He offered to go take care of his ex who has fallen ill,an ex that he wanted to marry? (Page 2)

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This dude sounds like he's biding his time until she takes him back. Like he goes back and forth with you, because you make sure to be present in his life and are blind to him wanting her.

You're selling yourself way short, by accepting these crumbs.

I’ll paste what I said earlier

you don’t think he even likes me? We’re going on a mini getaway though....

we’re in Chattanooga and he got a hotel room in Atlanta for us (2 hours away) and we’re meeting up with some of his friends. Doesn’t that sound like he likes me?

I read that. I think he has you in his bed cause he wants pussy and you want him. But you aren't the one he wants in his future. She is. Look how caring he is towards her.

You guys are meeting up with his friends and it looks like he's moving on, but privately, outside of his friends eyes, you have seen for yourself that he clearly isn't- with his sneakiness to keep up with her and find out how she is and if he can come be with her by her side.

You are the one hoping for him and he knows it. He's treating you like an option and you're accepting it. You should try and think of him in a friendship way, but of course you're probably in love with him because he doesn't want you.

Works every time.

Thanks for the honesty. So just confirm, you’re saying he doesn’t have feelings for me?

How would I know that?

You would be able to know by pulling back and seeing if he keeps up with you.

Possibly faking a little tummy ache on the trip or just a headache in general, to see how caring he is. Which he probably would brush over and wouldn't be as attentive to you as he is to her.

Would it even matter though?

You are more invested in him, then he is in you- This is the problem. Men need to have more of an investment in a women in order for relationships to work usually.

Well I asked because you said he wants pu $ $ y from me.

Oh. Well you're around him and are familiar, since he goes in between you and her. It's comfort and keeps you both busy. Not all men like having sex with tons of different women.

The thing you should be worried about is you being heartbroken if she decides she wants him back. She kicked him to the curb and he's patiently on standby while getting girlfriend privilege's from you.

You should have a solid conversation of where you stand with him and cut him off for good until he is ready to just be with you.

After the trip, of course 😄

Have some fun and treat him in a friendly way and not in a heart eyes way.

You two are friends with benefits, so treat him like that.

Thanks. I guess it’s just hard to reconcile the fact that has feelings for me but then hearing from you all that he’s going to break my heart because in my mind I thought him having feelings for me meant something.

This is common and what emotions do, what they are for.

Of course from the way he is treating you when you guys are alone or with friends, it seems like he cares.

He probably does, he's human and not a robot.

But you also have to take into account how much he cares. Him caring for someone else and valuing someone else more then he values and cares for you is where the conflict come in.

You deserve a man who cares for you the same way he cares for her.

He won't transfer it over to you, because you aren't that valuable to him yet.

The only real way to know your value to him is to actually leave him alone and see if he chooses you, once you have had a talk and told him what you expect in a relationship from a man who is supposed to love you.

That you want a man who will treat you a certain way, it doesn't have to be him though- let him know that, and that should be ok. You really have to be willing to walk away and stop playing tug of war and trying to win.

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Thanks you’re right. I guess another reason why I got worried is because I did hear him tell her a couple of times “no, it’s not like that. I don’t hate her” but that could be about thing I guess.

Good signs that things are progressing because he didn’t complain at all. On FaceTime after his ex asked about me I heard her say something about how she thought it was weird that I was posting the videos and then I couldn’t hear the next part but then I heard him say she hurt him so many times and they would’ve been together if she hadn’t slept with someone and that’s when they got into the whole you should’ve told me you were sick I would’ve helped you weeks ago blah blah blah. So I took that as all good signs like “hey you hurt but I’m moving on with someone new”

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It doesn't really matter what he choses to do for/with his ex.

He's told you repeatedly where you stand and the place you hold in his life.

He sees you as a friend and convenient booty call.

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he sends me a text saying that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together)

But that’s changed. I’ve been posting videos of us on my stories. Just the other day he posted a picture of his sister and his mom and tagged them. I haven’t met them yet but I added his sister on social media and she followed me back so aren’t these all really good signs?

Good signs of what?

Unless he tells you he sees you in a relationship light nothing has changed. Being sm friends with his sister isn't going to magically convince him to make you his gf.

In fact brace yourself for him to tell you to unfriend her and not to reach out to his family if past events are anything to go off of.

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Good signs that things are progressing because he didn’t complain at all. On FaceTime after his ex asked about me I heard her say something about how she thought it was weird that I was posting the videos and then I couldn’t hear the next part but then I heard him say she hurt him so many times and they would’ve been together if she hadn’t slept with someone and that’s when they got into the whole you should’ve told me you were sick I would’ve helped you weeks ago blah blah blah. So I took that as all good signs like “hey you hurt but I’m moving on with someone new”

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Posted by Dilemma99

Posted by LadyNeptune

It doesn't really matter what he choses to do for/with his ex.

