Sagittarius89
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In between two loves... and two different ages
well Rheaa i think you know the answer, and to me it seems pretty obvious, but i wont put my opinion out there cuz i really dont know shit about either of them.
if you're focusing on the small things about one of your partners(putting blame on people,not having goals,childish,ect.)then, it seems like the relationship is coming to its end, but you probably know this already.
maybe you dont have to choose between either of them...maybe you can move on from them both?
btw what signs are they?
if you're focusing on the small things about one of your partners(putting blame on people,not having goals,childish,ect.)then, it seems like the relationship is coming to its end, but you probably know this already.
maybe you dont have to choose between either of them...maybe you can move on from them both?
btw what signs are they?
**Rheea, sorry
So, you moved in with him in haste?
Why? Why didn't you take the time to get to know him before moving in with him? I'm thinking along the lines that you did know all of this beforehand, and that you want to fuck the older guy again and you want to have him pay for shit for you again .... so you are now turning against the younger guy.
That is something that really pisses me off with a lot of women. And I say women because it's mostly females who do this. They know full well that the guy isn't going to live up her unrealistic expectations, but, she's desperate to have someone love her, so she overlooks things she should be considering fully before making the guy think she wants to be involved with him deeper ... then when she's had her fill and someone else gets her fancy, she then uses those things in which she ignored as reasons to turn on him, and say he's fucked up, looks what an ass he is.
It's unlikely that you love either one of them.
I would suggest that you do the right thing and leave both of them alone .... while talking time to do a serious self check.
Why? Why didn't you take the time to get to know him before moving in with him? I'm thinking along the lines that you did know all of this beforehand, and that you want to fuck the older guy again and you want to have him pay for shit for you again .... so you are now turning against the younger guy.
That is something that really pisses me off with a lot of women. And I say women because it's mostly females who do this. They know full well that the guy isn't going to live up her unrealistic expectations, but, she's desperate to have someone love her, so she overlooks things she should be considering fully before making the guy think she wants to be involved with him deeper ... then when she's had her fill and someone else gets her fancy, she then uses those things in which she ignored as reasons to turn on him, and say he's fucked up, looks what an ass he is.
It's unlikely that you love either one of them.
I would suggest that you do the right thing and leave both of them alone .... while talking time to do a serious self check.
Posted by P-Angel
So, you moved in with him in haste?
Why? Why didn't you take the time to get to know him before moving in with him? I'm thinking along the lines that you did know all of this beforehand, and that you want to fuck the older guy again and you want to have him pay for shit for you again .... so you are now turning against the younger guy.
That is something that really pisses me off with a lot of women. And I say women because it's mostly females who do this. They know full well that the guy isn't going to live up her unrealistic expectations, but, she's desperate to have someone love her, so she overlooks things she should be considering fully before making the guy think she wants to be involved with him deeper ... then when she's had her fill and someone else gets her fancy, she then uses those things in which she ignored as reasons to turn on him, and say he's fucked up, looks what an ass he is.
It's unlikely that you love either one of them.
I would suggest that you do the right thing and leave both of them alone .... while talking time to do a serious self check.
hm, p-angel, care to explain just HOW to you got to be such a BITCH?
You may not have "cheated" on either of them (which is a relationship no-no) BUT 1 thing you DID do (another relationship No-no) is that you moved onto the next 1 before you were completely over/done with the last 1
You're not wrong for still having feelings for the older guy. BUT you were wrong the minute you gave someone else the impression that you were emotionally available, knowing that you really werent.
Sounds like you just don't want to be alone. You've recognized that you're settling, but yet you won't allow yourself to let go b/c doing so means ending up single & by yourself.
And if being alone was your biggest fear to begin with, it's no wonder you ended up with the 2nd guy. It's no wonder you're just now seeing his true colors. It's b/c your intent wasn't to get to know him as a person (which is why you didn't see the red flags early on) but instead it was about you...it was about you fulfilling an empty void within you. It just so happens that the "void" (the younger guy) didn't end up being that void filler like you'd expected
You know the answer to your own question. Now you just need some ACTION. Sometimes you've just gotta DO IT. Stop over-analyzing, stop trying to make sense out of non sense & just let go.
Sounds like you don't need to be with either of them. What are you so afraid of? What would you truly be losing if you were true to yourself for once & didn't settle for someone that didn't make you happy? If you're afraid to be alone without any Plan Bs, I assure you, you'll feel TWICE more alone with these 2 guys than you would if you were without BOTH of them
If you care so much about their feelings, put some verbs/actions in your sentences. Even if the 2nd guy isn't what you were looking for, atleast have enough respect for him to tell him the truth & let him go.
Put yourself in their shoes. If you found out that the person you were living with & investing all your time/finances/body/energy into secretly couldn't stand you & if their heart was with everyone else BUT them, you'd want to know the truth too. Give to these 2 men what you'd want them to do/give/be to you if the tables were turned
You're not wrong for still having feelings for the older guy. BUT you were wrong the minute you gave someone else the impression that you were emotionally available, knowing that you really werent.
Sounds like you just don't want to be alone. You've recognized that you're settling, but yet you won't allow yourself to let go b/c doing so means ending up single & by yourself.
And if being alone was your biggest fear to begin with, it's no wonder you ended up with the 2nd guy. It's no wonder you're just now seeing his true colors. It's b/c your intent wasn't to get to know him as a person (which is why you didn't see the red flags early on) but instead it was about you...it was about you fulfilling an empty void within you. It just so happens that the "void" (the younger guy) didn't end up being that void filler like you'd expected
You know the answer to your own question. Now you just need some ACTION. Sometimes you've just gotta DO IT. Stop over-analyzing, stop trying to make sense out of non sense & just let go.
Sounds like you don't need to be with either of them. What are you so afraid of? What would you truly be losing if you were true to yourself for once & didn't settle for someone that didn't make you happy? If you're afraid to be alone without any Plan Bs, I assure you, you'll feel TWICE more alone with these 2 guys than you would if you were without BOTH of them
If you care so much about their feelings, put some verbs/actions in your sentences. Even if the 2nd guy isn't what you were looking for, atleast have enough respect for him to tell him the truth & let him go.
Put yourself in their shoes. If you found out that the person you were living with & investing all your time/finances/body/energy into secretly couldn't stand you & if their heart was with everyone else BUT them, you'd want to know the truth too. Give to these 2 men what you'd want them to do/give/be to you if the tables were turned
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