (people who are afraid to get hurt in relationships to the point that they are refusing getting involved) getting married?
What ta heck happens that they ARE letting guards down and saying I do?
Does it take...what! Or who? Or why?
Tired of running and giving up?
What if marriage doesn't work after all?
Do they commit themselves?
Because 'I shouldn't have' or 'I knew it' or what?
Posted by Fun4LifePosted by GemitatiPosted by Fun4LifePosted by GemitatiTesting her with doses of reality and she doesn't do the ghosting trick, like most do.Posted by Fun4LifeWhat's staying power?Posted by GemitatiShe's got staying power, and she doesn't quit, like most of them usually do.Posted by Fun4LifeSo forget about her. Move on...Posted by GemitatiI appreciate your feedback, with the Gemini pov.Posted by Fun4LifeWhat do YOU want?Posted by GemitatiWell at this point, she just wants to live with me for a period of time.Posted by Fun4LifeShe is desperate and trying too hard.Posted by GemitatiSpecific questions, please and thank you. She wants a commitment of some sort after 6 weeks.Posted by Fun4Life? More info about Gemitati Jr. paleeZe!Posted by GemitatiYes.Posted by Astrology101But 'hurt' should prevent people FROM commitment huge as marriage! Isn't it?
Cause marriage is secure while being in a relationship is not.
I had the same conversation with Gemitati Jr., just today. It isn't going over too well.
I want to know her better. Says she loves me, but I don't believe she could given what limited contact we've had.
Remove yourself and do it asap.
Unless you are in love but it doesn't seem so...
But talking about commitment as well.
I honestly don't know right now, but I'd say it's a long shot to make it work. Difference in cultures, language barriers, non-citizenship, plus the fact I have a LOT to lose.
Trust me.
What language is hers?
Speaks English, but doesn't comprehend all of it very well. Moldovan/Romanian.
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Keeps coming back for more, and tells me she loves me, even though I am the constant cynic/realist.
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