He's told you repeatedly where you stand and the place you hold in his life.

He sees you as a friend and convenient booty call.

Posted by Dilemma99

he sends me a text saying that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together)

But that’s changed. I’ve been posting videos of us on my stories. Just the other day he posted a picture of his sister and his mom and tagged them. I haven’t met them yet but I added his sister on social media and she followed me back so aren’t these all really good signs?

Good signs of what?

Unless he tells you he sees you in a relationship light nothing has changed. Being sm friends with his sister isn't going to magically convince him to make you his gf.

In fact brace yourself for him to tell you to unfriend her and not to reach out to his family if past events are anything to go off of.

Good signs that things are progressing because he didn’t complain at all. On FaceTime after his ex asked about me I heard her say something about how she thought it was weird that I was posting the videos and then I couldn’t hear the next part but then I heard him say she hurt him so many times and they would’ve been together if she hadn’t slept with someone and that’s when they got into the whole you should’ve told me you were sick I would’ve helped you weeks ago blah blah blah. So I took that as all good signs like “hey you hurt but I’m moving on with someone new”

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ok thanks for the confirmation you and @dilemma99 are the same troll account. Give yourself the excellent advice you gave "her" 2 months ago. You don't need anything from us.

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Posted by Dilemma99

Posted by LadyNeptune

It doesn't really matter what he choses to do for/with his ex.

He's told you repeatedly where you stand and the place you hold in his life.

He sees you as a friend and convenient booty call.

Posted by Dilemma99

he sends me a text saying that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together)

But that’s changed. I’ve been posting videos of us on my stories. Just the other day he posted a picture of his sister and his mom and tagged them. I haven’t met them yet but I added his sister on social media and she followed me back so aren’t these all really good signs?

Good signs of what?

Unless he tells you he sees you in a relationship light nothing has changed. Being sm friends with his sister isn't going to magically convince him to make you his gf.

In fact brace yourself for him to tell you to unfriend her and not to reach out to his family if past events are anything to go off of.

Good signs that things are progressing because he didn’t complain at all. On FaceTime after his ex asked about me I heard her say something about how she thought it was weird that I was posting the videos and then I couldn’t hear the next part but then I heard him say she hurt him so many times and they would’ve been together if she hadn’t slept with someone and that’s when they got into the whole you should’ve told me you were sick I would’ve helped you weeks ago blah blah blah. So I took that as all good signs like “hey you hurt but I’m moving on with someone new”

ok thanks for the confirmation you and @dilemma99 are the same troll account. Give yourself the excellent advice you gave "her" 2 months ago. You don't need anything from us.

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LMAO

Are you behind smileys smiles troll account as well?

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What does she have?

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*like*

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Posted by Dilemma99

Posted by LadyNeptune

It doesn't really matter what he choses to do for/with his ex.

He's told you repeatedly where you stand and the place you hold in his life.

He sees you as a friend and convenient booty call.

Posted by Dilemma99

he sends me a text saying that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together)

But that’s changed. I’ve been posting videos of us on my stories. Just the other day he posted a picture of his sister and his mom and tagged them. I haven’t met them yet but I added his sister on social media and she followed me back so aren’t these all really good signs?

Good signs of what?

Unless he tells you he sees you in a relationship light nothing has changed. Being sm friends with his sister isn't going to magically convince him to make you his gf.

In fact brace yourself for him to tell you to unfriend her and not to reach out to his family if past events are anything to go off of.

Good signs that things are progressing because he didn’t complain at all. On FaceTime after his ex asked about me I heard her say something about how she thought it was weird that I was posting the videos and then I couldn’t hear the next part but then I heard him say she hurt him so many times and they would’ve been together if she hadn’t slept with someone and that’s when they got into the whole you should’ve told me you were sick I would’ve helped you weeks ago blah blah blah. So I took that as all good signs like “hey you hurt but I’m moving on with someone new”

ok thanks for the confirmation you and @dilemma99 are the same troll account. Give yourself the excellent advice you gave "her" 2 months ago. You don't need anything from us.

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Posted by saggurl88

This dude sounds like he's biding his time until she takes him back. Like he goes back and forth with you, because you make sure to be present in his life and are blind to him wanting her.

You're selling yourself way short, by accepting these crumbs.

I’ll paste what I said earlier

you don’t think he even likes me? We’re going on a mini getaway though....

we’re in Chattanooga and he got a hotel room in Atlanta for us (2 hours away) and we’re meeting up with some of his friends. Doesn’t that sound like he likes me?

