I Need To Express This Messy Stuff...

Ok this probably has a lot to do with me, and than half it has to do with them. I want to know if anyone has every felt similar.

Now have you ever been with someone and asked yourself why are they with me? Sometimes you see other people in their life and you think they would be

WAY more compatible with that person than me. Cause on paper everything matches with that person. ( thats shallow I know but maybe the person your
with is )


You don't have a gun pointed to their head and yet they still stay with you and say they want too and it doesn't matter what you do. Why do people do that?

Is it cause they are unaware or stupid? Is it cause they can't be with that person so they say ok to you? Is it cause they don't care about themselves or their life?


Why do people keep coming back to something when they could be finding something better for them?


Or am I a controlling physco who thinks I know what is best for another person which is delusional?


Or do I see it and they don't.


Does anyone know what the fuck I'm talking about? lol I know I'm not alone in these thoughts!

" You don't have to say that you love me
if you don't mean it
You'd better believe
If you need me
or you just wanna bleed me
you'd better stickin' your dagger in someone else
So I can leave
Set me free"

Jimi Hendrix - Freedom Lyrics < It's kinda of like that!! You see?

Posted by Sag89
Ok this probably has a lot to do with me, and than half it has to do with them. I want to know if anyone has every felt similar.

Now have you ever been with someone and asked yourself why are they with me? Sometimes you see other people in their life and you think they would be

WAY more compatible with that person than me. Cause on paper everything matches with that person. ( thats shallow I know but maybe the person your
with is )


You don't have a gun pointed to their head and yet they still stay with you and say they want too and it doesn't matter what you do. Why do people do that?

Is it cause they are unaware or stupid? Is it cause they can't be with that person so they say ok to you? Is it cause they don't care about themselves or their life?


Why do people keep coming back to something when they could be finding something better for them?


Or am I a controlling physco who thinks I know what is best for another person which is delusional?


Or do I see it and they don't.


Does anyone know what the fuck I'm talking about? lol I know I'm not alone in these thoughts!

nahh, youre not alone. I struggle with the same thoughts as well. especially the "finding someone better" part. I guess it just depends on the person. Im pretty sentimental, and I grow close to someone as a friend and a lover. when it ends I miss the friendship but at the same time, I miss the intimacy that went along with it. That makes it harder for me to let go because of the connection made on platonic and romantic levels. Losing a friend like that (using "friend" for lack of a better way to explain it) is hard for someone like me to replace, especially if we were really close and went well together.

people think that of me that I should be with person A or B because I get along so well with them. maybe its our tastes? I dont know. theres a lot of different factors that go into something like that. sometimes people who start off as friends never turn into something more because thats all one or both parties might see the other as. In a different view, being friends with someone isnt being as immersed in that person's life as someone else would be if they were dating said friend.

As for the coming back part -- maybe what they had was good enough or worth putting effort into to keep going. Could be the emotional investment, the chemistry, trus

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trust, etc. that they feel is worth going through the bad to keep going, or to keep from losing.

does that help any?

^ thank you that was something to think about. What if it's bad and they keep coming back? Do some people just think it's a game?

Posted by geminicandle
Okay, who is this guy you are talking about now? Who is giving my sag girl trouble?

Who won't set you free and why can't you just leave?
Although, I shouldn't be asking that because I know what it's like!

Haha no one gem! This is past stuff I've just been thinking about. I'm single as a pringle lately!

Yea not that I couldn't leave but more like why do they stay?

Posted by Placidd
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trust, etc. that they feel is worth going through the bad to keep going, or to keep from losing.

does that help any?

It does but why would someone think that?

Your not alone. Im a venus in cappy and Venus sq saturn, so I always second guess others affection toward me. So I play games to test their affections.

I think about this sag guy a lot and I look at him and wonder why the fuck r u still seeing me after 3 years? I know he has options including his own gf. But still, why as a sag does he still come by this ol stable.plenty of other stables.

