How to ask a guy if he was a virgin....

without obviously knocking his performance?

Ok so I have been seeing this guy (leo) for a while now, dont usually do long distanace but thought I would try aomething new! We text eachother everyday always quite suggestive but nothing majorly dirty. He came to see me a few days ago, we have only met in person once before this through a mutual friend. We ended up having sex but I just get the feeling he was a virgin!

I suppose I just naturally assume these days that anyone over the age of around 21 would not be one. The guy is 25 but as he is always away with work he has never actually had a serious girlfriend. Once again I just assumed because of his job (in the forces) that he would have probably have slept around a bit.

Just wondering how the best way to ask someone if they were a virgin is— And guys at that age would you have told a girl that you were a virgin— I dont want to dent his pride (especially a leo's pride!) by saying the reason I thought he was because I havnt had sex that bad since I lost my virginity lol. He was very morning afterish with me, I dont fake so i'm guessing he knew that I didnt really enjoy it much.

It wont make a difference if he is as just means I can teach him to do everything exactly the way I like it. But if he was I just feel like maybe I violated him a bit! haha and wish he had of told me.

I hear this about Leo men a lot... Like they are all about themselves and dont care if you enjoy it so they don't take the time to learn. (I hear this from women who LOVE their Leo men). Not sure how you could ask him that question, maybe ask how many women he's been with? Then its not so direct?

Yeah, since you've been seeing each other a while, could you bring up the "magic number" conversation?

Posted by TyDyed

Ask him if he's gay, first... just to break the ice. He may acutually be relieved when you ask him if he's a virgin...

Haha think i'll def go with this one!

Suppose the asking how many is the best option but I know he will ask why and I'm not the best person at being subtle, but oh well I suppose you have to be cruel to be kind sometimes. Suppose if he wernt a virgin then if the previous people had been like me and told him how bad he is he might have improved!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Maybe he was just crap ?

Yes maybe he is, just seemed very inexperienced though and didnt seem to know what he as doing which is why I was thinking maybe he was a virgin

Posted by LoveBucket

Posted by libra sun

Posted by TyDyed

Ask him if he's gay, first... just to break the ice. He may acutually be relieved when you ask him if he's a virgin...

Haha think i'll def go with this one!

Suppose the asking how many is the best option but I know he will ask why and I'm not the best person at being subtle, but oh well I suppose you have to be cruel to be kind sometimes. Suppose if he wernt a virgin then if the previous people had been like me and told him how bad he is he might have improved!

You can go for that if you want, but you will sound type stupid because gay men are not interested in females.

Whatever you do, try not to approach your Leo with stupidness.

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I was only joking about the gay route lol I know he's straight, he's was definately into me just it was only him having a good time!

Thanks for advice though, will have the convo with him next time he comes down. We havnt really spoke about the sex yet but not really something to be done over a text message as I always seem to come across harsh when not speaking face to face

The amount of people he has slept with does not effect whether or not I need to be tested. I would get tested regardless of whether it was 0 or 1000!! Also he may just tell me to mind my own business haha, which I have told people in the past when they asked me for my magic number.