I read that. I think he has you in his bed cause he wants pussy and you want him. But you aren't the one he wants in his future. She is. Look how caring he is towards her.

You guys are meeting up with his friends and it looks like he's moving on, but privately, outside of his friends eyes, you have seen for yourself that he clearly isn't- with his sneakiness to keep up with her and find out how she is and if he can come be with her by her side.

You are the one hoping for him and he knows it. He's treating you like an option and you're accepting it. You should try and think of him in a friendship way, but of course you're probably in love with him because he doesn't want you.

Works every time.

Thanks for the honesty. So just confirm, you’re saying he doesn’t have feelings for me?

How would I know that?

You would be able to know by pulling back and seeing if he keeps up with you.

Possibly faking a little tummy ache on the trip or just a headache in general, to see how caring he is. Which he probably would brush over and wouldn't be as attentive to you as he is to her.

Would it even matter though?

You are more invested in him, then he is in you- This is the problem. Men need to have more of an investment in a women in order for relationships to work usually.

Well I asked because you said he wants pu $ $ y from me.

Oh. Well you're around him and are familiar, since he goes in between you and her. It's comfort and keeps you both busy. Not all men like having sex with tons of different women.

The thing you should be worried about is you being heartbroken if she decides she wants him back. She kicked him to the curb and he's patiently on standby while getting girlfriend privilege's from you.

You should have a solid conversation of where you stand with him and cut him off for good until he is ready to just be with you.

After the trip, of course 😄

Have some fun and treat him in a friendly way and not in a heart eyes way.

You two are friends with benefits, so treat him like that.

Thanks. I guess it’s just hard to reconcile the fact that has feelings for me but then hearing from you all that he’s going to break my heart because in my mind I thought him having feelings for me meant something.

This is common and what emotions do, what they are for.

Of course from the way he is treating you when you guys are alone or with friends, it seems like he cares.

He probably does, he's human and not a robot.

But you also have to take into account how much he cares. Him caring for someone else and valuing someone else more then he values and cares for you is where the conflict come in.

You deserve a man who cares for you the same way he cares for her.

He won't transfer it over to you, because you aren't that valuable to him yet.

The only real way to know your value to him is to actually leave him alone and see if he chooses you, once you have had a talk and told him what you expect in a relationship from a man who is supposed to love you.

That you want a man who will treat you a certain way, it doesn't have to be him though- let him know that, and that should be ok. You really have to be willing to walk away and stop playing tug of war and trying to win.

Thanks you’re right. I guess another reason why I got worried is because I did hear him tell her a couple of times “no, it’s not like that. I don’t hate her” but that could be about thing I guess.

Good signs that things are progressing because he didn’t complain at all. On FaceTime after his ex asked about me I heard her say something about how she thought it was weird that I was posting the videos and then I couldn’t hear the next part but then I heard him say she hurt him so many times and they would’ve been together if she hadn’t slept with someone and that’s when they got into the whole you should’ve told me you were sick I would’ve helped you weeks ago blah blah blah. So I took that as all good signs like “hey you hurt but I’m moving on with someone new”

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There are many people who love someone and accept cheaters back. Good signs to you aren't necessarily good signs.

Lady Neptune is right, and like I said earlier. Think of him as a friend and do the FWB if your too scared to lose him by being firm. It's your own heart you're breaking.

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Posted by Dilemma99

Posted by LadyNeptune

It doesn't really matter what he choses to do for/with his ex.

He's told you repeatedly where you stand and the place you hold in his life.

He sees you as a friend and convenient booty call.

Posted by Dilemma99

he sends me a text saying that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together)

But that’s changed. I’ve been posting videos of us on my stories. Just the other day he posted a picture of his sister and his mom and tagged them. I haven’t met them yet but I added his sister on social media and she followed me back so aren’t these all really good signs?

Good signs of what?

Unless he tells you he sees you in a relationship light nothing has changed. Being sm friends with his sister isn't going to magically convince him to make you his gf.

In fact brace yourself for him to tell you to unfriend her and not to reach out to his family if past events are anything to go off of.

Good signs that things are progressing because he didn’t complain at all. On FaceTime after his ex asked about me I heard her say something about how she thought it was weird that I was posting the videos and then I couldn’t hear the next part but then I heard him say she hurt him so many times and they would’ve been together if she hadn’t slept with someone and that’s when they got into the whole you should’ve told me you were sick I would’ve helped you weeks ago blah blah blah. So I took that as all good signs like “hey you hurt but I’m moving on with someone new”

ok thanks for the confirmation you and @dilemma99 are the same troll account. Give yourself the excellent advice you gave "her" 2 months ago. You don't need anything from us.

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Lol. Smh....