^ yea exactly what do you do about it?

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Posted by Placidd
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trust, etc. that they feel is worth going through the bad to keep going, or to keep from losing.

does that help any?

It does but why would someone think that?

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could be emotional attachment?

There are certain things about people that are hard to forget. Whenever you see that person, or if its just one of those days you miss the other person for something, you feel like you want it back because of how good it was. Im using "you" as a generalization.

Its hard to explain...I think that way tbh, and I have a hard time explaining it.

its like listening to your favorite song. a new song might come your way, youll listen to that one for a while, then you start comparing it to the old one and maybe even want to listen to the old song again because of how much you used to like it. Sometimes you might not like it as much because of the new stuff you've been exposed to, sometimes you might welcome it and hold onto it for a while longer.

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Posted by Placidd
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trust, etc. that they feel is worth going through the bad to keep going, or to keep from losing.

does that help any?

It does but why would someone think that?

could be emotional attachment?

There are certain things about people that are hard to forget. Whenever you see that person, or if its just one of those days you miss the other person for something, you feel like you want it back because of how good it was. Im using "you" as a generalization.

Its hard to explain...I think that way tbh, and I have a hard time explaining it.

its like listening to your favorite song. a new song might come your way, youll listen to that one for a while, then you start comparing it to the old one and maybe even want to listen to the old song again because of how much you used to like it. Sometimes you might not like it as much because of the new stuff you've been exposed to, sometimes you might welcome it and hold onto it for a while longer.

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Ok I get what your saying and I'm really not trying to ask the same question over and over ( sorry if it sounds like that ). Lets say the whole relationship wasn't that good though.

Do you think people stay or come back to that because they have hopes and want to believe it can change?

Posted by brianc213
Real love.

someone asked me if i thought that it meant a person was in love w you if they keep coming back, i haven't come to a conclusion i see how that is possible and how it's not.

Posted by Sag89


Ok I get what your saying and I'm really not trying to ask the same question over and over ( sorry if it sounds like that ). Lets say the whole relationship wasn't that good though.

Do you think people stay or come back to that because they have hopes and want to believe it can change?

Its all good! No worries.

Black and white answer to that question is yes. Mostly hope, and I think hope influences belief that something can change.

also, real love can keep someone from ever leaving, like the previous user stated. Ill refer back to my last post when I mentioned that there are some things about a person that you can never forget, and for everyone those things are different.

Love and hope brings someone the desire to keep trying, but some don't act on it out of fear of rejection or getting hurt by the same person twice.

^ thank you placid! I appreciate your male perspective 🙂

No Problem! Glad I could be of help 🙂

Posted by Sag89
^ yea exactly what do you do about it?

Honestly, I play little games to see where his head is at. I dont come out and ask directly. Im afraid of the answer. When he cut his hair and I told him it looked really sexy and hs looked goid. He mumbled under his breathe that he thinks I look good 2. I was not the topic of discussion., but it was good enough for me.

From time to time, I will throw out some tests.

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Posted by Sag89


Ok I get what your saying and I'm really not trying to ask the same question over and over ( sorry if it sounds like that ). Lets say the whole relationship wasn't that good though.

Do you think people stay or come back to that because they have hopes and want to believe it can change?

Its all good! No worries.

Black and white answer to that question is yes. Mostly hope, and I think hope influences belief that something can change.

also, real love can keep someone from ever leaving, like the previous user stated. Ill refer back to my last post when I mentioned that there are some things about a person that you can never forget, and for everyone those things are different.

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This is true.

Posted by Placidd
No Problem! Glad I could be of help 🙂

Wow Pisces, hello im DMV your new internet stalker. Gosh ur handsome

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Posted by Placidd
No Problem! Glad I could be of help 🙂

Wow Pisces, hello im DMV your new internet stalker. Gosh ur handsome

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Aw, thanks! Im flattered 🙂

Nice to meet you *handshake* hahaha